REFLECTION: WHY SEEING SOMEONE SUCCEED WHO LOOKS LIKE YOU IS IMPORTANT

“They did it, so can I.” As an African American man, I was able to witness the election our nation’s first Black President of the United States. And what transpired following was a young generation of Black males and females that became interested in politics. Whether it is aspiring to lead the nation one day, or even taking the rankings in their own communities. Seeing someone that looks like you in a position that normally people who look like youRead more

STOLEN AMBITION: WHAT IF THE WOMEN OF THE PAST COULD HAVE HAD THE OPTIONS OF TODAY

“What little they had made way for a lot today.” My mother was born in the year 1960, making her the last of the baby boom generation. This was the first generation where men were coming home from the war and suburbs were being built up all across the country. Mass marketing and advertising was introduced and the influence of entertainment was taking hold. Why was so much going on during this time period? Well, it was because this wasRead more

RAPE CULTURE: THE DOWNWARD SPIRAL OF HOLLYWOOD

“Who would have thought there is an actual culture behind it.” In the recent news, we have been hearing about all the sexual assault allegations directed at the Hollywood elite. Ranging from actors to top executives, all who have been accused and admitted to sexual assaulting women and even children in some cases. Many thought the worst was over with all the women that came out over Bill Cosby. Then Harvey Weinstein victims came out, and from there on itRead more

SEXUALLY INADEQUATE: WHAT IF YOUR PARTNER COULDN’T SATISFY YOU

“Not so pleasurable.” Scenario: You meet this person and agree to a date. You go on the date, date goes well. Then after some time the relationship starts to get serious. You love their energy, conversation, and how well they treat you. Then you eventually you find yourself in an intimate setting under intimate circumstances. And here you are about to have sex with the person you’re in relationship with, and, yuck, just like that, disappointment. What would you doRead more

TOWING THE LINE: WHY THOSE WHO SPEAK THE “RIGHT” THINGS TO WOMEN ARE MORE DANGEROUS

“Do as you say, not say what they want to hear.” Since becoming an adult, I have noticed something that has stuck out to me pertaining to relationships. And that is the constant need that we have in society as men to carry this tagline for dealing with women. That tagline is when you’re asked the type of women that you like and you reply with, “I want a woman with her own wealth, and one whose powerful and lovesRead more

FATHERLESS: WHAT HAPPENS WHEN BOYS DON’T GROW WITH THEIR FATHERS

“You are his first guidance counselor.” As a young boy who grew up in a single parent home without my father, I can tell you first hand what boys miss when they don;t have a man around. Luckily for me, I was able to not only look to my mother, but there were enough men around I could look to, to gauge what it means to be a man. Now that I am 30 years of age, my father andRead more

BLACK EXPECTATIONS: HOW LOW STANDARDS FOR BLACK MEN HAVE MADE ME PUSH BACK HARD

“You’re supposed to fail!” As a Black male in society, I have noticed something since I was a young boy. And that is that we are not only expected to fail, but almost encouraged to fail. And what it has done to me was turn me into an overachiever. Some might say, what is wrong with overachieving in society; well a lot. If you spend your time trying to be the best in your career pursuits, then where is theRead more

PLAYING GAMES ONLY YOU CAN LOSE: WHY WOMEN IN PLAYER WORLD GETS HURT IN THE END

“Two can’t play the game.” In the world of dating, both men and women tend to play games. But there is a catch when it comes to the world of playing games. And that is that only one person winds-up getting hurt. And usually it is the woman that gets hurt. Why is that; why is it that the woman is always getting hurt? Well, because the woman cannot win at the end of the day. Now if you’re aRead more

BRINGING YOU TO THE EDGE: WHY AS MEN WE MUST CHECK OURSELVES

“Don’t let her make you just as emotional.”  When we get in arguments as men, we tend to get to the same level of anger as the woman in the argument and it boils over. You are being pulled into this person emotionally, and cannot let that get to you. And the reason is because as men once we get emotional, it becomes how can I hurt this person the most. What can I say to get this person toRead more