“We may be connected by blood, but you don’t need to know everything.”
When it comes to family there is a question I must ask of all of you. And that question is, “Should you tell family everything about your life?” And my reply to that is absolutely not. We seem to think that it would be a good idea considering we are related. But at times, these are the main people you should keep at arms length regarding your personal life. You love them, and they love you, but especially when it comes to your personal life, be wary. Well well, how do you justify keeping family at arms length. It’s tough to look at life from this standpoint because you don’t want to alienate your kin. But there is still a human element to what we are as people that you must be careful with in regards to your own life.
For example, if you are in relationship, your entire family does not need to know every person you are talking to. I understand the safety aspect of dating when you want parents and maybe siblings to know who you’re dating. But it’s not always best to inform the entire family, especially if this is just casual dating. You don’t want to find yourself the topic of discussion because you told them all your business. Yes, they should have a little more decor, but you gave them the information to run away with. Don’t get me wrong, they’ll talk and speculate anyways, but when you tell people you gave them what they needed to talk. But you’re wondering why want people just respect your wishes and not talk. But like I said before, you gave them information and gossip is what people do family or not. But there are other reasons to keep family out of your business as well.
Another reason you shouldn’t tell family everything is because you want to have some sort of mysticism about yourself. I know me personally, I like to keep some form of anonymity, even if it’s something minor. That same type of guessing is not just in society, it’s good to have in family as well. When people know all there is to know about you, then there is nothing else interesting to find out. You always want people, even family, to wonder to some degree. The awe and wonder of who we are is what makes us interesting people. You should feed family little bits at a time about yourself. Otherwise, there is a bit of respect that is lost and you’ll find yourself defending your personal life when you shouldn’t have to do so. And you don’t want to find yourself on the defensive, especially with family.
So, in the end, you don’t want to be aggressive toward your loved ones, but depending on the circumstance, you may have to be. Your life is very important to you, and you should do as much as you can to protect it. I know it’s tough, especially in this environment in America where we are losing are ability to maintain privacy. But until we have lost all privacy, we should maintain that anonymity about ourselves.
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