SHOP TIL YOU DROP: KNOW WHAT YOU CAN AFFORD THIS HOLIDAY SEASON

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“Do buy yourself out of a home.”


the season of giving

As you all are out there shopping for gifts this Christmas, remember that you still have to live after the holiday. And that is something people don’t think about as they yank items off the shelfs. You have a family that you have to care for, so think before you just snatch and buy. We are all in the holiday spirit, then you realize something, “Oh yeah, I’m dipping into my living money.” Don’t get put in the street trying to keep up with the rest of shoppers. But these are generally people hard of hearing because they need to keep up.

know when to say when

How can you tell when you need to stop spending and just go home? I have a suggestion, how about stop soon as the money in your pocket is getting low. That’s right, we tend to shop with our debit and credit cards. Then we get our bill at the end of the money or check the bank balance and realize something. You have went over your budget and now you’re scrambling. This is what I mean by shop with what you have in your pocket. Or if you don’t want to carry cash, then get a debit card. But not a debit card you’ll be using connected to your bank account. Put money on this card, and when it’s gone, you know when to stop Christmas shopping.

they’re doing it, why can’t i

If you make $50,000 per year, you’re not shopping for gifts like the person who makes $250,000 per year. So you know what, know what you can afford. I know what I have to spend and what I don’t. But for some reason, people hate looking at their reality and excepting that reality. So they go deeper into debt because they want to be included. I don’t need to be included in the conversation. So for me, it’s easier to say no to buying over what I have in the bank.


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MERRY XMAS: WHAT DOES TODAY MEAN TO YOU

 

Christmas wishing card

“Seasons Greetings.”


Today is Christmas, which is arguably the biggest holiday in America. A day where families across the country sit in their living rooms and open gifts. In addition to gifts, there will be dinners, movies being watched, and sports on television. Now let me ask you, what does today mean to you? Is Christmas a day for gift giving, or is today the day for you to reflect on all the good things that have happened thus far in your life? Because as with the gift giving, there are people across the country without the ability to buy gifts for loved ones. Not only purchasing gifts, some won’t even have a meal for themselves to consume. Yet if you look throughout the history of Christmas, giving gifts have been something new on this holiday. For the longest people made their gifts for each other. There was more thought that went into buying gifts.

So why is everything about buying the best gift today? Is it that the true spirit of Christmas has been lost? Or is it that Christmas has evolved like everything else in society? Maybe this is the evolution of Christmas. Because as I walked the streets of New York, you could barely see the sidewalk below you there were so many feet walking these streets this holiday season. Everyone was in the Christmas spirit. Now notice I said the Christmas spirit. A lot of people don’t view this type of shopping as the Christmas spirit. They view it as nothing more than another snatch and grab. A more greed and shallow driven holiday that was meant for sharing love and religious sentiment. But like I said before, everything in our society evolves, even our holidays. So what will the future of our Christmas season look like as time progress.

In the end, we all have our different interpretations for what today means. When I was a child, my sister and I received gifts and talked amongst ourselves. Then later on, we would go to my great grandmother’s house for dinner. But since everyone have grown and gotten married, time is now split between so many different families there isn’t this big family dinner. But as far as the celebration of Christmas, who knows, it might go back to its roots as life becomes more expensive in America.


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THE CHANGE IN TIMES: WHY HOLIDAYS ARENT THE SAME AS THEY USE TO BE

Image result for holidays“Togetherness isn’t togetherness anymore.”


When I was growing up, the holidays were spent at my great grandmother’s house. As time went on and people started having children and getting married, the numbers decreased. Now the number of people in my family coming together is drastically low compared to when I was a child. At first, I thought it was just my family, but now I know that it is families all throughout the country. A few reasons why this has happened is due to a few factors. One of the factors is that working on a holiday is worth making the extra bucks toward the family household income. Another reason that holidays aren’t the same is because the cost to travel considering so many people have greater distances today. But third reason for a decline in the celebration of holidays is splitting time between families because of marriage.

Is this good for the American family that spending holidays have come down to work and splitting time? And the answer is not that it is a question of is this good, but more so, the change in how holidays are being celebrated is a necessity. But even the meaning of the holiday season has changed. Now on Thanksgiving, instead of spending time with family, people leave early so they can shop for Christmas gifts for Black Friday. We care more about catching the sale on an item we’ve been eyeing for some time than giving thanks. And instead of reflecting over the year during Christmas, we’re enamored with whatever gifts we’ve been given. So what happens when you don’t have a family or even indulge on days like Thanksgiving or Christmas.

It has to be depressing when you go home and there is no food for you to eat or presents under your tree. So for these people, they hate to see this time of year where everyone is galvanizing together to shop. As for me, I lived so long with these types of festivities, it’s no that big of a deal to not engage in the craziness of Black Friday or wake up to Christmas presents under the tree. I would much rather, if I had the finances, purchase gifts for others, than ask for something for Christmas. So, I look at the gifting as more of a children’s time to enjoy than adults anyways. For adults to ask what you gave them for Christmas just sounds too forthcoming and to be quite honest, out of line.

In the end, holidays have changed so much, just in my lifetime and I am only 30 years old. So if you’re in your elderly years, you must look at Christmas as too much of a greedy holiday today. Whatever the case may be, it will continue to take on many forms. And with the cost of living becoming more and more of a problem, you will see more and more people working around this time. It used to be odd to work on a Thanksgiving or Christmas, but not anymore. It has become all the craze to get that time and a half. So much so that some jobs have gotten stiff, stating you have to work on the holiday and another to get scheduled to work.


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GHOST OF LIFE’S PAST: WHEN CONFRONTED WITH YOUR PRIOR PERSONAL SITUATIONS

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“Do you wish you could take something back  from a past situation?”

Have you ever experienced an event or relationship in your past that you wish you could correct? A situation that has haunted you that you might have forgotten, but would like to find out the full story. What happened? Why did it happen? Was it worth losing so much? How were you effected? Who else was effected in the process? Confronting your past to correct wrongs that were done is very difficult. How do you go about preparing yourself to come to grips with your past? I have been thinking about this because of the Christmas holiday. Why, Scrooge was always a big movie during this time.

Well why was Scrooge such an iconic story to be told? It’s because too often people are able to relate to the person who either don’t have family or don’t want to be around friends or family. But Scrooge was a guy who spent his life being tough especially around this time of year. A year when people conduct in so much shopping, yet the people who worked for him would rather spend time with friends and family. Yet Scrooge could care less about the spending time with family or any other circumstance where family was involved. He never had one, didn’t care to have one, and wasn’t ever going to have one.

During the movie he is approached by different ghost that make him see what he has missed out on in life as well as lives he negatively impacted. In the end, he was able to finally indulge in the Christmas spirit. A book yes, a movie yes, but there are real life Scrooges. But not just holiday Scrooges, they have negatively impacted people on a daily basis. Once that relationship has been hurt, how do you now go back and correct those mistakes. Or better yet, what happens when you’re forced to confront that past mistake. This could mean reopening old wounds that have healed for a resolution.

Have you ever cheated on a boyfriend/girlfriend? Not just in any fashion, but such where it has effected them moving forward with dating. When you see them again there’s a bit of an uncomfortable situation. It’s uncomfortable because you know what you did to them was wrong. Instead of manning up sometimes people just ignore it. But what about other situations more serious like hurting someone in which a law has been broken. How do you deal with the person, that is if the person is still around?

In the end, we have to be able to face our past. It’s tough, but we have to do it. Because it is too often  at times you’re approached with it. So confront it because the person is not guaranteed to always be here. Because not confronting it could turn to personal resentment.

FAMILY TIES: WHY WE’VE GONE IN SEPERATE DIRECTIONS

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“Why have people become so distant?”

You ever see those 1950’s images of the family sitting around the table having a Thanksgiving or Christmas dinner? Everyone is smiling from ear to ear. People pass food and/or gifts as they indulge in giving and food. Well, note I said the 1950’s because those days are so far behind us. Well why, why have families become so distant over the recent years for the holidays? There are a few factors: work related, family issues, and distant living.

First you ask yourselves, what is this thing with work related? Well work has gotten in the way over the years. Living in society is so expensive that it requires people to now work during the holidays. Everything used to be closed for Thanksgiving and Christmas, now businesses are open. People need the money, so they are opting out of visiting family. You now have to make so many decisions in life, the family or the rent. Catching up on old times or utilities. You have to make some tough choices in this world so not visiting family is something they have to understand.

But it’s not always about the job. What about the families that just flat out don’t speak to each other? This is a reality as well in our world today. When we’re young we are close to family, but as you get older you take on different views and ways of life. These ways can sometimes conflict with family causing people to not see each other. Another reason can be that the backbone of the family dies. This person was someone that was able to bring everyone together. But since they have passed away everyone go their separate directions.

Then again, it’s not all about fighting and work. Some people live far away from family. If you live in Los Angeles and family is in San Diego, great. But if family live in Miami and you’re in Los Angeles, well I’ll send you a postcard. Besides the sheer distance, the cost can run pretty high when trying to travel long distances. We go months, some people years without seeing immediate family. It’s nothing personal, but we just live way too far away.

See in the end, there are a lot of reasons why people no longer spend time with family. Some people are loners others would rather just relax. Whatever the case families aren’t like they used to be. A lot of it has to do with relationships as well. When you get married and have children, you see less of family. They split time with their spouses family, but also at home as well. However you view why families have parted always reach out because you never know when you’ll see them again.