EXTERNALLY STRONG, INTERNALLY WEAK: THE EMOTIONAL UPS AND DOWNS OF BLACK WOMEN

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“Where does it all come from?”

America’s most educated demographic of people: Black women. That’s right, highly educated, very successful; but. And there is a but; what about the romance? Not romance as it pertains to are they affectionate, but what about their love life? In today’s society, Black women are in more professional positions than anytime prior. All the bells and whistles, yet when it comes to their love lives, this is the area that takes a back seat. What is about Black women that there love lives tend to lose out to their professional lives. Better yet, is it just the career alone?

You see, growing up, being raised in a household by Black women, I didn’t notice anything wrong. Me personally, I grew up not aware of any stereotype either of any kind. The women that raised me, were a pretty chilled group of women. It wasn’t until I became an adult, that I started to hear the feelings of what Black women felt. My mother and sisters were almost careful not to put too much out there for me to see, but coming into society I experienced something new. Well, not me personally, but experience in hearing and seeing how many Black women felt hurt and shut out. Where does it come from? Is it real, or is it just in their (black women) heads?

For starters, there are a lot of stereotypes that are in society describing Black women. So there is no wonder, the frustration and anger comes from a group of women. But is that all there is? So many Black women as I said earlier are very successful. But is success always the replacement for happiness? From the outside things look perfectly fine, but what about internally? How do Black women really feel internally?  To me, when I walk up the street, life seems fine from my point of view. But is there really a problem. Now, I don’t want to make Black women appear to be victims, but there is a problem at times.

Then, what is the solution? Black women hold hurt, but don’t want to be seen as victims. They are successful, but don’t feel success should get in the way of relationships. They feel angry sometimes, yet, don’t want to be looked at as mean or angry. And they love independence, but can’t find love. Yet don’t want to be seen as needy. It sounds all over the place and at times it is. When the object of affection in America is always publicized as White women in media, sports, entertainment, publications; then a feeling of being left out sets in. What is the overall solution? I myself have to admit that I don’t know because it is such a personal situation to deal with in life. But whatever or wherever the change comes from, it must change because it can only hurt Black women in the end.

Author: faheemjackson44

I am from Racine, Wisconsin where I was raised until I graduated high school back in the year 2006. That entire time growing up in my mother's house, I was a student athlete. My goal was to embark on a general business career or athletics. But injuries through sports stopped a sports path, so I decided upon business with a focus in marketing. While attending undergraduate school at University of Wisconsin-Parkside, I began to write screenplays in my senior year. At first it was for fun, but I quickly learned writing allow me to transfer negative energy into characters I created. This led to a decrease in depressing mood swings, which in turn boosted my quality of life. After undergraduate school in May of 2011, I move to New York City for graduate school. While pursuing my MBA, I continued to write screenplays, but always wanted to write novels as well. I finished graduate school back in the year 2014, but wrote screenplays until I began thinking of my first short film, first First Day Fears. While finishing my fifth feature length screenplay, I started to write my first novel this year. So far, I have finished my first short film and working on my next one (Freedomless Speech), and recently self published my first novel (The Boy Who Could Talk To God) and short stories book (Faheem Jackson Short Story Collection Volume 1). My feature length screenplays have been put on temporary hold to finish my short films and books, but I am making good progress on my sixth feature length screenplay. With year 2017 ending, I am currently writing my novel Precinct 86 and Faheem Jackson Short Story Collection Vol. 2. I have started teaching myself photography and will pursuing that by summer of 2018, along with my videography, podcast later on, and more research for my documentary.

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