“Structure is good, but too much can be problematic.”
Structure, discipline, and respect; just a few demands that strict parents enforce on their children. You are given a strict time that you are supposed to be home. And if you break that time, you’re not going out anytime soon or ever again for that matter. But my question would be, is there ever a such thing as too strict? Because I witnessed so many of the out-of-control kids coming from the strict homes. And usually they turned-up once they go to college. They lived under the roof of such a strict household, they have a taste of freedom and are now running wild. And what do I mean by turn-up.
When I say turn-up, I mean the type of kids that are sprawled across the campus drunk. The ones who are hooking up with every person in sight. The students that skip classes and if they are present, they’re far from sober. You would think these are the kids who come from homes where there was no structure. But it’s actually the kids who have the structure in the homes. Because there is a difference from having a house of respect and common courtesy, and being a drill instructor. Trying to run your house like a military base can backfire. You might wind-up creating an even bigger bind between you and your child. And here is the problem with the bind.
For example, if you have a daughter, and all you do is tell her who she can’t date, then that’s who might show up at your door steps. It will turn into an action of defiance just to spit you. Now, you may not allow the person at your home, but nonetheless, they’re with your child. So there is apart of you that is with someone you may not approve of. And people in society will be able to see and judge your situation. Which is something that tough parents hate the most. They hate to have people in society being able to say that you were wrong. And that the way you raised your child didn’t work out. But are there other implications behind being too tough? And the answer is yes, there are.
When you and your kid have this relationship that you might see as respect, but is fear in their eyes, they seek approval elsewhere. And no one cares about your child more than you. But once they start going outside of you to other people, they start to receive the wrong information. They aren’t being told what they should hear, but what they want to hear. And then they begin to make vital mistakes in their lives. When in reality, they should be able to come and talk to you. You are the one that gave them life. Yet, their fear of you keeps them at bay. And in the end, that’s what you don’t want. You don’t want fear in children. Because once they fear you, they seek validation outside the household. And that’s when they get into trouble.
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2 thoughts on “PARENTAL TOUGHNESS: CAN BEING TOO STRICT HURT YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR KID”
I do accept as true with all of the ideas you’ve offered for your post. They are very convincing and will certainly work. Nonetheless, the posts are very short for newbies. May you please prolong them a bit from subsequent time? Thank you for the post.
I started making them a little shorter because in the beginning of August 2015, I felt they were too long. They were as long as over 1000 words for some. And I felt as time went on I could get my point across without it being so long.