GIVING UP IS NOT A SOLUTION

Woman Sitting on Chair While Leaning on Laptop

“Keeping trekking along.”


WHEN IT HURTS MOST

Wanting to give up is something so many people pursuing their career feel like doing. But for some reason there is something that is holding you from doing this, and that is your drive. And it’s a good thing because quitting should be the absolute last resort. It should be the thing last on your list once you have tried everything and finally you have to give up. Especially if this is something you are good at and getting better. But the reality is most people do give in to the climb because it is so difficult.  It’s like the quote by Thomas Edison that, “many of life’s failures don’t realize how close they were to success when they finally gave up.” Such a strong and powerful quote that I live by in life.

WHERE DOES IT COME FROM

Somewhere in your head is this feeling of dejection. We don’t know where it comes from, but it is always there lingering. And the reason we have this in our heads is to give us the ability to back away from danger. It has helped keep us alive on this planet for so long. But the reality behind succeeding in society is you have to take risk and be fearless. Even if you fear which most people do, you have to trick yourself into getting out of that mind-frame. We all have it, even the most motivating people have fears. They just do a good job at shifting their attention on to keep pushing. Now, that thing that has kept us alive, there are always the ones that are fearless that have pushed the world forward.

STRAP IN FOR THE LONG HAUL

Success in life is a long long road to where it is you want to truly be. You have to be patient and know that it will take a very long time. And when I say long time, we are talking 10 years, 15 years, even 20 years more most. So if you are only a few years in and feel like falling off, then you are in trouble because everything will be painful and take a long time.


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NO PAY, LOW PAY

Coins Inside Jar

“Experience first, money second.”


THE EARLY DAYS

When you first start out in your career, you are going to have to realize the pay is low. And some work you might get is going to be for no pay. This is where so many young people give up and quit. I mean think about it, who want to get up each and everyday to go to a job that pays no money. But the reality is that you need the experience early in your 20’s in order to move forward. For example I worked for a retail and the start out managers earn a small income, but the volume of running the store was a major task. So the pay was low, but the ability to manage a large team helps push you over the top.

BE HUMBLE

So many young people have this in mind thing about them. I deserve more but I don’t know much. Well guess what, you have to pay your dues. You have to get in and gain experience in order to keep moving along. But most have a hard time moving forward because they have this mind-frame early on. I have worked for internships that didn’t pay, and others where pay was so low, it should have been for free. But what you have to be is grateful for the opportunity and learn as much as you can. These are not the years to make the most money. The time will come if you set yourself up for the challenge.

MIND FIELD

As you navigate your early career life, you will have these feelings of doubt and hurt. You want to have and do what everyone else is doing. Their life sometimes look greater than it is, and you start to feel depressed. And this is the mind game that you start to play with yourself as you grow your career. And a lot of times you don’t see things moving in the paradigm of building. It does not formulate until the work has been done. But when you reach the level you want, more work goes into it to hold on to it.


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THEIR FEAR INSIDE OF YOU: HOW PARENTS PROJECT ONTO THEIR KIDS

Woman With Brown Baby Carrier And Little Kid In White Jacket

“I know what’s best for you.”


PLAY IT SAFE

Your parents love, and they want to protect you. But sometimes they overprotect you. They tend to look at your life and see something in it for them. They have built and put so much into you, they really want to know that the investment is worth it. But part of the problem is that you have to deal with them saying that you should play it safe. When it comes to pursuing a career, you are supposed to choose a job that is a little more of a guarantee. And this is something that will make your parents happy about the life you have chosen. But what happens once the kid decides to make a career decision that does not align with the parents decision?

NO  REAL OUTCOME

When you choose a career that is not a little more guaranteed like a doctor or lawyer, then your parents will be more appreciative of you. But then there are the jobs that we choose that are a lot more unguaranteed. Your kid wants to be an actor or musician. And here is where most parents will stand in the face of their child and push them in another direction. This is because we want them to be safe and other times parents project on to their children their own fears and insecurities. So, generally, the kid accepts the parent’s request and live their lives how they’re expected to live.

DREAM KILLERS

Parents build dreams, but also, parents kill the dreams of their children as well. And I am not only talking about kids being actors. What if your child want to be an archaeologist? A lot of parents would not support that because this is a profession that does not make much money. They are not concerned about what you love they are concerned about security. Supporting yourself is more important to them than your passion. So a lot of times you have to pursue yourself.


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SOCIALLY INCLINED WITH FEAR

Person Sitting on Couch

“I wish I could just do it.”


GOT IT BUT DON’T GOT IT

In my life as an adult I have always been known as the person who really didn’t have much to say. But I have always been full of ideas that I have been able to put into play. And what’s crazy is that the same energy that one needs for the success in life is the energy they get from the social part of life. Yet there is something about the execution that makes people freeze. And that has always been something that has me stuck. I can put things into play, but the social part of me is what gets stuck. Only the social part of me in order to build relationships that are intimate. When I want something bad enough I am able to get out of my way socially.

THE MIND IS WEIRD

It’s odd how the brain will make itself do one thing but is afraid to do something else. I look at life and think to myself how hard it is to make friends or date. Then I look at myself building a photography portfolio, writing screenplays, and writing my books. Then think it is actually harder to do that stuff. But in my mind the work is far easier than being social. I don’t know, it’s something about social that makes life harder. It can’t be rejection because career is more difficult. The only thing I can think of is the idea that I have been working since childhood. So it is not something I think about. You just have to approach the opposite of what you want the same as your social, or social like success.

WHICH IS WORSE

In your mind you try to think about what would be worse. Trying to make a success of yourself and be social, or someone not too social who is success. And there are people who fall under both equations. And those people are very lucky to be who they are because a lot of people wish they had both.


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FOMO WHILE IN PURSUIT

Group of People Partying

“Worry about self.”


FULL TIME YOUNG ADULT

When you are trying to pursue your career goals, there is something you must keep in mind. One, you will be building for a very long time. And the other is that you will miss out on a lot when you trying to build your life. So you will have to sit back and watch your peers live in their 20’s while you are out in the world building. Keeping up may make you feel like you are missing all the fun. But you are not really missing anything at times. In reality, some of them wish they had something to buckle them down and work toward. And how is this so, how can we assume they wish they had something?

TALENTS TAKES UP TIME 

In the pursuit to anything in life you must be willing to be uncomfortable. It means stepping outside the comfort zone and leaving other things behind. But it also means that you have to be willing to give up a lot of time spent going out and hanging. And how wants to miss out on all the action. But when you are young, especially 20’s you don’t know what you want to do. So you do tend to hang a lot more than most people. But when you find that thing, it does tend to become a distraction from social life. So what you don’t know is that sometimes you peers wish they had something more than what they were doing. But even with this said, it is not always the case.

EARLY GLOBETROTTERS

There are people in your same age group who have taken off at a very young age. These are people like professional athletes or entertainers who are living it up in their 20’s. So if you look at them you are going to be very miserable. Because they are living and making a good living. But what we don’t know is how long they were working prior to that point. There are actors who played small roles as 10 year old kids, but broke out at age 24 years old. That is young to break out, but you actually have 14 years in the game. So you are actually a veteran in reality. So everyone who is partying is not wasting time.


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WALKING THE ROAD ALONE

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“It’s all about the journey.”


THE COME UP

When pursuing anything in life, one must be ready to take that long road to success. And when I say the long road I mean be set in and ready for the long haul. You have to really be willing to spend years and years building your life. Otherwise you won’t make it through to the other side. And here is where most people fall apart. Because they are not willing to walk through fire to get to where they have to go. They want and can almost feel it, but then when the hard times really set in they fold and run. But this is part of the fight, you have to be willing to struggle and at times struggle hard.

YOUR TIME IS NOT EVERYONE ELSE’S

Building will not only be hard because you have to deal with the hardships of failure, but also the people you might lose. And those people will come form the unlikeliest of places. A lot of them will be friends and family. The people closest to you will discourage you from continuing to fight. They feel you should run as fast as possible and don’t look back. And they’ll say it’s to help you, but the people who succeed are the last ones standing. Many don’t understand the logic behind fighting to the last one standing. It just doesn’t resonate in the mind. Because to them play life safe and have a safety net to fall back on.

KEEP FORGING AHEAD

You will want to give up and quite, but you can’t allow the downside to keep you from growing. And you’ll even think to yourself why in the world did I decide to take on this career endeavor. If you have not asked yourself this question then you are not someone who is sane. But ion the end, the one standing will be able to tell of their journey and how they made it.


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MAKING IT IN LIFE

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“What’s it all mean?


I’VE ARRIVED

People can’t wait until they get to a certain point in life then they look and say I have made it or arrived. But then you have to ask yourself, what does it mean by making it life? Because we automatically look at someone who makes money  as a symbol of where we want to be and how big we aspire to be. But looking at someone else’s life can be disatrous because we don’t know how they became so successful. We can look at their blueprint, but you should be weary of following another person’s actions move for move. It worked for them, not quite for you.

MEANINGS BEHIND INTENT

What is the real meaning behind the words. Because that is way more important than anything. In America, we always put the meaning for making it in the country as someone who has a certain level of income. But a school teacher might be a person living their dream and they are far from people making a lot of money. But in the same breathe you have celebrities taking their own lives even with so much money. So understand why you’re building and what it means to you.

COMPARED TO THOSE AROUND YOU

When you look at the peers of people around you, you have a tendency to stack yourself against others. And how could you not because who you associate yourself with says a lot about yourself. So you can’t be around winners and not be a winner yourself. It will either rub off on you or you will fall out the group. But you should never see yourself as not successful if you are doing something in life that is not as lucrative, as long as it has meaning behind it.


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