PUSHED TO SUCCESS: MARRYING SOMEONE WHO IS SUCCESSFUL

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“Pushing to to be greater.”


WHO IS BY YOUR SIDE

Most people who become successful in life do so when they have someone they are in a relationship with by their side. That other person forces you to be greater especially if they are doing well themselves. And that is the push that most people need to get themselves to the next level in life. Now, as for myself, I am building alone. And the downfalls is that I am taking on the full load alone. That can be troublesome sometimes when you need to truly grow, but need the assistance. We all like the think that the independent person is so great, but it can be a drag when trying to build and you have to do things alone. You would be surprised how helpful those other dollars can be when you are trying to make the world work for you.

BE PREPARED FOR HOUSEHOLD HATERS

Your success can be another person’s resentment. And that is someting you could come in contact with when dating or even married. One person is not making as much progress as the other then that person at the lower level resents the other. And it’s easier to resent them than someone in society because you are with them. But the problem is you start to bring that person down, so now you have two unsuccessful people. So you either leave the situation or watch yourself be brought down to the other person’s level. And most people end up leaving especially if they are in a good space.

LAWS OF ATTRACTION

Most people who are with someone, tend to get inspired by the other person. If the person does not inspire you to do better, then maybe they are not the person for you. Because if they are part of your overall success, then they are cntributing to your failure or lack there of success.


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CULTURTAL CLASHES: WHEN BOTH SIDES DON’T WORK

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“It’s just not working.”


when two sides come together

People always say love you want to  be with. But not all things are based around love. Because sometimes the differences are far too great to be overlooked. And that is the case for when most people of different cultures decide to get married. And this is hard considering we live in a country where there are so many groups who live in such close proximity of each other. So the idea that people from different groups marry should not be seen as that big of a deal. But it sill means a lot to a lot of different people. But what do you do when both sides are having these issues with trying to bring two people together?

should family have a say

Most people want their families to approve of the person they are dating. And if the family does not approve that could mean disaster for the relationship. But when you have someone who comes from a totally different culture, then that creates a whole new set of challenges. This means the family intervening saying how the kid should be raised. And this is usually not going to be based around your happiness. But more so because it aligns itself with what make them feel good. Only problem is that when you are in the house everyday, make sure this works for you because you have to live this life.

society could really test you

A lot of people don’t care about what society thinks, but when you have to deal with the grunt of their behavior, then it makes a difference. When you have to deal with the ignorant things that people say and do, then you think differently. And if you genuinely don’t want this for yourself, you are going to find yourself in a serious situation. So does that mean to give up on a good relationship, no. What it does mean is that you are going to have to develop some tough skin.


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WHERE I’M WEAK YOU ARE STRONG: WHY DEVELOPING PARTNERSHIPS IN BUSINESS IS BETTER THAN BEING ALONE

 

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“You need me and I need you.”


building them

When you are trying to make it in business, building business partnerships can aid you in your long term growth. Me myself, I pride on being more of a creative than a business person (crazy considering I have my MBA). So this means either I will need to find a partner, or learn to be the person that is of sound business mind. Because being creative is fine and all, but when it comes to turning your creativity into a monetary gain, then eventually you are going to need to take off the creative hat and put on the business hat. And everything about business that is not creativity takes a lot out of you if you are a creative. Because creativity means creating, but business means listening to other people and foregoing some of those creative ideas. Well, how do you cope in such a space?

learn to let go

As an indie filmmaker, I have all these ideas that I would like to use to create. But at the end of the day, there is something called a budget. And you have to learn to operate within the budget that you are allotted. And that means taking some things out, making the art work in the budget, but not as to sacrifice the idea you had originally intended to promote. And that is tough in a business space, especially if art is the business that is being sold. I want to put it all in, meaning I write a script that is 200 pages, I want a 200 minute film. In reality, that script better get cut down to 105 to 110 pages. The artist that succeeds learns to give a little, the ones that starve never do. So what you should do is build relationships with people who can help you keep your vision, but grow it into a business.

two is just better than one

Yes, you want to do things alone so you can say you did it by yourself. But the work it takes to do it all alone, you really lose a lot of time that could be spent in other areas. So building with someone is very helpful. Like I said, sounds good, but in the end it’s not good. I would love to write, direct, produce, market, advertise, distribute, promote, and collect from my indie films I am looking to make. Reality is, that is just not feasible. You are going hurt more than you’re going to help. So use someone that knows what you don’t know, and they will learn a lot from you as well. And with that you can go on to have other partnerships that will generate revenues for you so you can continue to do what you do more seamlessly.


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BUILD WITH OR ALONE: SHOULD YOU FIND A MATE TO BUILD A LIFE OR NOT

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“Building together is easier than separate.”


the union

When it comes to pursuing your career, you have to think about some things. One of those things is should I pursue this career alone or with someone by my side. We all would like to go into the world and build, but alone. I mean alone, wouldn’t it be easier with someone. At first we try to go at the build by ourselves, but soon learn how difficult it is to climb alone. And in the process, we meet our significant other and learn two heads are better than one. And here is where most people will build a sustainable life together.

the journey with self

Even with someone in your corner you will have to build a career to some degree alone. So when building purely alone, there comes this hardship with always being to yourself. You don’t have anyone to share anything with; time or stories. The experience of being able to get to that point of success together is diminished. For instance, myself; I am taking this road alone, but I don’t regret it. But that is just me talking, not to say that it’s for anyone else. You just to have a very strong mind, otherwise you will throw your hands in the air and give up. But how will the career build in a relationship be beneficial? I mean after all, the person is not on the job site with you. Your skills are your skills, not their input.

what is the mate’s purpose

When you go to work, it is up to you to be there in the moment and build. Your mate is doing their own thing on their job. So what is their purpose really? Well, for starters, like I said before, you have someone to share your journey with. But besides that, the agony of working a job and then coming home is tough alone. But when there is someone there, they are able to take off the extra that you would otherwise endure alone. They will give the courage to continue forging forward. So the feeling of dealing with work’s struggles are shared.


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COURTING: HOW RELATIONSHIP UNIONS HAVE CHANGED OVER TIME

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“Where have we gone wrong?”


dating norms

In life, we all want to meet that right person. But in a society where so much has changed, how do you go about meeting that right one? Because dating is not what it used to be in the old days. There was a process one had to go through before you were able to date. And that process always by way of the man getting grilled.

You had to qualify yourself for a date with a woman before even actually really getting to know her, but her family. That’s right, mom and dad had to have the final say. And then you were able to go on that date. And don’t even think about asking for sex. You were lucky to get  peck on the cheek, if that much.

process of the past

When you look at the past the steps you had to go through as follows:

Introduction
  • When you were a guy interested in a woman in the distant past, you had to first introduce yourself to the girl’s parents. Mainly, you had to let the girl’s father see you. And that doesn’t mean a date, it just means you’re interested so he knows.
Parental Discussion
  • Here is the part where the girl’s parents sit her down and they have a discussion with her. Asking her questions regarding who the boy is, and where is he from. Sometimes the girl acted as if she didn’t know, but she knew. And that would lead to the next step.
Parental sit down
  • This is the part where the boy is sat down in the house and asked a series of questions. Who is your kin? Where do you live? What does his parents do for a living? What is his intentions?
Parental Permission
  • And finally you get a chance a to go on that date, but you first have to get it cleared as the guy with your family. And they have to assess if its ok as well.
Date Night
  • And finally, the date night. Which is not really a date night because it’s at a well lit place. Usually you’re eating at a diner where there are people who know your family. And there is a time restriction for how long you be out.

the new norm

The new ways in which we date have taken on new meaning. Now online dating is all the rage, and you don’t have to meet a woman’s family. You just have to approach and if she is with it then, what the hell, you guys date. Only problem is that women come in contact with more problem today because of the changes.

Whereas you had to meet dad in the past, that doesn’t exit today. But things always change and take on new meanings. And dating is no different; but what will inevitably come of all this change.


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BLENDED FAMILIES: HOW THE FACE OF FAMILY HAS CHANGED

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“We are one.”


the blend

What is a blended family? A blended family is a married couple or dating couple that brings together the two sides of a family that was in progress before meeting the other person. And that has always involved the children from previous relationships. Someone might come in with two children and the other person might come in with three or four children.

Whatever the case may be, the blended family is something that is fresh and new in the American landscape. Because for years there has been this stigma on dating or marrying someone with children. But when the two are bringing together children from former relationships it’s a different dynamic.

work-a-bility

Now does this way of raising a family work in society? And if this were 30 plus years ago you might say no. But in reality, the blended family might actually work better than you expected because the two sides have already this mutual agreement. Meeting someone with no kids it’s tougher because they don’t understand the struggle.

Or better yet, they are not going to understand the sacrifices you have to make, or they have to make now that their is a child in the mix that’s not theirs. But what are other blended families that present a new challenge?

ethno-religious

What happens when the new blended family is of a different ethnic group or religion? This working is tough because you are now introducing yourself to not only a new family, but also a new relationship with society, cultural beliefs, and approaches to dealing in life. Meaning what if a Jewish and Muslim man and woman meet with children.

That is an interesting cultural dynamic because you have two groups who have long dealt with serious issues from a region of the world going back a long time. How to do you make that work not just and that person, but also with families?

love conquers all; maybe

They say that love conquers all, but dos it really? Because I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but it doesn’t. You need more than just love to exist in society. It’s unfortunate, but you have to take into consideration the world a child is being brought into at the moment. You love each other, but how will life be for them.

So there is nothing wrong with love, but what are the impacts on the kids’ lives.


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IMPERSONAL DATING: WHY AMERICA HAS CHANGED SO MUCH IN THE DATING WORLD

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“We have voices for a reason.”


human connections

As human beings we have built not only civilizations, we have built human connections throughout history. But in recent history we have lost an aspect of that human connection. And one of those areas has to be with how we date in society. People are not really approaching each other anymore, it’s all bout the social media connection. We look at each other’s profiles and judge on the basis of that alone. It’s almost as if approaching a person is this ancient way of meeting. Never did people think that dating life would become so impersonal.

dating methods

The above is a commercial from the dating website eHarmony. If you were to ask people in the past, would they be finding love over the internet they would have probably thought you were crazy. And what’s even more odd, just to show you how we have changed, taboo of dating on the internet is young. As a matter of fact, my mother bought me my first computer at age 12 years old. This was back in the year 2000. Just 18 years ago, it was odd to meet someone on the internet for a date, now it’s commonplace. But what are other ways people are meeting in today’s society?

TINDR & GRINDR
  • These are two dating apps where you can meet someone more instantly, but it is not geared toward monogamous relationships. Tindr is used by singles to swipe left or swipe right to Related imageexpress interest or a lack of interest in someone. If you like them and want to meet you swipe in the direction of interest and proceed forward. Grindr is that same way, but it’s more centered toward the gay community. There is an aspect of these apps that is adventurous, but also it takes away from the building of relationships if you’re only interested in the initial physical encounter and that’s it.Related image

 

 

 

is it all bad?

We all like to think that generations who come after us are doing it wrong. We want to believe that we have the best solutions for dating in society. What’s interesting is that in the next 25 – 30 years you will have people whose mothers and fathers met off of Tindr, Grindr, eHarmony, JDate, and Black People Meet. It won’t seem odd, and will also be looked at as archaic to see life otherwise. And who knows, maybe in enough time, life will go back to how things used to be in our grandparents generation. But as for now, this is dating in society.


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