INTO THE UNKNOWN: WHAT OUR TRUE FEARS ARE ABOUT LIVING

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“What will tomorrow bring is always scary.”


Growing up as a child, we have all these different places we see ourselves in life. We see ourselves being the top person in our career field. We see ourselves happily married with children. We see ourselves living this all-around great life, that sometimes doesn’t quite pan out that way. We see ourselves in all these positions, yet when it comes time to actually step into society, we have a hard time coming to grips with the real world. In the real world, things don’t turn out how we always plan them. Sometimes life throws you a curve ball and how you deal with the adversity says a lot about who are you as a person. How will you respond if life doesn’t turn out how you thought it would turn out?

Life is not this straight path that leads to this pot of gold. You might go to school, get out, get a good job, and in a matter of months have no place of employment and no place to live. How do you deal with this when it comes your way? What do you do when face with no job and no means of survival? There is no playbook when dealing in life, this is something that happens on the fly. We have all these theories on how to deal until it happens. That’s when panic sets in, and you start to make decisions that could worsen your situation. And at that point you realize what true adulthood is all about. Your biggest fears are right in front of you. Life has eaten you up and spit you out.

It’s tough because you look at all those people around you who never work as hard as you, yet you are the one who manages to go through so much. And then you’ll find yourself asking questions as to why you have to deal with such adversity, yet the people who don’t work as hard get to coast through life. But that you don’t want, what you never want to do, is make your disdain at your situation make you angry at another person’s life. Number one, never make the assumption that their life is going well. And number two, your life could actually worsen from where it currently is because you are so focused on them. Yet it’s hard to do so when you’re going through so much.

See, in the end, that unknown that you’re entering that is life can be petrifying. Even when you are prepared to live your life, you still have fears about each and every day. You don’t know when the supervisor will come in and say, “We had to let you go.” You don’t know when a simple hospital visit could be a longer stay that reveals a terminal situation. Yet thinking about it daily will also drive you crazy. So you live, going to sleep waking up, not knowing what will come of each day. But it is also that unknown that strangely enough makes you feel alive. That makes us appreciate everyday, because after all, it could be your last: last in a relationship, last on a job, last in life.


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WHEN MINIMAL DEFEATS MAXIMUM: HOW LIVING WITH LESS TAUGHT ME A VALUABLE LESSON

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“You were brought in this world with nothing, yet not you need everything.”


I remember when in a previous post I stated I grew up poor. I said how much I wanted to be wealthy because I grew up with less. Since I became an adult, I realized what I want, and it is not entirely money. Now don’t get me wrong, I do want to have a comfortable life. But it is not the end all be all. I have to have a career I love, otherwise the monetary gain is not even worth the work. So when I decided to pursue a career in writing, I knew it would be a long term build-up. The climb would involve me giving up a lot to pursue my career interest. And that minimal lifestyle gave me an insight into my life and life itself. Having less makes you focus on more important aspects of life.

For starters, my mind was clear now that I was living with less. The only thoughts that occupy my mind are the thoughts of creating my next ideas. And it has given me a whole new outlook on life. I still look at luxury goods and muse at the shiny aspects of their form. I can’t help but be impressed with the likes of a Ferrari, Rolls Royce, or my favorite, the Bentley. But overall, if I never drive any of these I am just as happy. Even if I have the money to purchase one of these foreign cars. I am the type of person who has the money for something, but don’t have the guts to commit all the way through. Where the impulse person feels like they are missing out on something by not buying I am the opposite. I feel like I am wasting by buying something unless I need it.

Then again, maybe it’s because I not only don’t need, but never wanted it. We accumulate things in our lives just because it’s almost as if it’s what we’re supposed to do. We’re supposed to buy the biggest house our money affords us. We’re supposed to take the most exotic vacations around the globe. And hey, if you can afford it, why not fly private. But if we don’t buy any of these goods or services what does that say about our current economic position. Because as much as I don’t like it, image plays a major role in our daily lives. So we feel we have to portray a certain image to be liked. But that wanting to be liked comes at not only a monetary cost, but personally we are constantly trying to satisfy others while letting ourselves fall by the waist side. So what is so great about minimalism?

Minimalism gives you a chance to observe what’s most important. You are forced to look within yourself a lot deeper. And you also have to remove yourself away from the worldly tangibles that inhabit the Earth. In the end, there is nothing wrong with a non-minimalist life. I am merely saying give it a chance, or better yet, not to let the non-minimalism destroy you. You should want to accumulate things for wanting to and not the acceptance of. Because existing for things only and other people will only make your full life seem empty.


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LAST WISH: IF YOU DIED TONIGHT HOW HAPPY ARE YOU WITH YOUR LIFE THUS FAR

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“I’m fine with my life, how about you?”


We all think about death and whether we believe it or not, we fear on some level. But is there ever a right time to die in life? Is there an appropriate age to pass away. My great-grandmother was shy of her 100th birthday when she died. The average person lives to be 78, so nearly 100 years on this earth is a big deal. But I have a theory when it comes to death. My theory is that people are not more so afraid of death than they are dying young or leaving young children behind. Living a long fulfilling life is important and seeing your children grow is important.

When you are a young child and first learn that you will die some day, there is this fear that sets internally. But you grow to understand that most people die old. That’s until you start to see people around you die at young ages: 30 years old, 25 years old, or even 18 years old. Then you start to cringe at the idea that life could be that short for yourself. You lose someone at that young of an age and then mortality really sets internally. You have fear, but you also have a sense of urgency as well. And what about children; we fear passing and leaving behind a small child or children. As long as the child or children of ours is an adult and can care for themselves, we’re fine.

But the real question I want to ask is how good are you with life thus far? If you had to exit this Earth today, where is your at this moment? Or better yet, as you look over life thus far, can you say it meant something? A lot of people can’t say their lives meant something. The movie All Eyez On Me, the biopic chronicling the life of rapper 2Pac Shakur was recently released. He was killed at the age of only 25, but his name is ingrained in history. How many 25 year olds have a global impact on people that has lasted over 20 years? So it’s not just age, it’s your time spent on this Earth. But what if you didn’t live the life you wanted?

There are so many people who are not living their full life. So if they were to die today, their whole lives were for nothing. What heartache that must be; to live a lifetime and then realize it meant nothing. I guess that’s why people’s belief in God is so strong. Because if you can’t see more with here and now, then maybe there is something for you after. Now when asking myself this question, I am kind of on the fence. Thus far in my life I am living a fulfilling life, but I also have so much I still want to accomplish. I know the ideas in my head I want to cultivate even though no one else does.

In the end, we fear dying so much because we don’t want the end to mean nothing. There is a poor guy somewhere that no one cares about. I live in New York City, and you see it everyday. And when he dies that is it. No one will care and his body will be placed wherever there is room for him, if any. That must feel awful for that person, because I know there are people who love me. And if only those that have little to lose and gain could feel that same love, they would be better off themselves.


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