DATE NIGHT: THE NEW ERA OF DATING

Man and Woman Sitting Together in Front of Table

“Whose in charge of what?”


boy the times have changed

In today’s society the landscape of dating sure has taken a turn. It’s a far cry from what dating was like in our parents or even grandparents generation. You had a courting process that could take as much as a year or more. Today people are know to have sex in the same night that they meet. And I am just trying to understand, if the end game is having a long lasting relationship, does hooking up so soon work itself out. Some people argue that it does not matter while those with more life experience will say it is a big mistake to go into something so intimate so soon.

boy meets girl, sometimes

Times have also changed regarding who asks out who on a date. Still for the most part it’s guys meeting the girl. But there have been a wave of women asking guys out on dates. Now, it is still fairly new, but it has been a trend over time. Today’s women feels there should not be any restrictions on who ask who out on a date. I will caution women, that when you are more into us than we are into you, you could be running into some problems. So if this is a pursuit for relationship, then it could mean that he is the prize. So, now you become the constant hunter. Because as much as you think as a woman you are under control you really aren’t in control.

what is to come next

For the future to come, who knows what will be the next move forward. If only you knew that, there is a lot of money to be made. Why, well, people have been busy because individuals have to work more today. So the time spent dating is tough. And with the advent of all these dating apps, what will be the tech move to bring people even closer together?


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MARRIAGE AND A BABY WHAT: THE DECLINE OF THE NUPTIALS

 

Wedding Couple Figurine

“I do(n’t).”


generational shift

Unlike the past generations, more and more young people are rethinking marriage. And the reason for such a cultural shift has a lot to with divorce. We watched the past generations going in and out of marriage with costly divorces. And the infidelity also is of concern considering the availability of reaching people we would like to talk to. So what are young people doing today’s society? Well a lot of the new millennial generation and the group right behind us are settling for just dating and living with someone. This way you cut down on all the confusion that comes with marriage like all the paperwork you have to sign. And the breakup if it does take place is a lot more fluid. You just shake hands and walk away from the situation.

dough is important

I have been reading articles lately surrounding why marriage is on the decline in America among the young generation. And so many have said that women cannot find an economically attractive potential spouse. And for these reasons a lot of them have chosen to just stay single. Because what is the purpose of struggling so much when you are able to do more alone. Conversely, the men who are attractive for dating exist to an extent, they just don’t want to take the financial risk. Who really want to get involved in a situation where you’re losing 50% just because she wakes up and decides that she is no longer happy. It’s more fiscally sound to just date. At least dating there is a guaranteed that if the relationship succeed or not, you’re good.

less family intervention

Families for the longest have interjected themselves in the lives of those around them. But when you decide to get married there is even more entitlement to get involved. And for these reasons people tend to stay dating. When you are dating no one gets involved so you are able to have your own lives. The moment you decide to get married then you have to deal with all the pressures of family. The life of a person dating another person means that you are going to be seeing this person and only dealing with this person. Not the voices of the people around you.


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CHANGE I WISH I COULD BELIEVE IN: THE ADJUSTMENT FROM COLLEGE TO SOCIETY FOR YOUNGER GENERATIONS

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“Surviving the adjustment.”


the real world

This school year just started for a lot of incoming freshmen into college. As for the seniors that walked across the stage this past summer, their worries are about to start. Because they are stepping into the workplace environment. What does mean for them? You’re talking about a generation that has been used to a lot of coddling for the greater portion of their lives. Now they have to matriculate into this new world where things are not handed to you. You will not be rewarded a 10th place ribbon unless you are in the top three. But what is it about the business environment that makes life hard?

you’re the creator

When building your career it is going to be you against the world. So however far you go will ultimately be up to you. You need to be the decision maker for your life will become. And that is when the frustration and true anxiety set for the first time. How do you tailor make your life to be what you want it to be. I wonder how many people can honestly do this. The how is as you get on the job you will feel out what is you seek to become.

expectations and standards

We all look at like ourselves as more that what we are in society. And because we dilute ourselves into more great than we are, we have these expectations and dreams that take years and years to plan. Then you take years for yourself to grow financially. But our social media has made life this ready made existence that is nowhere near the real thing.So, so many young people in the workplace are having a harder time time. But it’s no harder than prior generations. They are just not ready because we gave them so much too soon.


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GENERATION FAST TRACK: HOW THIS NEW SOCIAL MEDIA ERA IS RUINING A GENERATION’S DRIVE

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“In a fast paced world, with long term success.”


Google, Yahoo, YouTube, Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, Tinder, and way more. We are the generation that is used to instant gratification. You type it, it pops up in less than a few seconds. And if we just so happen to get a 15 second commercial clip we get antsy. And this behavior has to do with so Image result for social mediamuch moving so fast in today’s society. But when it comes to other areas of life, time seems to stand still. And there are two areas of interest where you don’t receive instant gratification: building a successful career and maintaining a successful monogamous relationship. These are two of the most important aspects of adulthood, and two of the hardest to tackle.

Yet, we struggle so much with the idea of having to build so long. Why does it take so long to build a career? For starters, initially, you’re building experience in the field of interest. Our generation wants someone to show us, kind of like working at a fast food restaurant. Then once we learn, we can start making Related imagethe big bucks. But it doesn’t quite work like that; you need more time. So you might think, what time, 6 months, 1 year? No, you should probably take close to 10 years of learning. And that’s when the onset of stress and depression set in. So much of your life is about in the now, that you hear 10 years and say to yourself, forget it. But 10 years is nothing when trying to build a career. As a matter of fact, I’m actually being nice when I say 10 years.

Nice! Yes, nice; it’s more like 15 to 20 years, maybe even close to 20. That’s why it’s best to start young and build. This way, hopefully, you’re still young by the time your career takes off. Then again, when you see someone young doing the things you want to do, you get discouraged. But you don’t know when they started. They could have started at age 19 years old, and are now Image result for GROWTH30/31 years old. We tend to look at the now, and say what you could have been. Don’t regret, you’re still young at 30 yourself, and you will be at 40 years of age. But so many see those who are what they could have been had they have started early.But now, they resent not working at what they want. Big mistake, you’re still young, start now.

But even with all I have written, what about relationships. With so many apps geared toward meeting someone and hoping up in just a matter of hours, no wonder good relationship are so hard to come by. How do we maintain a relationship when so much is based around a quick one hour encounter. But then you look at people who have been married for 25, 30, Related image40, 50, and some more years. And you ask yourself, “How did they make it that far?” Well, they made it that far because there was no rush when they first met. There was trial and error where people learned along the way. Now, there is no trial and error; if you screw up, you’re gone. Why, well there are more options today.

If the generations before us thought the way we do about relationships, I could only imagine what the state of relationships would look like today. There was a courting process in the past that involved not only you getting to know your partner, but the family you were marrying into. Now, it’s meet you today, sleep with you tomorrow, meet your family next week, marry a few months later, and then divorce five years after. Everything is so fast, yet Image result for goalswe want things to last long.We are way too impulsive in our society today. There is little thought that goes into our decisions that have long term effects. And in the end, the long term effects are what I am worried about. Will we wind-up hurting ourselves in the end? Will a generation become depressed and less driven because they are ill-prepared for the real world? Hopefully this is fear, and it dissipates as time goes on.


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GROW UP KIDS: THE FAILURE TO LAUNCH FOR AMERICA’S YOUNG ADULTS

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“We are so not ready for the world.”

Generation Me, Generation Y, Generation Selfie! All three describe my generation of young people who are born between the mid 1980’s to the early 1990’s. We are the generation born into an era where everything is for mass consumption. We live record our lives and post to social media our innermost feelings. We determine how many friends we have by the number of followers we have on the internet. Our intimate relationships are initiated in a hurry and end rather quickly. But there is one main thing that makes us have it hard to cope in society. And that is the idea that a lot of time must be taken to build our careers. How do we cope in the real world with having to wait for success in such an immediate environment that we’re used to seeing?

The coping with a long arduous career climb, makes us jumpy when so much moves around you so fast? We work on a job for 6 months, and become discouraged for not advancing in our career. To a working adult in the their middle aged years, you realize that 6 months, hell, 6 years, you’re still not making too much of a difference. In a 10, 15, or 20 year span, you should see that progress with work. The road to success also is viewed by my age group as this jump straight into making a load of money. We have been told by our parents that we’re special our entire lives. Now we think the world owes us something.

Besides our parents and the speed of the environment around us, is there anything else that forces us to not have patience. Another has to do with age in general. We look at our young age, especially when you’re struggling, we think everything is worse than it is. Working toward a goal takes time, and by time I mean years. So the time between 20 years of age and 30 years of age seems tough. But if you started in your early 20’s then hopefully you’re breaking into your career much sooner. Yet, it’s much easier to say start early because when you’re young, you don’t know what you want out of life. There is no real self awareness in your life. So how do you launch yourself into the world?

Well, my story of how I launched myself is for starters moving to a different city. Living in a city that is different than where you grew up is a step forward. There are no friends nor family around, forcing you to grow up quicker on your own. You’ll get a chance to see that no freebies will be allotted to you. All special treatment is out the door and you’re expected to rise to the occasion. So without that safety net, you are forced to work things out over time. Now, there is nothing wrong with reaching back here and there for help when needed. But it is really important for you to be on your own.

So now what? Where do we go from here on out? In my opinion, everyone thinks that whatever generation is young will be doomed. And the previous generations feel they are better and we are worse. I think that once reality set in, a lot of things will change. It’s called paying rent, utilities, student loans, and healthcare. So, for the most part, a lot of what we are is nothing more than a phase. A phase that will past in order to coexist in the dominant society.

Rewarded For Nothing

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“Wait until they step in the real world.”

Runners to your marks-set-gun! All you hear is screaming adults a ll cheering on their teams and children. As all sprinters cross the finish line, we see the first guy, then second, then third. The results are eventually in and then we see the top three runners get their medals. Then soon after the fourth through eighth place get their ribbons. WHAT! I just got done watching the Olympics in Rio de Janeiro in Brazil. I didn’t see eight people get rewarded. I saw three people get medals.

There were three sprinters that received medals for their running. But I didn’t hear anyone expecting anything. The fourth through eighth place athletes just walked off the track. Why? How come no one was willing to protest the loss of the other athletes. It’s because the everyone gets a trophy is an illusion.

I can somewhat understand, somewhat if a six or seven year old gets a ribbon. But once that kid is closer to middle school, give it up. Through their elementary years, it is important to explain to them the concept of winning and losing. Why? Because it’s what life is all about. Don’t get me wrong, building confidence is important, but it should not come the cost of them expecting things to be handed to them.

Now in today’s society, high school teenagers, even college students as young adults want handouts for nothing. This comes in the form of not allowing students to fail. There are teachers not allowed to give students a grade below a certain letter. Meaning some high schools, for example, are not allowed to give students anything below a C. Some places even let students take the higher of the grades they received to be average into their GPA.

The downside of this trend is not building confidence, it’s actually more harmful. Young people coming from college have a whole new world they are entering than the coddled environment they’re used to living. And for the ones not going to college and coming straight from high school; they are really not ready. Wait until they realize there are no safe spaces and no trophies, and no coddling. Once reality set in then it will be too late. This is why I’m glad I was prepared at a young age.

Life is truly a competition that you must play to win. That doesn’t mean if you lose then all hope is lost. It simply means learn how to lose. Because it’s not how you lose, but how well you bounce back from a lose. All the greats had to some degree, adversity in their lives before becoming successful.