COMPETITIVE CAREER FRIENDSHIPS

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“Let’s be friends later.”


COMPADRE COMPETITION

Having friends in similar careers or different careers, but similar career drive, will create a pretty good competition. And to be perfectly honest, i think that it’s a good thing that you and your friends have this type of comradery. It will push you guys forward toward where you both need to be in life. And without that, or close circle of friends you tend to lose something that you’re fighting for. You compete against life, but you don’t have these people close by to chase to your dreams. Making this a life experience can be healthy, just as long as you have friends that all share that similar thought process. It can be hard to stomach when there are negative mind-frames in the mix.

YOU LAUNCH AND THEY DON’T

What happens when you start to take off and your friends do not? This can start to be a burden when you build more and more. They may turn their attention to you because they are not going in the direction where they see themselves in a place of success. You would think that your success would make them want to fight harder. And initially they do, but eventually they turn on you. So you have to pick your friends wisely because these are the people that will either make you better or bring you down.

THAT INNER FIGHT

Where does the fight come from when you have that competition? I don’t know, maybe nature gives us this type of comradery is what we need as a species. And even when you don’t have friends, watching people pushes you as well.


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CROSS COUNTRY CAREER: WHEN FAMILY IS NUMBER 2

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“Which comes first?”


BALANCING ACTS

When you are working toward your career and trying to make strides in building, you miss out on a lot. As a matter of fact, what happens when you are from an entirely different part of the country? Like myself, I am from the Midwest, so I miss on quite a bit. But it is what it is, you’re working your regular day job. You can’t just say, “Hey, I’ll hop a flight back home and come back tomorrow.” It’s just not realistic to think you can live like this. You just have to come back when you come back. And your family has to realize that you are not close and have to see them later. But then again, you’re not the only person who probably lives far away.

THE NEW NORMAL

More and more young people are moving away from home. It’s because to find work, some people have to move away since work may be hard to come by in some places. Families are also becoming a lot more fragmented because of the shift. Yet, it is considered normal and most families are fine with it. I myself often think about the family far away, but they even understand. Considering the place where I come from is so poor. The work is rare, so you have to make moves in your life.

GOTTA DO WHAT YOU GOTTA DO

I know it hurts, but you have to make those moves to build your life. You can’t be afraid to have a career because you’re worried about leaving family. If you live in a city where you don’t have to move fine, but sometimes you have to go. Realize there is nothing where you are, and make adjustments to leaving. So, be well, and good luck on your journey.


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PUSHED TO SUCCESS: MARRYING SOMEONE WHO IS SUCCESSFUL

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“Pushing to to be greater.”


WHO IS BY YOUR SIDE

Most people who become successful in life do so when they have someone they are in a relationship with by their side. That other person forces you to be greater especially if they are doing well themselves. And that is the push that most people need to get themselves to the next level in life. Now, as for myself, I am building alone. And the downfalls is that I am taking on the full load alone. That can be troublesome sometimes when you need to truly grow, but need the assistance. We all like the think that the independent person is so great, but it can be a drag when trying to build and you have to do things alone. You would be surprised how helpful those other dollars can be when you are trying to make the world work for you.

BE PREPARED FOR HOUSEHOLD HATERS

Your success can be another person’s resentment. And that is someting you could come in contact with when dating or even married. One person is not making as much progress as the other then that person at the lower level resents the other. And it’s easier to resent them than someone in society because you are with them. But the problem is you start to bring that person down, so now you have two unsuccessful people. So you either leave the situation or watch yourself be brought down to the other person’s level. And most people end up leaving especially if they are in a good space.

LAWS OF ATTRACTION

Most people who are with someone, tend to get inspired by the other person. If the person does not inspire you to do better, then maybe they are not the person for you. Because if they are part of your overall success, then they are cntributing to your failure or lack there of success.


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HAVING A JOB CAN SUCK

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“This stinks.”


9 – 5 BORDEM

Are you working a job that you hate going to everyday? It just becomes this mundane thing that you hate showing up to five days a week. And today, it’s not just one because so many people have to work multiple jobs. So it is not a 9 – 5 anymore. It is now a Monday thru Sunday job workweek. You sometimes forget about the days because you’re working everyday. And this is the point where you realize that your life needs some type of change. You look around and have this thought of dejection from walking into your house everyday. Or better yet, if you are dreading Monday and looking forward to Friday, you are not living. Well, how can you have a job that doesn’t suck?

FINDING SOMETHING THAT DOESN’T SUCK

It’s easy to say to someone to just find a new job. Especially if that person or those people have a career that they love. But you have to make some type of adjustment because living like this will send you into  a life of depression. So the best thing you can do is reach out to people and ask for references on jobs. Or you can just try reaching out via internet portals. Now those jobs are harder to attain, but it doesn’t hurt to try it out. But keep in mind, this process could be worst than staying your current position.

LEARN TO EXIST AND MOVE ON

Have you ever tried to find aspects of your job to care about to make the time go by? You may have to do this until you find a way to get out of your daily grind. Because if you wake up everyday with the mind frame here we go again you start to resent your life. And you will sink deeper into a life of nothing. So figure out something you like, if not something someone, then you can exist until you find something else you like that you are good at. Then it’s easier to find a better job.


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THE LAND OF LOST: WHEN YOU ARE STUCK IN THE PARADIGM OF BUILDING

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“Moving on from here.”


CROSS ROADS

Have you ever found yourself in a place where you are trying to build your career, but you have hit a wall? You are at this point where you find yourself stuck in thought. You find yourself not being able to move past your current point. This makes you start to rethink why you have chosen this path in the first place. And here is where some people decide to push through the pain and others decide to give up and move on. Most people in this space just continue to wake up everyday and exist in their space of existence. They don’t fail or succeed, they just stay right in their position. And why is this place so bad? Well, as long as you’re happy it shouldn’t matter. That is unless your current position is rendered obsolete. Then you are faced with a difficult reality.

THE MINDFRAME

When the mind is running all over the place at a hundred miles per hour, then you will find it hard to figure out where to go to next. You will be in a mental place where even if you try to force yourself to be someplace else, it will keep you from progressing forward. Trust me, I have been there before. I remember I was stuck writing my short stories and had writers block. What I did was write about writers block which fixed my writers block. So you have to do these types of techniques to trick yourself into moving forward. Because when I wrote I fixed the problem in the paradigm of the problem. So when you are pursuing a career in let’s as a Chef, and you want  to create new menu dishes. You should go home and put together food dishes out of scratch. And you’ll come up with an item from something.

SURPRISE YOURSELF

Well listen to this, most people in the paradigm of doing anything do not see the results. We all have no clue what to expect whenever we are doing something and trying to push forward. So we question why are we doing this career. We often think to ourselves what could I really be doing if not doing this thing I am in now. And all it is, is the fear. And not the fear of failing but the fear of success. Because we all fail, but the fear of success is people demanding more and more the higher you go.


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OVERQUALIFIED: WHAT DOES IT REALLY MEAN?

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“You have too much going on.”


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Ever take a long look at your resume and thought to yourself, “I might be overqualified for the job I am seeking to attain. Some people don’t have a job at all, but are seeking employment. They are individuals that are willing to take the gig to hold them over until they find something else. Only problem with that is the employer is looking for someone with entry skills. I used to always think it was for reasons like the organization does not want to pay you what you are worth. And to a degree, there is reality there. But if you are applying for a job that you need and not really one that benefits your qualifications, then it could prove to hurt you once you do get that job that matches your qualifications.

don’t include everything

Whenever you decide to put together a resume, you need to understand something. You should not include everything you do. Because people may look at it, and think twice. You need a job, then you should put what is needed, but then you should also keep in mind that if there is too much it could hurt you. So just keep it in mind when you are compiling information.

throwing your hands up

When you are working a job where you are overqualified, then what you’re dealing with is dissatisfaction. Because the job will not only be a lack of a challenge, you’re also going to have no real ability to climb. Jobs where you can not really climb, you will start to resent it. Then you will throw your hands up and not have much motivation to do much of anything. So sometimes in need of a job, you will have to pass to keep from hating your job later. You will have a check, but resent the move.


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BOTTOMELESS PIT: NOT KNOWING WHAT YOU WANT TO DO

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“What should I be doing?”


i have no clue

We all know the person in college who change their major three or four times. They keep at it in school because they have no clue what they want out of life. Then they do get out of school and still go from job to job not really knowing what they want. Just like changing their major they change careers. First they want to design clothes, then open up a restaurant, next thing you know they are working on being a nightclub promoter. Their lives are not really headed in any really direction. Just falling in this pit with not bottom. So what do you do if you are one of these types of people?

figure out early

I spent so much of my time trying to figure our in my 20’s what I was good at in life. Then I stumbled upon writing, filmmaking, and photography. This is when I realized what I truly wanted to do with my life. After that it became the work to be good at what I am doing. But the problem with so many people is that they are so focused on their fun and personal lives, they neglect their career goals. Then they start to say things like, “I think I might want to be this or that.” That’s fine when you’re 18 years old, but you start to move through your 20’s and entering 30’s, you feel more helpless and less accomplished. So you have to resist the want to go out and have fun to focus on your path in life.

never getting there in life

The hardest part of life is realizing you may never find your passion. You will live on this Earth and not quite measure up. And who want s to really do that in life. You live for the next 50 years and then realize it was all for nothing. That is why people hold on to religion so much. To know this is it can be very scary.


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