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CHA-CHING: WHAT’S MORE IMPORTANT IN A CAREER MONEY OR HAPPINESS

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“Full wallet or full heart.”

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All of us hope to have a fun and interesting job that we can go to everyday that will make us a lot of money. But is money alone the thing that keeps us coming to work everyday? What about the fulfillment you receive form walking into the building. Does that not mean anything? And that’s when you have to ask yourself the question of what is more important money or happiness? And yes, making money will afford you to do the things that you wanted to do for so long. So yes, there is this link between money and happiness. Yet, they can be separate as well.

internalized importance

You make over six figures a year, you shop, you go on vacations, and dine at fine restaurants. But there is still something missing about your job and that is the fact that you don’t like what you do. And for so many people, they ask how is this possible. They can’t understand why someone with so much money each year can’t like what they do. But it happens because either the job has ran its course, things become too redundant, or you don’t like the people you work with. So now you have this internal pain. But for a lot of people, they work jobs that they didn’t plan of working in life.

dough is important

Money isn’t everything, but it’s everything. And you don’t realize how important it is until you’re struggling to make ends meet. You learn really fast how much it matters when you don’t have it. It’s fine and all to have dreams and goals, but you have to be practical about your life. You don’t like your job and seek happiness, fine. But be able to sustain your current life or be prepared to downsize. And that is tough once you’ve grown accustomed to your life you have built. You might be an executive, but always had a passion for painting. A life as an artist might bring in average American income while that executive life could bring in deeper six figure money. So it’s fine to have what you love, but be prepared to make some serious financial adjustments.

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SORROW: WHY DO WE HAVE HURT AND PAIN AS HUMANS

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“It’s there since birth, but why?”

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Humans are endowed since birth with a lot of emotions. Emotions that I can’t explain as to why we have them, but we do. And sorrow is one of those emotions that we have as people. Why were we given an emotion such as sorrow? How does this aid us in our existence on this planet. Because everything we are born with in our lives serve as some type of purpose for our survival in the beginning of time. So in having the emotion to feel sorrow, pain, hurt, and dejection; where did it come from in the beginning?

early on

As humans evolved into the beings that we are today, there are things that have aided in our further existence. As I said before in other post, there are families that will never be known because for whatever reason they fell off. Whether it was not having offspring, or taking part in some activity that ended their lives. But emotions gave us the ability to feel compassion, and animal, bigfoot, evolutionmainly for one another. Even though there was tribal fighting because as man ventured out we would eventually find our way back to other early humans. That’s when hostility arose, but once hostility died down some more, man would procreate even with those seen as different. Civilizations stronger arose, and the reason for further compassion became paramount.

maintaining sorrow

As time progress, we not only continue to have sorrows, but we have also used sorrow to take on other meanings. Sorrow also can mean happy just as much as it means to be hurt. We show sorrow when our kid takes their first steps, graduate from college, and get married. We have found ways to channel our hurt into happiness so that tears that form in the eyes come out of fulfillment. And we are becoming more of a global community with each passing year. Who knows, man might eventually become a one nation species. Not in 10 years or even 100 years, but who knows in 1,000 years.

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INNER PEACE: HOW TO CENTER YOURSELF

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“Being one with self.”

ONENESS

We have all seen people meditate, and yet I for one can say that it doesn’t do anything for me. But for the people who do it, they feel a sense of comfort that they have never felt before in their lives. As for me, I feel a sense of calm walking around the city and listening to music among the traffic. It sounds odd considering that I live in New York City to find a calm in the high traffic. But it does, it truly does feel calming to listen to soft rock, R&B, and or something closely related to walking the street. There is almost this montage feel I get in the moment.

WHAT CAN IT DO FOR YOU

Being able to center yourself is a very inspiring and motivating technique. You lose all the feel for whatever issue you might be dealing with in the moment. No matter what problem you might be dealing with, the calm in centering self is a crucial element to happiness. I feel sorry for those who are unable to stop and be in a moment with self without any distractions. For so many that can’t focus, their minds are moving at a hundred miles per hour and does not seem to want to slow down. So consider yourself blessed when you are able to find your calm.

FOR THOSE WHO CAN’T FOCUS

Now, as for those that can’t focus, hope is not lost. Find something that you love to do and incorporate that into your daily life. Meaning, if you find calm in a book and take public transportation to work, read on the bus. If that is the only time you might have, as simple as it might sound, could be the difference maker in happiness for that day on the job. You might like to day dream; well come up with scenarios of adventure on your way to or from your day job. Get lost inside of yourself in your own world, and you’ll surprise yourself how easy it is to be centered eventually.

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MENTAL TRANSFER: CAN YOU LEND ENERGY TO OTHERS UNKNOWINGLY

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“The gift that keeps giving.”

WHAT IS MENTAL ENERGY?

The mental energy that we possess is the ability to regulate our blood pressure and the increase performance of a specific task at hand. That means, if I am working on something that I find pleasure in performing and the task at hand creates a sense of pleasure, I will release good mental energy. That energy will inevitably contribute to happiness, motivation, focus, and the willpower to keep fighting in life. And it is this energy that can be released to other people around you. Well, how does that take place?

THERMAL DYNAMICS

The mathematician, astronomer, theologian and physicist Sir Isaac Newton theorized that energy is neither lost nor destroyed, just transferred from one party to the next. This means you can transfer your negative or positive energy on to other people. Meaning, you ever get into an argument and after the person who started the argument is feeling good, you’re drained? That is because the energy of the negative person is transferred to the other party. That would mean the same goes for good mental energy. You have someone come across you with good mental energy and they can shift your emotion. Whatever you may be going through, they have made your day better.

EFFECTS OF THE RECEIVER

If you are the person receiving the energy from someone else, it can in return move your life into another direction. And what’s interesting is that energy does not necessarily have to be close connect. Author of the famous novel, “A Return to Love,” Marianne Williamson has a well known quote which speaks to energy in her Deepest Fears passage of the book. She speaks about, “Once you let your own light shine, you will unconsciously give others permission to do the same.” “For when you are liberated from your own fears, your presence automatically liberates others.” That simply means, once people feel your energy and see your move to greatness, it allows them to be free to pursue their dreams because they feel so connected to you.

KEEPING THAT GOOD FEELING

One of the hardest jobs is maintaining that good feeling. It’s easy for someone to infiltrate your mind and turn a seemingly good mental energy into bad mental energy. That’s why it’s good to surround yourself with good people. Because anything or anyone you put into your immediate circle that brings more bad than good, it will rub off on to you. That also goes for the music you listen to, programming you watch, and the publications you read.

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GIVING THANKS: WHAT ARE YOU THANKFUL FOR

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“The reasons we keep giving.“

Two days ago was the Thanksgiving holiday. So many people have their interpretation for what this holiday means to them. And for me, Thanksgiving was always a holiday that was celebrated with family. But from me to you, I would like to ask of you, “What does Thanksgiving mean to you?” Do you think of Thanksgiving as just a holiday or does it mean something more? Better yet, what in your life do you have to be thankful for; whether past, present, or future? And putting thanks in that context is important because you not have anything in your past you are thankful for, but your present is different. Something might be in your past that presents itself in an unflattering, uncomfortable, or terrified embodiment. So you want it pushed to the back of your mind as much as possible.

Now, as for me, I am thankful that I have the ability to live in a society where I can pursue my career endeavors. So many people never pursued or never realized what they’re good at, so they miss their mark. And missing their mark makes them feel regret, so they aren’t thankful. And that lack of thanks almost makes them resentful toward those who are thankful. You might be happy and in a good place, but coming in contact with these ungrateful people may actually effect your mood. So if you are thankful, try your best to remove yourself from thankless people. Because you never want that rubbing off on you, especially if you’re in a good mental space.

Other reasons we have to be thankful is associated with our health and well-being. We live in a country which has become so health conscious over the recent years due to knowing more about health risk. But with that comes the price of keeping that going. And the cost to keep a healthy lifestyle can be very expensive, especially if the family is poor with children, or even some middle class families. So if you’ve carved out a living for yourself to be able to consistently tend to your health, that is something to be thankful for because a lot of people do not have that luxury.

Because in the end, it’s giving the thanks as to why we wake up in the morning. If you have nothing to be thankful for, then what is your purpose for living. We live in a country where so ma y people get down on themselves because they have so little. So when you do have something to call your own, it’s worth the thanks.

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TEARFUL MOMENTS: EVER FIND YOURELF CRYING OUT OF NOWHERE

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“The hurt and the pain, yet where is it coming from.”

Do you have mood swings that cause you to cry at times out of nowhere? You’ll be performing some task, or even casually walking up the street. I had one of those moments today while at work. And to keep people from asking what’s wrong, I turned my back to them. But now that my shift is over at work, I had forgetton about the instance until now. So what was it that made me go through this moment of emotional low? Is there some sort of imbalance in life? Or, is it a sign of something deeper? It can be uncomfortable to tear up out of nowhere. Because when someone asks what’s wrong, you can only say nothing. Making up a lie will only mean creating a new lie at every pass. So you have to ignore people until you get over this emotional low.

What’s even creepier at times is that you conjure up an image at times that never took place. And then you might cry just thinking about what if it were true. For example, you play out a scenario of yourself getting sick and breaking the news to your family. Then you cry just thinking about all the people that would get hurt by your sickness. What’s creepy is that you’re not sick. You just made it all up in your head for the sake of feeling hurt about something. Sounds like some sort of mentally ill sickness. And you would be right, but this is uncomfortable for so many to talk about because there is a psychological aspect to it. No one wants to think of themselves as crazy, but what could it be? Why would anyone want to cry for the sake of crying even when life is going well? I have a few suggestions as to why.

One of the reasons we lean on emotion is because we may lack emotions at times. This forcing yourself to be emotional even at irrational times makes us feel alive. I know I am not someone who shows a lot of emotion. So I’ll think of a strong memory, and from that comes tears. But it does not always have to be about feeling hurt. Some times you might find yourself crying about something good that is or going to happen. You get this weird euphoric feeling and then comes the tears. I have also had this before in my life as well. And all these different emotions like I said prior have some type of psychological implication connected to them.

In the end, emotions are real and they are what make us feel alive. No matter if the emotion is brought on by hurt or pain; or if you get the feeling to rejoice. And rejoice is interesting considering we always associate crying with feeling sad. But don’t be alarmed regarding your mental stability. Involuntary crying is more natural then you think.

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LIVING UP TO EXPECTATIONS: SHOULD I LISTEN TO OTHERS OR FOLLOW THE BEAT OF MY OWN DRUM

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“Stuck between what they think and how I think.”

Trying to please other people or live by how they view you is a struggle that most of us deal with on a daily basis. But if you’re one of the the few that are not as caught up in how others perceive you, you might have a happier life than most. And that happiness could be the main factor in your success in life. But what is it that makes people so stuck on what others think of them? Why do they need so many people’s approval before they start anything in life? It’s this need to fit into a world that might not even be doing you a favor. Yet you want so desperately to fit into this space.

One of the reasons people work to fit into this space is because as a species, we yearn for acceptance. But most of all, we want some form of companionship. It does not necessarily have to be some intimate relationship. But just enough so you don’t feel alone in the world. That lonesome feeling is why you need that other person or people’s input. Going through this world alone is one of the toughest aspects of facing life. You don’t even have to be dealing with a serious financial or health issue. We as humans are just built to want someone close to us. Someone who will talk to us when there is something bothering us. And who+ are you to communicate with when you’re alone?

Another reason we seek to gain the acceptance of other people is to not be looked at as an outsider. This is an action in our lives that adolescence deal with for the most part. But it doesn’t stop there; it goes into adulthood. You actually don’t start not caring how people feel until you’re almost done with life. But why not when you’re young? Why not have it built into your mind that this is who I am, and that’s that? Well, it has a lot to do with self-awareness. We are quite unaware of ourselves and lack a real defense mechanism. So we are not able to fend off the people who might look at us a certain way. Instead of making people accept you for you, and if they don’t get rid of them, we please them. Then again, the feat of listening to yourself and not others becomes real tough when it’s coming from family.

Here is the hardest part, going against your parent’s wishes. You have been taught since you were a child that going against what your parents want you do is being disobedient. But like I said in prior posts, parents know what’s good for in childhood, not as an adult. Yet when you become an adult it’s normal for them to want to steer you in a certain direction. But what if you found what you love elsewhere? Now you’re in this weird position on who to follow. You’re stuck on following your inner self or your parents. But ultimately, the choice will be up to you. See, in the end, we want to please too many people. Yet, how many people are trying to bend over backward to please you? You have to do what’s best for you, and you only. Because you’re the only one responsible for your success and happiness.

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