MARRIAGE AND A BABY WHAT: THE DECLINE OF THE NUPTIALS

 

Wedding Couple Figurine

“I do(n’t).”


generational shift

Unlike the past generations, more and more young people are rethinking marriage. And the reason for such a cultural shift has a lot to with divorce. We watched the past generations going in and out of marriage with costly divorces. And the infidelity also is of concern considering the availability of reaching people we would like to talk to. So what are young people doing today’s society? Well a lot of the new millennial generation and the group right behind us are settling for just dating and living with someone. This way you cut down on all the confusion that comes with marriage like all the paperwork you have to sign. And the breakup if it does take place is a lot more fluid. You just shake hands and walk away from the situation.

dough is important

I have been reading articles lately surrounding why marriage is on the decline in America among the young generation. And so many have said that women cannot find an economically attractive potential spouse. And for these reasons a lot of them have chosen to just stay single. Because what is the purpose of struggling so much when you are able to do more alone. Conversely, the men who are attractive for dating exist to an extent, they just don’t want to take the financial risk. Who really want to get involved in a situation where you’re losing 50% just because she wakes up and decides that she is no longer happy. It’s more fiscally sound to just date. At least dating there is a guaranteed that if the relationship succeed or not, you’re good.

less family intervention

Families for the longest have interjected themselves in the lives of those around them. But when you decide to get married there is even more entitlement to get involved. And for these reasons people tend to stay dating. When you are dating no one gets involved so you are able to have your own lives. The moment you decide to get married then you have to deal with all the pressures of family. The life of a person dating another person means that you are going to be seeing this person and only dealing with this person. Not the voices of the people around you.


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CHIVALRY DIED, O-K: ARE MEN STILL EXPECTED TO PLAY THE ROLE

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“It’s what you’re supposed to just do.”


rule of engagement

When it comes to men and women meeting each other in society, the initial meeting is the same as it has always been. Boy meets girl, girl says yes, then they go on the initial date as planned generally by the male who expressed interest. But we are in a society today that goes against the conventional rules. Yet, we are still driven to a degree by the process that most lived with an aspect of our new school. And that is something is up for debate today because should men pay for dates. Should women of today be expected to take on the role. Or should we have a society that is a little bit of both?

women of today

In the America that we live in today, more and more women are in positions of power. That means with that comes a degree of standards that exist like no other time in history. And this is where women fall into this grey area. Because men in that same position, our standards don’t really sway that much. All it means for men is that we have more options to explore. Why, well we are very on the surface type of creatures. We start at physical and work our way from there. So when women are looking for mates in a certain tax bracket and men don’t care about the bracket, then women will have to find themselves successful competing against women with nothing to show for in life.

proper treatment

In the case of going on dates, for the me I do think that the men should pay simply because we are the ones trying to get with the woman. Not too many women asking us on dates. So when you ask someone on the date, then asks that they pay, you are part of a much wider problem. If you wanted them to pay for you, you should wait for them to ask you on a date. The person that ask is reaching out because they are the pursuer. Now, women can pursue as well, but most of the time, we are trying to get them to be with us.

change of times

As we have moved on through the decades, men and women have switched roles on a variety of areas. But what will all this mean for women seeking to find a potential mate? And to answer the question, a lot of women are going to be single in the future to come. And the reason why I said single, men are not looking for financially stable equals. We are looking for persona over what the woman has in her bank account.


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SELECTIVE AGGRESSION: HOW WE CHOOSE WHAT MAKES US ANGRY IN AMERICA

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“Not my style.”


got to go

Comedian Dave Chappelle recent stand-up has caused some controversy. He is no stranger to controversy because his television show on Comedy Central caused him to catch flack in the early 2000’s. But the outrage today is very dishonest considering he has said much worst things that we laugh about in the past. So to be angry today and not have much to say from the past, then you are just reaching for points to be made. We live in this climate of good is good if it’s good for me. We are only concerned with the things that offend us. But everyone should stop being so sensitive, yet we become sensitive for the very same reasons. Where does it all come from; this need to hurry and cancel people.

too many voices

In this vast social media landscape, we are afforded the ability to have a voice that so many who came before us didn’t have. But at the same time, power can be corruptible on both sides. People now have the power on the side of those angry, and they are running away with it. There is no room for discussion, double endendre, nuance, or nothing else of the like. But when you have a few billion people with their hands on the pulse of society, you’re bound to have problems. So what you have to do is not put too much credence into the people on social media. The majority of people are nothing like the ones in social media world. Because a lot of people are bots anyways and not real life humans who are angry over you or your statements.

silent majority says something

When people are not saying anything, that does not mean they don’t care. Their silence shouldn’t be taken as something not serious. It’s just that most people are not about to be the opposite end of the spectrum with the people they disagree with. It’s not worth it to them and they just ignore it. Only problem, we when you are silent, then the next thing that happens is the voices become so loud that someone is fired. So when you don’t push back as a society, then the next thing you know someone is in trouble you like, and you’re trying to figure out why.


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RELATIONSHIPS ON THE DECLINE: WHY YOUNGER GENERATIONS ARTE NOT SEEKING MARRIAGE

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“I don’t.”


let’s just live together

A lot of the millennial generation is of a young group that was raised by parents who taught us that we should want to get married. But so many of us don’t want to make the wrong mistake. Because if you don’t choose wisely, then you will find yourself marrying someone who makes your life hell. But we also don’t want to live a life alone either. It’s not like the 1950’s or the 1960’s when families had problems but were families. Today, you are taking too much of a risk to be married because so many people think in context of themselves. So it’s best to just stay single a lot of the times and go at life alone. Then again, what happens when children come into play? Do you really want to be a single parent?

doing it all aint always better

We love to brag about how we did it all by ourselves. We love to tell people how great we are at doing us. Reality is that it’s not always the best route to take in life. Sometimes, well, to be honest, a lot of times. See, I am a single male working on building my career by myself. And I am going to tell you something, it’s fucking hard. Now, that does not mean it is impossible for me to succeed. All I am saying is that we all have to get some sort of help in order to do well in life. It doesn’t mean anything less for you to want help.

dollars and cents

Marriage has always been a union where people are pooling finances to make this relationship work. So when you are trying to build a life for yourself, marriage is still the way many people build. Now, I am not saying your should get married to build with someone finances because then you run into a lot of problems personally. But, marriage still in today’s society is a gold standrd for how men and women build a life together. It’s like that old saying, two incomes are better than one.


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ATHEISM IS HAPPENING: THE DOWNFALL OF RELIGION

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“Why has to left?”


vanishing belief system

Over the recent years, religion has seen sharp drops in the United States of America. And the reason being brings up all sorts of topics. Some people have said that there is too much violence and control. While others have looked to situations like the September 11th terrorist attacks in New York City and Washington D.C. But whatever the case may be, people are drastically leaving across the board. Now, the word Atheist is something that creeps people out. So a lot of people have taken on the term nonbeliever. Yet they both mean the same thing, just the pressure of the word is softened. Is there more that meets the eye to why religion is dying? Does it have anything to do with the above statement I made early on in this passage?

sci-ence

The more we evolve the smarter we become the lest convinced we become of religion. Because the idea that a man is ascending from the sky to save our species is becoming more and more preposterous as time progress. The more people listen, the more we think to ourselves about living in a modern civilization how we still see this as just. And yes, we have become quit advanced since the times of the original Christians. We know more about our bodies and the world around us. So much so that man has even extended our life span to 78 years of age when it was only half that during biblical days. But besides the science, it is harder to get the attention of a younger demographic to be into religion.

distractions that bound us and bind us

A child growing up in Jerusalem a thousand years ago had no clue a child was playing in the Sahara of Africa. A child growing up in Moscow a thousand years ago knew nothing of a child’s life in present day America. Now we are so connected into the world that it is virtually impossible to not know what is going on worldwide. And with so much information, how do you focus on something so ancient and archaic as religion. Religion is unchanging and life is constantly evolving. And with that, getting the attention of the young to be interested is difficult. Now in less developed countries where child have less, the job is easier. Less finances, less opportunity, less distractions, more time for belief systems. And the more advanced we become, the less the need for the belief system.


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NOT WHAT I GREW UP ON: THE WAY DRESSING STYLES HAVE SHIFTED

Woman in White Long-sleeved Dress

“I wish I understood.”


what a strange dressing style

I look at the styles from fashion and the first thing I think is I know I could have designed this outfit. Because o me I always thought fashion was this luxury and classy style with a little sexy flare. But today it just seems that everyone is going for who can look the poorest. Like people went to a trash can and found outfits typically worn by men and women sleeping in the street and thought, why not attach a large price tag to this. And yes, people are truly buying these items. These products are fetching for price tags in the thousands of dollars. But what has happened in our culture of fashion this has become the trend on the runway?

disturbed or trying too hard

People have this mind frame today where they are the disturbed and troubled artist. But when you look at it for what it is, they are far from disturbed. In fact, they are just people in their right mind trying to feel as if it makes them someone by feeling crazy. And the problem with this is that our culture has become addicted to having a troubled mental capacity. Because those who are truly disturbed try everything to keep from being this type of person. They create things that are the opposite to keep from being in that mental space. And then you have the people who are just keeping up with what everyone else is doing. These people years ago used to be called posers. But to me if you want to dangerous, be dangerous. They dressed like they have nothing, then go into their comfortable coves.

i still love the classics

Say what you want, but I love the former looks. I love when you look at something and say to yourself, “I cannot afford that, and I could not create that.” Anything that makes me go I do that is not amazing. I just don’t feel it is special when anyone feel they can get into it. You should look and say to yourself, this is too much for me. You should feel like you have to leave the planet and fly to a far away place to be that good. But not today, today is totally different.


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MINE OR THE WORLD’S: WHY WE COVET CULTURE

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“It’s mine, all mine.”


protective cultures

What would people think if me, a Black male were to wear a traditional Japanese outfit, or attire myself in traditional Indian clothing. I wonder how many would get upset by the decision for me to do so. And that is where you see who is protective of what as it pertains to culture. The reason people tend to be protective is that they do not want the meaning of what it is they do and why they do so to lose its lure and historical importance. Imagine if I were to wear clothing that is an outfit wore by Indians and it became popular. Without expressing how it came to be, it could be seen as a trend I started. Which would be considered disrespectful to Indians. what are other reasons for the protection?

good guy bad guy

There are behaviors or customs that are alright by one group. But the moment the other group adopts the exact same behavior, then for some reason it is seen as fine. And that is another reason why the culture tends to be protective. How can you say that rap music is bad when Black people do it. Then a White rapper expressing the same violent rage and sentiment and he is seen as expressing his artistic emotions. We are not talking anything else but a change in the hue of the person performing. Then it becomes the thing that is cool that the dominant group does and no longer an origin of the original group.

america is not your typical country

Living in the United States, this is a country that is considered a place where people come from all over the world to live. There is no such thing as an American custom that exist in China, or Russia, or India, or Egypt. We have many different things brought over by many different people. So when it comes to culture, this country shares cultures because of our close proximity to one another. Your neighbor is not someone that lives in the next country over. They are people next door to where you live. So it makes sense that we easily adopt one another’s customs. It is not always intentional. It’s our overall way of life because we are so close.


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