“You tend attract to you what lies inside of you unbeknownst to you.”
The laws of attraction are quite real and we all have experienced this in life. We attract like energy and we also open ourselves up the the positive or negative energy that is out in the universe. We experience this a number of ways: through trying to find monogamous relationships, friendships, having random conversations, and/or our daily work environments. The way we attract people into our lives says a lot in who we are as people. Because if not for our energy whether positive or negative they wouldn’t be in our lives. And what do I mean by that, this is what I mean.
When it comes to seeking a potential mate in a relationship, the energy that is you, has a lot to do with the person you wind-up with. This can take place on multiple levels. One way is through how you look at yourself when you stare in the mirror; self-esteem. If you look at yourself as undeserving, you will attract that into your life. Thinking to yourself, this is the best I can do, then you’re going to get the bare minimum or someone mundane. Another level is operating from a space of being tired of getting the same nobody. No one gets the same person over and over again. There is an aspect of that nobody that is you. They feed of your nobody energy like looking into a mirror. They see themselves in you. And the third level is the enabler who feels being there means allowing someone to be irresponsible in moments where responsibility should exist. Meaning, they can see you are a vessel for their irresponsibility, so why not jump aboard for the ride.
Now, when looking at how you attract people as it pertains to friendships, choose those going in the right direction. Or, better yet, choose those going in the same direction as you. This does not mean since you are becoming a doctor, you only need med school friends. It simply means that if you have a vision of where you want to be and the people around you don’t, you’re being irresponsible. You’re of no use to them because they are not trying to better themselves via your initiative, and you as well will start to lower yourself. Because when you’re in a foot race in life, and you are in 3rd trying to get to 1st and they are in 6th, you have to slow down to let them catch you. But 4th, 5th, 7th, and 8th are running. So when you slow down you compromise yourself, so it has to always be them catching up to you, or you let them lose. And if they are bent on running their race, they’ll catch up eventually.
Well, what about the other attraction which delves into the conversations we have in life. Certain conversations we have in life say a lot about who we let into our lives. If you spend your days conversing on telephones with people about random gossip, then you can’t say you’re tired of gossipy people. If you are in a good space mentally, it will actually feel awkward having a conversation that goes into areas of petty behavior. These random petty conversations become beneath you simply because of progression. If there is no progress involved in what you are discussing it becomes difficult to talk about. Meaning, if discussing someone who was on drugs and now is clean and living sober, it feels good. But just discussing someone’s drug habit for the sake of conversation is going to attract a certain type of person/people who revel in other’s misfortunes.
Lastly, I would like to observe our daily work environments. Where you work and the space in and around your job will have an affect as well. When you’re focusing on working and gossip is all around you, then trying to accomplish a task can be tough. Because even though the conversation does not concern you, the human brain is not meant to tune out a lot of conversation. Even though we say things like I’m tuning you out. We still hear conversations, we just try to block them out. And when the conversation concerns someone we see everyday or one of the people talking in question we listen more. So in the midst of trying to ignore, you still soak it all in. Whether the conversation is good or bad, it intrigues the mind to hear something unbeknownst to yourself.
See, in the end, we introduce a lot of energy into us because that energy we invite is apart of us. Unless something is not within you already, it is hard to introduce it. You don’t have to tell anyone about yourself, what we expose ourselves to says it all. A lot of times, the action is more than the verbal. You say you want positive energy in your life, but all you keep bringing in is negative. It’s not that it’s sneaking past you, or you are getting the short end of the stick. There’s no conspiracy to harm you, you are a co-conspirator in your own assassination of character.