TOXIC MASCULINITY OR FEMININITY: WHAT IS THE AGGRESSION REALLY?

Purple Liquid Poison on Brown Wooden Surface

“Manhood is not what you think.”


the aggression is real

Have you been hearing the phrase “toxic masculinity?” And if you have, do you know where it comes from? A lot of feminist may think that it is coming from growing up in such a male dominated society. But the reality is that the toxicity is worst today than in the past. Now most would say that is because men are losing power and women are gaining. This is in my opinion is not correct. Well, then the bad behavior stems from a history of bad things that males do in the name of boys being boys. In my opinion, I think that the emotions of so many young boys are not male but to a degree feminine. Now, what do I mean by this, well look no further than the boys who grow up without a father.

the ones without fathers

I grew up in a household where my mother raised my sisters and myself as a single parent. And when this happens a lot of times, the parent is not ready for the uphill battle of being a parent. One of those areas is when a mother has to raise a boy. She is more than prepared to teach her daughters the ways of society, but there are clear fundamental aspects about manhood that she cannot teach to her son. See you might think he has a good job, dresses nice, and talks nice, but that is just the basics of being a responsible adult. The animal that is man and the animal that is woman need to align with each other to work especially in a relationship. And because women are not aware of what really makes us who we are, boys make vital mistakes when trying to be boyfriends and husbands that can annoy and irritate a woman. It’s because we are still learning how to be men and the woman in our lives are the crash dummy.

from her through us

As a young child, my mother would cry when she was hurt so I cried. Her aggression was my aggression, and her happiness was mine. But then you step into society and realize, wait a minute, men and women don’t have the same emotions. Sure we cry and show happiness, but context means everything. Boys raised by mom tend to exuberate the qualities of mom which in turn are feminine. We get angry and react the same as women react. But real male anger in its most natural state is not overly aggressive, it’s actually poise until it needs to get to the point of aggression. For example, a woman argues with a man, he typically stands there not saying much, which annoys her in the argument. Rest assured, he is angry, but only after a while does his energy match the woman’s because it has been brought to that point. Boys who go straight to aggression don’t have the male who understands male aggression to calm him appropriately. And a lot of times we boys raised by mom grow full blown from moms imagination. So the energy is not masculinity, it’s feminine energy. It is scary and masculine because our bodies are stronger and voices are deeper, yet it’s feminine emotions. And a boy with emotional reactions he has seen mom exuberate used in society is more dangerous than a girl stepping into society with the same emotion.

the prisoners rationale

Now, for those still unsure as to what I have said prior, look at prison inmates. For the ones who get turned out in prison, or taken advantage of sexually. You would be surprised how many of them carry that aggressive energy. A lot of the time they do. Well, why would a guy who is that aggressive be seen as a prey to another man? Here is why. Because when a man is kept back and observant he is unpredictable. When a guy is rough and aggressive, society sees him as scary, but a guy in jail sees feminine energy. He’s exemplifying female sexual energy that little do he know has caught the attention of another man. And if we know anything about that energy, when you crash and you will crash from that high, the human is capable of being manipulated. This is why women take the man back over and over again in relationships. Prisoners can manipulate that crash and before you know it, you are in a world wind romance being comforted by a significant other. A relationship has been cultivated unbeknownst to yourself because you had not masculine energy, but unchecked feminine energy manipulated by a real man who knows where it came from.


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RED STATE, BLUE STATE, NOW GREEN STATE: THE SHIFT COULD TAKE PLACE IN THE FUTURE

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“Vote for the peoples’ good.”


generation good

As I walk the streets of New York City, you start to see a generation that is already starting to bring to the forefront a movement of their own. And that generation is a young group of high school kids that are very much so into the green push. They are geared toward not only a nonviolent society, but they are into the well-being of nature. These young people are promoting the nurturing and preservation of our planet. Not long ago there was a rally to promote more of a checks and balancing of how our civilization should watch over the burning of fossil fuels. Which ultimately is leading to global warming and a shift in our climate.

where does it come from

When you look at the climate of politics, we always look at how everyone is going after Donald Trump, but it is seen as an adult push. Not many young kids really care because they witnessed Obama but don’t quite understand the push right now. So to them it could be seen as not their agenda, so they want their own young agenda. And Donald Trump may not be seen as something they are concerned about. And with the climate change, not many adults are interested in this agenda. Now there is a lane for them to be apart of. How do you not go with them, considering there are a lot of problems with the climate change.

climate

Each winter it seems like things are getter warmer and warmer. Here in New York City, I only remember getting a small amount of snow. And yes, the winter was still cold, but the fact that snow is disappearing means something more sinister. So yes, there is something to be said about how our climate is changing. And once that happens, melting polar ice is releasing in the ice bacteria that have been foreign to our species for thousands of years. And the majority of these bacteria there are no cures for because they have been unknown for so long.


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FAST FOOD IS GOOD FOOD: AMERICA’S OBSESSION WITH EXPEDIENCY

Hamburger and Fries Photo

“I want it now!”


next window please

Whenever I go to the McDonalds that is across the street from where I live, I always think, “What can I get for this few bucks and I hope it’s fast.” Because the worst feeling is going to the restaurant you wanted to go to and then realizing that the wait will be a stretch. But think for a minute, if you cook at home, you’re talking about a 1.5 to 2 hour meal. So to complain about a 10 to 15 minute, is just flat out ridiculous. But that is why we call it fast food, it is supposed to be quick and easy. But then you have to sit for a moment and think about the implications that arise from quick and easy. Meals that you prepare at home, they are far better because you have to add your own seasoning. This way you can have it taste the way you want it to taste. But like I said, what are the issues that arise from fast and easy.

food first health last

If you go to a fast food restaurant, just look at the menu and check out the ingredients; the sugars and salt intake. You would be surprised how unhealthy the food really can be. Some of the salads have more sugar in them than the deserts. And you probably think to yourself, how the hell is that possible. Or better yet, a Popeyes salt intake is posted on the menu which clearly explains to you how the food can lead to stroke or heart attack. And these are the items on the menu that we love the most. And no one thinks twice before ordering, as a matter of fact, I don’t even think people care about the intake of unhealthy substances. Yet on the other hand, do we owe the people some form of responsibility? Because it doesn’t matter if you post it, there is more that needs to be done.

i’ve got places to go

I work an overnight job and I have places to go when I awake. So the idea of cooking each night is just not possible. If you are someone with a hectic schedule, then eating on the go is necessary. Especially if you have children, you have an even harder time coming home cooking. That should be an incentive to cook, but working for both parents makes it hard. Yet, we can’t help ourselves, especially if the food is good. For example, I could eat Chipotle everyday if I could afford it. And the food in Chipotle is healthy to a great extent, which is probably why it is so expensive. And with the state of the economy where we have to work more, fast food will grow even greater.


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PULL THE TRIGGER: OUR FASCINATION WITH GUNS

 

Person Holding Black Revolver in Bokeh Photography

“Aim-Fire!”


cock and unload

I am from the state of Wisconsin, and coming from the Midwest you are used to people owning guns. Now that I live in New York City, people think that it is odd to own a gun in this city. The only people you hear about that own guns outside the police are criminals. So what is it, what is the need to own guns. Because yes, we have a right to bare arms, but sometimes we take it to the extreme in the United States. There are people who own guns that foreign countries don’t have in their military arsenal. And we all say the same thing which is, “It’s my right.” But this goes far beyond rights to own a gun. Because consider myself someone who believes in your right to own a gun or guns. And I even like the well-known M16 assault rifle as well as the Desert Eagle hand gun. But where does all this come from in America?

1789

When the 2nd amendment was drafted it was written because the United States had just won the war against the British. So it made sense to have a well orchestrated during that time period. But when you look at the times of today, this is considered outdated, but we still have a right to bare arms. A lot of it has to do with protecting your household. But we also haver to look at the document for the time period. The men of the past who drafted up these documents could have never seen citizens owning the type of weaponry that kills its own citizens. The purpose was to fight outside forces not our own citizens. So that is the problem with using the argument of the fore fathers of America and their intent.

playing off of fears

When you live in a major metropolitan city, you should be a lot more cautious about where you live. But the reality for most Americans is that they don’t need the weapons they do where they reside. But most Americans live in rural areas with very little crime, but a high gun ownership. They own guns off the idea of what could happen in this country from a force that they most likely will never come in contact with. So this country plays off of fears because the typical gun owners are not connected into a diverse environment that allows them to see reality from fiction. And yes, there are bad things that happen everywhere, but to a large degree people are more scared than they need to be.


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THE SHIFT IS REAL: HOW THE HISPANIC POPULATION IS BECOMING THE MAJORITY

 

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“Estados Unidos.”


the new nation

The United States is going through a massive cultural shift. And that shift is involving the Hispanic population becoming the majority in the future. That means that the country is starting to change especially the language in the country. And when that happens you’re talking a lot of people stand a chance of being upset. The reason being that we are used to a certain way of life in the United States. And now the Hispanic population is supposed to represent the change that so many are against. Now notice I said supposed to represent. There are many different groups who come from around the world, but the Hispanic population is so close. So they are seen as this reason for so many of our problems in this country, whether crime or employment.

the color construct deconstructed

America is not the only country in the Americas that have a history of colorism. But living here we are so closed off from a diverse experience. Yes, we have cities like New York and Miami, but for the most part America is rural. And when you are not connected to the world you judge based on outer. Problem is, the Latino population comes in different physical representations. Now, notice I switched and said Latino. When looking at the numbers we combine the two, so Puerto Ricans would be considered Latino, but Mexican Hispanic, yet they are combined. Once that happens you now have people who have a wide range of looks from European to African. And in America you will be excepted or rejected based on color. Only thing is, the numbers are growing in part as a result. We as Americans want to pin point a Hispanic/Latino man or woman based on the physical. And as a result this is one way they will actually become the majority.

the blame game

We need someone to blame for the reason our lives are in the position it is in. So the Mexican community have become the face for the problem. Too many Black people are underprivileged to blame and the Native American groups is far too small at this point. Now, the reality is that technology is changing the way our country operates. A lot of the jobs that the Hispanic are working are more physical jobs that a lot of people in America are not trying to work. So they are be targeted from an “idea” that jobs are being taken, not really being taken.


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BELIEF IS ACTIVE: HOW OUR BELIEFS EFFECT OTHERS IN SOCIETY

 

Silhouette Image of Person Praying

“It’s how society should be.”


how the lord intended it to be

In America today, so much of our beliefs effect how we all live our lives. An to a degree, how other countries lives, especially if they are allies can have an effect as well. When you believe something to be true, no matter what, people are going to push their will on society. We don’t just do it for religion, we do it for other things as well. If I want to live my life a certain way and others around agree, you are forced to fall in line. And what’s crazy is that living in America you should have the freedom to not be apart of something if you shall choose. But if you don’t align yourself with the status quo, then you will find yourself in a tough jam. The thing is, why do we care so much about each others’ beliefs?

the psychology of man

The reason humans have to enforce will has to do with us as a creature. As a creature we are endowed with the ability to have beliefs and have free-will. And for some reason, we seem to think that since we have these things it is supposed to mean something. When in reality what we believe to be true and what is actually true is different. I would love to believe a lot of things in our world, but the reality is, I have to decipher what is more important. So many people refuse to admit that a lot of what we believe is just not valid. If you have ten beliefs, only three are important. But then you get into this argument of well who gives you the right. Then from there is if it’s not important, why do I feel this way? So you just let them ramble, and as long as they don’t negatively effect society, you leave them be. Because it is only their lives they waste by jamming everything into their lives.

evolution says a lot

Being the carbon based lifeforms that we are, we learn and grow and understand the world around us. So the more we learn about self, the more we realize how complex the mind is, but how mundane we live and behave. So a lot of human beliefs are actually falling apart. Well at least the ones we have come to know over time. Because you cannot expect us to carry the same thoughts forever on Earth. So what happens is new ones replace outdated ones. So who knows in the future what the new-new-new ones will be.


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DATE NIGHT: THE NEW ERA OF DATING

Man and Woman Sitting Together in Front of Table

“Whose in charge of what?”


boy the times have changed

In today’s society the landscape of dating sure has taken a turn. It’s a far cry from what dating was like in our parents or even grandparents generation. You had a courting process that could take as much as a year or more. Today people are know to have sex in the same night that they meet. And I am just trying to understand, if the end game is having a long lasting relationship, does hooking up so soon work itself out. Some people argue that it does not matter while those with more life experience will say it is a big mistake to go into something so intimate so soon.

boy meets girl, sometimes

Times have also changed regarding who asks out who on a date. Still for the most part it’s guys meeting the girl. But there have been a wave of women asking guys out on dates. Now, it is still fairly new, but it has been a trend over time. Today’s women feels there should not be any restrictions on who ask who out on a date. I will caution women, that when you are more into us than we are into you, you could be running into some problems. So if this is a pursuit for relationship, then it could mean that he is the prize. So, now you become the constant hunter. Because as much as you think as a woman you are under control you really aren’t in control.

what is to come next

For the future to come, who knows what will be the next move forward. If only you knew that, there is a lot of money to be made. Why, well, people have been busy because individuals have to work more today. So the time spent dating is tough. And with the advent of all these dating apps, what will be the tech move to bring people even closer together?


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