“Why are women so hard up about getting married?”
“We’ve been together for quite some time now.” “Where is this relationship going?” Guys who have been in relationships know this language all too well. But what is it? What is it about women who want to be married so badly. They say it’s about love and commitment, but is it really? Let’s break down some of those reasons as to why. And when I say the reasons I mean: love, commitment, children, outside pressure, and finances. So let’s analyze these reasons. Breaking them down one by one is a good start to understand why men are pressured for marriage.
Love; now the first thing you’re thinking as a guy is why. Why must love be the result of a legal binding document? That’s what it is to us. Why is marriage more of a showing of love than just dating? Love is a deep feeling of some sort of affection. So what love is deeper than a lifetime commitment to someone. Maybe to women dating is just a simple gesture of affection that is the start to something more. But is it more than just love. What about other factors that play into women wanting men to marry.
Commitment is another reason women look at marriage the way that they do. It’s almost as if dating is seen as still being single, something trivial. As a matter of fact bachelor and bachelorette are supposed to be celebrations as your last night as a free man and women before you’re off the market. But weren’t you off the market for the time you were together up to this point? Then again if you cheat then it’s considered going outside the relationship. So to avoid anymore confusion marriage is that thing that makes it truly official. Well what are the other reasons that women are so adamant about getting married.
The wanting of children is another reason. Now as a guy we know that you don’t need marriage to have children. Well biologically you don’t, but when it comes to raising this child, marriage is seen as more of a stable environment. But then again, if a child is raised in the house with both their parents why do you need marriage. They come home to both parents, raised by both, see their parents love each other, so what is the purpose of marriage. It just seems that you can obviously have one and not the other.
Then, there are the outside influences such as friends and family. Men are less likely to care about what these outside forces may think about the relationship. But if women see other women close to them getting married, they will apply more pressure to the guy. Then again, a lot of them (outside influences) might not even be married, so why feel the pressure. I guess women don’t like how it looks. The look of things might be too much to bare for them.
In the end, I think for the most part all of the above are possible, but the main reasons have to do with finances. It’s not just the pooling together of finances. I think that when you’re married if he is sick or dies, you can’t lie claim to anything in the event something happens. You can if you’re his wife. But the other reason is more historical. Women throughout history were with guys, most married, and if the man left she was left herself high and dry. So women ask for a lot of the above things, but there is only one that can’t be achieved without marriage, financial claiming of assets. A tough topic to talk because as much as he doesn’t want to loss it, she want to gain it.