THEY ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS: WATCH HOW YOU MAKE WORKPLACE BUDDIES

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“Don’t bring them too close.”


friendly workplace

At work, we all would like to think of ourselves as these very friendly people. But we must sit back and think to ourselves and realize we are all in competition as well. It’s good and all to be nice, but you have to understand that we may be going for the same position. That is tough because how can you be friendly with someone who is your nemesis at the same time. And I know I know, you probably saying, “Nemesis, that’s a bit harsh.” But you really are when you look at it. We all want to make a comfortable living, yet this friend of yours is standing in the way. So now you have to make a decision.

kept at arms length

I have been guilty of this type of behavior. I am known to be the guy who either don’t say much or the one who is the aloof good quiet guy. So people may look at this and take it a certain way. As for me, I don’t want to get to close to the people in competition. The reason being, you guys are friends up to a certain point in life. You are not besties that are going to raise your children together. And hell you might be, but it shouldn’t truly show itself. Keep yourselves at a certain arms length.

trouble comes and fingers point

when it’s all said and done, we all have bills to pay. No one wants to lose their job over workplace bullshit. So when drama starts, rest assured, the fingers will start to point. And no matter how good of friends you are with someone, they will rat you out. They are not losing their job when they have children, spouse, food, and a mortgage. They will dime you out, so make sure they are too close to know too much. This way anytime anything gets started around the office, you are never in the conversation. I have always been in conversation for work, never something that could get me fired. Be aware of those close to you.


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CHANGE I WISH I COULD BELIEVE IN: THE ADJUSTMENT FROM COLLEGE TO SOCIETY FOR YOUNGER GENERATIONS

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“Surviving the adjustment.”


the real world

This school year just started for a lot of incoming freshmen into college. As for the seniors that walked across the stage this past summer, their worries are about to start. Because they are stepping into the workplace environment. What does mean for them? You’re talking about a generation that has been used to a lot of coddling for the greater portion of their lives. Now they have to matriculate into this new world where things are not handed to you. You will not be rewarded a 10th place ribbon unless you are in the top three. But what is it about the business environment that makes life hard?

you’re the creator

When building your career it is going to be you against the world. So however far you go will ultimately be up to you. You need to be the decision maker for your life will become. And that is when the frustration and true anxiety set for the first time. How do you tailor make your life to be what you want it to be. I wonder how many people can honestly do this. The how is as you get on the job you will feel out what is you seek to become.

expectations and standards

We all look at like ourselves as more that what we are in society. And because we dilute ourselves into more great than we are, we have these expectations and dreams that take years and years to plan. Then you take years for yourself to grow financially. But our social media has made life this ready made existence that is nowhere near the real thing.So, so many young people in the workplace are having a harder time time. But it’s no harder than prior generations. They are just not ready because we gave them so much too soon.


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WORKPLACE MANNERS: HOW TO BEHAVE IN WORK WITH EMPLOYEES

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“Know your surroundings.”


the workplace

The workplace has been for the longest an environment where you could grow to have a relationship with the people you work along side. But as time progressed, we had to create more and more of an environment where people felt safe. And that means that certain workplace etiquette was enforced so that people wouldn’t feel threatened. Not only were there rules implemented for the workplace for how you should behave, but also laws were enacted that gave people rights that otherwise wouldn’t be allotted to them by the organizations or institutions that employed them. And just to name a few, I have rules below that were put in place to make us as workers feel safe.

protocol

There were policies that were put into place to make the worker feel good about coming to work each day.

SEXUAL HARASSMENT

The EEOC (Equal Employment Opportunity Commission) has a strict guideline for the protocol that must be taken when in the workplace. And this is a form of discrimination that stems from Image result for EEOCthe Civil Rights Act of 1964. Harassment does not have to be of the opposite sex, nor does the person accusing have to be the one harassed. And that can be an interesting circumstance especially if the person and the other being spoken to have a mutual relationship. That means someone just in the vicinity can be uncomfortable just by your comments that have nothing to do with them. So you have to be careful now in that regard.

POLITICS

On jobs, especially right now in this divisive country, we are a lot of times strictly prohibited from having political discussion in the workplace. With the right and left battling it out to see whose Image result for MAGAside is better, you can really have a breakdown in the workplace with all this political talk. And not just talk about the presidents, it has crept into our sports and entertainment as well. So to keep things very simple, some workplaces don’t even allow people to talk about the fact that they are going to vote period. Because that in itself has caused problems just the idea of your vote
counting. So no discussions about politics, only work.

INCOME

A rule that has stood for so long, even longer than the previous two, and that is we don’t talk about money in the workplace. We don’t discuss who makes what and how they got the money they have on the job. That only creates even more problems when that takes place. Because now you have people who feel this person does not deserve to make as much as this person over here. And now, the workplace breakdown causes a lack of productivity. Since this person makes this much, they should be doing this or that. So we leave income to the person who makes the income.

RELIGION

Please, please, please keep your religious beliefs to yourself in the workplace. Yes America is a place to practice what you believe. But knowing that this is a diverse country where even in Christianity, we practice so many different sects, there are even more issues through other beliefs. So IO don’t even want to spend much time on this one. You will save yourself a lot of paperwork and lawsuits.

efficiency 

The overall goal of any workplace is to maintain the productive nature of the job. We want everything to be effective, efficient, and productive. Once that leaves we are all in jeopardy of losing out.


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LIFE GOING NOWHERE: HOW TO DEAL WITH A DEAD END JOB

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“Time for a change.”


bad job

I have had my fair share of bad jobs in my life. And what do you do when you are stuck on a bad job that you just can’t seem to get away from. You hate being there, but unless you’re in a relationship with someone who makes a substantial amount of money, you can’t just quite. So a lot of people stay on their jobs and never leave that position. So from here on out they show up day in and day out. Five days per week (depending on the job, weekends as well), four weeks out of the month, for the entire year. And before you know it, years have gone by and you have done nothing but go to this job.

rest breeds complacency

Coming home from your dead end job, you just want to rest. But what that does is forces you to wake up, only with enough time to get ready for your job again. So as difficult as it may seem, you have to force yourself to keep going. Think about the job you go to, and not only want more, push for more. For two reasons: 1) when the job function is no longer needed to keep the organization going, they will get rid of you, 2) you will eventually live to resent other people who are living their best life. And when I say do better, I am not only talking about financial. You could learn more that will allow you to stay on board if the company starts letting people go. You will have the ability to matriculate into this new way of business.

trust the process

In the paradigm of living, nothing we do seem like it’s working while we’re doing it. I look at the career of Hollywood actress Tiffany Haddish.How over the recent year, she has taken off in her career. But she has been performing comedy since her early twenties. Now who has the guts to work for the next 15 years, with disappointment after disappointment, to come into their success. We all want to wake up tomorrow with her success, but it just doesn’t happen that way. And her is why people can’t break out of the dead end job. What’s crazy is that before you know it, 15 ears passes, and they see the person who put in early. And that’s when the resentment sets in because they have wasted precious time they can never get back.


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WORKPLACE MANNERS: HOW TO ACT TOWARD WOMEN WHILE AT WORK

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“Mind your manners.”


Over the past couple of months, more and more women have come out against men in the public eye with sexual harassment claims. Once the top man in the entertainment industry was brought down, Harvey Weinstein, there has been a constant barrage of women sharing their stories. You would think some of the men would say they were innocent, but all have been admitting to the behavior. So with that said, what types of standards must be further implemented in the workplace to insure that women are safe. And the reason that I say women is because the odds of men coming out in this fashion against the women are rare. As a matter of fact, men coming forward with stories is so rare because the workplace etiquette from women have traditionally been respectable. So what is it with this behavior that have lead so many of these men down this path?

Image result for matt lauerBecause just yesterday, television news correspondent Matt Lauer was fired from NBC for his sexual misconduct at work. And the problem is that a lot of these men come from a time period where so much of this bad behavior was commonplace. As a matter of fact, it was so commonplace, that women never even thought twice about the advances at work. But today, with so much changing in this digital era where information travels faster, you can’t be what  you used to be at the workplace with behavior towards women. That is not to assume that the women in the past were totally fine with the advances because a lot of them weren’t. They just had a hard enough time trying to secure employment, so they didn’t want to say anything that would have rocked the boat. See, I have a different means of approaching the situation when working with women at work.

Any job that I have had, usually involves me having very small talk with the women around me. Keeping everything very basic and very simple; with a hello, how are you, and then conducting my business as usual. It may come off as distant and antisocial, but when you see what has been transpiring in the news to public figures, I know I would be fired. But that type of atmosphere in itself is rather uncomfortable, yet you have to watch yourself. Because I know women who don’t mind being complemented at work when they look nice, but others meet the comments with disdain. And you are basically rolling the dice when you speak.So what is the proper workplace etiquette?

In the end, most women will tell you that they don’t come to work to be complemented. But there are women that feel a lot more comfortable around some men and not others. So the answer is Image result for women workplace flirtynot always being complemented, but whose giving the complement. And that in itself is a slippery slope. But the reality is that if the woman is uncomfortable, I don’t care if one guy makes her feel one way and one guy makes her feel the other way. The one guy that is making her uncomfortable must stop, not the one she’s fine with conversing. Sounds irritating if you’re a guy, but some men creep women out more than others.


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LOSE OF INNOCENCE: HOW ADULTHOOD ROBS YOU OF YOU

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“You lose and lose and lose; then maybe you win.”


When you’re young, everyone tells you about how adulthood will pan out, Yet it does not quite amount to the struggle when you do become and adult. You’re told you have to work to become the person you want to be. But when you’re actually working to be that person, then you see it first hand. And you start to ask questions you never thought you would find yourself asking. Questions like, “Are humans really built to work like this everyday?” “I want a one dollar McChicken from McDonald’s; you mean to tell me I need a full-time job for a one dollar sandwich?” And with all the questions you ask, hopefully you’re able to come out on top. Yet so many don’t come out on top.

So inevitably, what is lost from your climb to success. In my opinion, when all you’re doing is working, then a bit of innocence is lost. You lose some humanity, as well as you becoming a little less empathetic person. You go from caring about the loved ones around you to what’s in it for me. And that’s when even more of you is lost. But why are we like this? Well, it’s because of how man constructed society.  Humans evolved to live on this planet, but not to necessarily work all the time. But we also needed to construct the world to keep everything in order also. So part of that keeping order was building economies. And as a driver in these economies, jobs and a marketplace of buyers and sellers.

So now, society is situated around attaining a living. Yet we are not happy creatures; more stressed than anything. But we continue on because there is this held belief that there is light at the end of the tunnel. We wake up every morning giving thanks for another day on Earth. But how content are we really? Maybe this is the reason we cling on to other aspects of society, like religion or having social lives. Or even maintaining monogamous relationships. It gives a real human existence outside the hustle of our work lives. Because a vast majority of our lives is predicated on what we do for a living. So it’s tough when we don’t have anything going on outside of work.

In the end, the older we get, the more we lose ourselves. And when I say ourselves, I don’t mean our self-respect. I mean this small amount of humanity that we lose. I think this is why we sometimes place ourselves around charities. We give back because it gives us what we lose through so much struggle in life.


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SUPERVISOR OR DICTATOR: DO YOU NEED TO BE A TOUGH EMPLOYER

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“Who do you prefer to work for in life?”


We have all worked for them, and can’t stand to be around them. They are supervisors on jobs who you live to hate. They are the overbearing types that push and push and push until you do something or say something you regret. They don’t have much power in their own lives, so having a say over you is worth coming to work for them. But I have to ask the question, Do you really have to be hated to be respected on a job? Do you have to carry a big stick in order to grab people’s attention? My answer is no, you don’t have to be the dictator in order to get people to listen. So why are there people like this on the job?

Like I said before, for starters, they are people who don’t get respect in their daily lives outside of work. So when they get on the job, they can be some of the hardest people to work for. Not receiving respect in your daily life in society makes you resent. But most of all, these types of people who don’t get respect know people who do. And if you are someone that get respect easily, and you work for someone that don’t, they can sense it. And they will make your life hell because you remind them of how much they don’t get it. You will also remind them of the people in society that they want respect from and don’ get it.

See, you don’t have to be the dictator to get people to listen. One of the ways to get people to listen is connect to your employees. This task is easily accomplished when you are a good communicator. But most of all, the people who work for you will be able to read that you are a good communicator. So you won’t have to be the dictator type because you know what people need and they know what you expect from them. But, are there other reasons as to why employers may be the dictator? What about the physicality of the person in charge or their gender?

Physicality can play a role in the type of supervisor you’re going to get. At times, you notice men who are less attractive and shorter, I’ve noticed can be tough. Well, how so, how does this play a factor in the way they supervise? Being in the midst of more physical alpha males, you see this Napoleon complex where they might be tougher on you than anyone else. Or if they see people naturally connect to you because you look a certain way. As far as gender, women and men have different styles of supervising. I have had either very friendly or very rude women I have worked for. The very tough feel they have to be because since they are a woman people feel they can walk over them. And the very friendly act this way because they don’t want to come off as too aggressive.

In the end, working for an employer can be either an enjoyable or depressing work environment. Now, for the chosen few who work for themselves and are able to elude this, consider yourselves lucky. Then again, if you are your own boss, chances are, you have employees. So it may be you who is the intolerable employer.


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