AGE APPROPRIATE: WHEN SHOULD YOU PUT YOUR CHILD IN SPORTS?

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“Best time to start.”


when it’s time

As a parent, you can hardly wait for the time to come when you are able to put your small child in sports. Especially if you were active yourself when you were young. Seeing them suit up in that uniform for the very first time is so precious. I was 11 years old the first time I actively started to compete in sports. I went to try out for football and my mother wondered where I managed to know so much about sports given I grew up with her and my two sisters. I stood out quite well that day for tryouts. And managed to play on a team and continued to do so all through high school.

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We all in society have this thing where we know what the other person is going to do when they are going to do it because it is so typical. We know there is this appropriate time to do something or say something. It’s like when you have to talk to your child about where babies come from, there really is no time you want to talk to your kid. But we all know that around a certain age we have to have that talk. The same exist for sports; there are ages where people say when, but we all have come to this agreement about when. Once they start school initially, we allow them to go to school, make some friends, and then we place them into sports. This way they have some type of social skills outside of the sport.

always easy when you have an example

Whenever your child has a sibling, or better a cousin that is in sports, then you can observe from up close. You are able to see an example of around the age you can start to place your child in sports. And you can start to see when your child will become interested in sports. So the culmination of options makes the decision easier. Otherwise you will be lost. And then there are the parents who never had a sibling, parent, cousin, aunt, or uncle interested in sports. That is when the choices are really limited. You are lost, don’t know what to buy or bow to go about buying anything. But in today’s society, there are so many resources that will aid you in your decision making process.


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APPROPRIATE DATING AGE: WHEN YOUTH IS ON TRIAL BASED ON THE GENDER OF THE ELDER

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“Is age really only a number?”


The above photo is a picture I found on the internet that shows what appears to be a much older woman hugged up with a younger man. And it has popped up on dating sites as well. So I ask you, is age only a matter of a number? Is there more that comes with dating someone who is younger that you must realize? Because yes, there are going to be some characteristics besides the physical that we see, that will make dating a person of a certain age different than dating someone close in age. And when I say dating someone younger, I am not referring to dating someone 60 years old if you are 40 years old. Because I feel there is something built into the minds of both parties different than 40 years dating a 20 year old. So, why do men and women begin to date younger?

For starters, you observe men, and we have always dated younger women because it’s just what we have always dated. It’s hard to explain besides the initial attraction which tends to be purely physical. But what is it besides the physical that keeps the situation together? One reason is that we as men and women have two separate biological clocks that differ from each other. When a woman is 35 years of age she is generally already a mother and married, or in the process of; while men typically can wait longer. There is a reason we can wait, it’s because we can have children for the rest of our lives. So there is not this rush to find someone to marry. Women start to decrease odds of bringing a child into the world once they reach a certain age. So men date younger because when a younger woman is ready to have children she’s still young and not in rush up to that point.

Well, what about women and their reasons for wanting to date younger. In the recent years, more and more women have opened up the possibilities of dating younger. Only when it comes to women, the relationships become a little more complicated. Women have traditionally themselves gone for much older men because men by a certain point in life are established in their careers. So dating a man who is younger goes against so much of their beliefs about relationships. So when an older woman dates a guy who is younger, the situation is usually judged by women more harsh than men. Because you as a woman knows how the majority of you feel about that particular situation. So it’s odd to you to see that couple.

In the end, for me, it comes down to a certain age at different stages of life. Now that I am 30 years old, I would much rather date a woman who is at least 23 years old or 24 years old. Because she is out of college, and starting to have a realistic perspective of society. Before that point we all have these altruistic views of the world that aren’t real, so I would have a hard time communicating with someone not in the general population already. You need to have to some degree of an understanding of how the workforce works. This way you know my struggle and understand my work ethic.


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THROUGH SIMILAR EYES: HOW WILL THE FUTURE LOOK TO MY GENERATION IN OLD AGE

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“What will tomorrow through my eyes look like compared to them today?”


You ever wonder what the world looks like through the eyes of a person whose been on Earth a very long time? And when I say long, I mean someone who is in their 90’s or even 100 years old. My great grandmother was born near the turn of the century in the early 1900’s. And to be exact, it was 1914; so I wonder what did life look to her around the time of her getting close to 90. SheImage result for 20th century died in the year 2010, and that must have been some intense life. The politicians she witnessed take office, the multiple ways in which we communicate, the social movements, and the way technology has made leaps and bounds. So I ask of all those millennials out there like me, “What will life look like to those of us who make it to that point in life?”

Just this past week, I had the opportunity to test a VR (virtual reality) headset that someone I know designed. And just by observing through this headset, you can feel how much life is going to change once the technology is really to scale. You’ll get a chance to experience life in the past through the use of this headset. Related imageMeaning, technology will be so good that we can recreate moments of the past and live them through these innovative machines. Not just the technology, but what will the state of relationships look like by this time. If I live to 90 to 100 years old, you are going to have people who have been married for 40, 50, and 60 years who met on Tinder or some other dating site. It sounds crazy today, but will be totally fine in the future. Members of the LGBTQ community raising children and adopting will be a non-conversation point. And I will be of a generation that has experienced what we read about in books.

That means I will be old enough to have gotten a chance to vote for America’s first Black president. Which most likely by this time will have been so much of an after thought that the conversation will be archaic. I will have remembered when the White House was illuminated in the rainbow colors to mark the day when gays had the right to vote. I will remember events that took place that rocked the country such as September 11th terror attacks and even Image result for 9/11the Oklahoma City bombing which claimed the lives of so many young children. Natural disasters such as Hurricane Andrew, Katrina, and Sandy. I will be one of the last generations born in the decades known as the 1980’s and the generations born who remember the 1900’s as a century in time. I will even remember the first social media ways in which we first started to communicate. Meaning, I will be the last of the age group who remember when the internet was created for the public.

In the end, living on this planet for a long time gives you a sense of understanding about civilizations that no one else has experienced. What everyone else had to read about, you lived through and witnessed. So you will become almost like a form of entertainment for people to come and ask questions. People will also on average live longer, so there will be more centennials than any other time period. Now I can’t guarantee that I will be that age upon death, but what a time a Earth that must be to experience so much in life.


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FAST FORWARD: WHY WE WANT TO SPEED UP TIME TO SUCCESS

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“No one wants to wait, we just want to be there.”


Success takes a lot of time; sometimes more time than we are willing to wait. Don’t you wish sometimes you could just fast forward your way through time. Well, at least until you’re in a more comfortable position in life. Yet, when we fast forward, there are other non-controllable things that can happen as well. Are we willing to deal with those as well? You may be successful, but people around you might die. Your loved ones could perish without you being able to say your last good-byes. So why not just let time tick as time ticks? It’s that long arduous road to where you want to be that’s why.

When we start out in life, it’s usually at the bottom. At the bottom financially, at the bottom socially. And we all have this place where we would like to be. But the time it takes to get there is so long, we wish we could fast forward to success. Well, what happens if we could? But your success you want is at the age of 60. You click forward at age 25 and now you just missed out on nearly 40 years of life. You will miss out on so much on that road to success that your end result is not even worth the time moving forward. You want to enjoy all the time it took to get you where you want to go. If not, once you reach success, you may not appreciate it. Yet we still want to keep moving forward nonetheless.

Unless that is, you get a certain level of success at a young age. Then, no one wants to push the time forward. You want to live in every moment of the time you are in. But people around you may not want to push the time forward. And all of these people not willing to wait comes from a lack of guarantee. Who want to put in so much work and then nothing formulates in the end. What if you fast forward years and still nothing? What did your life really mean? Just because you say fast forward until I am successful, doesn’t mean there is success in your life. Your life might actually be failure after failure after failure. Can you stomach your existence on Earth boiling down to nothing?

In the end, people don’t want to live in the moment especially when the moment is so awful. We don’t want to grind it out to get nothing in the end. On the other hand, if you don’t do anything there is nothing in itself. In today’s society, we are currently in a strange time as it pertains to success. There is no real path to take in life. Years ago the path lead to somewhere, now the path can go up, down, side to side, and reverse. It’s whatever you make the path out to be. And that’s what it comes down to, making life what you want it to be. Because in the end, it’s your life.


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THE FORGOTTEN ONES: THE LONESOME POPULATION OF ELDERLY IN AMERICA

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“Everybody has to get old; who will care for you?”

As we age in society most of us contemplate what will come of ourselves as we get older. Will we be able enough to care for ourselves or will we need assisted living? Will there be someone there to check in on us like a friend or family or will we be placed in a care facility? For most people, no one wants to be placed in an elderly facility. We call them, “Old Folks Homes,” and they carry so many negative connotations. From the neglect of no one coming to see them or the physical and mental abuse some endure while they are there at the hands of staff members. But what I am writing about is not just living in an assistant living facility, but the loneliness elderly people face.

Walking the streets of New York City, you see elderly men and women who have no friends and no family. And for the ones who do have loved ones, the close relatives don’t even bother coming around to visit them. So the elderly sit around bored and alone. Some who are physically unable to leave confines of their homes, so they just wither away. I read in the newspaper or even watch the news about how elderly men and women in the housing projects never leave their apartments; especially during the winter months. It’s no wonder a lot of them face mental issues or their memories diminish. There is nothing around them to keep their minds sharp. I had a grandmother (my mother’s mother) who passed away, but it was a physical ailment. Outside of that, she was an able bodied woman. As for other people her age, a lot weren’t.

But why, why do we leave the older generations not cared for, even though we ourselves have to get old one day? Do we do it because we don’t care? Or is it because we have to make a living for ourselves in today’s society? A lot of it has to do with having to live in society yourself. If you are the everyday working man or woman, you have to be out earning in society. So trying to care for a parent or other relative is tough. And with a lack of jobs, people are forced to work more now than ever. So the idea of working multiple jobs is a reality. Now you’re going to have even more people aging and left alone. I don’t think people are careless, it’s just you have to work so hard at yourself it’s tough to care for another close to you.

In the end, the aging population of men and women in America is growing because due to modern medicine people are living longer. Does that mean even more lonely and shutout citizens? The upside to all this is that we have more able bodied elderly. As a matter of fact, my mother and her sisters are considered elderly, but by their ability to be mobile they are far from it. You wouldn’t know that these are women who have officially become the elderly. Because 60 years old in the past was old, it’s still young in the world today. So maybe there is some good that could come from the new aging population.

FIGURED OUT: IS THERE REALLY AN AGE LIMIT THAT COMES WITH KNOWING LIFE?

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“What comes with knowing life and the world around you?”

I have always heard growing up that if you keep going to sleep and waking up, I’ll figure the world out eventually. But I ask myself, is there really an age that comes with figuring out the world. Because when it comes to figuring out the world, the only thing I really need to know is people. Everything else is dictated by nature accept for us as a species. Plants have their way of interacting and animals have their way. But what about people? What is there really to figure out? I mean I think I have life already figured out, but soon as you say that people assume something else. Well let me explain what I mean by that statement.

When I say I have life figured out, I am not saying the intricacies that of the Earth and the Universe. I am more so talking about us as people. You see, when I was a young child I was babysat in the house by a few of my elders. My great-grandmother, her daughter (my grandmother), my grandmother’s sister, and their sister-in-law. But what I remember most was something that I asked my great grandmother as to why she never left the house. Her response was always the same, “Ain’t nothing out there.” Now, my mother knows what that means now that she is pushing 60 years of age. But at the age of 29 years old, I already know what that means.

See, my great grandmother was born around the early 1900’s and passed away in my second year of undergrad. So you’re talking a lot of years of witnessing humanity. Humanity at our worst and at our best. So when you are 96/97 years of age, why go outside. And living in New York City with such a diverse group of people, I now know what she meant now. Once you come in contact with enough of us as people. Understand what motivates us, our agendas, likes, and dislikes; you really don’t need to explore much after a while. Maybe this is why I am so aloof of a man. I think I understand us too much at too a young of an age.

Put it this way, look at life. People say life isn’t fair, but yet it’s very fair. Millions of sperm is thrust from the male genitalia. Yet, out of all those millions only one will fertilize the egg. Even with this one sperm reaching the egg, there is no guarantee the egg will fertilize. But let’s say it does; the journey from Fallopian Tube, to the fully mature baby in the wound, anything can happen. Those nine months can result in a child, or a still born infant. Now, let’s also further assume a baby is born, then what? Is the hard part over? No because as the child is released from the mother’s wound, all sorts of measures must be taken to clean and protect the baby from this new world. That infant immediately becomes exposed to everything from viruses to bacteria.

So, that infant comes home and from infancy through adolescent life you make that journey. From early adulthood to middle aged. Given that the average human body is only built to reach 40 years of age, yet due to improved scientific medicine we live to 78 years. Now, do you think life is fair now; yes or no? That is what I mean by I have life figured out. That is really the only thing to figure out. Yet anything else involves dealing with the human aspect of this planet. And this is what makes life hard; humanity. So biologically I have life figured out, but we make life unfair as people. There is enough food and water for every human on Earth, yet we as people get in the way of everyone having it.

Now you ask again, do I think I have life figure out? Of course because life is what I am doing now typing this blog post. It is the state of human existence, life. Living is dealing in the society in which I dwell. Outside of humanity, what else is there to know, or I must figure out. Human impact is the biggest impact. You don’t have food, human; lost your job, human; got cheated on, human. People say life throws you curve balls. Like what sicknesses, that’s not much of a curve ball, we all get sick. We just think it’s a curve ball because of the, “We think there for I am,” mentality. I think I am going to wake up tomorrow, I think I will be successful. Then you lose your job, that’s not a curve ball life thrown you, man fired you from work; human.

In closing, we have this notion that life must be figured through years of living, yet living alone is not enough. Watching and keeping your eyes open in your environment has a lot to do with knowing life. When you’re young, your eyes aren’t open because you’re into yourself. Your goals are paramount, yet when you get older and lose people and tangibles, you see nothing is guaranteed. As for me, I don’t live my life like the average 20 something. I am always trying to see the world from another perspective. Not just human thought processes, but natural. Our universe is so vast and infinite, yet we only have a finite time on this Earth as people. And how you spend your time will ultimately become your legacy when you die. So given that I know life and the living, I want to know more. Something higher, another level up. Something above us, greater than use, that man has not yet grasped hold of, that we seek to hold in our grasp. And with an infinite universe, and a finite species, opportunities are endless.

ODDBALL: WHY YOU CAN’T CONNECT TO YOUR AGE GROUP

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“You ever get the feeling you’re too old to be so young?”

Waking up at 5:00 am and going to the first of my two part time jobs. Then in the middle of the day when I’m not working I work on my novel. Unless I don’t work double shifts, then it’s all day in the computer lab. In addition to my novel I have my book of short stories, pre-production for my next short film, freelance photography in 2017, and finding a way to build my podcast show I want to start in 2017! So when I hear, man, when I get out of work, I’m going home to chill; it creeps me out. Or better yet, I’m about to go home and blaze up.

Blaze up! The world is passing every single second of the day and you’re getting high. What about doing more, don’t you want to do more? I have a theory about those type of people. When you’re in your 20’s, you don’t quite know what you want out of life. So you spend the entire decade hanging and partying with an occasional hook up. It’s a sign that you don’t have anything you’re passionate about in life. But I found my passion when I was only 23/24 years old. Am I special, no, I just hate waking up, work, home, eat, then sleep. Why don’t I connect with the average person my age? It’s more than just not having passion.

Another reason I don’t connect or anyone else in my position is because of how I look at the world. When you’re young you think you know everything. The whole world is myopic to you because you have not been anywhere yet. And I’m not talking about traveling. I’m talking about the hardships that come with life. You’re not jaded yet by the world because of the things you see around you. Now me, I am jaded, why because I think I know too much about my surroundings. It’s this weird unexplained awareness. Now you ask yourselves, aren’t you a 20 something. Aren’t you doing what makes you irritated about so many other 20’s. Not quite.

Other 20’s have conversations like for instance political stance that lack substance. For example, “I could never vote for Trump!” He’s just bad for the country and Hilary is right!” “I can’t see how anyone would vote for a man like that!” “I can’t even talk to a person who would vote for a man like him!” Now me, I look at life for starters never say never. I have disagreed politically at times with him, but wouldn’t all together rule a person out. You have to way your options before making a decision. If you’re a person that all you see is bad in someone and no good, you’re just as pitiful as them. No one has all bad traits. Also, saying how could someone vote for him, yet in the same breathe stating I can’t converse with a Trump supporter answers your question as to why someone would vote for him. You have to talk to the person who you see as your opposition. But it’s hard to do so when you only stick your points.

The same applies to social ways of looking at the world. My generation says you shouldn’t fat shame, but are quick to put each other in the friend zone if they are not the archetype that we call people out for doing. We say no bullying, until a random person walk in the room we don’t know. Then a conversation ensues around what they are wearing and how they looked wearing their attire. We scream racism, but the same hipsters who are anti-racist actively work to remove certain ethnic groups from the community in opposition of their culture. We say we see woman in Kaitlin Jenner, but a woman wouldn’t dare date a man whose been with a transgender woman. Men say our new president disrespects women, all the while we shoot the shit the same why.

And that’s why I say I see and know too much. It is not just the lack of plausible information we use to drive our points. But it’s the willingness to stick to those points and not bend. You would think age changes people from age range to age range, but from 18 – 30 years is not much of a quantum leap. From some of the clothes to the music selection. I don’t feel my age, which could mean I am maturing faster than people my age or missing out on experiencing life at my age. But I can’t help how I feel. Feelings are real; the cognitive disconnect to my age group is real. Sad thing is that a lot of people never change. They wonder through life, aimlessly searching. Trying to find their place in a world that is rapidly passing them by.