CULTURE CRITICS: PEOPLE FROM THE OUTSIDE

 

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“Not my cup of tea.”


those who have no interest

A lot of people have no interest in pushing culture forward, and they could care less what happens to the culture. But when these same individuals really do want a say in what the culture does, then t becomes a problem. Because if you have no interest and don’t care for it, then what’s it to them if it ultimately fails. So we cannot allow these types of people to get their hands on the culture. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but they should not have a seat at the table. But who are these people and how do we spot these types of people? Well, it can be difficult because sometimes these people come in disguise.

listen close to the critique

People don’t always just come out and say I don’t like this cultural thing or this thing. Sometimes people have a critique where they try to circumvent. They create some type of work around so they don’t have to outwardly say what they don’t like. So you have to have the objective ear to understand what it is they are saying to you. For example, some people may try to say they don’t like your culture because it far too rowdy. But then the music they listen to is just a gritty. Then what they do is create some type of work around to deflect away from the conversation so they don’t have to deal with what you asked them. But sometimes it’s harder, but make sure when you listen, don’t be too biased. Be able to decipher between objective opinion and plain out hate.

do they matter

We have to think long and hard if these people who hate truly matter to us. Because if they are aiding the culture, and have no impact, why do we care. We shouldn’t unless the culture is weak in the first place. But what we should do is act as if they don’t exist. Because rest assured you have no impact on their culture.


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DOUBTERS: WHY YOU ACTUALLY NEED THE HATERS IN YOUR LIFE

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“You will never make it, so why try?”


We’re always taught in our lives to surround ourselves with good people.  Place yourself around those going in the same direction as you. But what happens when all of that is attempted to be derailed by someone who wants to kill your dreams. That means you have to work that much harder to make it happen yourself. Those dream killers are the doubters who either out loud or silently told you it would never happen. They are the ones who it didn’t work for them, and don’t want it to work for you. Where does it come from; why do they need to feel the need to bring you down? And why do you actually in a way need these type of people in your life.

Doubters are people who for a number of reasons may not want to see you succeed in your career of interests. You have the first group of doubters that are the ones that will tell you try something else. They are flat out not interested in anything you do. They see you in the present state and can’t see past that point. You’re perceived by them as a slacker or loser. So they can’t get around the loser that is you. So to them you’re going to always be what your are. Another group of doubters are the people whose careers didn’t pan out so they have to tell you how much it won’t work for you. To them, they couldn’t make it and there is no way you’re better than them. So they just know you’ll fail in life. And if you do succeed, they’ll find the most negative stuff to say about you.

The third group of doubters are the people who have their success and don’t want you to surpass them. To them, you are a threat and must be stopped. But they are not going to just stop you, they’ll be overly negative. The goal is to get you to quit because a lot of times you work for them. They are comfortable with you under them and can’t stand you above where they think you should be. Kind of how comedians have come out recently after Kevin Hart. They were fine when he was below them, now he’s way above them, and now there is every reason to say he doesn’t deserve it. But the last group of doubters are the flat out hate group. They usually have no real discernible talent, and need to bring you down. Because your success further shows how much of their life was a waste. Especially if they remember when both of you were at the bottom. It shows how much time they’ve wasted in their lives.

Now, with all that I have stated, why do we need these doubters? Well, first and foremost they push us to be better. There is no motivation like people telling you you’re not good enough. You work overtime to prove them wrong. But I think the biggest reason we need doubters is to gain an insight into the human psyche. People who doubt you expose aspects of their personality. And not because of criticism; but hate. Criticizing someone is fine when you have a solution to make a situation better. But hate for the sake of hate let’s you in on who the criticizers are internally. And in the end that’s the just of doubters. They have their own internal workings going on. But how they see you and who you really are is totally different. As long as you have self-awareness, what they say has no hold.


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SO SO CONCERNED: WHY ARE PEOPLE SO VESTED IN OTHER PEOPLE’S LIVES

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“Worrying about you is your only full-time job.”


In today’s society, the use of social media has put everyone in everyone else’s business. But why, why have we become so interested in what other people are doing. Why have we become so enamored with how others are living their lives? Part of it has to do with the nothing going on in our own lives and other aspects of it has to do with loving to get others in trouble. And that’s an interesting account of us; the getting each other in trouble. Because no matter if it’s a public figure or the average Joe. We love to catch people doing something they shouldn’t be doing. Where is all this coming from?

Well, when looking at it from the context of nothing going on in your life, that’s key. When you have goals and aspirations of your own, it’s virtually impossible to concern yourself with others. But when nothing much is going on in your own life, you have nothing but time. Because in today’s society working a 40 hour work week has become 30 – 35 hours per week. So now we have more free time than prior years. So what are you doing with that time? Are you utilizing that time to pursue anything? If not, what is your purpose in life? Just waking up to exist to the next day and then the next day is not a way to live. But for the people who have nothing but time, this is how they live their lives.

Which leads into my next reason as to why people are so concerned. They see that someone else’s life is much more interesting than their own. Because if you’re constantly working on something, your life is appealing to those that aren’t doing much of anything. For example, I am working toward a career as a filmmaker, author, and blogger. People look at that and feel your life is quite interesting. To you, it is a struggle, but to them it’s something to talk about. No matter how positive or even negative, it’s something to discuss. But a lot of times today, it’s not positive feedback, but the negative. So much negativity is leant out to those who are in what people who perceive as a better position.

An example would be the Kardashian-Jenner sisters. So many people have so much to say about them. Yet their lives are progressing forward and the people who hate their lives don’t change at all. You’re concerning yourself with sisters whose lives are in a position far beyond yourself. You should be working at trying to remove yourself from your bad situation. But they for some reason cannot see past what someone else has in life. What’s interesting is that the same energy placed on worrying about others should be put into your own life. Because that same energy is what that person you’re worried about is putting into their work. But you can’t make the people who hate see that for themselves.

In the end, we have become a society of voyeurs. This voyeuristic behavior has cost people jobs and relationships. Now, I don’t see it slowing down, especially with the increase in social media usage. But eventually, so many people will be snooping that finding out something about another person will be irrelevant. Worrying about other people will always render the same outcome. And that outcome will be people wasting their lives concerned with others. But if your life is heading in the right direction, you have no time to concern yourself with what others are doing.


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LEBRON HATE: WHY PEOPLE WANT HIM TO FAIL SO BAD

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“He’s not the first and won’t be the last.”


NBA All-Star Lebron James has been dealing with controversy ever since he decided to leave Cleveland the first time and head to the Miami Heat. Since then, he has returned to Cleveland, yet the hate has still been going strong. And now that he has surpassed Michael Jordan as the all-time leader in scoring in the playoffs, people having been making the comparison. Now, more hate than ever has popped up because he’s being compared to arguably the greatest NBA player in history. So I started to come up with a theory as to why people may have an issue with Lebron being compared to Jordan. And it has to do with two things: his move to Miami and breaking records.

The first issue people have with Lebron and being compared to Jordan is that Jordan never left the Bulls for another team. When he left basketball, it was to go to play baseball and that was for a short stint. Jordan also never asked other athletes for help because he couldn’t win a championship with the Bulls himself. So that move caused a lot of people to not like him also. Nonetheless, he went 2-4 in wins in the NBA finals with the Miami Heat before returning to Cleveland. Then, as he returned, his first year back, he was defeated by Golden State Warriors, then beat them next year. Now, he is in the conversation with the greats. People are still not willing to let go of the Miami move and don’t feel he earned his rings. But another reason for the disdain is the broken records.

We look at Michael Jordan as this deity of basketball, so when Lebron surpassed him, it was major. Lebron has not only broken his playoff point record, but also seems to show no signs of slowing down. We look at Jordan like this unbeatable God that no one in our lifetime could beat, then James comes along and crush. And that’s the hate he receives, he crushed so many belief systems in the impossible. When you think you have witnessed something special and someone comes along and completely kills the idea of the impossible. But people, come on now, records are meant to be broken. Just as Lebron broke MJ’s record, someone will eventually come along to beat Lebron’s records.

See, in the end, Lebron is not the only person to be compared to a past beloved athlete and get rejected. And now James is in the NBA finals and more people want him to lose more than ever. They want him to lose so bad, and it’s sad. Sad, not just because people are routing another man’s failure. Sad because their greatest moment in life might be another man’s misfortune.


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STEPH CURRY WHO! HATER OR HATE: THE DOWNSIDE OF BEING GREAT AT WHAT YOU DO

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“What is it about greatness that people hate so much?”


Recent news of NBA basketball player Stephen Curry’s troubles with other NBA players have surfaced. He is unaware of why so many have such disdain toward him considering he pays homage to the greats. But where does it all really come from. The guys who have these issues with Curry are just as great if not greater, so what is it? There are a few reasons as to why Curry deals with such issues and other men and women like him in society. The reasons are envy, fear, and the other is having to rise to an occasion that someone else has risen to in their personal or professional persona. So what does that really mean?

Well, for starters the envy that is creeping up comes from the idea that some of the guys who don’t care for Curry were top dogs when he came into the league. Now that he is the bigger name, now he is seen as some form of competition of threat. But instead of competing and letting that do the talk, it turns into something much more. The problem with that is that you can become so wrapped up in your disdain for someone else you start to fall off your game. It’s kind of like the issues comedian Kevin Hart have had in recent years. When he came in the comedy world he was little Kev, now he’s above all the guys who were like mentors to him. Some people get comfortable with you in a certain space and can’t see past that. Then you shoot past that point, and all the haters comes into play.

But is it the haters or is it hate. And the hate brings me to my next reason why people have disdain and that is the fear. The fear of you doing something better than them forcing them to step up their game up. Or, some people don’t have the ability, but instead of asking you, they sink deeper. They are in fear that someone will be better than them and don’t want to focus on them. They are so engaged in what you’re doing that they lose out in life. But is that the only reason why so many people have issues with someone who has done nothing to them? Why do people have so many Steph Curry issues with other successful people? It’s also the personal as well as the professional.

Which brings me to my last point, and that is the persona you carry in society. Steph Curry carries himself well in society which also makes people not like him. When you’re a public figure and your public image is so good, not just from some PR stunt, but you’re the real person, you’re hated. They would love nothing more than to see you fail. Why, well because everyone is always expecting you to be this good guy as well. They say things like, “You should be more like this guy.” “This guy would never do anything like what you just did/do.” People don’t want to rise to the occasion of being a certain type of guy, so they show disdain toward the good guy.

See, in the end, people will always have a reason not to like someone they perceive to be in a position of status. And if you’re a good guy, then people really don’t like you. I wrote something similar earlier in past posts where if you’re always good, they can’t connect to you because you don’t have a smudge. It’s the same thing that happened to Tom Brady, Tiger Woods, and many others. People love to see some type of crash so they can say I told you so or this person is just as messed up as myself. You will never be able to understand these people, and most likely you don’t ever want to understand them.


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BRADY OH BRADY: WHY PEOPLE HATE TOO MUCH SUCCESS

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“Greatness comes with a price.”

“LAW 47) Do not go past the mark you aimed for — in victory, learn when to stop!” – 48 Laws of Power, Robert Greene. Boy oh boy, this law is so true as it pertains to how people feel about Tom Brady. Since Tom Brady has become and unstoppable quarterback, there has been a constant effort to bring him down. Well why; I mean he’s not my favorite quarterback, but I don’t find pleasure in seeing him failing. So why do so many like to see him fail? Why is it that when a person wins over and over again, they are considered cheating? People love to tear these individuals down in life.

Well, let’s take a look at Tom Brady. Coming from the University of Michigan, Tom Brady was drafted in almost the last round of the NFL draft. He was not even heard of when he first started playing in the NFL. But taking over for Drew Bledsoe in the year 2000, no one expected much. Then he went on to win the Superbowl. Everyone was so happy for this Superbowl winning underdog. But then they kept winning and kept winning. Even as great players left the team they kept going strong. After this, all the allegations of cheating started to pop up. But what about Brady being the underdog? People forgot that he was drafted nearly last.

See, people love you, up to a certain point. Then they want to see you fall down. This is because it aims at how they see themselves. If all you do is win, then they can’t connect to you because they fail in life. How do you look at them as human when they are “so” different than yourself? Another reason is because no one is perfect. Winning all the time is seen as perfection. So people want to see you fall because they need to see that life is fair. Although, since when is life fair to us? Look at death, do we hold a grudge against death? We accept death for what it is. But we can’t get over the person winning all the time!

In the end, we hold the grudge because like I said before, it’s how we see ourselves. As I sit here watching the Superbowl game of the  New England Patriots vs. the Atlanta Falcons, so many people are routing against Tom Brady. They hate to see winning because their lives consist of so much losing. I know one thing is for certain, he’s not the first and definitely won’t be the last to be hated.

 

CRASH AND BURN: WHY SO MANY PEOPLE LOVE TO SEE THE TRAIN WRECK

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“Why do they build you up just to see you fall down?”

Growing up, you come from nothing and work your ass off. Eventually you become a success. People flock to you because they know where you came from in life. Everyone loves a rags to riches story. It gives them hope of maybe not quite the financial success, but a better way of life than they have at the moment. But where does this veer off into a whole other path. What do I mean by that; I mean what makes people become irritated with you? It’s almost as if your continuous success begins to make people sick of you.

Well why; why do people want to see a train wreck even though they know how far you’ve come in life. Ok, to be honest, everything is in context. I don’t think everyone hates you because your continuous success means you have a pretty good base of people who patronize your work. I’m talking about the people who want to be around for the collapse. Celebrities have to deal with people like this on a national level, but the everyday Joe has to deal with the same thing as well. But how does the average Joe deal considering the people that hate on them are usually friends and family.

I have a few reasons as to why people love to see the train wreck once you’ve become successful. One of the reasons is that people want to still be able to connect to you. Once you’re successful and that’s it, you become someone they can’t relate to. Your screwing up and falling shows that slight bit of normal to that person who doesn’t like you. Without a fall, especially if you’re really successful, they grow to be resentful.

Which leads to my next reason as to why people love to see a fall. The other is the feeling that your success is confirmation that they have not done much in life. If you worked in your 20’s and they partied, but now you’re very financially by age 30 and they have just become serious, they’ll sometimes resent. They realize that if they could have those ten years back, it could be different. The more successful you become the more they resent. Eventually, if the person is someone close to you, you have no other choice but to lose that relationship.

In the end, I don’t care how much disdain you receive, never compromise. And when someone hates you because you’re successful, become more successful. Learn to get revenge by being great. Not to rub it in the faces of people who hate you. But show them they don’t have an effect. Because once you crack under the pressure, they’ll continue to forge ahead. But remember to also never lose sight of the people who love you for achieving your dreams. And note that if you’re still successful, you have more love than hate.