MY SPECIAL THING: FOLLOWING YOUR PASSION IN LIFE

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“It factor.”


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You love to write, you love to sing, you love to paint, you love to take photos. Your gift, your passion is telling a story somehow to the masses that listen. Only problem is, your passion may not always be the right decision to make in life. Your passion may not pay the bills because then again we live in a capitalistic society. A society where things cost money and dough is important. So it’s fine and all to have all these dreams an aspirations of being this storyteller. But you have to survive as well. So what does that really mean?

work while you work

As you pursue your passion, make sure you have some sort of income that will enable you to continue to follow the dreams that you have in life. Meaning, I work multiple jobs, just so I can continue to focus on my passion which is writing (books), filmmaking, and photography. So with that said, you have to sometimes work jobs you don’t want to work. But guess what, it pays your way until you get to where you have to go. If you’re stuck in the now, you’ll never get to that point of prosperity. A point where you can look back and go,” I did it.” You took the demotion and now you’re happy and successful in doing what you have to do.

whose with you

Are you in a relationship, or are you single? Do you have parents and siblings sup[porting you or not? You may need some type of assistance which will serve as you support behind you mentally and financially. Now, a lot of people don’t have that because you may be pursuing something that they see as not a real career goal. So don’t be shocked if you have to go at it alone. Because then again, it’s your life, you do with it as you please. You want to sleep all day, fine, be able to pay your bills. But chances are, you won’t be doing much sleeping pursuing your goals.

be aware of your odds

I know we all want to be great in our passion. But let’s be practical for a moment in relation to our odds. And that is that just because you’re passionate and even good, does not guarantee a career. We all want this guarantee, or some pot of gold at the end of a road. Reality is that at the end of the road, might just be the intersection to end of another road. And knowing what path to choose can lead to success, failure, or more set back.


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GOOD MENTAL SPIRITUAL ENERGY: HOW IT EFFECTS YOUR HAPPINESS

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Let it radiate out.”


INTRODUCTION

How many of you maintain a good spiritual energy about yourself on a daily basis? Meaning, putting yourself in a great place that is channeled into your beliefs of what you hope to expect in life and what you hope will not happen. Great mental spirituality can make you a very happy person if you are in the right mental state. For so long a lot of where we have gotten our spiritual energy was from our held belief in religion. But you have people who are atheist that believe in the powers of spirituality. And when you look at various forms of spirituality, this is especially true.

FORMS OF SPIRITUALITY

The different forms of how a person may get their good mental spiritual energy to radiate into happiness.

  • EXERCISE FORM

When observing how we exercise that contribute to our spiritual happiness, one stands out the most; yoga. Yoga is a very spiritual workout that trains the body how to move, stretch, and contort into different movements. The level of discipline you need can ultimately positively effect other aspects of life which will contribute to health as well as happiness.

  • RELIGIOUS FORM

There is the most prevalent form of turning your good mental spiritual energy into happiness, and that is religious beliefs. I have seen everyone from friends and family, to strangers increasing their happiness tend-fold because of their belief in a higher power. Given that life is so tough, they reach for something greater outside of themselves. It is these practices that have worked for thousands of years and continues to work today.

  • AESTHETICS FORM

This aspect of contributing to good mental spiritual energy can mean something as simple as looking in the mirror liking what you see. I will tell you from experience, a good haircut or new outfit makes you feel good. Doesn’t have to be the most expensive item, but the new look is a good feeling. So that outside appearance really makes a difference in how you feel.

  • CONSUMING FORM

And the last form of that good mental spirit is the food and beverages you consume. Eating healthy can really make you feel good, and not only contributes to long term good health, but the ability to avoid sicknesses contribute to happiness. No one likes going to the doctor’s office. So knowing your health is in good standing is a plus.

ALL IN ALL

Overall, the feeling of good mental spiritual energy is what makes life worth living. If you are not in that state, I suggest you find a means to do so. Because living on this Earth in a negative form will inevitably bring you down and force you to lose interest in life.


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TALKING A GOOD GAME: WHY SOME REFUSE TO WALK AS MUCH AS THEY TALK

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“You got all these dreams, well, put it to the test.”


You ever meet those people who have all these animated ways in which they explain all their dreams and expectations? Or how about the people that can sell you hopes and dreams of what they promise to do for you once they become successful (usually men who lie to women fall under this category). There is just one problem with these types of people in life. They are the groups of people who can talk the talk, but when it comes time to walk, it’s a whole other ball game. My current pursuit is filmmaking, and I’m sure there are people out there way more knowledgeable than myself. But they cannot put the pen to the paper and write their script. They’re not able to pitch that script nor are they able to make it into a film. When it comes to knowing all the technical lingo and classical filmmakers, they know it all, yet execution of their plans fall short.

You want to know why these guys and gals never remotely go anywhere? It all comes down to daydreaming and fears. Do you remember the movie Collateral with Jamie Foxx as the cab driver and Tom Cruise, the hire hitman, in the backseat. Jamie Foxx tells Cruise of all his plans for his own Mercedes Benz car service, yet Foxx’s reason for not starting is the money to get it off the ground: staffing, cars, and other logistics. Near the end of the film Cruise finally tells Foxx, you were never going to do it anyways. You are going to spend your life drowned out by daytime television like a lot of people when all it took was a down payment on a Lincoln Towncar to get started. And just like that, Jamie knew what that meant. Jamie could talk a good game, but when it came to actually putting himself out there, he couldn’t do it.

Jamie even went as far as to lie to his mother in the hospital as if he were really working for himself. At lunch, Foxx would even flip through the pages of a Mercedes pamphlet to see the fleets available. A lot of people do this; looking at what they wish they owned and daydream. The fear of launching comes from not feeling you’re good enough or worried of what others will think of you. Yet truly successful people don’t listen to what others have to say, they are doers. If you’re listening too much to what others say, you’re not progressing. You see, in the end, I was never a guy who was good at talking a good game. And sometimes, I even admired the people who can because I have more of a walking ability than talking. But in life, the one walking is more in alignment with success than the one who talks all the time.


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CLOSED EARS, CLOSED MIND: WHY HAVING MULTIPLE PERSPECTIVE IS RATIONAL

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“My view is view.”


Over the past year, we have had all been in debates, for the most part surrounding the election of President Donald Trump. But the problem is not just the constant debating, it’s also the fact that no one listens to multiple sides. For me at least, I watch not only CNN, but I also watch Fox News. I want to gain insight into both areas of politics, then make my decision somewhere in the middle. Or I make my decision based on who won that particular argument of the day. But you have so many people who look at life through this one lens, which is more harmful to themselves than to anyone else. If your life revolves around the people that think and talk like you, then you’re missing out. Missing out on what could actually make you a greater you. You probably are thinking to yourself, how so?

Well, for starters, if you have a multiple perspective, then you can gain a more worldly view. Meaning you are able to connect to those that are different than yourself. But you are also able to understand where someone is coming from. You still might not agree, but you know why they feel the way that they do. You could be a Democrat and I a Republican; yet if we are listening to each other, you can accomplish more. Because a successful civilization is not one that is perfect, but more so, one that is stable and optimal. We don’t need everyone agreeing on everything, but when no one is listening, then you start to lose rationale. And once rationale is lost, you can forget about trying to fix any problem you thought you were going to fix. Why, well at that point it is just straight emotion. Straight emotion never gets you anywhere in life. And how so?

Emotions are something of course we all have; I’m not enlightening you on anything when I say that. But the problem is that when we become too passionate about why we feel a certain way, we lose hold of practicality. So then we start making judgments when some of the very people we support fall under that category. And the reason we don’t see it is because we start to believe in our own bullshit so much so we don’t hear anyone else talking. And with shut ears and open hearts, you lose your argument. Also, this extra passion is a sign that you don’t have enough passion in your own life. Because it’s fine to be passionate, but too many people have too much passion to spare. And if you’re getting enough passion in your personal life, you shouldn’t have too too much to spare. Meaning, more passion in your personal life, you are more balanced out in your practical conversations with other people, not 100% guaranteed, yet still valid enough.

In the end, people have to block out multiple perspectives because you might hear something from the other side that forces you to give up your points. And no one wants to bend under any circumstance. Yet if all you do is shut out others’ thoughts and opinions, you’ll find yourself being taken down a rabbit hole the moment someone on your side breaks the rules. Now you have to think on a fly as to how to get out of the argument and defend your person. When all you had to do was open your mind, and you can keep yourself from being led down a lot of paths.


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PASSION VS. INFATUATION: HOW FAR DOES YOUR EMOTIONS RUN

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“To be in love, is to be obsessed.”


The definition of passion is to have a love, a longing, a wanting for someone else. A feeling that is described as heighten, yet under a controlled state. But to be infatuated is a totally different story. This is generally a person who is excessive with their passion to the point it becomes detrimental to ones self or another person’s life. Infatuated people are the ones who stalk and eventually lead to doing something harmful. Or not even the stalkers, what about the relationship people who are infatuated. So my question is, which one are you? Would you describe yourself as being infatuated or passionate? Are you situational in one area of your life and another in a different capacity?

See, to me, I think that under normal circumstances, we all tend to be passionate, with a touch of infatuation. Why because infatuation is excessive passion, so all passionate people have some form of infatuation. To me, it depends in what particular situation. You might be passionate about your love life, but infatuated to the point the person can’t leave your sights. If you’re with this person, you might be in a more abusive relationship. Simply because they are not able to control their passion so they tend to go overboard. You want just enough passion, but not too much where it becomes stalker like behavior. Well, the control is obvious things, but are normal people potential candidates for infatuation.

The answer is yes, and sad thing is, they may not even realize it. What do I mean by that, I mean a guy might tell the woman he’s with not to wear a certain article of clothing. Fine, then it becomes a constant you can’t wear this and you can’t wear that. Now he is becoming controlling with his passion for her. But is it all about the men, no you have that infatuation on the woman’s part as well. You have women who don’t realize themselves that they are not becoming infatuated with their passion. Meaning, if you are a woman who privately download apps on your man’s cell phone that tracks physical movements or calls that have been deleted, you’re infatuated. Or you could be the woman that goes through all his social media to see if you recognize a woman that you have never seen before. Then once you do, it formulates into an argument of some sort.

As you can see, passion and infatuation are closely related because passion is controlled wanting, and infatuation is uncontrolled passion. And when something becomes uncontrolled you begin to unravel. In the end, we all have that infatuation, that little bit of crazy. But most of us are more passionate leaning. We are the ones who tell our boyfriends and girlfriends, go out and have a good time. Versus the infatuated people who secretly get in their car and drive to the club and watch you to make sure no one speaks to you. So have a balance on the teeter totter of love with the passion being high, but not too high where it is completely in the air. Because now you have hit the point of infatuation.


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EAGER TO WAIT: DOES PROLONGING ASKING FOR SEX MEANS YOU CARE?

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“Where does this belong in society today?”

It’s funny how cultural references take on new meanings throughout life. Especially in the case when we’re discussing the topic of sex. I remember when I first heard of the 90 day rule. Which is basically the time-frame adequate for a man and woman to engage in sexual intercourse. When I first heard this rule, I have to admit, it sound rather silly to place a time-frame on sex. Because the great thing about sex is that it’s just supposed to happen. And nothing says sex is not interesting or spontaneous like putting a calendar date on it. Now, is there a reason for this to exist? Is there any real logic as to why a rule like this must be put into place?

Let’s try to understand the essence of the 90 day rule. Well, for starters, 90 days is seen as a quality enough time period for people to get to know each other. Alright, why do people need time to get to know one another? The reason being, is that men and women are wired differently. We aim to get sex as quickly as possible, while women tend to want to wait. And we are judged differently in society also. So given that, women feel that there must be adequate time in order for men and women to get to know one another before engaging in sex. So there is something other than just the physical; meaning an investment.

Which leads me to the next reason why people wait. Sex is part of a relationship that involves investing. Investing time and space for a more long-term situation. So making someone wait sounds rational. You never want to feel like you’re rushing something that could potentially go somewhere. But is there a such thing as waiting too long? You might think you’re waiting for the right time and wind-up losing something good in the process. Is there always a reason to wait? In my opinion, no.

I know the old-fashioned way is to make someone wait for sex. But in my opinion, I don’t think in the past people waited. It was just a lot more taboo to talk about it. People in the past weren’t as open with sexuality as they are now. But nonetheless, people didn’t wait for the opportunity to have sex. Why is this so? Because it’s a human emotion. People are not designed to hold off on something that is so natural. Sex is a normal behavioral action. And I think that in our society we tend to suppress this natural action. And religion has a lot to do with it as well as society. We’re all afraid of being judged on so many of our actions, but the people who judge may be doing the same as you.

In the end, there are good reasons, but I also think that sometimes, people can be a little ridiculous with the rules they place on sex. Man has turned a fun and spontaneous engagement into a job. You’re told on a job that your benefits kick in 90 days, so the whole time, you’re thinking about the benefit. Sure, a relationship is an interview, but sex shouldn’t be a job. If it’s a job, maybe it’s not worth having it at all.

DIDN’T WORK FOR ME, WHY WOULD IT WORK FOR YOU?

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“Why do people seek to destroy what they can’t do?”

I have always found it to be quite sad how people are so quick to shut down your ideas. Your visions, your dreams, your ambitions, and your goals. They seek to shoot you down because they have not managed to succeed in their visions themselves. Why is this? Why do people carry such disdain for those who have had the courage to step into the world in the face of failure? Then when you fail they love to look you in the eyes and say I told you so.

Let’s try to figure out how they have come to this mind frame themselves. We all start out in life with a vision of where we would love to be. It usually starts as a child where our imaginations runs wild. But somewhere along the way between childhood and adulthood we lose our imagination. Or maybe we don’t lose it, better yet, someone or something kills it along the way. Well, what is it that can kill our dreams.

For most people, it is those that are around them. It can be their family or their friends who kill that dream. That vision that you see, touch, taste, and smell, yet you never pursue. Well how come? Your family, mainly parents and siblings; and friends as well will tell you to go out and get a day job. Find something which will get you a check every two weeks and let that be it. Keep your head out the clouds. And then that moment you attempt and fail they can’t wait to say, see I told you.

They do this because they have had the same visions. They either didn’t achieve their dream or was too scared to step out into the world. And in some insulting way, they fill you shouldn’t be there because they failed or were too scared. The reason I say insulting is because it’s almost as if they think you are dumber than them, and no way could you out do them. But what is in the pleasure in waiting for you to fail. The pleasure comes from their lack of success in their goals.

If you succeed in what is it you are embarking on, then it makes them feel their existence is futile. You would not think that friends and family could view your life this way, but sometimes they do. Not everyone wants you to do well in life, and as bad as it may seem, it comes from the people close to you. My other reason such disdain from the ones closest to you is because they remember where you came from to where you are now. It really magnifies much of their own lives they wasted.

But why view life in that form? Why feel that your life is a waste because of someone else’s success. It’s not their success as much as it is they are the embodiment of time you spent not doing what you wanted to do. Meaning, you don’t want to pursue entrepreneurship because it could take 10 years of constant work on top of your day job. Then 10 years go by and you look back wondering why you wasted so much time being afraid. Then you see someone who did put in that 10 years and the taste of sour grapes fill your mouth.

On the other hand, your success and fearlessness will free up others to pursue their endeavors. You see, people in society don’t know you before you were you. When they hear your rise to success, their confidence in themselves increase. You will motivate people to pursue; even with failure lingering they’ll fight. The whole time they will think about your climb.

In the end, the cost of doing nothing may be higher than the cost of doing something. It’s the reason why I am pursuing my goals. My biggest fear is not failure, more so it’s getting to the end of life and reflecting. Reflecting on your life and realizing the whole time it meant nothing. That is the scariest thing about life for me. Rejection and failure is normal, but not trying should never feel normal. Because the way I see it, we work everyday doing so much we don’t like, why not try something new. Even if the success is minimal, it’s still more than you had prior to not trying at all.