CULTURTAL CLASHES: WHEN BOTH SIDES DON’T WORK

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“It’s just not working.”


when two sides come together

People always say love you want to  be with. But not all things are based around love. Because sometimes the differences are far too great to be overlooked. And that is the case for when most people of different cultures decide to get married. And this is hard considering we live in a country where there are so many groups who live in such close proximity of each other. So the idea that people from different groups marry should not be seen as that big of a deal. But it sill means a lot to a lot of different people. But what do you do when both sides are having these issues with trying to bring two people together?

should family have a say

Most people want their families to approve of the person they are dating. And if the family does not approve that could mean disaster for the relationship. But when you have someone who comes from a totally different culture, then that creates a whole new set of challenges. This means the family intervening saying how the kid should be raised. And this is usually not going to be based around your happiness. But more so because it aligns itself with what make them feel good. Only problem is that when you are in the house everyday, make sure this works for you because you have to live this life.

society could really test you

A lot of people don’t care about what society thinks, but when you have to deal with the grunt of their behavior, then it makes a difference. When you have to deal with the ignorant things that people say and do, then you think differently. And if you genuinely don’t want this for yourself, you are going to find yourself in a serious situation. So does that mean to give up on a good relationship, no. What it does mean is that you are going to have to develop some tough skin.


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PRO WHAT: CAN YOU BE FOR YOUR GROUP AND BE WITH ANOTHER

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“Righteous outside your group.”


proud from the outside

I have heard from various people that you cannot be pro your ethnic group and marry from the outside. And for the longest I have been trying to figure out what that means. Because living in America to tell groups of people who come from different backgrounds to not marry each other yet promote them living and existing in the same proximity is mind boggling to me. Nowhere on Earth do we have a place where people are that wide and diverse where we are still shocked when they cohabitate with each other. And the idea that you can not be in the best interest of your group can be seen as mind boggling as well. But is there some truth to the madness? Well, lets observe for just one second what that could mean and look like in America.

one will live, one will die

When you marry someone of another culture, chances are, when the kid gets older and marry themselves they tend to choose. And the reality is, in that defining moment is when a lot of the culture of one of those groups is gone forever. So when you hear people say that you can’t be pro-your group and then marry outside, that could be an indicator. Now, do people intend on removing their identity from existence? The answer to that question is of course no. But the reality is, they do remove it. Meaning, if I marry a Latina, we have a child, chances are, that child will choose either African American culture or Latino culture. And just like that, in a full generation, something is lost forever. But what do you do tp keep this from happening?

proximity can keep things going

If you live in the same environment as the other group, then things tend to last a lot longer. If a Chinese person marries a Japanese person, it is a big deal overseas, but not quite in America. And the transition between the Eastern countries are for fluid in America than most groups. So when you have such close ties, then there is a possibility that the cultures can hold strong longer than most. Now, when you have something like a Pakistani that attempts to marry a Mexican, then things may go in a different direction because one is so much different. Now, when both groups live in the United States in the same metropolitan city, then and only then might the marriage stand a chance (ex. New York City).

stick to your guns

When in doubt, wait until someone who is of your group comes along. This could take a lot of time for your life to work and transpire. But you don’t have to worry about all the issues coming form outside your relationship. But if you are not concerned what people think continue to live. But whatever the case make sure you know this what you truly want. But also, are you prepared to do the same for your children?


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WE’RE ALL SOMETHING: HOW MUCH DOES ETHNICITY MATTER

 

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“Does it really matter.”


my identity

In a society like America where the population is so diverse, we all live in this country comprising of different ethnic groups. You would think a place that consist of so many different people we would understand different cultures and get along. Only problem is that the bulk of the diversity is in about five cities of the 19,000 plus cities and towns in America. So when you look at the landscape of the country, it is no wonder why we still have issues that existed decades ago. But the real question I want to ask is how important is identity really? Because as much as we say I like everybody, how much do we really stand by that statement? It is one of those things we say, but for the most part we don’t live by it.

strength in numbers

People are always in a position to feel like they are being oppressed for whatever reason that appeals to them. So when this happens, there is a sense of comfort knowing there are people there that look like you that will stand next to you. And with that comes this sense of pride that you don’t understand unless you have a group to stand with you. But with that, you can easily fall into this space where that same feeling becomes addictive. And now with those numbers, you can get a lot accomplished that can easily be counterproductive to your cause.

this is still america

We live in America, and a lot has changed. But we must still understand that in this country still, a lot of people aren’t happy with others life choices. And when that exist you are placed in a position in this country to either live your life as you choose. Or the other option is to play by the rules and stay single until you meet someone from your culture. Whatever you may choose realize the country where you live. And that it can be the defining choice that puts you in good or bad standings in society.


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RACIAL DISCOMFORT: WHY ARE BLACK AND WHITE PEOPLE SO OFFSET IN EACH OTHER’S COMMUNITIES

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“Still discomfort after so much time.”


not your community

I live in Harlem, NYC, and I can tell you first hand there is a discomfort and a heightened awareness when White people are in the presence of Black people. But that awareness increases with us in predominantly White environments as well. How does two groups who have been in a country for so long still feel such discomfort around each other? Now, you can point to the idea that most people feel more comfortable around people that look like them than those that are different. But there is real social construct to the American landscape.

segregation alive and well

Like I said earlier, I live in NYC, a city with an array of diversity. And if you are someone not a fan of diversity, you are going to be miserable here. Because you are constantly in a position to have to deal with someone different than yourself. But I am from the Midwest, and you really don’t have to deal with too many people that don’t look like you. So the tolerance is a lot lower elsewhere in America. So for the most part the vast majority of your daily life is communicating with your own group for the rest of your life. From your school life, to social life, to dating, to what neighborhood you raise children within.

everything isn’t bigotry

Wanting to live around that share the same culture as you is not all hatred. Everything has to be looked at in context. But in a society where context is slowly going away, saying anything that is not the status quo can land you into trouble. But who decided being comfortable was bad. Like I said, context, if you are forcing someone from a neighborhood because ethnicity, now you’re in a really weird position. But discomfort will always exist in America because of the social construction.


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Instagram Me: @theefaheemjackson

Twitter Me: @2320howe

Medium.com/@faheemjackson

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