EXCEEDING EXPECTATIONS: HOW YOU CAN BE HATED FOR BEING MORE THAN YOU “SHOULD BE”

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“Who are you to be where you are!”


Filmmaker and actor Tyler Perry gave a speech before a group of college graduates where he stated exceeding past the expectations of where people feel you should be is when you create enemies. Because now you start to get individuals saying how dare you think you’re more than what I think of you. It’s from this internal emotion built in where we just know how your life will turn out. We just know that you can’t be more than what we see you as in society. And when you do succeed, the people who never thought you would be where you’re at have to do some serious self-reflecting. They’re Image result for self reflectforced to come to terms with two things in life. One they aren’t good characters of judgement. And number two, they are now forced to sit back and look over their lives thus far. They must now look at themselves in the mirror and say, “If only you had taken your life more serious, where would you be by now.”

So now, you as the successful person becomes the scorn of another person. Because they look at you and say, “You made me see myself.” Why, well no one really likes to look into a mirror and reflect. We often turn away, and look somewhere else. But this person you thought wouldn’t succeed makes you reflect; so much so, it stays on your mind. Especially if the success story had a troubled past. When the past of a person is ground level, and they work their way from that point, there is also an inner hate and disdain carried toward that person. You see, a successful person with a troubled Image result for accountabilitypast can be dismissed if we don’t know or having ever met the person. But when that person was someone we saw throughout life, sour grapes fills our mouths. What’s sad is that so many people can still rebound in life, yet they’re so angry at you, they miss their own blessings.

Is there more, well yes there is more to discuss. What happens when the success is doing something that the person angry don’t like, and can’t figure out why you’re successful. Well, the success has people that love what they do. And if it’s not something you like, find something that you like and stick to it. But people hate to not like something and what they don’t like go on deaf ears. No matter how ridiculous the claim, the claim still exist. That’s why social media tends to be so dangerous because there is this mob mentality; a community of people who wouldn’t otherwise have a Image result for mob mentalityvoice, able to negatively effect lives of others. In the end, when you take off, and become successful, you will have people not like you. But when you reach an altitude that many feel you shouldn’t have reached, then you get hate. But it comes with the territory; you can’t be a loser out of fear of people not liking you.


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FROM SUCCESS COMES GUILT: WHY DO PEOPLE FEEL DOWN ABOUT THEIR SUCCESS

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“I’m winning, but do I deserve it?”


You’re young, successful, and life couldn’t be any better. As a matter of fact, life is so good, you often feel like why are you coasting so easily. Now what’s interesting about that statement is that you built yourself to where you are in life. Yet when you look at your life, you have given so much to be where you’re at. Why are you feeling this weird sense of guilt, or undeserving feeling of you getting what you have today? It’s because when you see how the dynamics of how the world actually is built, you think to yourself, “How the hell did I get here?” But most of all, you’re seeing people around you work so hard, yet go nowhere.

Now, I also look at where you have come from as it pertains to your socioeconomic situation. If you grew up poor, and now you’re upper middle class, then you go back home and see poor people. People you know very well are hard working people. They’re not lazy, they’re not bulking the system, so why are they struggling and I am not? Why does it seem like money is coming to me so easily and they struggle to survive? You sit on the lakefront overlooking the landscape with your 5,000; 6,000; or 7,000 square foot house in the background. You look around and say to yourself, “Why me?”

But then you have to snap back to your senses and say, “Why not me?” Especially if you came from humble beginnings, you deserve to have what’s coming to you. But it’s sometimes more than just that in life. Sometimes, some of us are blessed with the ability to retain more knowledge, or just born with more knowledge. And that would mean you hit the genetic lottery. You are of the few that are able to use your mind to move yourself to another level. The things to some people that make no sense, flow through your mind perfectly. Now most would say, “Why don’t you share that knowledge?” And you do, hence, why you have so many people who struggle. Not because you shared your knowledge of success, but because how some of them receive the information.

You might share how you made it, and they ignore, or discredit what you’re saying. So it becomes tough to share with people sometimes because they have this disconnect that causing them to not want to accept the truth. Yet, you are of rational mind. So when two people of rational mind talk, yet only one can accept the rationale, then you have a disconnect. And in the end, that is why you shouldn’t feel hurt by where you are in life. Life is all about choices. Choices to listen, to work, to enjoy your life, and to part take in activities you shouldn’t do. And you should never feel like where you have come is some kind of mistake. Because there is always someone feeling and living worse off than you; so live life and enjoy.


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GENERATION FAST TRACK: HOW THIS NEW SOCIAL MEDIA ERA IS RUINING A GENERATION’S DRIVE

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“In a fast paced world, with long term success.”


Google, Yahoo, YouTube, Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, Tinder, and way more. We are the generation that is used to instant gratification. You type it, it pops up in less than a few seconds. And if we just so happen to get a 15 second commercial clip we get antsy. And this behavior has to do with so Image result for social mediamuch moving so fast in today’s society. But when it comes to other areas of life, time seems to stand still. And there are two areas of interest where you don’t receive instant gratification: building a successful career and maintaining a successful monogamous relationship. These are two of the most important aspects of adulthood, and two of the hardest to tackle.

Yet, we struggle so much with the idea of having to build so long. Why does it take so long to build a career? For starters, initially, you’re building experience in the field of interest. Our generation wants someone to show us, kind of like working at a fast food restaurant. Then once we learn, we can start making Related imagethe big bucks. But it doesn’t quite work like that; you need more time. So you might think, what time, 6 months, 1 year? No, you should probably take close to 10 years of learning. And that’s when the onset of stress and depression set in. So much of your life is about in the now, that you hear 10 years and say to yourself, forget it. But 10 years is nothing when trying to build a career. As a matter of fact, I’m actually being nice when I say 10 years.

Nice! Yes, nice; it’s more like 15 to 20 years, maybe even close to 20. That’s why it’s best to start young and build. This way, hopefully, you’re still young by the time your career takes off. Then again, when you see someone young doing the things you want to do, you get discouraged. But you don’t know when they started. They could have started at age 19 years old, and are now Image result for GROWTH30/31 years old. We tend to look at the now, and say what you could have been. Don’t regret, you’re still young at 30 yourself, and you will be at 40 years of age. But so many see those who are what they could have been had they have started early.But now, they resent not working at what they want. Big mistake, you’re still young, start now.

But even with all I have written, what about relationships. With so many apps geared toward meeting someone and hoping up in just a matter of hours, no wonder good relationship are so hard to come by. How do we maintain a relationship when so much is based around a quick one hour encounter. But then you look at people who have been married for 25, 30, Related image40, 50, and some more years. And you ask yourself, “How did they make it that far?” Well, they made it that far because there was no rush when they first met. There was trial and error where people learned along the way. Now, there is no trial and error; if you screw up, you’re gone. Why, well there are more options today.

If the generations before us thought the way we do about relationships, I could only imagine what the state of relationships would look like today. There was a courting process in the past that involved not only you getting to know your partner, but the family you were marrying into. Now, it’s meet you today, sleep with you tomorrow, meet your family next week, marry a few months later, and then divorce five years after. Everything is so fast, yet Image result for goalswe want things to last long.We are way too impulsive in our society today. There is little thought that goes into our decisions that have long term effects. And in the end, the long term effects are what I am worried about. Will we wind-up hurting ourselves in the end? Will a generation become depressed and less driven because they are ill-prepared for the real world? Hopefully this is fear, and it dissipates as time goes on.


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FAST FORWARD: WHY WE WANT TO SPEED UP TIME TO SUCCESS

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“No one wants to wait, we just want to be there.”


Success takes a lot of time; sometimes more time than we are willing to wait. Don’t you wish sometimes you could just fast forward your way through time. Well, at least until you’re in a more comfortable position in life. Yet, when we fast forward, there are other non-controllable things that can happen as well. Are we willing to deal with those as well? You may be successful, but people around you might die. Your loved ones could perish without you being able to say your last good-byes. So why not just let time tick as time ticks? It’s that long arduous road to where you want to be that’s why.

When we start out in life, it’s usually at the bottom. At the bottom financially, at the bottom socially. And we all have this place where we would like to be. But the time it takes to get there is so long, we wish we could fast forward to success. Well, what happens if we could? But your success you want is at the age of 60. You click forward at age 25 and now you just missed out on nearly 40 years of life. You will miss out on so much on that road to success that your end result is not even worth the time moving forward. You want to enjoy all the time it took to get you where you want to go. If not, once you reach success, you may not appreciate it. Yet we still want to keep moving forward nonetheless.

Unless that is, you get a certain level of success at a young age. Then, no one wants to push the time forward. You want to live in every moment of the time you are in. But people around you may not want to push the time forward. And all of these people not willing to wait comes from a lack of guarantee. Who want to put in so much work and then nothing formulates in the end. What if you fast forward years and still nothing? What did your life really mean? Just because you say fast forward until I am successful, doesn’t mean there is success in your life. Your life might actually be failure after failure after failure. Can you stomach your existence on Earth boiling down to nothing?

In the end, people don’t want to live in the moment especially when the moment is so awful. We don’t want to grind it out to get nothing in the end. On the other hand, if you don’t do anything there is nothing in itself. In today’s society, we are currently in a strange time as it pertains to success. There is no real path to take in life. Years ago the path lead to somewhere, now the path can go up, down, side to side, and reverse. It’s whatever you make the path out to be. And that’s what it comes down to, making life what you want it to be. Because in the end, it’s your life.


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WHEN THERE’S BLOOD IN THE STREET: CAN SOMETHING GOOD COME FROM THESE HIGH CRIME NEIGHBORHOODS

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“Do you see the gold in the street?”


The famous quote coined by Baron Rothschild was, “When there’s blood in the street, buy.” It makes sense because people are in a panic. So when you buy, and the panic starts, once the panic is over you own a lot. And that’s how Rothschild gained his wealth. By sending the news regarding the Battle of Waterloo led by Napoleon, Nathan Rothschild gained an edge. He made one of biggest fortunes in the city at that time. The Rothschilds gained while everyone else was in a state of panic. Why, because he had an edge by being one of, if not the biggest carrier system in Europe. So he was able to deliver news that even his competition had to follow.

Now, let’s fast forward in today’s society. I grew up in an inner city community that was poor. Not only that, but the crime was high in the areas. No one wanted and still don’t want to buy property in the communities. Now, with what Rothschild did back years ago, could that be used again today. Gentrification is a prime example of that very Rothschild model. But, why not the people capitalize who are from these areas. Especially once they get enough money where they can afford to do so. Then again, how does one feel about buying property and capitalizing off of the misfortune of others. But, someone is going to do it, why not people who come from the community.

When I look at my home town for example, the low cost of property is amazing. Now that I live in New York City, where $1 million is average in some places for a home, that money is major back home. But can you just start building just because property is low? The answer is no, you can’t, why, well there has to be something there. There has to be industries or industries willing to move in and skilled labor to work jobs. So buying property when there is blood in the street only works under those kinds of conditions. But in addition to the environment conditions, what about the vision for where you want to see the place you’re investing in to be in the future. You don’t just throw money at something, you have to be skilled to grow it as well.

I look at a city like Chicago, Illinois for for example with high crime areas. No one is investing in those areas because of the obvious. But another reason is the skill of the people who are going to be working there in those areas. And, what do you plan on converting the area into. Hyde Park is a nice neighborhood where some if not a lot of people may work in the city. What about bringing city jobs to the Englewood community next door? Or better yet, Bronzeville is another community located in great proximity to downtown Chicago. Chinatown is in the middle, which is a great gateway of economic growth. Not only that, but if possible, you could bring the two communities together, creating a mix of diversity that could also contribute to the boom.

In the end, there is truth to the blood in the streets quote. Now whether you’re comfortable with investing in the areas, that’s up to you. Some people have invested, but then wound up losing money. But a guy like Nathan Rothschild, who had access to information was able to capitalize, some would say. You do also, it’s all about having the eye for being able to see the potential, then moving on it.


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HOOP DREAMS: WHY SPORTS IS THE TICKET FOR BLACK MALES

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“A gone make it!”

“With the number one pick, of the NBA/NFL draft, the ________ select _______ of the University of ________.” These are the words young boys dream of hearing as we prepare to walk that stage, receiving that hat from the commissioner. Then soon after, celebrating with family as we bask in the glory of making to the league. Our dreams have come true and we can start our career. Now these are the experiences the very few will get a chance to see. As for the rest, it is just a dream which will never come true. But is that really the end. I mean with so many young boys dreaming and only a limited amount of space, only a chosen few will get a chance to even get drafted. Even fewer will play and fewer will have lengthy careers.

But why, why are so many Black males wrapped up in the idea that sports is the way out of poverty. There use to be a lyric in hip hop artist Notorious B.I.G. rhymes, “You either slangin rocks or got a killer jump shot.” Could it be that we aspire to play ball because so many Black men are in the league that we see. Black men are in other career fields, but these are the public figures we see. And we only want to be the men we see and seek to become who we see as making big in their careers. There are Black doctors, lawyers, engineers, executives, but we want to be the ball player. But could it all be about seeing these men. What about income?

Income has caught the attention of so many Black boys because what other career is this lucrative this young. Name any other profession where a 19 to 22 year old could become an overnight millionaire. Especially a young Black man from an inner city neighborhood. The only guys that age with a lot of money are the drug dealers. It’s one of the reasons we purchase the items we do once we get money, almost as a homage to these guys. We also think that money will fix so many of our problems that we try to escape from when we were poor. But why is sports so shoved down the throats of Black boys. Even with knowing the majority won’t go pro.

One of the reasons is that winning high school games makes the school and coach look good. So Black males have dreams pumped into their heads about being the next Jordan or Kobe or Lebron. Yet no one is telling Black boys to focus on more academics. In today’s society the idea of a college degree is thrown our way. But you don’t need basketball/football to go to college. So academics take a backseat to sports. And what happens, so many Black boys read at levels that kids half their age are reading. Which leads to so many Black males majoring in communications once we get to college. It’s one the easiest, yet one the most vague degrees in school.

In the end, we are pushed to play sports because no one expects you to do anything else. Young White males are not pumped up with sports on a daily basis. Plus, we are also inundated with constant images of successful White men in other career fields. As a matter of fact, the entire Forbes rich list are comprised with majority White males. To White guys, sports is fun, as a career objective, there are fewer. Young Black boys should be exposed to more as children to know more is out there. That’s why Barack Obama played such a pivotal role in the image of Black males. Now more than ever politics is an attractive career path for Black males. An environment which will effect Black males more than any athlete can effect change.