“Why do people seek to destroy what they can’t do?”
I have always found it to be quite sad how people are so quick to shut down your ideas. Your visions, your dreams, your ambitions, and your goals. They seek to shoot you down because they have not managed to succeed in their visions themselves. Why is this? Why do people carry such disdain for those who have had the courage to step into the world in the face of failure? Then when you fail they love to look you in the eyes and say I told you so.
Let’s try to figure out how they have come to this mind frame themselves. We all start out in life with a vision of where we would love to be. It usually starts as a child where our imaginations runs wild. But somewhere along the way between childhood and adulthood we lose our imagination. Or maybe we don’t lose it, better yet, someone or something kills it along the way. Well, what is it that can kill our dreams.
For most people, it is those that are around them. It can be their family or their friends who kill that dream. That vision that you see, touch, taste, and smell, yet you never pursue. Well how come? Your family, mainly parents and siblings; and friends as well will tell you to go out and get a day job. Find something which will get you a check every two weeks and let that be it. Keep your head out the clouds. And then that moment you attempt and fail they can’t wait to say, see I told you.
They do this because they have had the same visions. They either didn’t achieve their dream or was too scared to step out into the world. And in some insulting way, they fill you shouldn’t be there because they failed or were too scared. The reason I say insulting is because it’s almost as if they think you are dumber than them, and no way could you out do them. But what is in the pleasure in waiting for you to fail. The pleasure comes from their lack of success in their goals.
If you succeed in what is it you are embarking on, then it makes them feel their existence is futile. You would not think that friends and family could view your life this way, but sometimes they do. Not everyone wants you to do well in life, and as bad as it may seem, it comes from the people close to you. My other reason such disdain from the ones closest to you is because they remember where you came from to where you are now. It really magnifies much of their own lives they wasted.
But why view life in that form? Why feel that your life is a waste because of someone else’s success. It’s not their success as much as it is they are the embodiment of time you spent not doing what you wanted to do. Meaning, you don’t want to pursue entrepreneurship because it could take 10 years of constant work on top of your day job. Then 10 years go by and you look back wondering why you wasted so much time being afraid. Then you see someone who did put in that 10 years and the taste of sour grapes fill your mouth.
On the other hand, your success and fearlessness will free up others to pursue their endeavors. You see, people in society don’t know you before you were you. When they hear your rise to success, their confidence in themselves increase. You will motivate people to pursue; even with failure lingering they’ll fight. The whole time they will think about your climb.
In the end, the cost of doing nothing may be higher than the cost of doing something. It’s the reason why I am pursuing my goals. My biggest fear is not failure, more so it’s getting to the end of life and reflecting. Reflecting on your life and realizing the whole time it meant nothing. That is the scariest thing about life for me. Rejection and failure is normal, but not trying should never feel normal. Because the way I see it, we work everyday doing so much we don’t like, why not try something new. Even if the success is minimal, it’s still more than you had prior to not trying at all.