REACTIONARY SOCIETY: WHY DO WE REACT BEFORE WE THINK?

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“Fighting over conversation.”


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In America today, we have pride ourselves on not agreeing with what we hear, then becoming to reactionary. We are soon ready to fight just because we disagree with what someone is saying about a point we are making on a particular topic. I reality, the reason that we live in America in because we have that right to have that freedom to speak. But why has the reaction to hearing something we don’t like have become this movement? Or better yet, why are we so afraid of engaging in an intellectual conversation? To me, that reeks of fears that translate in a serious mental block.

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The brain is a very powerful tool, and when used to do bad, we can have disastrous impacts on society. So it comes as no surprise that we have use it to attack those we are most at odds with in life. But what’s interesting is that we don’t even want to have the conversation from fear. And fear is not hearing something we don’t like, but fear of not being able to rationalize our points. When we are up against a person who is smarter than us, we fear hearing their points because the brain is designed to store rational questions, decisions, perspectives, etc. And when we hear something we don’t like, instead of having the conversation, we shoot it down immediately. Because our adversary might say something that is the burden of proof that sticks in our minds, rendering it impossible to shake loose. So we galvanize before the person can introduce their perspective.

handling the situation

When faced with the issue of people attacking you, you never resort to places like a Twitter. And that is a place where so many people get into trouble when explaining themselves. Why, well because the characters are less then 110 words. You can’t get across an intellectual thought with few words. But even in the intellect, you will have people try to twist words. So in that case, you have to willing to lose some people. You’re going to reach everybody in society, and catering to everyone will get you into trouble. As well as also forcing you to lose your piece of imnd, and ultimately becoming the people who attack you.


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BRINGING YOU TO THE EDGE: WHY AS MEN WE MUST CHECK OURSELVES

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“Don’t let her make you just as emotional.”


 When we get in arguments as men, we tend to get to the same level of anger as the woman in the argument and it boils over. You are being pulled into this person emotionally, and cannot let that get to you. And the reason is because as men once we get emotional, it becomes how can I hurt this person the most. What can I say to get this person to shut up. Why, well we’re in charge of physicality. And that is not to say that as a woman you are this lesser in society (we know that given you birth our children). But what I will say is that men tend to carry ourselves in a more physical way with our emotions, whereas women are more internal. And what do I mean by men not letting the woman’s anger get to you; this is what I mean.

In any argument, one person is always trying to gain the upper hand over the other person. And with that comes insults that are thrown for what appear to come from deep down inside. And with the person trying to gain the upper hand, you will always have someone say something that they regret. And usually, it is us as men. Why is it us as men? The reason why us as men get to that point because once we reach the boiling point we try to hit you with anything to tear you apart. It’s to crush anything and everything you thought you had inside to give. But it most often result in us stopping before hand. Because that realness in how we feel could cut you deep. Which might ultimately make you out to be worse than the woman you’re arguing with.

Now, men typically say things we feel out of rage when feeling rejected in some sort. So we stoop to a much lower level than the woman to try to make her feel less because we can’t have her. And it has to do with checking our egos. But the other reason is that we hate to lose arguments so we say the worse thing we feel to win. Because in life to men, this battle is a zero sum; there has to be a winner and there has to be a loser. And in the moment of fighting, I have to win and you have to lose. So we will try to bring you down emotionally, to bring ourselves up in the fight. So in the end, we try to win at all cost, or least end the conversation when we want to end it. And once we feel we have lost control, we go to extreme measures to end the conversation. But what we really end of doing is saying something that shows us in a much worse light than the woman.


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CLOSED EARS, CLOSED MIND: WHY HAVING MULTIPLE PERSPECTIVE IS RATIONAL

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“My view is view.”


Over the past year, we have had all been in debates, for the most part surrounding the election of President Donald Trump. But the problem is not just the constant debating, it’s also the fact that no one listens to multiple sides. For me at least, I watch not only CNN, but I also watch Fox News. I want to gain insight into both areas of politics, then make my decision somewhere in the middle. Or I make my decision based on who won that particular argument of the day. But you have so many people who look at life through this one lens, which is more harmful to themselves than to anyone else. If your life revolves around the people that think and talk like you, then you’re missing out. Missing out on what could actually make you a greater you. You probably are thinking to yourself, how so?

Well, for starters, if you have a multiple perspective, then you can gain a more worldly view. Meaning you are able to connect to those that are different than yourself. But you are also able to understand where someone is coming from. You still might not agree, but you know why they feel the way that they do. You could be a Democrat and I a Republican; yet if we are listening to each other, you can accomplish more. Because a successful civilization is not one that is perfect, but more so, one that is stable and optimal. We don’t need everyone agreeing on everything, but when no one is listening, then you start to lose rationale. And once rationale is lost, you can forget about trying to fix any problem you thought you were going to fix. Why, well at that point it is just straight emotion. Straight emotion never gets you anywhere in life. And how so?

Emotions are something of course we all have; I’m not enlightening you on anything when I say that. But the problem is that when we become too passionate about why we feel a certain way, we lose hold of practicality. So then we start making judgments when some of the very people we support fall under that category. And the reason we don’t see it is because we start to believe in our own bullshit so much so we don’t hear anyone else talking. And with shut ears and open hearts, you lose your argument. Also, this extra passion is a sign that you don’t have enough passion in your own life. Because it’s fine to be passionate, but too many people have too much passion to spare. And if you’re getting enough passion in your personal life, you shouldn’t have too too much to spare. Meaning, more passion in your personal life, you are more balanced out in your practical conversations with other people, not 100% guaranteed, yet still valid enough.

In the end, people have to block out multiple perspectives because you might hear something from the other side that forces you to give up your points. And no one wants to bend under any circumstance. Yet if all you do is shut out others’ thoughts and opinions, you’ll find yourself being taken down a rabbit hole the moment someone on your side breaks the rules. Now you have to think on a fly as to how to get out of the argument and defend your person. When all you had to do was open your mind, and you can keep yourself from being led down a lot of paths.


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LONESOME: YOU DON’T HAVE TO LIVE ALONE

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“You don’t have to live alone nor die alone.”

Have you ever felt alone in the world? Have you ever felt like you don’t a friend or even sometimes family you can depend on? Do you have to live like this? Will there ever come a time where you’ll be vindicated from such lonesomeness? Well, in my opinion you don’t have to be alone. You don’t have to feel shut out as if no one wants to be around you. Because trust and believe, there are people just like you who are just as shut out. There are plenty who have been in your position. Let’s discuss what all of this means.

I live in New York city; to be more specific the borough of Manhattan. This is a city of approximately 10 million inhabitants and nearly 70 million tourists in a year. Yet when you walk the streets, all you see are people walking alone. Now, don’t get me wrong, just because someone walks alone does not necessarily mean they are alone. What I’m saying is that you don’t see a lot of groups unless they are teens, tourists, and/or people on lunch break from work. But the city does have a lot of lonely people. What do I mean?

For example, the men and women who walk the streets talking to themselves. Now I myself do the same, but mainly it’s the brainstorming of ideas to write for my novel and screenplays. But you hear the people’s conversations and you can tell they don’t have anyone in their lives. What if they had someone in their lives to talk to; would they still be having lonely conversation? To be in a city of this size, it’s odd that you can live here and not have a single interaction with anyone. But if the human mind has nothing coming into it from another human being, we tend to have conversations with ourselves. What are ways we don’t have to feel alone?

We have family, but as time passes and people go off and start their own families, you see less of them. Even friends have their immediate work and family lives. So this requires you to throw yourself into the world. One of the things you can do is start to develop relationships with people you work with everyday. They have lives, but sometimes they want to get away. There is friendship here as well as neighbors. In your neighborhood, you start to develop conversations with people you see everyday. With the openness of the internet, you can take part in an open chat board or start your own blog. You bounce ideas off of one another; you’re not making contact, but you have someone to connect with.

Then again, there are the people who are homeless. These are the people who sleep in the street every night. I see this group of people as well in New York City. This is the main group who you see talking to themselves. It’s truly because they have no one to talk to at all. A harsh reality that no one wants to experience: being homeless and no one in your life. Then there are the people who have a home, have a job, but no friends nor family. They don’t have anyone, and most likely never will. Luckily for me I have family back home in the Midwest. I could either call or go back home to live. Even with that, they sill have full-time employment. Meaning you have to find something that will engage you in life.

And that’s the key, staying engaged. Just because you have people in your life (family and friends) don’t mean they have time for you. It’s a reality; I myself have gone a full month without calling my siblings. Then I go, wow, it’s been a month, let me call or send a text. It’s because I’m trying to engage myself in this ever changing world we reside within. So my mind is constantly moving, yet keeping them in my thoughts. But I still know they are one call away, a parent is one call away. Some people don’t have that call, but hopefully they’ll find a way to that call. Whether it comes in the form of a friend or intimate relationship.