LOVING WHAT YOU DO BUT NOT THE PEOPLE

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“We get along because we have to.”


THE WORKPLACE

Imagine working on a job that you love to come to everyday. But then you have to work around people that you don’t quit get along with. That means occupying a space with multiple people that you share space eight hours per day, five days a week. So even a job you love can be stressful when being around these types of people. And what do I mean by these types of people? I mean people who you cannot hold a conversation with without there being an issue. Someone that you are in close proximity with, but they are just not the least bit conversational. People who keep a conflict going in the space, and also people that try to sabotage everything you do at work. This usually comes a place of insecurity and threat of losing out to you.

MAKE THE BEST OF IT

Try to do the best thing possible which outreach at first. I myself am not a person who does not talk much on my jobs, but it is because it has something to do with me focusing on work being social. I just like to focus on work and then outside of work engage in a little more social. But the only problem is, people I work with don’t see that aspect of me. And getting to know me, you’ll see that. So you have to be patient with some people. But then there are others that you have to just act like they don’t exist. It’s hard, especially if you have to work on a team with them.

LAST DITCH EFFORT

I honestly think that even when you like your job, sometimes people can be so toxic that you have to jump ship. You have to look at your surroundings and realize that things are not getting better and it’s better to remove yourself fully. Now, most people figure things out, but the few that can’t stay around get the hell out of there. So realize where you stand on the spectrum make a decision according.


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GENDER IN THE WORKPLACE: HOW TO BEHAVE IN A COED ENVIRONMENT

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“Mind your manners.”


manners people

When you are working in an office space or any other workplace, you should be cautious of how you communicate with your fellow employees. Especially if the employees are of the opposite gender. And if you are male, you should really watch yourself because it is so easy to find yourself in trouble when harmless fun goes too far. So be mindful of how you behave so you don’t find yourself in the middle of a human resource nightmare. So, what are some things you might want to watch out for as you move your way through the daily workplace?

touchy feely

I have come into the workplace and given people hugs. Then you think to yourself, could this be something that comes up later on, on the job. It’s sad to say this, but in our time period today, you have to be careful that you don’t lose your job or more, go to jail. But why, why should I risk going to jail? And the reason being is that you never know people’s threshold for comfort. Now, mot people get to know you, and then they are more comfortable to hug. But even people who know each other can sometimes make each other feel uncomfortable.

watch your words

When you are talking to someone in the workplace, make sure you know that you might get to know people quite intimately, but it’s still work. And the things you say, even to your coworkers off the clock is still part of the job. So you have a conversation about sex off the the job, but you’re in a sensitive space because you still see this person. And you might say something that could trigger them to not want to work with you anymore. Now you’re stuck because you need your job. So adhere to the things you say.

dating is a no no

These are the people you tend to be around a lot so it comes as no surprise relationships start. But if you want my advice, don’t do it. You should not be dating people who work alongside. It can cause problems if the date becomes something that shouldn’t have happened. Imagine dating someone you work with and have to see them everyday after a breakup. The professional environment can prove to be place of conflict.


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FREE WORK: DON’T SLEEP ON UNPAID

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“Blessing in disguise.”


no pay for experience

You want to go off and make a lot of money one day, fine. But when you first start out, there is generally no money to be made in your career endeavor. But when you are dealing with a generation that wants things now, then you are going to have problems in building. You need to understand that no pay could provide you with the skills and connections to do more in life. But when all you can see is what is right in front of you, then you sometimes kill your blessings.  So know that everything does not come in the form of a check.

you have nothing to bargain with

When you are a younger age you don’t have anything to negotiate with. You can’t just walk in and make demands like you have been doing it for so long. You have to be doing this for some time in order to make a consistent income. Consistent income takes time where you have to do not only build your income elsewhere but build your dream on another time. So you have to have a full time job and this gig that may not pay much if anything. And the idea of doing something for free kills people. Only thing is that you have to do it for free because there is nothing to be made off your ideas. So you have to work extra hard.

its a marathon

Understand that we all have a start. And if you want to be anywhere in life, you have to willing to deal with what comes with being in the position. You have to understand how each of the moving parts work. You are in such a rush to get to where you have to go, but why. You want to try to learn all the moving parts around the job. You don’t just get the job and make money. Understand what others around you do. It will make you a better person in your career.


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CHANGE I WISH I COULD BELIEVE IN: THE ADJUSTMENT FROM COLLEGE TO SOCIETY FOR YOUNGER GENERATIONS

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“Surviving the adjustment.”


the real world

This school year just started for a lot of incoming freshmen into college. As for the seniors that walked across the stage this past summer, their worries are about to start. Because they are stepping into the workplace environment. What does mean for them? You’re talking about a generation that has been used to a lot of coddling for the greater portion of their lives. Now they have to matriculate into this new world where things are not handed to you. You will not be rewarded a 10th place ribbon unless you are in the top three. But what is it about the business environment that makes life hard?

you’re the creator

When building your career it is going to be you against the world. So however far you go will ultimately be up to you. You need to be the decision maker for your life will become. And that is when the frustration and true anxiety set for the first time. How do you tailor make your life to be what you want it to be. I wonder how many people can honestly do this. The how is as you get on the job you will feel out what is you seek to become.

expectations and standards

We all look at like ourselves as more that what we are in society. And because we dilute ourselves into more great than we are, we have these expectations and dreams that take years and years to plan. Then you take years for yourself to grow financially. But our social media has made life this ready made existence that is nowhere near the real thing.So, so many young people in the workplace are having a harder time time. But it’s no harder than prior generations. They are just not ready because we gave them so much too soon.


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TAKE YOUR KID TO WORK DAY: WHY ISN’T THIS STILL A POPULAR TRADITION

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“They should see success early on.”


tag along

When I was a child there was a special occasion called,” Take your daughter to work day.” It was to promote women in the workforce. But also it was aimed at showing little girls what they could potentially be in life. Days like this were odd when the whole grade level or more would be all boys in class. Later on the day changed to take your kid to day. As of today, I don’t think the day is celebrated anymore. With all the political correctness who know the real reason. But on the other hand, should we reconsider taking the day back again.

they learn a lot

Children learn a lot at home, but what they learn from watching you work on a job is something different. Because they are not watching mom and dad be mom and dad. They are watching mom and dad not only be responsible, but told what to do. Which is an interesting dynamic when you have children and they live by your rules. So them watching you under the chain of command allows them to see how orders are doled out. It prepares them for the world they will enter once mom and dad are no longer in the picture. The introduction into life and how you must behave to survive in this world.

why it stopped

The answer to the header is that it never really stopped. It just has not been as popular as it was in the past. But I think we should start promoting the take the kid to your job. Because in a society where every kid gets a trophy, they should see that everyone don’t get a trophy. Your hardest sometimes is still not good enough. That realness is too much to ignore, and will make them tough enough to deal in life.


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SUPERVISOR OR DICTATOR: DO YOU NEED TO BE A TOUGH EMPLOYER

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“Who do you prefer to work for in life?”


We have all worked for them, and can’t stand to be around them. They are supervisors on jobs who you live to hate. They are the overbearing types that push and push and push until you do something or say something you regret. They don’t have much power in their own lives, so having a say over you is worth coming to work for them. But I have to ask the question, Do you really have to be hated to be respected on a job? Do you have to carry a big stick in order to grab people’s attention? My answer is no, you don’t have to be the dictator in order to get people to listen. So why are there people like this on the job?

Like I said before, for starters, they are people who don’t get respect in their daily lives outside of work. So when they get on the job, they can be some of the hardest people to work for. Not receiving respect in your daily life in society makes you resent. But most of all, these types of people who don’t get respect know people who do. And if you are someone that get respect easily, and you work for someone that don’t, they can sense it. And they will make your life hell because you remind them of how much they don’t get it. You will also remind them of the people in society that they want respect from and don’ get it.

See, you don’t have to be the dictator to get people to listen. One of the ways to get people to listen is connect to your employees. This task is easily accomplished when you are a good communicator. But most of all, the people who work for you will be able to read that you are a good communicator. So you won’t have to be the dictator type because you know what people need and they know what you expect from them. But, are there other reasons as to why employers may be the dictator? What about the physicality of the person in charge or their gender?

Physicality can play a role in the type of supervisor you’re going to get. At times, you notice men who are less attractive and shorter, I’ve noticed can be tough. Well, how so, how does this play a factor in the way they supervise? Being in the midst of more physical alpha males, you see this Napoleon complex where they might be tougher on you than anyone else. Or if they see people naturally connect to you because you look a certain way. As far as gender, women and men have different styles of supervising. I have had either very friendly or very rude women I have worked for. The very tough feel they have to be because since they are a woman people feel they can walk over them. And the very friendly act this way because they don’t want to come off as too aggressive.

In the end, working for an employer can be either an enjoyable or depressing work environment. Now, for the chosen few who work for themselves and are able to elude this, consider yourselves lucky. Then again, if you are your own boss, chances are, you have employees. So it may be you who is the intolerable employer.


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ADDICTED: ARE YOU A JUNKIE AND DON’T EVEN KNOW IT?

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“What is yours?”


The definition of an addict is someone who is compulsive in their need for reward, substance, or activity where the compulsive behavior leads to negative consequences. We often connect an addiction with someone that is on drugs or alcohol. But how often do we hear about people who have other addictions to things such as sex, food, work, and shopping. Most people don’t want to talk about these other issues because they are quite odd to be addicted to in life. Who wants to admit they’re addicted to food, sex, their jobs, or even buying tangibles. Well, no one, but how? How are these addictions which to the average person are normal behaviors.

Let’s start with sex for example. Sex is one of the most, if not the most natural action among humans. This is the way humans procreate as a species. So when does this natural act become an addiction. It becomes an addiction when it leads to consequences that are harmful to you or others around you. For instance, when you find yourself constantly either cheating on your significant other or exposing yourself to sexually transmitted diseases then it’s an addiction. Another form of sexual addiction is more common and that’s through the use of pornography. It causes people to be desensitized by a real sexual experience. The levels of sensitivities are so high that men, for example find it difficult to maintain erections. Women have their own dysfunctions, for example sex toys desensitize the clitoris making normal sex unsatisfying.

Yet, this isn’t the only addiction outside of drugs and alcohol. Food is an even bigger addiction than sex, drugs, and alcohol. Especially in America, we eat so much that we develop predisposed food illnesses. Illnesses that lead to depression, diabetes, high blood pressure, stroke, heart attack, and obesity. We need food for our survival, so there’s no wonder why a food addiction is so hard to kick. And when you come from a family that overindulges then you’ll find it even harder not to eat a lot. Not to mention that certain ethnics groups typically consume greater portions than others. So with something so natural, this also comes as no surprise why it as well is so hard to kick.

Now, with the prior addictions taking hold of so many people’s lives, could there possibly be any other addictions. What about your career; could this become an addiction? Absolutely, that’s where the term workaholic comes from. Especially in today’s society, we work so much that we disconnect from friends and family. Kids more than ever come home after school to an empty house because of overworking parents. We as adults neglect the people around us and fail to realize this until it’s too late. People close to us pass away, and move away. Your kids grow up and you miss out on so much that you regret later on. So make time for them now.

But is that all? Is there more addictions in life? There are, shopping is another addiction. You go how, well when you are purchasing to the point where you can’t sustain financially, then you’re out of control. People shop to be accepted into a social group or even to cover up an emotional wound. Buying new clothes give you this new feeling, even if it is minimal. We think that by buying these items that good feeling will last, but it doesn’t; it never does. In the end, addiction is a hard illness to cope with; especially if the problem is a natural overindulgence. Seeking help is tough, yet necessary when kicking any habit.


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