NOT ON YOUR WATCH: SUCCESS DOESN’T COME WHEN YOU’RE READY

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“Put the time in to get there.”


i want it now

For some reason, people think that just because they are ready for an opportunity, that someone should automatically give them one. You have to realize that with opportunities come the preparation. This way if and when you do get your chance you are ready for the task at hand. But most people don’t want to wait their time, they just want to jump right on in and get to working immediately. Yet you are not remotely close to being ready. There is too much you don’t know and you’re thinking about a career like working at a fast food restaurant So go back, put the time and work some more. Understand that opportunity comes with preparation.

social media f***ed the game up

People look on the internet and see someone with a platform and didn’t realize how hard that person was working to get to that point. They just see the numbers and didn’t see the numbers when only a few people cared about the platform. But in this digital game, we don’t realize that the internet is not a real place. and when I say that I mean that it is not a place to believe wholeheartedly in when trying to climb in life. You’re given this perception that is nowhere near the real grind. And once you step into the game, you think you’re not working hard enough or you’re being lazy. The problem is that you can’t look these mediums as this face value entity. Nothing is ever what it seems; trust and believe to build that platform it took time.

patience is a virtue

I heard that good things come to those who wait. And this is true when you putting the daily work into where you want to go. So many people are working hard, but not working smart. And to those that work smart, you have to be patient. Life does not move when you are ready, it happens when it happens. Yet so many will not make it to that point because they are in a rush and rushed work gets overlooked.


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LAME IS THE NEW COOL: WHY THE POPULAR KID IS RARELY THE MOST SUCCESSFUL IN THEIR CAREER

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“Focus isn’t fun, but necessary.”


staying up late

You ever see the kid growing up in school who took part in all the after school programs? They were in the science fair, and the chess club, and the glee club. And that is what success truly looks like. It’s the working after work that will make you better at what you do. Most kids leave school and go home to watch television. But then what happens, they become adults who do the same thing. These adults get off of work and come home to a television like when they were kids. And the ones that work after hours are generally the people who accomplish their goals. And why do you have to stay behind and work extra time?

expert in field or task

When you are working your job everyday for years, are you paying attention to the work, or are you just punching a clock? Because if all you are doing is going to work and coming home, you’re most likely not going fair in life. You have to do more, and that is something that the popular kid in school never really did. They were able to skate through life with just charm. But as an adult, charm will only get you so far. You need productivity, but what is hat for someone who never knew real productive societal work. Yeah, sure, their parents gave them chores, so they know how to take orders. But reaching further in your career means going outside the natural order. But how do you do so when all you know is orders?

we want to all fit in

No one want to be an outsider in life. But in order to be successful sometimes you have to step outside the group, which is something so many don’t want to do. Popular people want to have friends even if the friends are not the most genuine of people. But the people who want to be successful chase quality no quantity. And just because you have people around you don’t mean they should occupy your space. So being lame actually makes you a winner in life because you have to step outside your inner circle. And that means at times making yourself stand out against what others are doing. But, once again, we want to fit in. But what crowd are you fitting into, that you want so desperately to be apart of?


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FEAR OF SUCCESS: WHY YOU MIGHT REALLY MIGHT HAVE A FAILURE TO LAUNCH

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“What is to come of this all?”


making it big

We all think of making it big in our careers. But what happens when you are more afraid of getting success out of your career than actually failing? Because the failure is a guarantee in life. We are all going to fail in our ventures. But not everyone is going to be successful in what they set out to accomplish. And it’s because failing is so guaranteed that we are not truly afraid. Yet when you succeed you see what it has done to so many others in the same position. That crash of their success leaves us terrified to even pursue.

having it and losing it all

The phrase having and losing it is a lot more hurtful than never having it at all is a popular statement. Because we have an idea of what it means to be of means financially. But for the chosen few who have actually been in the position it hurts more to lose all of it. No one wants to work their entire lives just to lose everything they have ever worked for in life. Because now you have to live out your life knowing what it was truly like on the other side. And that hurts because for those on the other side, coming back to where you used to be is difficult. Because now you have to settle for something you hate versus what you love to do just to build back up.

too many people to please

You move from one place to the next and people say to you what’s next. Or worse they have their hands out ready for you to give them things. The majority of people have a hard time saying no to someone, especially when they are close friends and family. Now, eventually you have to get to that point otherwise you will slowly but surely turn into a parent. And it is not your job to raise other adults. Yet, when we reach a certain point in our careers, we feel almost this guilt because others are not where we are, which is odd. And people sometimes get this awkward feeling of surpassing people that don’t have your talents in your environment. You should never think that way because your skill is yours, that person’s skill is theirs. And just as you had to find your place, they have to find their place in society. It’s adulthood, it’s called figuring out your shit.


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FAME: WHY ARE SO MANY PEOPLE DESPERATE FOR IT

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“We all want the good, yet reject the bad.”


FAME

So many people in America today are desperate for fame. So desperate they are willing to go to extreme lengths, even if it’s at the cost of them losing themselves in the process. And what is it all about; is it worth it? And for so many, it’s not because we love our privacy. But for others it’s the cost of doing what you do.

Now, that does not mean that all famous people are these fame, attention seeking individuals. I am referring to the people who throw their children out there for the sake of a check. Or the reality families that always lead to a family breakdown somehow.

requirements

It times past you had to have some sort of talent to be considered famous. You couldn’t just throw yourself out there and expect people to just bite. You to have something that made you attractive for people to buy into; or they weren’t having it. Now, anyone with an Instagram following is a famous person. No true talent is required to have a high level of notoriety.

psychological ramifications

You think to yourself, who in the world would want to be famous. And when I say that, you have a lot of people who are good at what they do. And they become very well-known as a result. Meaning, I don’t think Mark Zuckerberg was seeking fame, but he is a famous person. I don’t think Michael Jordan was seeking fame, but he is famous.

People who seek out fame in life, the people who always need to show the world their lifestyle have something else going on mentally. Because the constant validation from the outside world, when it’s supposed to come from the inside out says a lot. It’s not good to be alive, everyone has to know every second of the day, what you have and where you live.

downfall

Will it ultimately be the downfall of society; the answer is no. Because the vast majority of people are not seeking fame in their lives. They just want to go to work and come home safely. But for the attention seekers, they continue to trek on as well.


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YOU DON’T NEED ME, SO BYE: WHY DO MEN LEAVE WOMEN FOR RISING ABOVE

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“Why sometimes our equal could be a turnoff.”


Men are protectors, we are providers, especially when it comes to the women in our lives. But what happens when that woman is not only a provider, but she is just as bossed-up as you? We always say in public how we love ourselves a single independent woman, but to a large degree, we love to have women that need us. And when I say need us, I don’t mean needy. There is a difference between need and needy. The needy is more clingy and can’t leave your side which tends to be quite irritating. But the need would be something as little as changing a tire or paying for a meal at a restaurant. Because we are raised from a young age these are the things you are supposed to do for the women in your life.

Yet in today’s society, women are in more privileged positions than they were in the past. Yet unlike the past, they are having a harder time finding love. Why, is it because the access to quality men has lessoned? No, it’s because there are so many men who feel, “Oh, she has everything together already, she doesn’t need someone like me.” “A man like me would be more suitable for a women who could use the help.” Meaning, a woman who is a teacher would need the guy more than the woman who is a boss like an Oprah Winfrey. We look at Oprah and say, “Why would you need a guy, you have everything under control already.”

And that is what causes the disconnect. Because we as men look at finances as this end all. When a woman is of financial means, we look at her as being both man and woman. She is a man because she is bossed-up, but a woman because of the obvious. So I don’t think guys are intimidated by her success. So many of us look at her like, she has the situation herself, we need to be with the woman who could use the help. What help do you need if you are already in the position that we seek to fill. Now women on the other hand don’t see the situation as such. To them, they could use someone in their lives just as much as the woman not on her level.

To her, if she is a boss, it gives her more reason to need the relationship. The relationship serves as the stable environment outside the hectic world of her business career. To her, you can’t put a price on relationships, yet on the other hand it’s what we are as men. Because in the end, we are raised to be productive as men. Money is not everything, but a financial contribution is a major reason why men introduce ourselves into the lives of women. Being a financial provider is a major aspect of how we define manhood. Making money means, the mortgage, rent, utilities, food, transportation, clothes, healthcare, travel/leisure, education, and care for kids. It’s an entirety that makes us want to be men of financial means. So when women already have it, we feel her life is already filled.


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EXCEEDING EXPECTATIONS: HOW YOU CAN BE HATED FOR BEING MORE THAN YOU “SHOULD BE”

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“Who are you to be where you are!”


Filmmaker and actor Tyler Perry gave a speech before a group of college graduates where he stated exceeding past the expectations of where people feel you should be is when you create enemies. Because now you start to get individuals saying how dare you think you’re more than what I think of you. It’s from this internal emotion built in where we just know how your life will turn out. We just know that you can’t be more than what we see you as in society. And when you do succeed, the people who never thought you would be where you’re at have to do some serious self-reflecting. They’re Image result for self reflectforced to come to terms with two things in life. One they aren’t good characters of judgement. And number two, they are now forced to sit back and look over their lives thus far. They must now look at themselves in the mirror and say, “If only you had taken your life more serious, where would you be by now.”

So now, you as the successful person becomes the scorn of another person. Because they look at you and say, “You made me see myself.” Why, well no one really likes to look into a mirror and reflect. We often turn away, and look somewhere else. But this person you thought wouldn’t succeed makes you reflect; so much so, it stays on your mind. Especially if the success story had a troubled past. When the past of a person is ground level, and they work their way from that point, there is also an inner hate and disdain carried toward that person. You see, a successful person with a troubled Image result for accountabilitypast can be dismissed if we don’t know or having ever met the person. But when that person was someone we saw throughout life, sour grapes fills our mouths. What’s sad is that so many people can still rebound in life, yet they’re so angry at you, they miss their own blessings.

Is there more, well yes there is more to discuss. What happens when the success is doing something that the person angry don’t like, and can’t figure out why you’re successful. Well, the success has people that love what they do. And if it’s not something you like, find something that you like and stick to it. But people hate to not like something and what they don’t like go on deaf ears. No matter how ridiculous the claim, the claim still exist. That’s why social media tends to be so dangerous because there is this mob mentality; a community of people who wouldn’t otherwise have a Image result for mob mentalityvoice, able to negatively effect lives of others. In the end, when you take off, and become successful, you will have people not like you. But when you reach an altitude that many feel you shouldn’t have reached, then you get hate. But it comes with the territory; you can’t be a loser out of fear of people not liking you.


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CONQUERING FEAR THAT ISN’T FEAR AT ALL

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“Made up problems that really don’t exist.”


Failure to launch is the term we use for someone that has a hard time stepping into the world and being on their own. They do so because they either don’t have anything that they are passionate about, or don’t have any goals. And when you don’t have goals you just sit around hoping for things to fall into place. But as long as you’re not putting yourself into harms way, then things can’t happen to you. But the harms way is the main reason why so many people will not step into society. Now me on the other hand, I love the risk, I love the fear, I love the unknown. I have a short film I will be producing in less the 11 days, and have no clue how it will go. The project could flow, or I could run into multiple problems. My first short film I had problems, but it was a learning experience for my second one. But what is it about what I do that makes it so hard for so many others to do?

You see, growing up, my mother always kept my sisters and myself in the library and school. She made sure we were in academic environments, or some other environment where I had to get in the game of life. So I fear, but I still do anyways. And there is a reason for me not quitting out of fear. It’s because I have been prepped to step into the world knowing I will fall before I gain my Image result for mother silhouettefooting. My mother told her children growing up, “Struggle through your 20’s, to have a life you want afterward in your 30’s and so forth.” So for me, it’s second nature for me to attack in life. And my mother wasn’t some PhD or Master’s Degree holder. She only had a high school diploma, and nothing more than that. Yett she was willing to put herself in the know when it came to raising her children. And that know has made her children fearless to step into the world.

Now, as far as the people who fail to rise to the occasion, like I said earlier, they have these fears. What’s odd is that they are usually the extroverted people. The introverts always so much more successful in their careers. It’s odd because if the extroverts used that outgoing personality then they would be so much more successful. For some reason, they don’t see it that way. It’s for that
reason that extroverts I feel need an opposite to befriend or be in relationships with. And like the extroverts, introverts need someone who is more fearless in their pursuit of personal happiness. I grew upRelated image with so many people that if they put that extrovert personality to use they could be on a whole other level. But what is interesting is that they look at me and say, “How do you do that?” As if I have some sort of magical power. I don’t have any magic powers, it’s just that I fall and get up because I know falling is an aspect of life.

See, in the end, you should approach success like approaching hanging out with friends. The same way you network in your friendships, you network in your career endeavors. When you try meeting new people, do you give up when someone does not want to hang with you? No, you just hang around people that want to hang around you. It’s the same with success; you have to put yourself out there. And the reason they don’t is the fear: fear of what others think, fear of failing, and fear of having to continue to satisfy. But me, I want the risk, I love the unknown, I love the fear; it’s what makes me feel alive.


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