“They’re yours and yours only.”
We all close our eyes and see this place where we want to be. And in my previous post I discussed how we have to think in scope of reality in respect to our dreams. But we also have to acknowledge the fact that our dreams are our dreams. And that no one else has any interest in you achieving your dreams but you. For some reason people think someone is supposed to help them. And notice I said supposed to help. Help is voluntary, not obligatory.
My career pursuits are very difficult, but not once do I look at other people and assume they should be helping me. Trust and believe, if I do get aid, I’m gladly going to take it if the help is worth it. But at the same time, when you look at someone with hands open wide as if they should be doing something for you, you are setting yourself up to lose. Because parents jobs are to give you something in your hand when you reach out for it. But there also lies part of the problem. Parents will give and give, and now the child thinks that’s an aspect of life. Yet they have actually been set up inadvertently for failure.
Me, the world; no one gives a shit about your dreams. Pardon my language, but fuck your hopes and dreams. And that doesn’t mean I don’t care about you. But understand when something is just a dream, but also understand you are the builder. Mainly, realize it’s just a dream that isn’t coming true. That means being honest with yourself and acknowledging that you are not good at something. You can have dreams of being a runway model, but when you are a female standing 5’5″, sorry sweetie, it aint happening. When you’re a man and you want to be in the NBA, but you can barely dribble a ball and stand 5’8″, find a new dream. That’s why I say I don’t care about your dreams. Know when they are unrealistic and understand that it’s your life not anyone else’s.
This brings me back to a speech Denzel Washington gave to a group of theatre students on dreams and goals. He stated that, “True desire in the heart, for anything that is good, is God’s proof to you, set before hand that it’s already yours.” But then he said you have to now claim it. And that’s where people fall short, claiming it. The consistency of showing up daily with no reward, but small strides to success is tough for them. But the one who puts in the work over time ultimately reaps the benefit.
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