MARRIAGE AND A BABY WHAT: THE DECLINE OF THE NUPTIALS

 

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“I do(n’t).”


generational shift

Unlike the past generations, more and more young people are rethinking marriage. And the reason for such a cultural shift has a lot to with divorce. We watched the past generations going in and out of marriage with costly divorces. And the infidelity also is of concern considering the availability of reaching people we would like to talk to. So what are young people doing today’s society? Well a lot of the new millennial generation and the group right behind us are settling for just dating and living with someone. This way you cut down on all the confusion that comes with marriage like all the paperwork you have to sign. And the breakup if it does take place is a lot more fluid. You just shake hands and walk away from the situation.

dough is important

I have been reading articles lately surrounding why marriage is on the decline in America among the young generation. And so many have said that women cannot find an economically attractive potential spouse. And for these reasons a lot of them have chosen to just stay single. Because what is the purpose of struggling so much when you are able to do more alone. Conversely, the men who are attractive for dating exist to an extent, they just don’t want to take the financial risk. Who really want to get involved in a situation where you’re losing 50% just because she wakes up and decides that she is no longer happy. It’s more fiscally sound to just date. At least dating there is a guaranteed that if the relationship succeed or not, you’re good.

less family intervention

Families for the longest have interjected themselves in the lives of those around them. But when you decide to get married there is even more entitlement to get involved. And for these reasons people tend to stay dating. When you are dating no one gets involved so you are able to have your own lives. The moment you decide to get married then you have to deal with all the pressures of family. The life of a person dating another person means that you are going to be seeing this person and only dealing with this person. Not the voices of the people around you.


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THEY CAN’T HANDLE IT: A NEW GENERATION TRYING TO FIT INTO THE BUSINESS LANDSCAPE

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“They can’t cope.”


generation Y/Z

There is a new generation that is used to being cuddled and told life is going to be great. Not used to being told they suck at something. And have known for everything to be very sensitive in our society. So what happens when this generation steps into a society that is completely opposite of what they are used to seeing and hearing? It’s going to be a culture shock to know there are not safe spaces nor is there an immediate gratification in the form of likes and followers. You have to work long and hard for things and it is a path where in the paradigm of living you see no results.

when did it start

I was born in the year 1987, so I am of age when the trophy handouts first started. We played and was destroyed in the season. But at the pizza banquet, we were all given a trophy for our part in the season. And in that moment I knew nothing of why we were given trophies. But now that I am an adult I will say that trophy meant nothing to me. But it was the beginning for what would be the issue with why everyone gets one. Because when we all get one it means nothing. The reason for a trophy is there is a winner and loser. If we all win, there is no need for competition.

attire

Dressing styles at work have changed over time. As a matter of fact my last post was about the CEO style changing. But for the most part, a suit and tie is the norm. A whole new arena when you have spent so much time in a t-shirt and jeans. And people had to accept you for who you are in that space. But in this new space no one has to accept you. No one cares who you are because you have done nothing to prove yourself. So until that time comes, keep your mouth shut and put on that suit.

clean and in good standing 

When you are looking at this young generations that are so used to casually using some type of drug, they are not familiar with the idea if random drug test. Because marijuana has become so popular, that still doesn’t make it alright use on the job. And companies fear giving drug screenings because you are going to see a major expulsion of jobs in America.


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BOSS STYLE: WHY THE CHANGE IN THE WAY BUSINESSMEN TODAY TEND TO DRESS

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“Times change so does style.”


suits and ties

The traditional method of attire for any businessman has always been the suit and tie look. But if you’ve noticed over the recent years there has been a shift from the suit and tie look, to the bomber jacket, t-shirt, jeans, and sneakers. And one of the reasons for this change has to do with the number of tech people becoming bosses. These are generally guys who don’t wear suits but style themselves in casual attire. And it has become the fashion trend for so many working in the tech industry. And more so many business people who have long wore the suits and ties, they see this shift as more disrespect than a new swanky look.

new connection

For the first time the boss is now able to connect to a younger demographic because they don’t look like the younger demo’s parents. Dressing how our parents dress is not something that is attractive to a younger group of people.But seeing a boss we admire from a look that is something we can relate to is attractive. That doesn’t mean we respect the person in a suit and tie less, it simply makes younger people feel there is a little more wiggle room to not always be so stringent with our style.

as time progress

My question is, what will be the next attire that people start to wear in business. I was watching old footage of New York City 100 years ago. Everyone walking the street wore a suit and tie. This was rather considering not all of them were in business. It was just the reflection of the time period. So in the future, maybe a new style that reflects the times will take hold, but maybe, business people may go back to the times where everyone dressed up. This way you won’t know the CEO form the average Joe walking the street.


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POLITICAL SHIFT: HOW THE DEMOCRATIC PARTY COULD REIGN SUPREME ACROSS AMERICA

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“The pendulum is starting to swing.”


Since the mayoral and other council races back in November of this year, party lines have already began to show a sign of turning back blue. Some say that people are already getting fed up with the current President Donald J. Trump, and others have stated that these are places can typically swing in either direction: Democrat of Republican. Now, as it comes to no surprise places in Florida and Texas has still kept their political views going strong for the Republican party. But, when you look at the political maps across the country, you can’t help but notice that the pendulum is swinging back in the opposite direction. And what is this due to in America? Could it be that Trump supporters are getting tired of him already, or does it have to do with new voters.

There were three of age at the time Trump was elected President last year who are now 18 years old. Which may very well be the very few voters. Or, there could be the population of people that did not get involved in the general presidential election, who came out to vote. Because remember, in this past election of Donald Trump, nearly half the country didn’t vote for a president. These non-voters could now be getting involved because of their lack of initiative in the national election. And lastly, there are the people who voted Republican, who are now saying they made the wrong decision, and now want to flip sides.

Because if you observe the election percentages, you have Democrats that have won by major percentages. And yes, if you look at the major metropolitan cities, you tend to see a more Democratic win, but these are wins even in small cities and towns. So what has happened that has caused so many Republicans to lose their position in the party? Could it really be that since Trump was elected, he has caused all of the mistrust in the party? This is only his first year in office, and already, confidence could begin to be lost in a party. And with a new generation coming into the voting pool for the year 2020, the Republicans better start seeking out young people and fast. Why, well the millennials and the newly introduced Generation Z will be the majority. Two generations that have become turned off by the Conservatives on the right.

And in the end, that’s the biggest issue, is that a young generation is being shaped by a party. But not just one generation, two back-to-back generations. All the while, being turned off by the other. So if the Republicans don’t start to find ways of reaching out to young voters, then you’ll start to see a close to impossible win by Conservatives in any election whether it be city, state, or national. Because what we have is an aging declining older generation and a growing younger generation shifting to the left.


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GENERATION FRUSTRATION: WHY WE AS A YOUNG BLACK DEMOGRAPHIC CARRY SUCH ANGER

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“Where does it all come from?”


Ever see the crime rate in the inner cities throughout the country? You ever wonder where so much of this rage comes from? The frustrations comes from a multitude of issues in the community. It’s not just one thing to observe when trying to figure out why this exist. From the gun violence in the community to the rioting when the police shoot an innocent Black male. This rage comes from internal struggle as well as external struggles. But it’s not indicative of who we are as a people. The black community didn’t have these high crime rates during the 1920’s, 30’s, 40’s, 50’s, or even the 60’s. And this was a time period when we barely had rights in America. Well, what happened?

I’ll say the first issue that came about was actually a positive as well. That double edge sword was the Civil Rights Bills passed in the 1960’s. After this time period Black people had this sense of accomplishment. We felt like the work had been complete. Yet, during the Civil Rights Movement, we had our own communities. Black people had our own businesses, schools, hospitals, and social programs. That Black owned mind-frame shifted after the movement. We thought to ourselves, “Why all the Black stuff, we are free now.” Then, communities dried up as Black people left our urban environments to take solace in upper middle or upper class predominantly White neighborhoods. So money left the community, while at the same time spending was poured outward. Whereas in the past money was circulated through the community.

What happened next, coming into the 1970’s as money left, narcotics took hold. The combination of Heroine met Cocaine, led to high crime rates and bombed out buildings. Fatherless homes left Black women dependent on welfare. Which leads into my next reason for the rage. The lack of a co-parenting  situation that made the women both mother and father. Initially Black men were gone from the house for a few hours. Why, well the family needed money from the welfare system. Then hours to days, days to weeks, and then weeks to months. In no time fathers were gone, beginning to get hooked on drugs and alcohol, while women were the new leaders of the community. Now we have this pride in the woman doing it all, when in reality it takes more than just Black women to keep young Black men out of trouble.

Men and women have different skills, thought processes, and emotions. So it’s no wonder why Black women have had such a tough time raising children alone; especially connecting young Black males. So, with no help and forced to work long hours to provide for the family, more than ever the term latch key kid came into play. With her at work and no father around, young Black males turned to gangs as a means of creating bonds with each other they weren’t receiving at home. Gangs started battling for turf over other gangs which were predominantly Black, leading to an even higher crime rate than before. This time was known as the Crack Cocaine years of the 1980’s and 90’s. Which leads to the rage as well of a generation.

Drug trafficking was an issue coming from the 1960’s throughout the 70’s, but nothing was like Crack. Crack took communities deviations down to nothing. KKK were far removed from our communities, while we took over where they left off. Black women who could have been beauty pageant contestants were taken down by Crack. Hair matted on their heads, eyes blood shot red, skull caps & ripped t-shirts, bodily scares from syringe use and scratching, and diseases stemming from drug use. Women who could have been doctors, lawyers, engineers, educators, were taken down by drugs. Black males were dying and getting hit with conspiracy charges and sent to prison for decades, as well as life sentences.

Then the 1990’s came and went, leading into the 2000’s. After a few decades of mayhem, we felt through this past 90’s into the 2000’s this sense of accomplishment as well. But entertainment became bigger influences than ever. Hip Hop hit in the 90’s and early 2000’s, making these men bigger influences than the Civil Rights leaders of the past. And here is another aspect of the rage from young Black males and females. Our entertainment was now raising us, and we would base more and more off of tangibles then intangibles. Boys were more encouraged to be players and pimps than boyfriends and husbands. And Black women were prompted to chase after ballers over day-to-day working men. So now, pickings are slim because expectations became so unrealistic.

So the relationship between Black men and women was even more fragmented. Then in 2008, the United States elected its first Black president Barack H. Obama. Black people flocked to Washington D.C. from all across the country for his inauguration. That sense of accomplishment reemerged and for the past eight years, we felt success. He, a Noble Peace Prize winner, and his wife Michelle Obama was inspirational as well through her public persona. After they left the White House, people geared themselves for Hilary Clinton, the first woman. But the nation elected Donald J. Trump in the year 2016. A man who pulled no punches on how he spoke. Unapologetic and aggression was enough to make him president. And that feeling of hurt emerged from the Black community. Hate crimes rose and everything felt bleak.

And in the end, that’s the feeling of rage from the Black youth of today. We have constantly been told things are different, but don’t feel different. My millennial generation and generation Y were raised into a community of crime and poverty. We feel lied to and with a feeling of limited opportunities, the rage rises. But there is a flip side to the rage. Trump has also had an inverse effect in other ways. Consciousness among young twenty somethings have risen as well. We may be headed toward another Black Renaissance like that of 1930’s Harlem. So with all the anger and frustration, we need more and more consciousness, especially in this troubling time.

GROW UP KIDS: THE FAILURE TO LAUNCH FOR AMERICA’S YOUNG ADULTS

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“We are so not ready for the world.”

Generation Me, Generation Y, Generation Selfie! All three describe my generation of young people who are born between the mid 1980’s to the early 1990’s. We are the generation born into an era where everything is for mass consumption. We live record our lives and post to social media our innermost feelings. We determine how many friends we have by the number of followers we have on the internet. Our intimate relationships are initiated in a hurry and end rather quickly. But there is one main thing that makes us have it hard to cope in society. And that is the idea that a lot of time must be taken to build our careers. How do we cope in the real world with having to wait for success in such an immediate environment that we’re used to seeing?

The coping with a long arduous career climb, makes us jumpy when so much moves around you so fast? We work on a job for 6 months, and become discouraged for not advancing in our career. To a working adult in the their middle aged years, you realize that 6 months, hell, 6 years, you’re still not making too much of a difference. In a 10, 15, or 20 year span, you should see that progress with work. The road to success also is viewed by my age group as this jump straight into making a load of money. We have been told by our parents that we’re special our entire lives. Now we think the world owes us something.

Besides our parents and the speed of the environment around us, is there anything else that forces us to not have patience. Another has to do with age in general. We look at our young age, especially when you’re struggling, we think everything is worse than it is. Working toward a goal takes time, and by time I mean years. So the time between 20 years of age and 30 years of age seems tough. But if you started in your early 20’s then hopefully you’re breaking into your career much sooner. Yet, it’s much easier to say start early because when you’re young, you don’t know what you want out of life. There is no real self awareness in your life. So how do you launch yourself into the world?

Well, my story of how I launched myself is for starters moving to a different city. Living in a city that is different than where you grew up is a step forward. There are no friends nor family around, forcing you to grow up quicker on your own. You’ll get a chance to see that no freebies will be allotted to you. All special treatment is out the door and you’re expected to rise to the occasion. So without that safety net, you are forced to work things out over time. Now, there is nothing wrong with reaching back here and there for help when needed. But it is really important for you to be on your own.

So now what? Where do we go from here on out? In my opinion, everyone thinks that whatever generation is young will be doomed. And the previous generations feel they are better and we are worse. I think that once reality set in, a lot of things will change. It’s called paying rent, utilities, student loans, and healthcare. So, for the most part, a lot of what we are is nothing more than a phase. A phase that will past in order to coexist in the dominant society.