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WAITING FOR MARRIAGE: SAVING SEX FOR MARRIAGE IS NOT GOOD

Close-up of Woman Holding Condom

“Don’t do it to yourself.”

holding out

The idea of waiting until you’re married to have sex is still a requirement for so many people. And the reason so many still do is because of their moral code via religious beliefs. But there are some fundamental problems with this belief. And the reality is that sex is a very nature activity that is a contributor to your overall happiness. So when your sex life is bad, then you could run a risk of living an unhappy life. This is something that no matter how strong your belief nature has a way of over riding the feeling you get from spirituality. So why do people hold out knowing it could be this problem once they do have sex. Or better yet, what do you do if you get a partner that is less than adequate?

what to do what to do

When you wait until you’re married to have sex the main problem that arise from this would have to be who suffers if it’s not good? In the case of men, we are able to still find a way around a female who is a bad lover. Since we are so driven through the physical sense, we can make things work. Because we not only can teach a woman to be better, but we enjoy being the teacher. Now on the flip side of things, sex is a lot more emotional for the woman taking part in the activity. So being in a marriage with a man who is a virgin, she can’t quite enjoy like we can. If you are unaware or unsure, she loses interest. And if you are a woman waiting for sex until that marriage point, you most likely will get hurt. Because now you have to figure out how do I stay faithful and deal with bad sex for life.

trivial, sorry, it just is

With all that is going on in the world. You have wars, famine, poverty, political corruption, diseases wiping people out, and not to mention a rock in the form of the end of the world that narrowly misses Earth. Now you have this mind that God is watching how you use your penis and vagina. It just makes the idea of God sound silly. And for the most part, religion is very centered on self. I believe in this because of everything that could be watched I am being watched. Humans are one of millions of species, but we are the ones watched the most. So to me, you are depriving yourself of living your best life because you are bound by the unknown. And to be honest, most people who divorce will admit that waiting was a big mistake.

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NOT WHAT I GREW UP ON: THE WAY DRESSING STYLES HAVE SHIFTED

Woman in White Long-sleeved Dress

“I wish I understood.”

what a strange dressing style

I look at the styles from fashion and the first thing I think is I know I could have designed this outfit. Because o me I always thought fashion was this luxury and classy style with a little sexy flare. But today it just seems that everyone is going for who can look the poorest. Like people went to a trash can and found outfits typically worn by men and women sleeping in the street and thought, why not attach a large price tag to this. And yes, people are truly buying these items. These products are fetching for price tags in the thousands of dollars. But what has happened in our culture of fashion this has become the trend on the runway?

disturbed or trying too hard

People have this mind frame today where they are the disturbed and troubled artist. But when you look at it for what it is, they are far from disturbed. In fact, they are just people in their right mind trying to feel as if it makes them someone by feeling crazy. And the problem with this is that our culture has become addicted to having a troubled mental capacity. Because those who are truly disturbed try everything to keep from being this type of person. They create things that are the opposite to keep from being in that mental space. And then you have the people who are just keeping up with what everyone else is doing. These people years ago used to be called posers. But to me if you want to dangerous, be dangerous. They dressed like they have nothing, then go into their comfortable coves.

i still love the classics

Say what you want, but I love the former looks. I love when you look at something and say to yourself, “I cannot afford that, and I could not create that.” Anything that makes me go I do that is not amazing. I just don’t feel it is special when anyone feel they can get into it. You should look and say to yourself, this is too much for me. You should feel like you have to leave the planet and fly to a far away place to be that good. But not today, today is totally different.

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ATHEISM WINS: WHAT IF ALL RELIGION DIED OUT

Silhouette Image of Person Praying

“When it all goes away.”

the end is near

I hope you are realizing something as it pertains to religion. And that is that it will not last forever. You will eventually see more and more relics of the major religions that have dominated the world in museums. They will be something we look back on thousands of years from now and be able to get an eye opener into our civilization. The only other two questions would have to be, “When will it happen,” and “How will people fair without it?” Because humanity won’t cease to exist, but the lives we live we be drastically different without a religion on Earth. Or will it be what we live now, just now belief?

the last to stand

Which of the three main religions will be the last to be in existence? In my opinion, I do believe Islam may be the last simply because the Middle East and parts of Africa have such a hold on the people. But considering they are so behind everyone else, this could prove to be a problem. Especially considering the Earth in shrinking as far as people living with each other. This means countries are starting to branch out and you will see people living closer together. Only problem is that cultures may start to bicker among each other. And religion has been that doctrine that has kept so much of humanity from fighting like we really could be.

how does it happen

As information spreads more and more, it will be hard to keep people under religious rule throughout the planet. So what happens is that people start to go out and find more information about the past, and in return uncovering more about the Earth than previously known. Anther more obvious reality is that religion goes away from people tired of the control factor. And I come back to the Middle East because of the women. You can only continue the same thing for only a period of time before it dies out. Nothing having to do with people is eternal. It’s only a matter time before all the dominoes fall down.

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NEW INTRUDERS: WHY WE ARE OPPOSING TO NEW NORMS

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“The new, new.”

the introduction of 

America is a society where we are quite apprehensive to change in the beginning stages of anything new. But then enough time goes by and we start to have a push back once we see people’s lives affected. And that is when he change starts to happen. We don’t notice it because we are living in real time, but after 50 years or even 100 years it all makes sense. Then we look back and say to ourselves, “I can’t believe people use to fight over that type of stuff.” But real time, we tend to fight over everything. Why are we so aggressive when it comes to introducing new norms into our world? A lot of it has to do with a status quo. We are a status quo species.

easy peezy

Once there is a way of life that one is used to living, then we go, ok this makes sense. But the problem is, there will always be a disenfranchised group of people. We look at them initially and say, really, come on, we’re going to introduce this into society. We are used to things going well with the way they are now. So why must things change. Now I have to get used to a whole new way of life. It becomes stressful o have to go through all this. Especially if you are older and used to the way life is as you know it. The new way now means everything you once knew in your life means nothing anymore. And if you are 20 years old that’s fine, but what about 50 years old? That can be a major culture shock.

get over it, you can’t stop it

Hey people, you want to stop things from happening, you fight, well guess what, get over it. You will have a hard time keeping things the same as generations continue to change. So you will either be forced to change or be weened out of existence. Understand that things are changing and you have no control. So you can fight and watch yourself push back or you can learn to adjust.

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CULTURE CONFLICTS: WHEN BORN INTO TWO, ONE USUALLY WINS

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“One wins,the other loses.”

best of both worlds

What happens when you grow up in a biracial household and you are introduced into to different cultures? Well, what usually happens is that you find yourself having to figure out two paths to navigate. And the ultimate reality is that you usually grow up and choose one of the cultures over the other. It is not because you don’t respect the other culture, it’s just that one typically resonates over the other. Something you get that is coming from one usually feels more connected to where you are going in life, or the culture is more symbolic to you. Meaning, if you grow up in a household where one parent is Jewish and the other Hindu, rarely do both hold weight into adulthood. You will be both, but you may choose to practice one over the other is an adult.

wanting to keep it in-house

A lot of people would prefer their children to keep the culture within the realm of their own people. And the reason being because it is too easy to lose the identity of a people. And marrying someone of another culture could easily cause that to happen. Meaning, if I as an African American marry someone Chinese, that child typically will choose one over the other as an adult. And that choice is the defining moment of what will happen to the history of that group from there on out. Because let’s say that kid chooses to marry Chinese, then the connection by the time my grandchild comes along is lost forever to Black people. And from this people tend to b protective of their cultures.

in a shrinking society

What will happen the more America becomes this biracial melting pot that it is becoming? For starters the physical embodiment of the country will change. But another thing that will take hold is the conservative landscape that has made America what it is will start to diminish as well. So the relationships may sound like ti could be better because we are slowly becoming more of one nation. But the problems surmount because new boundaries and alliances could form. So the change could be something that could help the culture of hurt the future.

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RAPE CULTURE: ON WHAT LEVEL DOES IT EXIST

Me Too Printed Paper Wall Decor

“Is it condoned or not?”

when did it start

America is a country where we have all these buzz words that get people to react in a visceral manner. And one word stands out in today’s society and that is rape culture. Now, do I think we have a culture that is based around the subjugation of women. No, I don’t think we do. And simply because the victimization of a person is not in existence when the person is a “willing” participant. Notice when I said willing participant, I am referring to aspects of our entertainment. We have a culture of young men and women engaging in activity that is deemed to soon for their engagement. But do I think we just except rape as part of our culture, no.

wait, that’s rape

You would be surprised what constitutes for rape in our society today. I, for the longest thought that forcible rape was the real. No, there are many different forms. There is the underage, which another rape I am aware of, but there is this new form, called, “I made a mistake,” rape. Comedian Aziz Ansari was someone accused of assault, but in the description of the situation, you come to realize that it was just a bad date. But people were ready to destroy based on the woman’s description. And to me, that’s scary knowing that a bad date, or her mistake in sleeping with you can be flipped into rape. This is a shift in our culture because now with that kind of ambiguity, it’s scary for both parties.

the movements that spark it all

For the past year, there have been celebrity after celebrity getting into trouble for their sexual misconduct. And that meltdown has sparked a rallying cry, “Times Up,” “Me Too.” The time up for dealing with sexual assault and violence against women and me too expressing it has happened to me as a woman as well. And from these movements the culture of how we interact as men and women shift. Now, is everything all good, meaning, will this movement work in favor of women or ultimately collapse. Now, since we are in real time living, we don’t anything but the good. But a movement, even one used to promote ones well-being can be flipped and used as a tool to do harm.

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CULTURAL SHIFTS: WHERE IS AMERICA GOING WITH OUR SOCIAL MOVEMENTS

Man Using Camera Between Crowd

“Is it all good or going bad?”

the ants go marching one by one

An aspect of American culture is our willingness to continue express ourselves through the freedom of the first Amendment. This rings true when there is someone in a position of power in this country that people feel uncomfortable running the country. Who would think protesting would be in the culture of a nation. But it is something that defines our society is the freedom to peacefully assemble. But my question is where are we going from here with our protest? Because every generation wants something from the ones in charge, so what will our grandchildren being saying about us at a certain time?

swinging pendulum

We see the country taking on this swinging to one side pendulum, but I don’t look at it as swinging to one side or the other. Because even people on the left are getting other people on the left in trouble. So what we are is a nation where we like to see each other get into trouble. And since every threat on the internet must be taken serious, we have to give credit to those who don’t deserve credit. But once you give the the taste of blood, they are not stopping there. You are going to be the wreck of society, which has become a more sinister cultural shift in our society. We know the behavior of this person is like us, but it gives us the ability to pounce on someone; it’s a power move in a world where you have no power.

adopting our methods

You can and will see more and more of people in other countries using America as a measuring tool for how to assemble. Places have seen throughout history how protesting can get things done. Say they take a look at our culture and force decisions in their own systems. And there are times where those types of methods get things down. And then other times it leads to a lot of people getting hurt. But guess what, our methods got so many hurt in the pass to get work accomplished.

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