CAREER CHOICES: WHAT SHOULD I PURSUE AS A CAREER

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“Where to turn?”


so many choices

After college there is down moment when you realize that you don’t know what you want to pursue in life. And that’s when reality sets in entering life. You have student loans, health care, dental, rent, utilities, food, and transportation cost. Unless, you decide to move back in with your parents. Which is a decision that so many young people just do not want to do. You lived on your own for four years, now you’re back in mom and dad’s house. And anxiety sets in because you just knew coming from school you were getting six figures on some job. You apply for work, yet it’s all minimum wage and low pay entry positions. Well, guess what, welcome to life.

weighing options

When you don’t know what you want to do in life, fine. A lot of people spend years trying to find their thing. So as I have said in prior posts, test a lot of things to see what you’re good at. Then narrow it down to a few options. Find what you love and what you’re good at as well. Why is it to love what you do? Because the time it takes to make big bucks or money at all will be long. So you have to like doing what you’re doing. Otherwise you’re going to give up fast. Like me for example, I am pursuing a screenwriting, author, and photography career. If you’re only chasing money, you will be miserable. Has to be more than that; you have to fall in love with it.

finding your thing

You’ll know when your thing is there inside of you. Because it will be undeniable to the point that you’ll do seamlessly without even trying. You want to design and build apps, you’ll do so with ease. But coding is going to take you a lot of time to learn the repetition. Oh, you want to be a leading surgeon, fine, go through your Master’s program, then on to med school. Get yourself a residency, and work for the next 15 – 20 yrs. Yes, that’s right, that many years, which is why it’s great to start as young as possible. Only problem is that most don’t find their thing they’re good at until later.

advice

When receiving advice from others, make sure you’re taking in the appropriate advice. Because you want to adhere to the stuff that could aid you. But not everything people tell you will work. So use your better judgement in delegating what’s important and not. People will assume they know your strengths and weaknesses. But they are only telling you how they see you. Pay heed to the people talking, they may not only know you, but not want you to truly persevere.


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DOUBTERS: WHY YOU ACTUALLY NEED THE HATERS IN YOUR LIFE

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“You will never make it, so why try?”


We’re always taught in our lives to surround ourselves with good people.  Place yourself around those going in the same direction as you. But what happens when all of that is attempted to be derailed by someone who wants to kill your dreams. That means you have to work that much harder to make it happen yourself. Those dream killers are the doubters who either out loud or silently told you it would never happen. They are the ones who it didn’t work for them, and don’t want it to work for you. Where does it come from; why do they need to feel the need to bring you down? And why do you actually in a way need these type of people in your life.

Doubters are people who for a number of reasons may not want to see you succeed in your career of interests. You have the first group of doubters that are the ones that will tell you try something else. They are flat out not interested in anything you do. They see you in the present state and can’t see past that point. You’re perceived by them as a slacker or loser. So they can’t get around the loser that is you. So to them you’re going to always be what your are. Another group of doubters are the people whose careers didn’t pan out so they have to tell you how much it won’t work for you. To them, they couldn’t make it and there is no way you’re better than them. So they just know you’ll fail in life. And if you do succeed, they’ll find the most negative stuff to say about you.

The third group of doubters are the people who have their success and don’t want you to surpass them. To them, you are a threat and must be stopped. But they are not going to just stop you, they’ll be overly negative. The goal is to get you to quit because a lot of times you work for them. They are comfortable with you under them and can’t stand you above where they think you should be. Kind of how comedians have come out recently after Kevin Hart. They were fine when he was below them, now he’s way above them, and now there is every reason to say he doesn’t deserve it. But the last group of doubters are the flat out hate group. They usually have no real discernible talent, and need to bring you down. Because your success further shows how much of their life was a waste. Especially if they remember when both of you were at the bottom. It shows how much time they’ve wasted in their lives.

Now, with all that I have stated, why do we need these doubters? Well, first and foremost they push us to be better. There is no motivation like people telling you you’re not good enough. You work overtime to prove them wrong. But I think the biggest reason we need doubters is to gain an insight into the human psyche. People who doubt you expose aspects of their personality. And not because of criticism; but hate. Criticizing someone is fine when you have a solution to make a situation better. But hate for the sake of hate let’s you in on who the criticizers are internally. And in the end that’s the just of doubters. They have their own internal workings going on. But how they see you and who you really are is totally different. As long as you have self-awareness, what they say has no hold.


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REPETITION: HOW ROUTINES CAN CONTRIBUTE TO THAT SUCCESS

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“What is your success regimen?”


Some of us think about a daily regimen as getting up going to work each and every day. But what about how we go about attaining our success in the world. Successful people all have a regimen, and it is very stringent to their daily lives. It may consist of them performing a certain action or eating certain foods to start your day. Others include a workout in the morning or a verbal ritual. I myself have a daily routine that consists of me keeping in line with my daily success. I usually take the same route to and from work everyday. I even keep the same songs in rotation on my phone. Why is this important to have a routine everyday?

People who typically have a daily routine to keep themselves on track are more focused because they have this ritual. When you have this routine that leads you into your day of work, it makes your work more important and creates a sense of urgency. Well why does it create urgency? It’s because once you do the same thing over and over again, with more and more consistency each time, you start to develop success from this. In addition, you are not thinking also about the time that is passing because you’re so into your work.

Are there any reasons besides keeping in line with success for why you would have a daily routine. Another reason is that some people need a routine as it pertains to their stability as well. A stable person is someone who has a sustainable routine that keeps them mentally straight. And it’s that mental focus that puts them on the path to the success. So, where does it come from? Is there a certain group of people out there who share this trait? Where does this spark to have a daily routine toward success come from? In the end, we all have something we perform on a daily basis to get us charged in the morning. Whatever gets you started on your day is up to you, just as long as the end result is your success.

Oops Mom and Dad, Sorry To Disappoint

Graduate from high school, go to college, spend four years trying to figure out what to do. Leave college get a job while working on your Masters Degree. Attain your degree, try to get a better job afterward. Settle into a job, wake up early in the A.M., get to work by 9:00 A.M. Work until your lunch break at 12:00 P.M. Come back form your lunch break, work until 5:00 P.M., then come home. Cook dinner, go to sleep; do this for five days per week. Wake up on Saturday and lounge around, or do shopping. On Sunday, go to church, leave service and go out to eat. Come home and rest until it’s time for you to go to sleep. You do this from your mid/late 20’s until you retire at age 65 years of age. Once you retire spend your days sitting in a rocking chair and then you die. You are expected to live like this and if you don’t, you’re considered irresponsible. But to me, I felt this was not how I want to live my life. I am embarking on my journey of prosperity as well as happiness. I wonder how may people are happy living their day-to-day existence.

My life is something different and sets me aside from the norm. I did all the things up until the point except after undergraduate school, putting myself on a collision course with another path. I graduated high school, went off to undergraduate school, but veered off course once I got to graduate school. Entering graduate school pursuing my MBA, I was still up in the air regarding my future. Finishing my first screenplay during this time period while going on job interviews made me realize my true passion. Filmmaking made me understand this is where I belong as well as writing my books. It gave me the ability to do something that I could not do on a daily job; and that was being honest and open. When you work a day, there is so much censorship that you don’t worry about being an independent writer. You are expected to put on a suit and tie, and conform to the control of a supervisor; who by the way has the freedom you are restricted form having. That freedom they have and control over your life made me realize the construct I would have to work within. It has nothing to do with real structure, but more about a few individuals having a position of control over the majority. And if you even question something you disagree with, you are reprimanded for insubordination for the questioning.

So what do parents have to do with all of this; simple, following your passion is highly discouraged. Parents want their children to go to school, get out, shut up, follow the status quo, get your pay check, and go home. But when you are unhappy regarding your situation, they are puzzled. Everyone expects you to fall in line, but can’t figure out why it’s so depressing. Unlike most, I have decided to follow my passion: filmmaking, writing novels, and photography. You would think people who be behind you, but you receive more discouragement than encouragement. What’s shocking is that your are not hanging around doing nothing, yet you are looked at as some young person wasting your life. Stepping out and creating a career rather than taking a job is seen as some sort of let down. You have not chosen the road most take and because of that you have failed; failed your parents, your family, your friends, and society. How come no one sees your vision? Why is it seen as a waste of life? Because people assume they can’t do it so you can’t, or the difficulty is such that most fail and few succeed.

The reason for the most part that parents are resistant is because taking a job is an easier way out. There is not only a plan, but a process from school to work to retirement. “Play life safe,” they tell you. The only problem with this, is that playing life safe won’t lead to satisfaction in life nor will it lead to higher returns in your career. It’s tough coming from parents because that is what they are suppose to do. It’s their job to be that overbearing because they have been through the greater portion of life. They know what comes with entering the world and what will be expected of you. What’s funny about all of this I have explained, is that in the end, they respect you more when you carve out your future. It’s confusing because not listening to your parents is a sign of disobedience, yet you have to veer off from their guidance sometimes. Why, well they are not living this life, you are. You have to do what makes you happy because your happiness is key to your stability both financially and economically. Trust me, when do succeed at what it is you’re pursuing, they will respect you more. They will know that what you have talked up is not just some pipe dream, but yet a future you have so diligently worked at. And for that they will say I am proud of you.