HAPPY FATHER’S DAY: WHAT DOES THIS DAY MEAN TO YOU

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“I may not have children, but what a feeling it must be.”


Today is the day we celebrate all the fathers in society. The men who are the protectors of their families. The ones that awaken early in the morning and arrive home late into the evenings. But now I ask the question to you; what does today to mean to you? What are some thoughts that come to mind when you think about father’s day? And that does not necessarily have to be your father. It can be a grandfather, cousin, uncle, or even a sibling. Who in your life has influenced you that deserves to be celebrated on this day? Let me explain how each of these men are deserving of this title as father.

How about a sibling, how does a sibling effect you by them being a father? I have not had this privilege given I have two sisters, but there are people who have siblings that impact them. For example, you want children and you have an older brother or younger brother with children. Their relationship with their children may rub off on to you choosing a mate to have children with in your life. You might say to yourself, “I want to have children with a man who is a father like my brother.” Well, what about men you know who are related to you such as your uncles.

That makes a lot of sense, uncles are siblings to your parents or your grandparent’s siblings. Usually your parent’s siblings are a good gauge for influencers in your life as fathers. If you didn’t have your father growing up, your uncles, who generally are your parent’s siblings may be able to step in and assist you. Especially if you are a boy growing up. Your uncle could be pivotal in your development as a young man in a life where you are growing up without a father figure. Yet, there is still one more person that is an important father figure in life, and that is your grandfather.

Grandfathers who have been through the majority of life. They know and understand the full road ahead of you, especially as a boy. They can prepare you for manhood. And as a girl, give you a good overall feel for the type of family man she should want as a husband. You’re able to gauge how great this man is by watching the offspring of him. The children, grandchildren, who have come from this person. The love and respect that people have for this man. He is a perfect embodiment of what a young boy would like to be and what a young girl want to marry. But of course, last but not least, your own father.

We always talk about the woman carry the baby in her womb. But what about the connection fathers have with their children. What about the fathers who understand their job is to prepare their sons for the world ahead. Or how about the girls who are going to most likely use her relationship she has with her father as a means to choose a guy for herself. And having these children as a father, you can learn so much from them. These children teach you how to be young again. Your sons interest themselves in your hobbies you onced loved as a young boy. And your daughters teach you how to love much more than you do now.

See, in the end, a father is more than just the initial process in the child birthing stages. They are important and pivotal all throughout the life of a child. And a kid or children raised with a strong father, it manifest itself in how they make decisions as they get older. Which is why you should involve yourself in their lives as much as possible. Because can you never get those times back not spent with them.


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PARENTAL DISDAIN: WHY SOME PARENTS DON’T LOVE THEIR CHILDREN

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“No love for someone that is apart of you: cold-blooded.”


To believe that there are parents who don’t love their children is a shocking reality. How could you not love something that you aided in bringing into this world? But believe it or not these type of parents do actually exist. And they don’t love that child for a number reasons. The reasons could be more directed at who the kid was procreated with or even the person’s refusal to love anything outside of themselves. Whatever the case may be, we have way too many children born to parents that don’t love them. But let’s go back to the procreation with the person. What is it about this person that makes you despise your kid.

A child is the combination of two parents, the mother and the father. That combination can make the parents love this child that much more or create a relationship that is built on dysfunction. There are men who walk out on their children because every time they look in the child’s face they see the mother. And there are mothers that see the father in the face of the kid and become immediately turned off. This usually happens when the child is the opposite sex of the parent. So for fathers, he see the mother in the daughter and the mother sees the father in the boy. But no matter how you feel about the parent, is your disdain that strong, where you are turned off by the sight of the kid? Sadly it’s true, the kid represents to the parent the constant reminder of their life’s mistakes.

But why should a kid suffer because of the poor decisions of two individuals? But this is not the only way children lose out. What about the parents who are more concerned with advancing their own lives? There are career oriented parents who would much rather focus on their personal accomplishments than to actually build a lasting relationship with their children. And when you love your personal accomplishments more than you do the sound of your own child’s voice it is seen as a form of neglect. So what should happen for those that are growing up in households where the parent’s have their own lives or inner disdains?

Sadly enough, there is no law that can remove a kid from a situation. If the kid has a home, food, clothes, and not physically being abused, there is nothing legally that can be done. Hopefully that kid grows and become a productive member of society. But too often there are children who are victims of this form of neglect that step into society and harm others. Whether they turn to a life of crime or repeat the cycle and become what their parents were to them. In the end, it’s always hurtful to see the neglected children of the world. They didn’t ask to come into this world. So when they are neglected they have to navigate this world alone. And at times they navigate and are unprepared for what is to come ahead. Hopefully they don’t fall, and if so not too hard as to not recover. Because no one should have to be dealt the hand some children are dealt in society.


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PARENTAL CONFIDENCE: MAKING YOUR KIDS THE BEST THEM THEY CAN BE

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“Be great to them and they’ll be good to themselves.”


In my youth, my mother always wanted to instill in her children that we were capable of accomplishing anything in life. It allowed us to enter the world ready to pursue whatever endeavor we chose. Well, what was her technique; is there even one. Did she do anything with her children that any other parent wasn’t doing? Or was she doing something that every parent just does? Maybe it could have come from how she was raised. Or maybe it was a combination of how she was raised and her own spin to parenting. These are a few of the questions asked from people as it pertains to parents who seek to boost their children’s confidence.

One way parents boost confidence in their children is to go to work and come every day. That consistency makes children know they can not only depend on you, but also gives them a blue print in their own lives. Consistency is important because anything you perform long enough and work each time at, you’ll become great at it. Along with the consistency is informing your children they can be anything they set their minds to in life. But not just saying, showing it by not letting them give up. Letting them know failure happens in life, but to keep persevering.

Another way to boost that confidence in children is to place them in schools around good kids. Kids who are being taught to head in the same direction in life as your child. My entire life my mother placed my sisters and I in good schools. We were always around kids that thought about their futures. It gave you something to think about. The schools also were places where kids could thrive in their learning environments. So many other students in other schools were focused on peer pressure and impressing people around them. My mother put her kids in schools to challenge the ways of the crowd. But what other ways can parents build confidence.

A major way to build confidence is through the idea that confident parents confidently teach. Parents who are not afraid to step into the world themselves are in a position to raise confident kids. When children see you walk outside every morning with your head high they feel they can do the same. Doesn’t matter if you’re having a bad day. The idea is to let them see strength. Because once they see that you are unsure about something they will start to second guess themselves. See, in the end, there is a lot of psychology in parenting. The idea is to get them to believe they can do anything in life without even thinking about it. Rear them at a young age knowing that failure is not an option.


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