FAIL TO PLAN AND YOU PLAN TO FAIL: WHY YOU NEED DIRECTION FOR YOUR LIFE

 

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“Having a projected path.”


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In an effort to build a sustainable career, once must plan their lives out. Does that mean your future will pan out this way, no. But the planning process will keep you on track to achieving your goals. My goals are broad because I am a storyteller. I tell a story through my writing, photography, and creative concepts. So for me, planning is very important. And if I don’t plan it is very easy to find myself in a rut. I know this because I have done things without the proper planning and it has made me feel as if I was going nowhere fast.

childish adult concepts

If you ask an adult what they truly want in this world, a lot of people cannot answer this question. They will give you broad terminology that isn’t quite direct. It’s like asking someone what they want in a relationship and they tell you, someone kind, nurturing; someone who will tend to my needs. Sounds cute when you are a teenager, but not when you are a 35 or 40 year old adult. You need a direct reason for why you are doing something or want something. You want a relationship: have an age range, ethnicity preference, religion, income status, education status, physical attraction, emotional stability. This is what matters in a relationship, so you have to know this, which is also the plans for a career. Income status, city where you want to live, how long do you plan no being a certain employment position. These are more geared questions in your life.

dreams are not goals 

There is nothing wrong with having dreams in life. But your dreams have to be realistic in scope. You can dream of being an astronaut, but thinking you’re going to just go into space at the age of 25 – 30 years old is a stretch. You have to be willing to dedicate a great deal of your life to science before you step on a ship into space. So know what it takes to get to a certain point in life. Don’t look at the chosen few that made it by this weird stroke of luck. That is far from the reality of how you become a professional in your career field.


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STEPPING OUT: FIRST DAY IN THE REAL WORLD

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“It’s terrifying, but we all have to do it.”


When you are a college student, you have all these ideas about how your life will go once college is over. But there is no real blueprint for how life will turn out. No pot of gold awaits you as you walk across that stage. You graduate on a Saturday or Sunday, and then back to your regular day job you currently hold. And that’s when it sets in, yep, life. The blueprint you thought was going to work is not working at all. The plan of getting out, and some organization observing your resume, then giving you a job is not real after all. So what do you do, you keep working whatever job you currently hold. And days turn to weeks, weeks to months, and months to years. And before you know it, you’re working a job that you could have easily gotten not going to college.

Why do so many people give in and say screw it. They quite progressing forward, and now they have this expensive piece of paper that they have to pay off. Meanwhile, there are going to be the few who come straight out and get jobs. But the masses work the same mundane jobs that they had in college. Well, college is the icing on a cake, and sometimes only constitute for sprinkles. The cake is you, and you have to carve something out for yourself. So how do you carve out an identity for yourself? You start to first test out different things that peak your interest. (Oh yeah, something you should have been doing in college, not just partying) Then once you find that something, you should really do as much as you can to hone in on a skill at that thing.

Put yourself in the know as much as possible. Take on internships, go out and build something yourself; put yourself in harms way so things good can happen to you. Which sounds odd to put yourself in harms way, but you have to do so. You have to be fearless and dangerous while you’re young. Don’t be afraid to try your hand at something, anything, to be great. You’re still at an age where that fearlessness is inside of you, and that jaded feeling of dealing with the world is not present. Because at the age of 22, 23, or 24, you can live like a hermit, and build a life. Put your time and energy into the things you love, and are good at in life.

Because in the end, that is my philosophy since I have been actively pursuing my goals for the past 5.5 years. Notice I said goals and not dreams. Dreams are these images you get of being somewhere in life, yet no work is currently being put in. But a goal put you on track to getting where you want to be. And don’t worry about the failures, you’re going to get plenty along the way, but as long as you’re learning from them, they are lessons and not shortcomings.


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YOUR VISION NOT ANYONE ELSE’S: WHY THEY DON’T BELIEVE IN YOU

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“Don’t expect them to believe in you.”


Someone I work with today was informing me that they have had enough and it was time to pursue their purpose. They were about the quite work and embark on their journey to their own personal greatness. It struck me as odd because this was a person who worked a lot, but now they were quitting. But I am embarking on my own journey, and I don’t know what road it will take me down. And that’s when it hit me, I don’t know this person’s inner workings. Maybe they feel that they have it figured out and things are finally making sense inside of their heads. The pieces are starting to come together and everything is working out for the best. But what is it about the people who don’t see your vision? They can not see you past what you are in the moment, and it takes them longer. Sometimes they never turn around, and only live to see you falter.

The reason being is that they may now have passions of their own, or they might not want to see you above them. If you are working a dead-end job and someone is above you, why would they want to see you prevail in life. They might hate their job just as much as you hate yours, but at least they have the upper hand over you. What happens when you overshoot the runaway of what they expected. Your airplane was never supposed to have made it out of the gate. But you have managed to fly off the runway and into the sky. So much so that you are cruising at altitude while they are still at the terminal watching you soar in the air. And that is when it sinks into their head that they must try to say something, anything to get you to stop working.

Because if they give you the confidence to keep pushing, then what is there out here for them. And that’s when you learn that there are people who look at life in the scope of their failures is your success. If you doing so much and they are not where you are, then what does that say about them. So they have to bring you down a few pegs. But if your life is in so much of a wrecked place, do something about it. Don’t try to bring someone else down because you have not landed on your feet. You are not where you thought you would be by now, so in an attempt to not feel alone, you want to keep them where you are in life. This also falls into the whole crabs in a barrel mentality. You are fine by me, so long as we all are stuck in this one place together. And that’s when you have to make moves to separate yourself.

Because in the end, your personal growth is your growth. It’s not up to you to help another adult figure out their stuff in life. You are responsible for your own problems. So as you pursue your dreams, don’t listen to the crowd noise. Your main goal should be to try to tape into the minds of those that love and respect your vision. You are going to always have adversaries, that’s the nature of the game. Just as long as you meet your expectations, that’s all that truly matters.


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DREAMS: BELIEVING IN YOURSELF IS HARD

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“Ever think big, but can’t find your way?”
The phrase seeing is believing is such a real statement. But seeing is not enough, you have to be willing to execute on your plans. And this is where most people get stuck in their pursuit of their dreams. They have all these visions, but are either not quite ready or don’t fully believe. Why is that; why is believing in yourself so hard for so many people? Well, there are a number of reasons why it’s so hard for people to follow through with what they want out of life. I can think of a few right off the back.
The first is the most obvious, and that is that we fear the failure. No one wants to set themselves up to fall. Especially if the fall is really hard. We don’t want to step out into the world and risk losing big where we can’t recover. It’s almost like we want to tailor make life so that we know right off the back how much we will lose. This way we can be comfortable with the outcome enough to pursue. But the reality is that we don’t know if and when we’ll lose. Nor do we know how hard we may fall. So this keeps us from following our dreams.
Another reason why believing in self is so hard is because we are afraid that most won’t see the greatness in what it is we’re trying to achieve. The hardest pill to swallow is that you see genius and they see a waste of time. Imagine if Thomas Edison never was successful and someone else came along behind him and succeeded. You’re talking a lifetime of hurt and pain, just to see someone stroll right in and win. Which leads into our third reason why we find it hard to follow dreams.
The third reason is because pursuing a dream someone else is pursuing and watching them win and you lose. Watching them win makes you realize how you wasted your time. They are reaping benefits that you seem to feel should be coming to you. And that not only makes you resent yourself, but that person who has done well. Your inner disdain is outwardly shown by your failure to rise to the occasion. Now, this is where I come to my fourth and final reason why you don’t follow your dreams.
You know what, maybe you’re just not that good at what it is you want to accomplish. You think in your mind you’re good, but knowing when to throw in the towel is pivotal. We as humans have a hard time with this because we think just because I feel something, means it truly has value. And the reality is that not all feelings mean something. So in the end, people have a hard time following their dreams because of the unknown. We want to know everything; from the risk to the successes. But these are unmeasurable. You have to trust in yourself and work at it. So taking a leap of faith is necessary, but whose willing to take that leap. I will say, those you take the leap are always the most successful in the end.

PETRIFIED: HOW FEAR CAN LEAD TO URGENCY IN LIFE

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“Do you value your time on this earth?”

Ever hear the term time is of essence? That’s because the most valuable commodity in life is time. Money comes and goes, but you only have one shot at life. And for most people there is fear that lies in only having one life. But having fear is not all bad. Sometimes fear gives people more of an incentive to spend their time on Earth being more productive. When you realize that this is the only life we have and after that, that’s it, you’re quicker to get things done. Well, why do we waste time?

Like that old saying, why put off until tomorrow what you can accomplish today. This is not all about putting in the work to live a good life. In my life, I have witnessed the deaths of three very important people close to me: my great grandmother, and both grandmothers (mother and father’s mothers). Missing the relative will never go away, but you don’t have regrets as long as you were able to get the most out of life from them. Some people wait until the person in their family has passed then start asking questions: How come I didn’t call them? I wish I had just a little more time with that person. That’s what is meant by putting off until tomorrow. But we go, it’s ok, I’ll see them tomorrow. But when they pass, you can never get that time back.

Now, in context of working in society, we really put off things on a daily basis that could help us succeed.  It’ll be Monday, and we say things like, “It’s alright, I’ll do it tomorrow.” Then Friday comes and it’s still not done. Not only is it not done, but you may have to accomplish a new task that overlaps with the old one. As you get older, you do less and less of this because you’re more aware of your own mortality. It’s that fear that gives you urgency to get things accomplished. Then why not when we’re young. What is it about being young that we think we’re going to wake up everyday.

Well, when you’re young, you’re not as used to people your age dying. So if you’re 19 years, your time is spent hanging and not thinking about tomorrow. Life is all about drinking and hanging with friends. Life starts to set in around 30 years of age. This is a milestone where you start to realize where your life has come thus  far. It’s when you start looking at life more long term than short term. The fun can still exist, but it has rapidly declined because you understand the ultimate goal in life, and how much time it will take to get there.

In the end, fear can hold us back, but it can also propel us forward. For me, fear is used to help me succeed. If not for my fears, I don’t know how I would function. Not everyone need it, but I do, because it makes me have a goal to accomplish. So with each passing year, I assess where I am in life, and where I want to go. As long as I hit the majority of my targets I am on track to success.

WALLS: THE DANGER OF ISOLATION

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“Who is isolation more dangerous for, you or me?”

Over the past year leading up to the United States presidential election, we have heard the topic of a wall being built between the USA and the Mexican border. No one else has talked more about this particular topic than president elect Donald Trump. Though through all the scrutiny and controversy, Trump managed to win the election. Now the topic of the wall being built along the border has been talked about more now than any other time. Even the former president of Mexico Vicente Fox commented on Trump’s plans for the border. Fox stated that Mexico won’t be building such a wall and if one is built it will come at the expense of taxpayers in America.

Now the question that I ask is that from a political viewpoint we have to protect the U.S. My only question now is if building walls are good for a nation or are they bad for a nation. Every decision you make could be viewed as good or bad. But with any one you choose, you have to take the other side as well. Meaning, you can’t have all good and no bad. You can’t think that everything will be glorious afterward. So what are the positives and negatives of having a wall to separate you if possible. Well let’s take a look at that question.

What are the positives of building a wall? For starters, you can better protect a nation. You are able to keep tabs on who is entering a country and when. When the September 11th attacks that claimed the lives of a few thousand took place, the hijackers managed to enter the country through student visas. Now that’s not the wall that Trump is referring to, but he also made a statement about keeping tabs on people coming from the Middle East as well. Looking at this from a social aspect it can cause tension, but politically it makes sense. If the majority of the people causing problems are arising from individuals coming in from that same part of the world, it’s rational to keep tabs. In addition to the wall in Mexico, the narcotics problem that has for a long time been an issue in America is now more under control. So when you look at the plan from a rational standpoint it makes perfect; Trump’s plan.

As with the good, is also the negative feedback. What are the repercussions from building a wall? One of the issues is that Americans consume a lot of resources. As a matter of fact, so much so, we are forced to go outside the country. Scientifically, if every person in the world ate like Americans it would take three planets to feed the world. And where are two of those places we consume resources from; you got it, the two places Trump has attacked the most. Our oil for uses in mass transportation in the Middle East and the production of automobiles & vegetation/crops in Mexico. Now, everyone is emotional from the election, Trump himself can’t make emotional decisions.

When you do live in a country where your citizens consume so much, but want boundaries on nations, you must be careful the way you communicate with outside nations you need. It could effect mass production on a global scale and ultimately hurt your country. Another reason why walls are bad ties into the resources. Isolation is dangerous to the person or people who isolate themselves. Understand that the world has resources, America can’t sustain alone. So this country need the planet, not the planet needing America.

So in the end, there is always a good and bad with any decision you make. Especially a decision that would require isolation. The good is you know who is in your country, but the bad is that you isolate and hurt yourself. But whatever the case may be, Trump has a pretty tough job for himself moving forward with the building of a wall. Is it good or bad, I don’t know , only time will tell if it does.