NOT THERE YET: HOW TO DEAL WITH NOT BEING WHERE YOU WANT TO BE

Man in Blue and Brown Plaid Dress Shirt Touching His Hair

“In the paradigm we feel failed.”


where am i at the moment

Ever get the feeling that you should be further in your career than you are at the moment? There is something holding you back and you can’t seem to get where you want to be. This is a feeling that so many people deal with on a daily basis. Trying to figure out why their lives are not in better places. And the biggest mistake we make a lot of times is comparing ourselves to the lives that other people have. The reality is, you shouldn’t want the lives others have, fight for the one you want instead. But it’s hard especially when you are young to grasp this concept. Because no matter your age, there is someone bigger than you in your position at your young age. And you must learn that when they are young, this an exception to the rule and not the standard.

not putting in enough

Work those mental muscles and stretch your mind further than you are stretching it now. This is something that takes a lot of time to master. And when I say time, I mean years of work. I am pursuing a career as an author/screenwriter. You have to know that this is a lifetime journey of ups and downs. If you want to be successful overnight then you’re going to have a problem. Because you hear nothing comes overnight, and that is true. It’s a cliche, yet the time put in means trying to make sense of the world around you so as to tell a story no one has told before. OR it could mean writing a similar story, but from a different point of view.

seeing the less talented prevail

There are the groups of people who slip through the cracks and become over the top successful without putting in much work. We look at them and can’t for the life us figure out why they have a platform. And should they or shouldn’t they is up for debate. But what I will say is this, most people who slip through the cracks don’t sustain over the long haul. They eventually fall off because they have never had to build through the adversity. Meaning we all have some point where we fall and have to get up. This is where they don’t get up because they never had to go through the bullshit. So they get stuck and enough time goes by where we think to ourselves where they went.


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CHOICES THAT SOUND GOOD: WHEN CHOOSING A CAREER BECAUSE THE LOOK OF IT

Black and Gray Photo of Person in Front of Computer Monitor

“It just fits.”


why we work

So many people in America attain their jobs just because of the title alone. And you reading this post could potentially be that person. So what are my thoughts on people who have careers just because it sounds like a good thing to pursue. For me, I don’t really have a view on the matter as it pertains to criticism. I just hope you have realized that the decision you just made is very long term. So don’t make a now decision for life because your life really is predicated on what you do for a living. And if you do have a career that hopefully you can make a change, you do so before you retire never doing anything I actually love.

making others proud

Everyone want to be able to look at their child and say my kid graduated from medical school. My kid is now successful attorney at a well-known law firm. But no parent walks around bragging on the fact that their child a sanitation worker or mailman. But why, they are making an honest living and taking care of their families. It’s because parents like the idea of how it is received by others in society. So the kid does what the parent want and pursue their career. Only problem is, they will resent what they do if not happy. Or, they become dissatisfied and turn their frustration on the people at their jobs. And then your child becomes the one that people despise.

money is the goal

You want to make all this money, but you have to realize that money is not the initial thing you are trying to attain. You should be trying to gain as much experience as possible that is en lieu of you making money. Because the money is not immediate, so most people give up while in it. Having the tenacity to stick it out is important. But if you don’t have the tenacity move on, stop trying to appease other people.


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RESPECT THE PROCESS: PEOPLE TAKE FOR GRANTED IT’S NOT OVERNIGHT

Person Pointing at Flowchart

“People just don’t know.”


they don’t realize how long

People who see you as successful take for granted where you are in your life. They see your life and don’t realize the time it took for you to get to that place in your life. So it becomes easy for them to say certain things and make certain assumptions about your life. But the reality is, you haven’t seen them in a long time for nothing. They have been working tirelessly for years to get to this position. But you as that person standing from afar don’t know this because you are busy living it up. You work, come home, watch television, and sleep. And when you are not working, you are hanging with friends. This person is on the top of their game gave any time they weren’t sleep to working.

it looks overnight to you

The Earth moves at approximately 66,667 miles per hour through the universe. Yet we have no ability to feel this as we move about through our daily lives. Well, why don’t we, and relativity has a lot do with it. Relativity has a lot to do with so much of the way in which we look at the world around us. And the same applies to the way we look at people’s lives who have careers. Their lives relative to ours looks one way, in reality it is something different. Because where each of us stand relative to the other clouds our perception of the world around us. So in my eyes you became successful due to someone giving you something, but the reality is, you got an opportunity long after you struggled.

easy when you didn’t build it

There is a reason I am hesitant to ask people for money. Because I understand how hard it is to make an income for myself. But people who don’t respect what you do, it becomes easy for them to make request that are unreasonable. And that is when you have to step back and look at them in a different light. Because you are not responsible for someone else’s existence.


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WHY DO YOU SHOW UP EVERYDAY: WHAT IS YOUR CAREER PURPOSE

Man in Blue Suit

“Why do you work?”


the 9-5

There are so many reasons for why someone might pursue a career. But what is your purpose for being in this career field. Because a great deal of your life is predicated on what you do for a living. So without a purpose you can easily find yourself in a rut and become depressed. Is it all for the money, career advancement, the title, the company, the validation of association, etc. I can’t tell someone what to follow or how to pursue. Just know and understand what comes with the career you will be pursuing. Because we have an idea of a career and then there are the realities of the career.

beware 

Are you prepared to give over your life to the climb? Do you want to know what it’s like to miss out on so much in your life? Well, it may be the downside to having the career that you do. And that’s when so many people fall off the career wagon. They settle for something less because they don’t want all their time being taken up by this career. Yet, when they settle, they usually watch someone put in the time and skyrocket to something great. So beware of what your life could become by pursuing that dream job.

all those years prior

Leading up to your success, you are a work horse. And the day times are going to be the defining moments that will push you through these rough times. But the years of struggling will also be the reason you fight so hard to stay in the game. It is so much work that people work double sometimes triple overtime to make their lives work. Yo don’t want all that work to go to waste for nothing after putting in so much.


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PUT IT BACK IN: REINVESTING BACK INTO YOUR CAREER

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“Let it keep growing.”


doubling down

You want to put yourself in position to do bigger things with your career, you need to always put back in to your career. And that does not always have to be reinvesting money back in. This could mean making decisions that are better which will place you in a specific space for you to make more money. Because whatever you did to get yourself to this place may require you to recycle some of that knowledge in order for yourself to move into another space. Well, how do you recycle that information to make yourself better at what you do? Well, how did you get the information you have now? The same work, but a lot more research than prior.

coming home to work after work

When you get off work and come home, what are you doing that will further aid you in career advancement? Because coming home sleeping saying I’m tired is not enough. You have to be willing to do more and put out more. So go to trade shows, attend conferences, have meetups, do more that will allow you to meet people in your career field. Just working 8 hours per day, 5 days a week does nothing but make you expert in that particular area. But once that area is recycled with something better you lose. So staying ahead of the curb is crucial in your long term success. Now, on the other hand, you can choose not to do so, but the people who make those sacrifices will win.

losing people in life

Remember something in life, that is not everyone is going to be with you on your journey through life. You are going to lose people simply because the direction your’re headed, they are going in another direction. And over time you tend you lose touch. It’s not something that is malicious, you just do. Especially if you want to build your career, you will lose time with them as you climb. Some will understand your work you must put in, the others will fall and move on. It’s a necessary evil, but you have to do it.


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YOU’RE NOT LOW ON TIME: WHY YOU SHOULD SLOW DOWN AND FOCUS IN A CAREER

 

Clear Glass With Red Sand Grainer

“Learn to take your time.”


move fast at a slow pace

You don’t feel like your life is moving fast enough, and you don’t have enough success in your career, you know what, slow down. You are in a rush to go nowhere fast. You’re not running out of time. Yes, if the doctor gives you less than a year to live, then you are pressed for time. But if you are living your daily life, you are not as pressed for time. Take things slow and allow them to formulate. You’re not in this weird space of losing. And the only reason you do is because in real time, everything is more detrimental than it really is in life. So how do you deal with the issues in your head?

psychology is strong

Saying to someone just breathe and that helps is kind of dishonest. That is not true, almost like people say breathe when you are shot, and that effects something. And in a way yes, but let’s be honest, that is bad advice. You are in panic mode because you didn’t attempt to plan out anything early on. So the feeling that everything is going bad starts to set in because you didn’t plan. We tend to spend a lot of our time doing whatever ails us. Then once enough time pass we feel pressed. Yes, you have reason to panic because you have done nothing in 5 – 7, or 7 – 10 years. Now you’re panicking. But if you are 19 years old worried about success, you’re crazy to think so. I am 31 and looking forward to the next 10 – 15 years. But how do you get people to think in that context?

a culture of now

I have written about this in past post about being in this world of the now in America. We look at our lives in the now, and it becomes a bleak existence to us. So since it does not happen in the now, we think there is something wrong with the world. When in reality, the world is the world, you need to prepare and build over time.


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GIVE UP NOW FOR LATER: WHY YOU MUST RESIST SHORT TERM FUN FOR CAREER

Woman Sitting in Front of Macbook

“You must be ready to miss a lot.”


give it up

So many young people want to have all this success, but what are you willing to give up to get to that point. Because in order to establish yourself in your career, you must really be willing to put in a lot of effort and time. And that means forgoing the fun now to put in for fun later. This is where having a career is so hard for so many people. Because this means building which is going to cut into your social life. And what young person really want to give up their social lives? Yet there is so much that is wanted from life that requires giving life up. So, you think you have what it takes, here is an insight into the climb.

relationships are for lames

Depending on the career path you choose, you better have a pretty understanding partner. Because if you don’t you will lose them and fast. Or, you might find yourself having to give up on your career goals. You will be put in that position since one of them is going to get in the way of the other. They need to understand before even really getting too deep into the relationship what it is you do. They need to know that your time is needed in this other area and that they need to be good without you at times. Not something that is going to go over with too many people. You’ll lose people in life. And that is something you’ll have to just deal with in your pursuit. Everyone is not meant to be in your life on the climb. So choose the people around you wisely.

social gatherings are for networking only

You want to go out for drinks, fine, make sure it’s a place where like minded people will be gathering so it can advance your career. Going to the club to just dance and drink, or looking around for random hookups are not on the list of priorities at this point. You should be thinking about how you’re going to position yourself in this space so that people know who you are, and will aid you in building your brand and/or profile. And when you are not at one of these social gatherings, then it’s in your best interest to not even be out and about.

be broke investing in you

So many people say they don’t have the money to build something for themselves. But if I were to setup and excel spreadsheet of their expenses, I would see something sinister. And that is the allocation of their funds in areas that are not the least bit important. I don’t have the money, but I have a new $1200 iPhone. “Well, there is a payment option for the phone.” Fine, get a cheaper phone, and the payment option for that piece of technology, transfer it elsewhere. “I need a dependable car.” Fine, but why drive a BMW or Mercedes with a high car payment. Get yourself a Ford or GM, with payments of just over $100 per month instead of $500 or $600. You don’t need a luxury vehicle for it to be depended upon. So it is not affordability, but people’s constant need to swipe a credit card for their wants. And you have to eliminate wants from life, unless their is a payment contributing to your overall success.


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