SEX IS WAY TOO EASY: THE CULTURE OF SWIPING

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“Left for no, right for yes.”


the new chivalry

I have a Bumble account, but I have never really used it. Just went about my time swiping on it and playing around. But there is still something to be said about actually approaching someone and talking face to face. Dating apps gives you the ability to be shot down over the computer and you don’t have the personal rejection up close. Yet even this is not the topical point of today. This is more about the sex lifestyle of living on the apps. Just swiping on someone then see if you can get a quick hookup. And that is what so much about being a young person today is about. It’s almost crazy to assume someone would be willing to approach then build from there into something more.

convenience is key

Work, life, balance for the average person is so stressful in today’s society. So the popularity with online dating has made life so much more convenient. You swipe and wait for them to respond. If they respond then we move on from there, if not then keep swiping. And this is due to us always trying to find our next gig. Making money is very important and with a lot of jobs, yet lower pay and hours, we find ourselves working more gigs. Then when you think about your dating life, it gets thrown to the back burner. But once that happens you start to lose the ability to connect to another person. You are more so connected to the ideas of what that person might be, but not actually be. We become in love with a representation instead of the real deal.

parents just don’t understand

When you are swiping as a means to meet someone then parents look at you like they don’t understand you. And the reality is that they will never because their way of meeting someone was to was to approach that person. It is too risky for them to go over the computer to meet someone. Because this way you are able to see the person and not them putting forward this person that is not them on a screen. Funny thing is, we all come with a representative of who we are in life. No one shows up and says, “Hey I’m_________, I have an emotional problem, financial issues, and looking for someone to aid me in good life decision making.” The average person would run for the hills. But in all, it still seems odd to you parent’s generation.

the next generation’s swipe

If we swipe today, what will be the swipe for dating 20 years from now. Who knows, maybe there won’t even be a swipe. They might be inclined to go back to dating like the distant past. Or maybe a flip could happen where women play the role of us as men and pursue us. But I will say this, technology will make things more and more strange to my age group.


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MARRIAGE AND A BABY WHAT: THE DECLINE OF THE NUPTIALS

 

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“I do(n’t).”


generational shift

Unlike the past generations, more and more young people are rethinking marriage. And the reason for such a cultural shift has a lot to with divorce. We watched the past generations going in and out of marriage with costly divorces. And the infidelity also is of concern considering the availability of reaching people we would like to talk to. So what are young people doing today’s society? Well a lot of the new millennial generation and the group right behind us are settling for just dating and living with someone. This way you cut down on all the confusion that comes with marriage like all the paperwork you have to sign. And the breakup if it does take place is a lot more fluid. You just shake hands and walk away from the situation.

dough is important

I have been reading articles lately surrounding why marriage is on the decline in America among the young generation. And so many have said that women cannot find an economically attractive potential spouse. And for these reasons a lot of them have chosen to just stay single. Because what is the purpose of struggling so much when you are able to do more alone. Conversely, the men who are attractive for dating exist to an extent, they just don’t want to take the financial risk. Who really want to get involved in a situation where you’re losing 50% just because she wakes up and decides that she is no longer happy. It’s more fiscally sound to just date. At least dating there is a guaranteed that if the relationship succeed or not, you’re good.

less family intervention

Families for the longest have interjected themselves in the lives of those around them. But when you decide to get married there is even more entitlement to get involved. And for these reasons people tend to stay dating. When you are dating no one gets involved so you are able to have your own lives. The moment you decide to get married then you have to deal with all the pressures of family. The life of a person dating another person means that you are going to be seeing this person and only dealing with this person. Not the voices of the people around you.


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CHANGE I WISH I COULD BELIEVE IN: THE ADJUSTMENT FROM COLLEGE TO SOCIETY FOR YOUNGER GENERATIONS

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“Surviving the adjustment.”


the real world

This school year just started for a lot of incoming freshmen into college. As for the seniors that walked across the stage this past summer, their worries are about to start. Because they are stepping into the workplace environment. What does mean for them? You’re talking about a generation that has been used to a lot of coddling for the greater portion of their lives. Now they have to matriculate into this new world where things are not handed to you. You will not be rewarded a 10th place ribbon unless you are in the top three. But what is it about the business environment that makes life hard?

you’re the creator

When building your career it is going to be you against the world. So however far you go will ultimately be up to you. You need to be the decision maker for your life will become. And that is when the frustration and true anxiety set for the first time. How do you tailor make your life to be what you want it to be. I wonder how many people can honestly do this. The how is as you get on the job you will feel out what is you seek to become.

expectations and standards

We all look at like ourselves as more that what we are in society. And because we dilute ourselves into more great than we are, we have these expectations and dreams that take years and years to plan. Then you take years for yourself to grow financially. But our social media has made life this ready made existence that is nowhere near the real thing.So, so many young people in the workplace are having a harder time time. But it’s no harder than prior generations. They are just not ready because we gave them so much too soon.


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GENERATION FAST TRACK: HOW THIS NEW SOCIAL MEDIA ERA IS RUINING A GENERATION’S DRIVE

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“In a fast paced world, with long term success.”


Google, Yahoo, YouTube, Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, Tinder, and way more. We are the generation that is used to instant gratification. You type it, it pops up in less than a few seconds. And if we just so happen to get a 15 second commercial clip we get antsy. And this behavior has to do with so Image result for social mediamuch moving so fast in today’s society. But when it comes to other areas of life, time seems to stand still. And there are two areas of interest where you don’t receive instant gratification: building a successful career and maintaining a successful monogamous relationship. These are two of the most important aspects of adulthood, and two of the hardest to tackle.

Yet, we struggle so much with the idea of having to build so long. Why does it take so long to build a career? For starters, initially, you’re building experience in the field of interest. Our generation wants someone to show us, kind of like working at a fast food restaurant. Then once we learn, we can start making Related imagethe big bucks. But it doesn’t quite work like that; you need more time. So you might think, what time, 6 months, 1 year? No, you should probably take close to 10 years of learning. And that’s when the onset of stress and depression set in. So much of your life is about in the now, that you hear 10 years and say to yourself, forget it. But 10 years is nothing when trying to build a career. As a matter of fact, I’m actually being nice when I say 10 years.

Nice! Yes, nice; it’s more like 15 to 20 years, maybe even close to 20. That’s why it’s best to start young and build. This way, hopefully, you’re still young by the time your career takes off. Then again, when you see someone young doing the things you want to do, you get discouraged. But you don’t know when they started. They could have started at age 19 years old, and are now Image result for GROWTH30/31 years old. We tend to look at the now, and say what you could have been. Don’t regret, you’re still young at 30 yourself, and you will be at 40 years of age. But so many see those who are what they could have been had they have started early.But now, they resent not working at what they want. Big mistake, you’re still young, start now.

But even with all I have written, what about relationships. With so many apps geared toward meeting someone and hoping up in just a matter of hours, no wonder good relationship are so hard to come by. How do we maintain a relationship when so much is based around a quick one hour encounter. But then you look at people who have been married for 25, 30, Related image40, 50, and some more years. And you ask yourself, “How did they make it that far?” Well, they made it that far because there was no rush when they first met. There was trial and error where people learned along the way. Now, there is no trial and error; if you screw up, you’re gone. Why, well there are more options today.

If the generations before us thought the way we do about relationships, I could only imagine what the state of relationships would look like today. There was a courting process in the past that involved not only you getting to know your partner, but the family you were marrying into. Now, it’s meet you today, sleep with you tomorrow, meet your family next week, marry a few months later, and then divorce five years after. Everything is so fast, yet Image result for goalswe want things to last long.We are way too impulsive in our society today. There is little thought that goes into our decisions that have long term effects. And in the end, the long term effects are what I am worried about. Will we wind-up hurting ourselves in the end? Will a generation become depressed and less driven because they are ill-prepared for the real world? Hopefully this is fear, and it dissipates as time goes on.


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GROW UP KIDS: THE FAILURE TO LAUNCH FOR AMERICA’S YOUNG ADULTS

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“We are so not ready for the world.”

Generation Me, Generation Y, Generation Selfie! All three describe my generation of young people who are born between the mid 1980’s to the early 1990’s. We are the generation born into an era where everything is for mass consumption. We live record our lives and post to social media our innermost feelings. We determine how many friends we have by the number of followers we have on the internet. Our intimate relationships are initiated in a hurry and end rather quickly. But there is one main thing that makes us have it hard to cope in society. And that is the idea that a lot of time must be taken to build our careers. How do we cope in the real world with having to wait for success in such an immediate environment that we’re used to seeing?

The coping with a long arduous career climb, makes us jumpy when so much moves around you so fast? We work on a job for 6 months, and become discouraged for not advancing in our career. To a working adult in the their middle aged years, you realize that 6 months, hell, 6 years, you’re still not making too much of a difference. In a 10, 15, or 20 year span, you should see that progress with work. The road to success also is viewed by my age group as this jump straight into making a load of money. We have been told by our parents that we’re special our entire lives. Now we think the world owes us something.

Besides our parents and the speed of the environment around us, is there anything else that forces us to not have patience. Another has to do with age in general. We look at our young age, especially when you’re struggling, we think everything is worse than it is. Working toward a goal takes time, and by time I mean years. So the time between 20 years of age and 30 years of age seems tough. But if you started in your early 20’s then hopefully you’re breaking into your career much sooner. Yet, it’s much easier to say start early because when you’re young, you don’t know what you want out of life. There is no real self awareness in your life. So how do you launch yourself into the world?

Well, my story of how I launched myself is for starters moving to a different city. Living in a city that is different than where you grew up is a step forward. There are no friends nor family around, forcing you to grow up quicker on your own. You’ll get a chance to see that no freebies will be allotted to you. All special treatment is out the door and you’re expected to rise to the occasion. So without that safety net, you are forced to work things out over time. Now, there is nothing wrong with reaching back here and there for help when needed. But it is really important for you to be on your own.

So now what? Where do we go from here on out? In my opinion, everyone thinks that whatever generation is young will be doomed. And the previous generations feel they are better and we are worse. I think that once reality set in, a lot of things will change. It’s called paying rent, utilities, student loans, and healthcare. So, for the most part, a lot of what we are is nothing more than a phase. A phase that will past in order to coexist in the dominant society.

LIFE’S REAL: THE STRUGGLE OF FINDING JOBS FOR TODAY’S YOUNG GENERATION

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“The tough times of a generation.”

You grow up and are taught in your life to get your education. Once you do get a degree, you get a job. Work five days per week until you’re 65 years of age, then retire until death. But since the 2008 economic meltdown, there has been a lot of adjustments. One of the adjustments is working less hours for less pay. Fewer opportunities and healthcare not available to you via your employer. But this is effecting no one more than the millennial generation. I, myself, am a member of this age group and let me tell it’s tough. But even though we are known as a generation that expects everything for nothing, the majority of us are not necessarily that way.

We are not dealing with the same playing field as our parents. I never thought the day would come where working part-time is commonplace. You feel lazy and unproductive, even when you’re a hard working male or female. It seems as if all your effort is never good enough. But is it all your fault or the society where we reside? In my opinion it is a combination of both us and the system. To what degree, I am unsure, but it’s both.

How is the society where we live? Well for starters, over the years, more and more jobs have been shipped outside the country. And with that are the opportunities for a younger up and coming generation. Financially for a company it makes sense to pay a foreigner $3 per hour instead of $30 for you and I. The only problem is that company’s expect American’s to fork over money for products and services. This creates a bind because if we are struggling as a country economically, then how do we really contribute? This has been a platform that the president elect Trump has campaigned for; job creation.

Now there is a keyword that we keep hearing; jobs. People say, we need more jobs. There are not enough jobs for young people trying to climb the socioeconomic ladder like there predecessors. But I ask, what is a job really? When you say, I need a job, what do you mean? Working fast food is a job, but it does not pay well. Some may say, they want good money. But once again, what does that mean; what is good money. Which brings me to another reason why my generation has it hard; no direction. Saying I want a good paying job making good  money is broad and ambiguous. It is not directed at any real goal. What job title, what salary range, what city, what benefits, what growth opportunities?

Now, what are the reasons we bring this hard life upon ourselves as a generation? We millennials, spend so much of our time having fun and not preparing for anything. But a major issue with our generation is that we are growing up in a now society. Anything we want we can click and get it instantly. But careers are not instant gratifiers. The road to success through your career is long and arduous. Gratification comes through years of labor day in and day out. It’s hard to reap the benefits when you want so much now.

So, in closing, we look at our lives and have fear about our futures. Fears about what’s to come, and the idea of not knowing is stressful. So many people who at my age would be on their own, still live in the house with their parents. Today’s parents never thought their children would be living at home at the age of thirty. But because of slim opportunities they’re back home. But is it all because of job lose, maybe, just maybe it’s skills. We have so many unqualified people, it makes the job hunt seem tougher than it really is. Whatever the case may be, if this trend continues, younger generations will be having fewer children and even fewer property owners will exist.

ODDBALL: WHY YOU CAN’T CONNECT TO YOUR AGE GROUP

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“You ever get the feeling you’re too old to be so young?”

Waking up at 5:00 am and going to the first of my two part time jobs. Then in the middle of the day when I’m not working I work on my novel. Unless I don’t work double shifts, then it’s all day in the computer lab. In addition to my novel I have my book of short stories, pre-production for my next short film, freelance photography in 2017, and finding a way to build my podcast show I want to start in 2017! So when I hear, man, when I get out of work, I’m going home to chill; it creeps me out. Or better yet, I’m about to go home and blaze up.

Blaze up! The world is passing every single second of the day and you’re getting high. What about doing more, don’t you want to do more? I have a theory about those type of people. When you’re in your 20’s, you don’t quite know what you want out of life. So you spend the entire decade hanging and partying with an occasional hook up. It’s a sign that you don’t have anything you’re passionate about in life. But I found my passion when I was only 23/24 years old. Am I special, no, I just hate waking up, work, home, eat, then sleep. Why don’t I connect with the average person my age? It’s more than just not having passion.

Another reason I don’t connect or anyone else in my position is because of how I look at the world. When you’re young you think you know everything. The whole world is myopic to you because you have not been anywhere yet. And I’m not talking about traveling. I’m talking about the hardships that come with life. You’re not jaded yet by the world because of the things you see around you. Now me, I am jaded, why because I think I know too much about my surroundings. It’s this weird unexplained awareness. Now you ask yourselves, aren’t you a 20 something. Aren’t you doing what makes you irritated about so many other 20’s. Not quite.

Other 20’s have conversations like for instance political stance that lack substance. For example, “I could never vote for Trump!” He’s just bad for the country and Hilary is right!” “I can’t see how anyone would vote for a man like that!” “I can’t even talk to a person who would vote for a man like him!” Now me, I look at life for starters never say never. I have disagreed politically at times with him, but wouldn’t all together rule a person out. You have to way your options before making a decision. If you’re a person that all you see is bad in someone and no good, you’re just as pitiful as them. No one has all bad traits. Also, saying how could someone vote for him, yet in the same breathe stating I can’t converse with a Trump supporter answers your question as to why someone would vote for him. You have to talk to the person who you see as your opposition. But it’s hard to do so when you only stick your points.

The same applies to social ways of looking at the world. My generation says you shouldn’t fat shame, but are quick to put each other in the friend zone if they are not the archetype that we call people out for doing. We say no bullying, until a random person walk in the room we don’t know. Then a conversation ensues around what they are wearing and how they looked wearing their attire. We scream racism, but the same hipsters who are anti-racist actively work to remove certain ethnic groups from the community in opposition of their culture. We say we see woman in Kaitlin Jenner, but a woman wouldn’t dare date a man whose been with a transgender woman. Men say our new president disrespects women, all the while we shoot the shit the same why.

And that’s why I say I see and know too much. It is not just the lack of plausible information we use to drive our points. But it’s the willingness to stick to those points and not bend. You would think age changes people from age range to age range, but from 18 – 30 years is not much of a quantum leap. From some of the clothes to the music selection. I don’t feel my age, which could mean I am maturing faster than people my age or missing out on experiencing life at my age. But I can’t help how I feel. Feelings are real; the cognitive disconnect to my age group is real. Sad thing is that a lot of people never change. They wonder through life, aimlessly searching. Trying to find their place in a world that is rapidly passing them by.