Tag: #buildalife

GIVING UP IS NOT A SOLUTION

Woman Sitting on Chair While Leaning on Laptop

“Keeping trekking along.”

WHEN IT HURTS MOST

Wanting to give up is something so many people pursuing their career feel like doing. But for some reason there is something that is holding you from doing this, and that is your drive. And it’s a good thing because quitting should be the absolute last resort. It should be the thing last on your list once you have tried everything and finally you have to give up. Especially if this is something you are good at and getting better. But the reality is most people do give in to the climb because it is so difficult.  It’s like the quote by Thomas Edison that, “many of life’s failures don’t realize how close they were to success when they finally gave up.” Such a strong and powerful quote that I live by in life.

WHERE DOES IT COME FROM

Somewhere in your head is this feeling of dejection. We don’t know where it comes from, but it is always there lingering. And the reason we have this in our heads is to give us the ability to back away from danger. It has helped keep us alive on this planet for so long. But the reality behind succeeding in society is you have to take risk and be fearless. Even if you fear which most people do, you have to trick yourself into getting out of that mind-frame. We all have it, even the most motivating people have fears. They just do a good job at shifting their attention on to keep pushing. Now, that thing that has kept us alive, there are always the ones that are fearless that have pushed the world forward.

STRAP IN FOR THE LONG HAUL

Success in life is a long long road to where it is you want to truly be. You have to be patient and know that it will take a very long time. And when I say long time, we are talking 10 years, 15 years, even 20 years more most. So if you are only a few years in and feel like falling off, then you are in trouble because everything will be painful and take a long time.

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NO PAY, LOW PAY

Coins Inside Jar

“Experience first, money second.”

THE EARLY DAYS

When you first start out in your career, you are going to have to realize the pay is low. And some work you might get is going to be for no pay. This is where so many young people give up and quit. I mean think about it, who want to get up each and everyday to go to a job that pays no money. But the reality is that you need the experience early in your 20’s in order to move forward. For example I worked for a retail and the start out managers earn a small income, but the volume of running the store was a major task. So the pay was low, but the ability to manage a large team helps push you over the top.

BE HUMBLE

So many young people have this in mind thing about them. I deserve more but I don’t know much. Well guess what, you have to pay your dues. You have to get in and gain experience in order to keep moving along. But most have a hard time moving forward because they have this mind-frame early on. I have worked for internships that didn’t pay, and others where pay was so low, it should have been for free. But what you have to be is grateful for the opportunity and learn as much as you can. These are not the years to make the most money. The time will come if you set yourself up for the challenge.

MIND FIELD

As you navigate your early career life, you will have these feelings of doubt and hurt. You want to have and do what everyone else is doing. Their life sometimes look greater than it is, and you start to feel depressed. And this is the mind game that you start to play with yourself as you grow your career. And a lot of times you don’t see things moving in the paradigm of building. It does not formulate until the work has been done. But when you reach the level you want, more work goes into it to hold on to it.

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THEIR FEAR INSIDE OF YOU: HOW PARENTS PROJECT ONTO THEIR KIDS

Woman With Brown Baby Carrier And Little Kid In White Jacket

“I know what’s best for you.”

PLAY IT SAFE

Your parents love, and they want to protect you. But sometimes they overprotect you. They tend to look at your life and see something in it for them. They have built and put so much into you, they really want to know that the investment is worth it. But part of the problem is that you have to deal with them saying that you should play it safe. When it comes to pursuing a career, you are supposed to choose a job that is a little more of a guarantee. And this is something that will make your parents happy about the life you have chosen. But what happens once the kid decides to make a career decision that does not align with the parents decision?

NO  REAL OUTCOME

When you choose a career that is not a little more guaranteed like a doctor or lawyer, then your parents will be more appreciative of you. But then there are the jobs that we choose that are a lot more unguaranteed. Your kid wants to be an actor or musician. And here is where most parents will stand in the face of their child and push them in another direction. This is because we want them to be safe and other times parents project on to their children their own fears and insecurities. So, generally, the kid accepts the parent’s request and live their lives how they’re expected to live.

DREAM KILLERS

Parents build dreams, but also, parents kill the dreams of their children as well. And I am not only talking about kids being actors. What if your child want to be an archaeologist? A lot of parents would not support that because this is a profession that does not make much money. They are not concerned about what you love they are concerned about security. Supporting yourself is more important to them than your passion. So a lot of times you have to pursue yourself.

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Instagram Me: @theefaheemjackson; @faheemjacksonphotography
Twitter Me: @2320howe

SOCIALLY INCLINED WITH FEAR

Person Sitting on Couch

“I wish I could just do it.”

GOT IT BUT DON’T GOT IT

In my life as an adult I have always been known as the person who really didn’t have much to say. But I have always been full of ideas that I have been able to put into play. And what’s crazy is that the same energy that one needs for the success in life is the energy they get from the social part of life. Yet there is something about the execution that makes people freeze. And that has always been something that has me stuck. I can put things into play, but the social part of me is what gets stuck. Only the social part of me in order to build relationships that are intimate. When I want something bad enough I am able to get out of my way socially.

THE MIND IS WEIRD

It’s odd how the brain will make itself do one thing but is afraid to do something else. I look at life and think to myself how hard it is to make friends or date. Then I look at myself building a photography portfolio, writing screenplays, and writing my books. Then think it is actually harder to do that stuff. But in my mind the work is far easier than being social. I don’t know, it’s something about social that makes life harder. It can’t be rejection because career is more difficult. The only thing I can think of is the idea that I have been working since childhood. So it is not something I think about. You just have to approach the opposite of what you want the same as your social, or social like success.

WHICH IS WORSE

In your mind you try to think about what would be worse. Trying to make a success of yourself and be social, or someone not too social who is success. And there are people who fall under both equations. And those people are very lucky to be who they are because a lot of people wish they had both.

Personal Website: http://www.faheemjackson.squarespace.com
Instagram Me: @theefaheemjackson; @faheemjacksonphotography
Twitter Me: @2320howe

MAKE YOUR MONEY WORK FOR YOU

Person Holding 100 Us Dollar Banknotes

“Respect it as you make it.”

EARN WITH REGARD

As you earn money, make sure to put some away for when you may really need your income. And this means that you job is not guaranteed, so who knows what may happen. You need some rainy day money just in case something bad happens. Another reason to put money away is to make it work for you eventually. This means to invest in some type of engine that will render a good return on your money. But not all people have the income to do so, or do we. Because when you look at what you spend your money on throughout the year, you see that most people have it. They just don’t do a really good job at managing their income.

MANAGE IT WELL

If you don’t know how to manage money, then you better start learning how to do so. Especially if you want to have a family one day. Then need to make use of your money in a responsible way is going to be crucial in your success not just in your career but as a spouse and parent. You also don’t know the important things that will come up along the way. And you don’t want to be known as one of those people who have a disrespect for money.

YIELDS NOT INCOME

You are supposed to use the rule of thumb that is let your invest yields pay for the things you want in this world not your income. So if you want all these things that cost a lot of money invest and buy that way. But see, the investment is long term and people want it now. And if you have a now mind-frame then you are setting yourself up for problems. Because to make the money work your way you have to build over time.

Personal Website: http://www.faheemjackson.squarespace.com
Instagram Me: @theefaheemjackson; @faheemjacksonphotography
Twitter Me: @2320howe

BUILD WITH THOSE WHO ARE STRANGERS

Group of People Watching on Laptop

“Those who know you won’t help you.”

THEY DON’T KNOW IF THEY DON’T KNOW

When you are building your career in life, you have to remember something. Understand that the people who may help you with the most task in life, will not know you. It will take the people who are strangers to bring you along into that place of success. Crazy, but true; the people who never knew you or met you, are the ones who will undergird you. They know nothing of the previous person that you were from which to judge. So they are more apt to reach into their pockets and spend or do business with you. Because who wouldn’t want to build with the ones they know, but the bigger the inner circle, actually the less the support.

THEY HATE WHAT THEY CAN’T ACHIEVE

 Your brain and your understanding of the world, is your reality. And if your brain can wrap around things better than most people then you should reach for the stars. Yet there will always be people who can’t see themselves doing what you do. Or better yet, they have an idea of you and don’t see you as getting to the point where you think you’re going to be. And if you have any chance of being in the position people might see you in, then they will try their best to stop your progression. So you have to remove yourself from them or anybody else with this mind frame.

THEY TEND TO BE LAZY

If you are going to work with people you know or depend on them for help, they are not going to have the urgency that you have in life. To them, they see you as that same old person, and will not take you serious. They my have a hard time removing that part of them that can’t see pass the past. So you have to reach out to the strangers in society.

Personal Website: http://www.faheemjackson.squarespace.com
Instagram Me: @theefaheemjackson; @faheemjacksonphotography
Twitter Me: @2320howe

WHERE DO YOU SEE YOURSELF IN LIFE

Man Wearing Blue Suit

“The best is yet to come.”

IN DUE TIME

Many people are wondering how long will it be before they finally punch through and become successful. But it is all in time with patience and due diligence. We are such a now society, that we don’t want to think that it could take fifteen or even twenty years to get to where you have to go in life. But you have to have that mind-frame otherwise you will not get to that place. You would be surprised how many people have the talent to get to a certain place, but they just don’t have that patience. And that is something you must have is the patience and talent to persevere. Because things just take time, a lot a lot of time. So sit back and enjoy the journey through time.

WHAT’S THE RUSH FOR

We all want to be somewhere in life but we want it now. And there is a reason it takes so long. Not just because you need to build your experience and credibility. But you miss out on all those tactile moments of building in your career. And this is important because you will be lost if you don’t really know where you’re going or how you got there. You need to experience the pain because there will be painful days even in success. And without the ability to pull yourself up, you will delve further. So building through the hardship helps you get out of the funk in life.

Personal Website: http://www.faheemjackson.squarespace.com
Instagram Me: @theefaheemjackson; @faheemjacksonphotography
Twitter Me: @2320howe