Wanting to give up is something so many people pursuing their career feel like doing. But for some reason there is something that is holding you from doing this, and that is your drive. And it’s a good thing because quitting should be the absolute last resort. It should be the thing last on your list once you have tried everything and finally you have to give up. Especially if this is something you are good at and getting better. But the reality is most people do give in to the climb because it is so difficult. It’s like the quote by Thomas Edison that, “many of life’s failures don’t realize how close they were to success when they finally gave up.” Such a strong and powerful quote that I live by in life.
WHERE DOES IT COME FROM
Somewhere in your head is this feeling of dejection. We don’t know where it comes from, but it is always there lingering. And the reason we have this in our heads is to give us the ability to back away from danger. It has helped keep us alive on this planet for so long. But the reality behind succeeding in society is you have to take risk and be fearless. Even if you fear which most people do, you have to trick yourself into getting out of that mind-frame. We all have it, even the most motivating people have fears. They just do a good job at shifting their attention on to keep pushing. Now, that thing that has kept us alive, there are always the ones that are fearless that have pushed the world forward.
STRAP IN FOR THE LONG HAUL
Success in life is a long long road to where it is you want to truly be. You have to be patient and know that it will take a very long time. And when I say long time, we are talking 10 years, 15 years, even 20 years more most. So if you are only a few years in and feel like falling off, then you are in trouble because everything will be painful and take a long time.
Are you someone who make money every two weeks but yet you still don’t have much. That means your life is out of wack. Something is going on that is in your best interest. And the person to blame is you. You have to treat your check like it is more than what you are doing. People get paid and next thing you know they spend their checks once they have their bills accounted for. But that is not the way you work for your living. You can’t just sit aside money for rent and bills, and personal needs, then go shopping. Then expect no to have anything as you grow older. You have to sacrifice the wants right now for the needs now and wants later.
RESPECT THE POSITION GIVEN
People get these different positions in their career. Then they get there and next thing you know they throw so much away. People have all these ideas about what they will do, but then they never do those things. Especially if you come from nothing and you are building to something. You forget about why you decided to build in the first place. But you know, most people forget where they come from and how far they have come. You get so caught up in the moment of enjoying and building you forget. It’s easy to detach yourself.
BUCKLING DOWN STINKS
So many people have a hard time building in their lives because they don’t want to deal with the idea of having to do the work and failing. If you fail we are scared about people making fun of us. So we live in this space of wanting but not building. Having the ability but not trying because we spend money on garbage that could be allocated into something more important.
Your parents love, and they want to protect you. But sometimes they overprotect you. They tend to look at your life and see something in it for them. They have built and put so much into you, they really want to know that the investment is worth it. But part of the problem is that you have to deal with them saying that you should play it safe. When it comes to pursuing a career, you are supposed to choose a job that is a little more of a guarantee. And this is something that will make your parents happy about the life you have chosen. But what happens once the kid decides to make a career decision that does not align with the parents decision?
NO REAL OUTCOME
When you choose a career that is not a little more guaranteed like a doctor or lawyer, then your parents will be more appreciative of you. But then there are the jobs that we choose that are a lot more unguaranteed. Your kid wants to be an actor or musician. And here is where most parents will stand in the face of their child and push them in another direction. This is because we want them to be safe and other times parents project on to their children their own fears and insecurities. So, generally, the kid accepts the parent’s request and live their lives how they’re expected to live.
Parents build dreams, but also, parents kill the dreams of their children as well. And I am not only talking about kids being actors. What if your child want to be an archaeologist? A lot of parents would not support that because this is a profession that does not make much money. They are not concerned about what you love they are concerned about security. Supporting yourself is more important to them than your passion. So a lot of times you have to pursue yourself.
In my life as an adult I have always been known as the person who really didn’t have much to say. But I have always been full of ideas that I have been able to put into play. And what’s crazy is that the same energy that one needs for the success in life is the energy they get from the social part of life. Yet there is something about the execution that makes people freeze. And that has always been something that has me stuck. I can put things into play, but the social part of me is what gets stuck. Only the social part of me in order to build relationships that are intimate. When I want something bad enough I am able to get out of my way socially.
THE MIND IS WEIRD
It’s odd how the brain will make itself do one thing but is afraid to do something else. I look at life and think to myself how hard it is to make friends or date. Then I look at myself building a photography portfolio, writing screenplays, and writing my books. Then think it is actually harder to do that stuff. But in my mind the work is far easier than being social. I don’t know, it’s something about social that makes life harder. It can’t be rejection because career is more difficult. The only thing I can think of is the idea that I have been working since childhood. So it is not something I think about. You just have to approach the opposite of what you want the same as your social, or social like success.
WHICH IS WORSE
In your mind you try to think about what would be worse. Trying to make a success of yourself and be social, or someone not too social who is success. And there are people who fall under both equations. And those people are very lucky to be who they are because a lot of people wish they had both.
When you are trying to pursue your career goals, there is something you must keep in mind. One, you will be building for a very long time. And the other is that you will miss out on a lot when you trying to build your life. So you will have to sit back and watch your peers live in their 20’s while you are out in the world building. Keeping up may make you feel like you are missing all the fun. But you are not really missing anything at times. In reality, some of them wish they had something to buckle them down and work toward. And how is this so, how can we assume they wish they had something?
TALENTS TAKES UP TIME
In the pursuit to anything in life you must be willing to be uncomfortable. It means stepping outside the comfort zone and leaving other things behind. But it also means that you have to be willing to give up a lot of time spent going out and hanging. And how wants to miss out on all the action. But when you are young, especially 20’s you don’t know what you want to do. So you do tend to hang a lot more than most people. But when you find that thing, it does tend to become a distraction from social life. So what you don’t know is that sometimes you peers wish they had something more than what they were doing. But even with this said, it is not always the case.
There are people in your same age group who have taken off at a very young age. These are people like professional athletes or entertainers who are living it up in their 20’s. So if you look at them you are going to be very miserable. Because they are living and making a good living. But what we don’t know is how long they were working prior to that point. There are actors who played small roles as 10 year old kids, but broke out at age 24 years old. That is young to break out, but you actually have 14 years in the game. So you are actually a veteran in reality. So everyone who is partying is not wasting time.
What happens when you are someone who has no real drive or goals in life? It can hurt a lot especially when you see people around you doing things and their lives moving around. You might feel like your life is not going anywhere and there will never be anything out there for you. But that is simply because you are comparing yourself to others. But you are also not honing in on your talents and skills. And yes, it will take a lot of time. And when I say time I am talking about years. But you are spending years doing nothing, so you should just focus on doing something. But let’s go a little further on the comparison to other people.
A SOCIAL SOCIETY
When you have all this social media around you, you can’t help but look at your life then look at the lives of others. But I am not just referring to anyone, but the people that are in your age range. And yes, there will always be someone in your age range in another tax bracket or lifestyle. But that should not be something that keeps people from growing to their full potential. And yet it is something that hurts a lot of young people achieve success. Here is another thing about social media world, people are not always if not most of them live that life. You are watching people post the best of their existence and hide the other things.
Are you ready to put in the time to get to where you have to be. And here is where so many people fail to reach their potential. And this is also the reason so many people cannot put their full into anything to get started. They lack the sticktuitiveness to actually persevere into the life they have always wanted. It is great building in the first six months or even a year. But what happens when you are about two or three, better yet five years in and not much. That is when people start to really fall off. Trust that after ten years of fighting you start to see things in months and somethings weeks. But that is only after years of working.
When you are building your career in life, you have to remember something. Understand that the people who may help you with the most task in life, will not know you. It will take the people who are strangers to bring you along into that place of success. Crazy, but true; the people who never knew you or met you, are the ones who will undergird you. They know nothing of the previous person that you were from which to judge. So they are more apt to reach into their pockets and spend or do business with you. Because who wouldn’t want to build with the ones they know, but the bigger the inner circle, actually the less the support.
THEY HATE WHAT THEY CAN’T ACHIEVE
Your brain and your understanding of the world, is your reality. And if your brain can wrap around things better than most people then you should reach for the stars. Yet there will always be people who can’t see themselves doing what you do. Or better yet, they have an idea of you and don’t see you as getting to the point where you think you’re going to be. And if you have any chance of being in the position people might see you in, then they will try their best to stop your progression. So you have to remove yourself from them or anybody else with this mind frame.
THEY TEND TO BE LAZY
If you are going to work with people you know or depend on them for help, they are not going to have the urgency that you have in life. To them, they see you as that same old person, and will not take you serious. They my have a hard time removing that part of them that can’t see pass the past. So you have to reach out to the strangers in society.
Many people are wondering how long will it be before they finally punch through and become successful. But it is all in time with patience and due diligence. We are such a now society, that we don’t want to think that it could take fifteen or even twenty years to get to where you have to go in life. But you have to have that mind-frame otherwise you will not get to that place. You would be surprised how many people have the talent to get to a certain place, but they just don’t have that patience. And that is something you must have is the patience and talent to persevere. Because things just take time, a lot a lot of time. So sit back and enjoy the journey through time.
WHAT’S THE RUSH FOR
We all want to be somewhere in life but we want it now. And there is a reason it takes so long. Not just because you need to build your experience and credibility. But you miss out on all those tactile moments of building in your career. And this is important because you will be lost if you don’t really know where you’re going or how you got there. You need to experience the pain because there will be painful days even in success. And without the ability to pull yourself up, you will delve further. So building through the hardship helps you get out of the funk in life.
We all would love to walk out of college into the job of our dreams. But the reality is, is that what you are expecting is just that, a dream. You have to realize that a dream job comes with many years of experience. So, in order to land that job, you must be willing to put in a lot of grunt work. So what will assist you in getting to that point in life is taking on roles that are not as glamorous, but they move you in the right direction. And that is where taking on a “ship” may aid you. And you might say, a “ship,” what is a ship? Well a ship is an internship, fellowship, apprenticeship.
An internship is the most widely known position that a college student is able to attain that will place them around the career they are pursuing. Interns work in the trade of what ever they are pursuing in life with the hopes of gaining experience. Now, for the most part you will be going on coffee runs or drafting up paperwork. You are not going to be working directly doing anything financial in an internship in the financial sector. No one will be listening to your opinion, nor asking you questions. The goal is to network and keep your eyes and ears open to the environment around you. Now, this is not to be confused with a fellowship program.
Now, a fellowship is different where you are working along side someone with the same common interest. The sole purpose of a fellow is to come together with someone of more knowledge in your field to aid in increasing your abilities in your practice. The majority of fellowships come by way of the education environment where fellows purpose is research that contributes to the faculty. You usually are working under the tutelage of a superior, like in a teaching fellow you are a teaching assistant. I myself was apart of a fellowship for theatre about two years ago.
Now, here is the “ship” which the apprenticeship. And this one is the most important of the three. Because traditionally, you are paid, low wages, but paid. And you are somewhat of an employee working side by side with professionals. Here, you are going to be working to be more specialized in you craft. And here is the most difficult of the three ships as well because this could make or break you in your career.
A lot of times when we need to build our careers, it takes financing. Financing that the average person does not have in their pockets. So what do you do when you need the money to get started. For me, I have an interest in filmmaking, writing, and photography. So my initial investment in writing is cheaper than filmmaking and photography. Filmmaking and photography are both expensive, so you have to start with small investments. Or, you could try saving up over a long period of time. Then again, there is the reaching out to family and friends, or trying to crowd fund, or trying to get grant money, or a loan, or contest. So as you can see, you have to look under every rock for resources.
how to start
Everyone needs to have a start in life. For me I started writing at the age of 23 years old. I am now 7 years into the writing experience of the novel and screenwriting process. I started filmmaking at the age of 26 and photography in the past 1 year. I started writing with Microsoft word on the school’s computers and eventually bought myself a laptop. But raised funding for my short film through Indiegogo website. I also just so happen had a refund from grad school and bought a starter camera. Since then I bought a prime lens. And now I am taking more and more photos while also writing my first book and self-publishing it.
From the previous passage, you have to now take it a step further by growing your audience in whatever it is you’re doing. For me, I have my social media platforms that I have invested a lot of time and energy. And yet, it is still a work in progress. This is a growth stage that seems to be going nowhere, because in the paradigm there is no movement. You are up and then back down. But over time you start to see the results. Results that typically take years to accomplish.
living life is more important
The reason so many can’t save money is not because of bills. But it’s actually because they want to live their lives. People want new clothes, a car note, and date. And who can blame them, but you now have to be willing to sacrifice your dreams. Because in the building stages, there is no room for both. You have to put these types of things on hold for something much greater.