GIVING IT ALL UP: KNOWING WHAT IT TAKES TO HAVE THE JOB YOU WANT

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“You want it, now sacrifice for it.”


give a little

For me growing up, I never really knew what I wanted to do. I had an idea of what I wanted from life. But it wasn’t until I stepped into society and realized that I wanted to be what I am currently pursuing. But there is another side to having what you want out of life. And that is what you must give up to get to where you truly want to be in your career. Some people have this idea that they are just going to walk into the world and start making things happen. It won’t take much work, but they’ll just come into it. Truth be told, you will lose a lot of fun time to be at the place in life. If you’re not interested in giving up fun good luck with your success journey.

feeling the pain

When not much is moving in your life, you will start to get this feeling that you are not accomplishing anything. But the reality is that your mall successes over time will contribute to the outcome. We just live in a such a right now society, that everything you do that does not happen immediately, you feel a lack of success. This instageneration where we get likes now, friends now, comments now, and shares now. But the time it takes to build that instaplatform has been a process which has taken years. We are the users who see the finished product outside the work put into the platform. So the work in the paradigm is s boring, it hurts to put the time into the work. I know this firsthand with my writing and photography. I know it will take such a long time, sometimes I wonder why I am doing it.

moving in circles

Once you get good enough to actually go out and start making moves for yourself, then you might want to connect to people interested in the same things as you. Making sure you surround yourself with like people can actually help you go farther. Because now you have someone to piggy back off of for ideas. And this is hard, especially if you’re not the most sociable of people, but you have to do so. But how else do you expect to be great in your career?


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SCIENCE OF PARENTING: WHAT MAKES WOMEN CLOSER THAN MEN

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“We are not like them.”


the job aint easy

You ever hear people say that the job of raising children is not an easy? Well, it is; I don’t have any, but observing my mother raising children, I can tell it was a struggle. The feat of not only getting up making sure they are fed, but placing them into the world. You have to let go and realize they are in the world and trust they make the right decisions. Because the kid part are the cute years, it’s when we get older where the job becomes difficult. Once those adolescent years hit and friends become more of an influencer than parents, that’s when the job gets tough. But this topic is more than that, it’s about the relationship that each parent has with the child/children.

gender differences

The science behind why a woman is connected to the child more is simple. She is the one who carried the kid, so there is a deeper bond than the man has with the child. Men can easily role around and play with the kid then head off to work. We have that ability to connect then disconnect in an instant. But all throughout the day, especially when the child is a baby, women can’t do the same. It is impossible for a woman to tune out when the kid is young. She is able to do so as the kid gets older, and ready to take on their own identities. But is there more behind the idea that women connect better than men? Meaning, what is the even deeper science behind mom and dad bonds.

evolution

Humans have attachments to each other which aids in our ability to coexist as a planet. But when we have children men bond differently then women. And there is a science to this bond. My best guess is that men were never meant to be in the life of the child. Father’s being around is a social construct more than it is biological. Don’t get me wrong, men still will fight and die for their young, but were we supposed to be a community like we are today. There are social means as to why we as men stick around: give the kid guidance, be an example for what the kid shall be in life, a protector in the household, an additional contributor to the family, and a partner for the woman. These are social constructs, but biologically, we don’t have those attachments because maybe we were never meant to have them. That doesn’t excuse deadbeat fathers, it just aims at understanding why we can be great fathers, yet disconnect to get work done, or even become better disciplinarians.


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