IF YOU DON’T SOMEONE WILL: THE REALITY OF CHEAT CULTURE

 

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“The new normal.”


infidelity

When I was growing up, I was always under the impression that people who married stayed together and happy forever. The more I grew the more I learned about relationships and how things really work themselves out. And one of those things I learned about was infidelity in marriage. But even more shocked when I found out the female statistics on cheating in the relationship. From there I wanted to know why so many people cheated on their spouses. Then I started to do some quick research and found out that so many people do so because their relationship has no passion within the marriage. But if you are working and raising children it’s easy to lose that passion. So is it that cut clean and dry or are there steps to get to that point.

the women who hurt

We are so used to hearing about men who cheat but we are not even thinking about the women who do so. For some reason we don’t associate cheating with women, but so many women do so. But why, is as easy as a guy approaching and next thing you know, she’s cheating. No, it is more of a process that takes place over time. Because I don’t think most women just run out and start cheating on her significant other. Now if he cheats first, that might be a different story. But in general, women usually hold out longer than most men. And a lot of that has to do with how women think about sex. They emotionally connect to someone via sex, so it’s hard to just go out and sleep with someone with nothing there. But once they do, it usually ends the marriage and there is no getting her back. She’s not going to go to that guy, but you have most likely lost her.

if it’s not good, get out

There are still some people who wait until they are married to have sex. But in today’s society you have people who have sex quicker. Now, if the sex is not good, most men may stay just because he might get sex again. Women most likely will stop the situation and move on. But for the ones who don’t move on, they stay for other reasons outside of intimacy, more so security reasons, then find the sex outside the relationship. So how do you become that good lover, and is it still enough not to make the person go outside as fast. In my opinion, if the person moves that fast, they are just prone to do that because people don’t jump off the ledge as quick.


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WAITING FOR MARRIAGE: SAVING SEX FOR MARRIAGE IS NOT GOOD

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“Don’t do it to yourself.”


holding out

The idea of waiting until you’re married to have sex is still a requirement for so many people. And the reason so many still do is because of their moral code via religious beliefs. But there are some fundamental problems with this belief. And the reality is that sex is a very nature activity that is a contributor to your overall happiness. So when your sex life is bad, then you could run a risk of living an unhappy life. This is something that no matter how strong your belief nature has a way of over riding the feeling you get from spirituality. So why do people hold out knowing it could be this problem once they do have sex. Or better yet, what do you do if you get a partner that is less than adequate?

what to do what to do

When you wait until you’re married to have sex the main problem that arise from this would have to be who suffers if it’s not good? In the case of men, we are able to still find a way around a female who is a bad lover. Since we are so driven through the physical sense, we can make things work. Because we not only can teach a woman to be better, but we enjoy being the teacher. Now on the flip side of things, sex is a lot more emotional for the woman taking part in the activity. So being in a marriage with a man who is a virgin, she can’t quite enjoy like we can. If you are unaware or unsure, she loses interest. And if you are a woman waiting for sex until that marriage point, you most likely will get hurt. Because now you have to figure out how do I stay faithful and deal with bad sex for life.

trivial, sorry, it just is

With all that is going on in the world. You have wars, famine, poverty, political corruption, diseases wiping people out, and not to mention a rock in the form of the end of the world that narrowly misses Earth. Now you have this mind that God is watching how you use your penis and vagina. It just makes the idea of God sound silly. And for the most part, religion is very centered on self. I believe in this because of everything that could be watched I am being watched. Humans are one of millions of species, but we are the ones watched the most. So to me, you are depriving yourself of living your best life because you are bound by the unknown. And to be honest, most people who divorce will admit that waiting was a big mistake.


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SEXUAL HEALING: HOW ORGASM CONTRIBUTES TO A HEALTHY LIFE

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“That oh so good feeling.”


in the sheets

Ever read any statistics on sexual lifestyles? If you have, then you would know that people who have routine sex have healthier hearts and a better quality of life. Now note, when I say routine, I assuming that people orgasm. Which is something that the vast majority of woman can not do during sex. And that is because the average man last considerably less time than a woman. So a lot of women refuse sex from their mates. So what can you do if you are this position to have a better sex life? Or better yet, what is the hope for those out there struggling to have sex? I guess they can’t experience the greatness in health related benefits.

not engaging at all

Things may take place if you are not having sex in your life. This could mean not only the personal feelings associated with emotions, but also the lack of physical abilities. This could mean you have a hard time lasting in bed and erectile dysfunction. But it’s not like you just walk outside and get sex. You have to be desirable and if that is something you lack, then you will never experience any form of love. What a tragic feeling in life, but what are they to do. Our initial attractions to each other are physical, and people can’t help the genetics they have, which contributes to their lack of sex. It hurts, but that is the way of our world.

not able to reach climax

For this one, it is more geared towards women. And that is because women struggle to achieve orgasm than men. And the reason being, performance from the other partner. But how do men last longer because that is a big reason along with other capabilities. And there is no 100% right answer to this question. Because he has to be interested in getting better as well as working at it. But if you are with a partner that is already turned off, how does this work. So this means men lack confidence and women have their own set of depression.


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GENDER SWAP: HOW THE EXPECTATIONS OF MEN AND WOMEN CHANGES

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“SHe-IM.”


expectations

As a man in society, I have always known from a young age that there are these expectations from us that are typically different than women. Funny because I was raised in a house with a mother and two sisters. You would think I was inundated with all these feminist viewpoints that I carry with me still today. Yes, there are ways I see the world that may be through the lens of a women via the women that raised me. But at the same time, they gave an honest feel for how the world actually works, not an illusion or from their own internalized disdain.

what is gender

When we observe what is gender, we have the definition which states that gender is the cultural and social differences that make up both males and females rather than the biological. Because the terms male and female are the biological words for the organism which either produces sperm or ovulates in the creation of an organism. Which means a women (gender) who is born female (sex) is so mutually inclusive because of the classification we give to the sex of a person. She is born female therefore she is a woman. And the same applies to a man. So in terms of the class and the biology, we are able to understand. But is everything so technical, or is there just an obvious aspect of all of this I have explained?

“outlined” expectations “old and new”

The following at the bottom are the two genders and the two sexes, as well as their expectations and limits.

MALE

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  • Gender: Open doors for the woman on dates, protect and provide, being the voice for the son to lean on, sexual opposite, spiritual opposite, vocal
  • Sex: provide sperm, physically defined (shoulders, chest, arms, etc.), genitalia (penis), Y-chromosome
  • New Roles: Minimal house work, voice to both son and daughter equally, co-provider, limited protection, not always sexual opposite
  • New Limits: No new real change

FEMALE

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  • Gender: Care for children, stay at home, voice to the daughter, sexual opposite, docile, primp, silent
  • Sex: X-chromosome, eggs, physically defined (breast, hips, rear), genitalia (vagina)
  • New Roles: not always sexual opposite, working woman, voice to both son and daughter equally, co-provider, self-protection, independence
  • New Limits: No new real change, except some physical attributes (strength)

workable or not?

Now, will it work in the end; men and women swapping in society? Can the woman be the man and man be the woman? I think there are certain aspects of who we are that will, and others can’t change. The ones that can’t change are so deeply rooted in who we are that change is impossible. Evolution has made us into who we are that yes, we will try to manipulate the limitations of ourselves, yet it will prove to not work. But there will still be considerable changes in expectations.


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HUMAN REPRODUCTION: HOW DID THE FIRST HUMANS KNOW SEX LED TO MORE PEOPLE

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“How did we figure it out?”


reproduction

Upon ejaculation the sperm enters the vagina and sticks to the walls. There is no guarantee that the sperm will get her pregnant, but for the sake of the topic let’s say she does. Of the millions of sperm that make the destination, only one will fertilize the egg. And once that happens, over the course of 9 months a baby is born into the womb of a woman. Then, when it’s time, a child will be brought into this world. That child will grow and most likely give life, thus the continuation of the human chain of existence. Now my question is, how did the first humans manage to make it happen?  How did the first people manage to know that sex would create a human? What was the thing that they attempted which made them engage in sex.

accidental intercourse

What if we found out about sex by accident? Maybe we were trying to figure things out as humans would today, and stumbled upon procreation. The discovery of anything has come by way of accident. Human arousal is the same as any other mammal. And yet we tried numerous ways to cope with this sense of arousal. As with a monkey placing a stick in a hole to try to worm out ants, that is an accident in itself. You see this being of the opposite sex, not understanding why we feel a certain way, we test things out. The sense of touch has aided man in figuring out a lot. But once they figured out that intercourse not only created humans, but brought about pleasure, it became paramount to our existence.

in the know

Once we became aware, it was time to expand beyond our borders into other areas. Because the curiosity about ourselves became more important. Also the numbers of us grew into greater amounts, so we moved out from which we initially dwell. But putting ourselves in the know does not only aid us in the past, but also in the future to come. And what’s crazy, there are families we will never know their existence because they didn’t figure it out and died off.


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HETEROSEXUALITY AND HOMOSEXUALITY: BORN WITH OR EVOLUTION

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“Are we born to know?”


SEXUALITY

Over the recent years, especially since Gay  marriage has become legalized across the country, the topic of what is born with not born with have taken place. Are you born Gay? But what I would also ask in addition to that question is are you born heterosexual as well? Because from my understanding of what sexuality is, sexuality is defined as the person’s orientation or feelings. It is a person’s way of expressing themselves in society sexually, as well as their biological, belief systems, physical, and behavioral makeup. Yet, there is something that is odd about anyone saying how they were born, no matter their sexual orientation. And the reasons below are why.

HUMANITY DEVELOPMENT

The above video is of a TedTalk on the most influential aspects to a child’s development. And when you watch the video, you will hear how certain aspects of our upbringing contribute to the way we grow: our country, religious beliefs, how you are nurtured, your community, your education, and your advancement of your civilization. All are important to the development of a child. Because in this initial stage, you will start to maintain a lot of your ideologies you hold on to for the rest of your life. Now what does this have to do with sexuality, a lot. Because you develop aspects of who you are that makes you, you. Only reason why sexuality doesn’t show itself at certain points is because your external factors (religion, community, family, friends, societal constructs/norms) in addition to internal.

WHO DECIDES WHAT IS NATURAL

Now given we know a little bit about the development of humans, the controversy besides being born with a sexual preference that makes the conversation difficult, is what is natural. There actually can be a deference in what is natural and what is natural. I know the repetition sounds odd, but what is natural to us in nature and what is natural based on society constructs is different. So when looking at sexuality, having sex with any human is natural. But who you have sex with being deemed unnatural is the construct. It’s how we design societies to be.So heterosexuality is the considered by nature to be more pure in form because you need a male’s sperm in combination with the female egg to make a human. Two women and two men can’t procreate to make a human. So we use that to say what is natural. But natural is defined as existing without mankind intervention. So in regards to nature both heterosexuality and homosexuality can be seen as natural. Even though skeptics may say man through force influences one over the other creates certain outcomes, the majority of people who are either hetero- or homo- weren’t influenced by force to be.

SO WHAT IS IT REALLY

Overall, the human is an evolving, developing, adapting creature. Born to know your sexual orientation is a stretch, yet we all have the internal makeup for what love, emotions, and sexuality feels like. We all have attractions we develop, and no one knows for certain why we develop attractions as humans. Scientist will of course say evolving to have attractions keep us going as a species. But being born with a sexual preference would almost aim at stating that we are conscious at a time when we don’t even know we have a consciousness. In my opinion, we try to make sense of our emotions by saying born because we either want to make our case stronger, or you’re fighting against the social construct that places emphasis on how you live to be unnatural.


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SEXUALLY TABOO: WHY IS THE ADULT ENTERTAINMENT INDUSTRY SO FROWNED UPON

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“One of the biggest industries, no one admits to watching.”


Pornography is one of the biggest and yet most taboo industries in America. But for some reason, when it comes to the top known entertainers in the business, we all know their names. We’ve all heard of Ron Jeremy, Jenna Jameson, Lexington Steele, and Bella Donna. Yet if you don’t watch porn, how do you manage to know these people for what they do? And they will all tell you of stories of meeting people, very well-respected people who have seen their work and compliment them. Then, when asked a question of do we watch, we always give the same dry reply of no, that’s not my thing types of answers. So why is it so taboo in society.

For starters, we are protective of our children and content that they consume. If we start to normalize the porn industry, then people are afraid that children will start to either gravitate toward it faster, or they’ll become desensitized. Only problem with that frame of thought is that in today’s society, we have more outlets that are out of the reach and control of parents. You as that adult might try to put passwords on the computer. But somehow, your children can still gain access eventually. Especially considering we’re living in such a digital age. Anything you want is literally a click away. You can type almost anything in a search engine and find a result for whatever aisles you.

Another reason for the taboo is that we feel that watching too much leads to an addiction. And becoming addicted to sex in the form of watching porn, can actually remove you from dealing altogether with the human element. You can also start to develop physical ailments if you are watching too much because watching most often leads to personal stimulation. So the ailment comes from too much personal stimulation. And that addiction can lead into more severe mental problems that can occupy your personal space. Your quality of life can ultimately diminish, and you start to effect the people around you.

Now, in the end, the reason I don’t think we should be too worried is because the industry is so widespread that it’s almost like we don’t even think twice about the idea that it exist anymore. And that has to do with the idea that so many amateurs are now making an income from home. Parents in the past used to be worried about their child reading a Playboy, Penthouse, or Hustler, now they’re worried about their kid making a sex tape. Crazy thing is that the more digital takes hold, the less voice the parents have in their child’s life. So at this point all you can do is raise them the best you can, and hope for the best.


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