WE CAN DO IT: WHY YOUNG GIRLS AREN’T PUSHED LIKE THE BOYS

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“Encourage them young.”


when they’re young

For some reason, we don’t push girls in school like we do the boys. And for that reason, I think that boys are way more prepared than girls are when it comes to entering life. That doesn’t mean that girls are not capable, but we don’t push them out there like boys. We encourage them to lay in the cut and take orders rather than make decisions. They are told to be lady like and remain quiet. This can stunt a person’s growth considering you have to be willing to stand out and stand up in order to be heard. And if you don’t, what is that saying again, “A closed mouth don’t get fed.”

we cripple them

“Oh come on, you should be doing something less difficult.” I have heard these words told to girls growing up. “You’re so pretty, get yourself a rich man and let him take care of you.” We don’t tell young boys this same thing because we want and expect our young boys to stand out and be great. So there is no leaning in for boys because it’s what you’re supposed to do your whole life. As for the girls, you should be more silent and docile. And that will get you nowhere in life. We act as if girls are fragile little creatures who can’t fend for themselves. And when they try and fail we say, “I told you so.” “Stop trying to be like the boys.” But failure is the only way to become successful in life.

biology is not society

Men are the greater physically and that means when dealing with us women have had to be thinkers as a creature. Which means women are in better alignment to learn when placed in academia than we are as guys. But when a young girl is told at a young age or not encouraged she now as to catch up to the opposite gender that she was born to be ahead of initially. So society has norms that cripples the mind of a biological creature that has been given the awareness to exist at times better. I am not saying women are better, we just have our skill sets. And when it comes to thinking out of a situation, women have to in nature. It’s not that much of a jump in school and in career.


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GENDER ENCOURAGEMENT: WHY AREN’T GIRLS PUSHED LIKE BOYS IN SCHOOL

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“We need them as much as we need us.”


girls! girls! girls!

In schools, we have always encouraged the boys more than we have encouraged the girls. When the hard work must be put in, we have always told the boys, this is what you should be doing. Then leave the less strenuous work for the girls. And that is a major aspect of why boys have become more successful than girls over time in school. And also in life the boys have gone off to do great things because you have to be pushed. You have to deal with a great deal of hardships and go through some suffering and pain.

lean in

Current Chief Operating Officer of Facebook Sheryl Sandberg wrote a book about why we should push young girls, why young girls don’t get the same encouragement as boys, and why girls become women who are not prepared for the world ahead. In an article written in 2013 for ABC news entitled, “Top 10 Facts You Don’t Know About Girls’ Education,” a list of reasons was outlined as to the effects young girls deal with on a daily.

  1. 65 million girls are not in school globally
  2. Of the 123 million young people between ages 15 – 24 that can’t read or write, 61% are female.
  3. Half of children not in school living in conflict-ridden countries are 55% girls
  4. Over 70 million children unable to have basic education in world; and over half are girls

giving motivation

How do we get them to be as great as the boys? We first have to start off by not cuddling them more than the boys. And yes, there is a certain softness that men and women have with their daughters than their sons. But we have to be careful how much because the world is not a soft place. And if we are too sensitive, then it’s going to be a culture shock when these girls step into the world.


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GIVE HER A PUSH: WHY AREN’T WOMEN ENCOURAGED AS MUCH AS MEN

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“They need a push just as much as we do.”


us and them

In the United States, as with worldwide, men are encouraged in a different way than women. We are pushed out into the world sooner than women, and expected to take lead more than women. While women at young ages are told to stand on the sidelines and let men do the leading. The above photo is of COO of Facebook Sheryl Sandberg who wrote a book about this very topic. How women are not as encouraged as men, and why it’s harder for women to get raises on jobs like men. But is there just a social aspect to leading or is there a more biological reason why?

social reasons

When little girls are growing up, they are not encouraged to do as boys do. And I am not referring to going to school. I mean putting yourself in positions that get you hurt emotionally and at times physically. Then need to love ones self is not as strongly pushed so girls compare themselves to other girls in school and in the public eye. But we also never give girls the suck it up speech. When boys are young we’re told, “Shut up and suck it up,” “Deal with it.” You know as a guy early on that failure is apart of life because it’s been pumped into your head at such a young age. So when failure happens we charge it to the game. But girls, we cuddle them too much; treating them like they’re too delicate to handle hurt early on. Then women are tossed into the thralls of the world where people could care less and you get hurt. Now, taking lumps becomes new and a lot more difficult.

nature

On the other hand, we not only have the social reasons as to why women are not pushed like men, but the natural reasons. Nature plays a role because when a women is more likely to want to share a position than hold the top spot. Not just in work places, but also in monogamous relationships. Men not only want the top spot, but we are completely content with the idea that there are people underneath us. Especially in cases of dating where we want to be the one in control. Yet it’s harder for women to respect and love a man where she takes the lead all the time. But for guys, we like the lead.

progression in time

Women have taken on roles more and more over the years. But still, we don’t encourage girls as much as boys. So boys are more than ready to step into the world because we deal with the lumps at an early age. We don’t force girls to take their lumps at an early age. Girls are not forced to take loses, and suck it up and deal. But boys are taught that dealing is apart of manhood, so learn it now to prepare yourself for adulthood.


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