WORKPLACE MANNERS: HOW TO BEHAVE IN WORK WITH EMPLOYEES

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“Know your surroundings.”


the workplace

The workplace has been for the longest an environment where you could grow to have a relationship with the people you work along side. But as time progressed, we had to create more and more of an environment where people felt safe. And that means that certain workplace etiquette was enforced so that people wouldn’t feel threatened. Not only were there rules implemented for the workplace for how you should behave, but also laws were enacted that gave people rights that otherwise wouldn’t be allotted to them by the organizations or institutions that employed them. And just to name a few, I have rules below that were put in place to make us as workers feel safe.

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There were policies that were put into place to make the worker feel good about coming to work each day.

SEXUAL HARASSMENT

The EEOC (Equal Employment Opportunity Commission) has a strict guideline for the protocol that must be taken when in the workplace. And this is a form of discrimination that stems from Image result for EEOCthe Civil Rights Act of 1964. Harassment does not have to be of the opposite sex, nor does the person accusing have to be the one harassed. And that can be an interesting circumstance especially if the person and the other being spoken to have a mutual relationship. That means someone just in the vicinity can be uncomfortable just by your comments that have nothing to do with them. So you have to be careful now in that regard.

POLITICS

On jobs, especially right now in this divisive country, we are a lot of times strictly prohibited from having political discussion in the workplace. With the right and left battling it out to see whose Image result for MAGAside is better, you can really have a breakdown in the workplace with all this political talk. And not just talk about the presidents, it has crept into our sports and entertainment as well. So to keep things very simple, some workplaces don’t even allow people to talk about the fact that they are going to vote period. Because that in itself has caused problems just the idea of your vote
counting. So no discussions about politics, only work.

INCOME

A rule that has stood for so long, even longer than the previous two, and that is we don’t talk about money in the workplace. We don’t discuss who makes what and how they got the money they have on the job. That only creates even more problems when that takes place. Because now you have people who feel this person does not deserve to make as much as this person over here. And now, the workplace breakdown causes a lack of productivity. Since this person makes this much, they should be doing this or that. So we leave income to the person who makes the income.

RELIGION

Please, please, please keep your religious beliefs to yourself in the workplace. Yes America is a place to practice what you believe. But knowing that this is a diverse country where even in Christianity, we practice so many different sects, there are even more issues through other beliefs. So IO don’t even want to spend much time on this one. You will save yourself a lot of paperwork and lawsuits.

efficiency 

The overall goal of any workplace is to maintain the productive nature of the job. We want everything to be effective, efficient, and productive. Once that leaves we are all in jeopardy of losing out.


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PARENTAL TOUGHNESS: CAN BEING TOO STRICT HURT YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR KID

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“Structure is good, but too much can be problematic.”


Structure, discipline, and respect; just a few demands that strict parents enforce on their children. You are given a strict time that you are supposed to be home. And if you break that time, you’re not going out anytime soon or ever again for that matter. But my question would be, is there ever a such thing as too strict? Because I witnessed so many of the out-of-control kids coming from the strict homes. And usually they turned-up once they go to college. They lived under the roof of such a strict household, they have a taste of freedom and are now running wild. And what do I mean by turn-up.

When I say turn-up, I mean the type of kids that are sprawled across the campus drunk. The ones who are hooking up with every person in sight. The students that skip classes and if they are present, they’re far from sober. You would think these are the kids who come from homes where there was no structure. But it’s actually the kids who have the structure in the homes. Because there is a difference from having a house of respect and common courtesy, and being a drill instructor. Trying to run your house like a military base can backfire. You might wind-up creating an even bigger bind between you and your child. And here is the problem with the bind.

For example, if you have a daughter, and all you do is tell her who she can’t date, then that’s who might show up at your door steps. It will turn into an action of defiance just to spit you. Now, you may not allow the person at your home, but nonetheless, they’re with your child. So there is apart of you that is with someone you may not approve of. And people in society will be able to see and judge your situation. Which is something that tough parents hate the most. They hate to have people in society being able to say that you were wrong. And that the way you raised your child didn’t work out. But are there other implications behind being too tough? And the answer is yes, there are.

When you and your kid have this relationship that you might see as respect, but is fear in their eyes, they seek approval elsewhere. And no one cares about your child more than you. But once they start going outside of you to other people, they start to receive the wrong information. They aren’t being told what they should hear, but what they want to hear. And then they begin to make vital mistakes in their lives. When in reality, they should be able to come and talk to you. You are the one that gave them life. Yet, their fear of you keeps them at bay. And in the end, that’s what you don’t want. You don’t want fear in children. Because once they fear you, they seek validation outside the household. And that’s when they get into trouble.


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KID GAMES: DON’T LET ‘EM DIVIDE YOU

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“Are you more strategic than your offspring?”

“Mommy, can I have some ice cream?” “No sweetie, you have to wait until you eat dinner first.” “Daddy, can I have some ice cream?” “Sure son, go ahead, but don’t eat too much.” “We still have to eat dinner.” And just like that, a parent has made a vital mistake in raising their child. There must be one voice in the household when raising a child. If that kid knows that they can run to one parent and always get an ok over an objection, that smells problems for your relationship. This also means that knowing they can get away with some things around one parent and not the other. The structure need to be clear and spoken from one voice.

What I mean by one voice is that if your kid comes to you asking for something they must know that when you say yes or no it means that on both sides. If a kid know they can play both sides, that speaks to the lack of communication from the parents. We are currently seeing the divorce between Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie; where he seems to be more strict and she is more lax. This can be a recipe for disaster if both people are polar opposites. It’s fine to be a little bit different in the parenting styles, but too much difference results in long term problems; as seen with the Pitt-Jolie situation.

But since I am on the topic of divorce; what about communication here. It works so long as the parents are on the right page. But it’s hard to be on the right page with a child if parents are still bitter about their personal situation. Under these circumstances children really are in control. Because one parent might allow the kid to get away with more as a way to spite the other parent. For instance, daughter wants to have a boyfriend, but dad says no. Mom has sole custody, and is fine with daughter having a boyfriend. Daughter wants to date, so she is able to play her parents against each other because she knows they don’t get along.

This is an issue especially if the daughter finds herself in a serious situation and can’t find a way out. She will go to the parent that allowed her to break the rules to bail her out. Now mom has to bail her out because she went over dad’s head in the first place to prove a point. And if he finds out, it could make her look irresponsible. Or, on the other hand, mom might call dad and say guess what your daughter did, just to get a rise out of him. Daughter was using this divide in faction to her advantage. Now that she is in trouble, with the two of them bickering, she is unable to fix her situation. So the scheme that helped her is now backfiring.

In the end, children need to know they can’t play parents for fools. If they fell that one allows them to get away with more, they’ll run to that parent. Only problem is that when trouble arises, with both parents fighting the child suffers. So a child, even in the case of divorce, need to understand that both parents are on the same page. Even if both parents don’t get along, the child should not see that take place. Remember, you’re the adult; you’ve been on this planet longer than they have been. Don’t let them think they know life more than you. You should be the ultimate gamer.