SOCIETAL DECLINE: WHY ANGER IS REIGNING SUPREME

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“The easiest emotion to have and the hardest to lose.”


In America today, there is a new trend that is going around and that is the getting upset for the sake of being upset movement. I don’t think any one person started this trend, it’s just what has transpired over time. And a lot of it has to with our social media platforms. Never before have people been able to express themselves the way we’ve been able to do so in America until now. When looking at a platform like Facebook which has a community of about 800 million people globally, you’re talking they have a lot of influence. So much influence, that the election support of Barack Obama in both his election victories were pushed heavily on this platform. But with that comes the people who aim to take issue and express themselves outwardly, their anger.

But what is it? Is it that people are more angry today than any other time in history? Or is the number of angry people reflective of what it has always been? It’s just that in the past, people did not have a massive platform to express how they genuinely felt. Yet, there are indicators that point to why people are so angry in our society than just the internet. Yes when you look at past generations, they didn’t have constant reminders of how little they have in this world. You can click on a Google search engine and see photos of a life that you know people live that you don’t live. Or, there are images of how people look physically that make you think there is a standard that you don’t live up to, that you should be living. So with that said, maybe there is something to knowing too much about our lives.

Then again, if you look at the 1950’s and 60’s, that rock and roll-baby boom era, they had constant advertising of lifestyle in television, magazines, and newspapers. Whether it was the mom on television showing off the latest household appliance, or some movie where the main character was all dolled-up in expensive attire. And let’s not get started on the physical images that were marketed to so many young women in society. The most famous in the past had to have been the corset, where women wanted and were expected to have these slim waist. So with all that said, what has changed in society that contributes to the anger. And that one element that has changed is the employment market. Back decades ago, they were inundated with the same level information flow for their time period. But people also had jobs as well.

Now today, people are having a hard time sustaining in society financially. So seeing people live around them, they are constantly upset. What’s crazy is that there is more money to be made than any other time in history. And you don’t even need a boss to make an income. But like anything else in this world it takes time, a long time. And in the end, the problem with anger is people’s quality of life. It’s why our language is so sensitive, why we hate people for doing well, and follow negativity. It all makes us feel good about our own hell to see someone else there with us. So until the quality of life shift, you’ll continue to see this trend of anger in America.


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BRINGING YOU TO THE EDGE: WHY AS MEN WE MUST CHECK OURSELVES

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“Don’t let her make you just as emotional.”


 When we get in arguments as men, we tend to get to the same level of anger as the woman in the argument and it boils over. You are being pulled into this person emotionally, and cannot let that get to you. And the reason is because as men once we get emotional, it becomes how can I hurt this person the most. What can I say to get this person to shut up. Why, well we’re in charge of physicality. And that is not to say that as a woman you are this lesser in society (we know that given you birth our children). But what I will say is that men tend to carry ourselves in a more physical way with our emotions, whereas women are more internal. And what do I mean by men not letting the woman’s anger get to you; this is what I mean.

In any argument, one person is always trying to gain the upper hand over the other person. And with that comes insults that are thrown for what appear to come from deep down inside. And with the person trying to gain the upper hand, you will always have someone say something that they regret. And usually, it is us as men. Why is it us as men? The reason why us as men get to that point because once we reach the boiling point we try to hit you with anything to tear you apart. It’s to crush anything and everything you thought you had inside to give. But it most often result in us stopping before hand. Because that realness in how we feel could cut you deep. Which might ultimately make you out to be worse than the woman you’re arguing with.

Now, men typically say things we feel out of rage when feeling rejected in some sort. So we stoop to a much lower level than the woman to try to make her feel less because we can’t have her. And it has to do with checking our egos. But the other reason is that we hate to lose arguments so we say the worse thing we feel to win. Because in life to men, this battle is a zero sum; there has to be a winner and there has to be a loser. And in the moment of fighting, I have to win and you have to lose. So we will try to bring you down emotionally, to bring ourselves up in the fight. So in the end, we try to win at all cost, or least end the conversation when we want to end it. And once we feel we have lost control, we go to extreme measures to end the conversation. But what we really end of doing is saying something that shows us in a much worse light than the woman.


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PARENTAL BEHAVIOR: WHY YOU SHOULD WATCH HOW YOU VERBALLY COMMUNICATE RESPECT TO THE OTHER PARENT

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“They see and hear everything, so be careful how you speak.”


For me growing up, I saw my mother and father have disagreements. Not understanding at my age that arguing between adults is normal; especially when children are involved. And the way you communicate those disagreements have a major impact on young kids, all the way into their adulthood. So with that said, how should parents go about channeling their emotions, especially when the kids are in the vicinity? What are key mistakes that adults make when trying to win an argument over the other person? Or not just an argument, but what about the upper hand. Is it always important to win an argument, or is it best sometimes to just walk away? Let’s observe mistakes both men and women make during disagreements.

As it pertains to the man, we make some errors when trying to win over an argument. One of the more common errors is using our ability to go higher in yelling in an argument. Men are physically stronger, we’re known to dominate over the conversation. We take this dominance stance to show that we are the ones in control. It’s this nature driven response, especially if we fill we are losing control of the argument. But the biggest mistake we make is trying to use vulgar language to get our point across. Using expletives, especially calling the mother out of her name, is such a deflating and quick route to take in winning the conversation. But let me remind you, this isn’t a one way street.

On the part of the woman, the clear mistakes that a woman make is number one, belittling the father. Especially, when children are around, it sends a dangerous message that there is a clear lack of respect for the father. It also lets the kid see how they can behave when they get emotional as well. But another clear mistake women make is saying that these are their kids. Removing the father from the equation as if they have no voice in raising kids, just because she gave birth. This also sends a message that you have no real purpose. Just the person who provided the other DNA that the child is endowed with. After that, you don’t have a real duty or obligation, except to be the financial contributor.

Now, as it pertains to the children in the situation, they are watching and listening to both of you. And based on how you two communicate, the children can use this verbal communication to their advantage. And while the parents bicker between the two of them, the kid is able to live their lives how they see fit. Until something bad takes place, and both parents are left with their hands in the air because it’s partly their fault. While they were busy arguing and fighting, there was no guidance in the kid’s life because the two parents wanted to prove each other wrong. In the end, that’s the main reason there needs to be a civil form of communication between parents. Not just for the sake of their relationship, but for the child/children who may be nearby; watching and listening.


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