ENTITLEMENT: JUST CAUSE DOES NOT FLY IN THE REAL WORK

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“Work harder to be noticed.”


it takes time to climb

Who wouldn’t want to walk on the job and become the CEO on the first day. And that is a thought process of a young generation today. This idea that you don’t have to put years and years into your career to climb to where you want to go. And the reason for the mentality is because parents have not prepared their children for the real world. Now the employer has to deal with the grunt of what their parents failed to do themselves. Now, some employers just write it off and let it become the parents’ fault. They shouldn’t have raised their child/children to be so entitled. Yet, we have to ask ourselves, what is the real reason why the entitlement exist. Because there are people much older with an entitled attitude.

it starts young

When you are growing up, it is parents job to rear you in a certain way. Their job is to tell you about the world and prepare you so you don’t end up being someone’s problem but someone’s asset. And when the parents fail, then what you have is a young person coming into the workplace not realizing they have to build. And in this generation is has a lot to do with the “everyone gets a trophy” mentality. So the young person must be deprogrammed and then they will be able to live in society. This means hitting them with the real world at once. It will force them to change and a means of survival.

the time it takes

If you want to know why it takes so much time, it’s because you have to put so many hours of time and experience into your craft. And the craft can be a slow build depending on the career move you are making in life. So don’t be shocked if you find yourself building for 20 years. So be prepared for the long journey, if not you won’t get far in life.


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EXCEEDING EXPECTATIONS: HOW YOU CAN BE HATED FOR BEING MORE THAN YOU “SHOULD BE”

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“Who are you to be where you are!”


Filmmaker and actor Tyler Perry gave a speech before a group of college graduates where he stated exceeding past the expectations of where people feel you should be is when you create enemies. Because now you start to get individuals saying how dare you think you’re more than what I think of you. It’s from this internal emotion built in where we just know how your life will turn out. We just know that you can’t be more than what we see you as in society. And when you do succeed, the people who never thought you would be where you’re at have to do some serious self-reflecting. They’re Image result for self reflectforced to come to terms with two things in life. One they aren’t good characters of judgement. And number two, they are now forced to sit back and look over their lives thus far. They must now look at themselves in the mirror and say, “If only you had taken your life more serious, where would you be by now.”

So now, you as the successful person becomes the scorn of another person. Because they look at you and say, “You made me see myself.” Why, well no one really likes to look into a mirror and reflect. We often turn away, and look somewhere else. But this person you thought wouldn’t succeed makes you reflect; so much so, it stays on your mind. Especially if the success story had a troubled past. When the past of a person is ground level, and they work their way from that point, there is also an inner hate and disdain carried toward that person. You see, a successful person with a troubled Image result for accountabilitypast can be dismissed if we don’t know or having ever met the person. But when that person was someone we saw throughout life, sour grapes fills our mouths. What’s sad is that so many people can still rebound in life, yet they’re so angry at you, they miss their own blessings.

Is there more, well yes there is more to discuss. What happens when the success is doing something that the person angry don’t like, and can’t figure out why you’re successful. Well, the success has people that love what they do. And if it’s not something you like, find something that you like and stick to it. But people hate to not like something and what they don’t like go on deaf ears. No matter how ridiculous the claim, the claim still exist. That’s why social media tends to be so dangerous because there is this mob mentality; a community of people who wouldn’t otherwise have a Image result for mob mentalityvoice, able to negatively effect lives of others. In the end, when you take off, and become successful, you will have people not like you. But when you reach an altitude that many feel you shouldn’t have reached, then you get hate. But it comes with the territory; you can’t be a loser out of fear of people not liking you.


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LIFE DEALT ME A BAD HAND OR DIDN’T IT: HOW PEOPLE USE EXCUSES AS TO WHY THEY’RE NOT SUCCESSFUL IN LIFE

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“I had this to do and that to do.”


All throughout life you hear people make statements regarding them getting the short end of the stick when trying to succeed in life. They’ll tell you all the reasons why things in life didn’t go their way. They had a rough childhood and didn’t have the support. Or even they might tell you how they had children at a young age and couldn’t pursue. They’ll tell you how much of your life was so much easier than their own. But they are telling you this in the moment. I have always wondered in the past tense, while living in real space and time, do people really have it hard as they say they do. Meaning, do people have the short end of the stick. Or do people make decisions in the moments, that define their entire existence on this Earth. Because there is a lot of that as well.

For example, someone will tell you at the age of 35 years old, that they can’t pursue because  they have a family to look after. They have 3 or 4 kids, and they have to be a parent. Then they’ll slip up and tell you the age of these kids. “Well, my oldest is 5 years old.” Then it hits you that they had an entire decade of life that they didn’t have children as a responsibility. Now, the person must come up with yet another excuse as to why. “Well, before I had kids I had to take care for my parent/s.” But when you start to press them on this, they begin to fall apart once again. And that’s when you realize you must end the conversation because this conversation is heading down the road of typical. The typical talking piece on not wanting to be held accountable for your actions. They want to hop and skip over every aspect of life that they have lived.

People make excuses because they have a hard time coming to terms with the idea that they have wasted so much time on doing nothing. They have laid back and enjoyed and indulged in the moment even to a point sometimes of overindulging. But instead of just saying I overindulged, they say all the things that never happened. So what it does is that the conversation becomes a waste of time itself. This person has a character flaw, and they’re trying to figure out ways around the truth which is accountability. I am able to be accountable because that’s how my mother raised my sisters and myself. And you want to tell people so bad to take responsibility for the fact that you are in this space and situation because of you. Yes, everyone has a story, but you can’t just use the story when you were also engaging in so many activities that contradicts your struggle at hand.

In the end, you will always have people who find it hard to admit they are where they are to an extent because of themselves. Yes, there are the case of people that have been given a bad hand. But there is always someone in your spot that made it out. Your story is not a unique situation to be in, in life. But putting in the time to get a better space mentally, physically, spiritually, and financially is what people don’t want to do. They don’t want to put in that time because they don’t want to deal with the idea of putting in their all and failing. Yet they’re putting their all into to nothing so far in life and it has gotten them nowhere. Why not try to put something in to see if formulates into something great?


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NEW BROOMS SWEEP CLEAN, JUST WAIT!

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“Why is it so hard to keep it up?”

Ever hear the term, “A new broom always sweeps clean?” People always put their best foot forward up until a certain point. But why is it so hard to keep that going? The reason being is that we put on airs because we don’t want people to see the real us. Yet eventually, we all get a chance to see that person for who they truly are in this world. Trust and believe that they’ll show their asses. This may personify itself on a job, relationship, and or in day-to-day society.

Look at when you’re on a job for instance. The new broom is the person that dresses nice their very first day. Or better yet, their first month on the job is going to be picture perfection. But what about one year into the job when you’re showing up 10 – 15 minutes late. Instead of being cordial like in the beginning you wind-up having confrontations with your employer. Initially you ask coworkers who want something from the store for lunch. Then you eventually go off to lunch without even asking anyone around. You’ll put extra work into your job in the beginning then enough time goes by for you to be the status quo guy. Your smiles will turn into frowns and your wanting to be at work will become watching the clock all day long.

Now that’s just a job, what about a relationship? Men love to open car doors for a woman. We need to prove chivalry is not dead. Women turn into Susie Homemaker because she loves catering to her new man. Then the time sets in and the real people come out. He begins ignoring his phone calls and she begins to nag in his ear. He starts to curse you out of your name and she is breaking your car windows. Why because it’s hard to keep up something that’s not you. I mean think about it, how many men actually consistently open car doors. And how many women consistently cater to their men.

But what about living in day-to-day society. People’s interactions in society are fresh and new, especially when you live in a new city. Like for me, when I first moved to New York City, I was so Mr. Niceguy from the Midwest. After a while, I started to talk and think like a New Yorker. Because in order to survive here it required being a lot tougher than I’m used to being. So in the end, the new broom sweeps the way it does because we all put our best foot forward. We don’t want to come off aggressive because sometimes it’s not about being fake. Sometimes we want to bring people into our lives slowly. Make people understand you, then they can go I like this person, despite their faults rather than this person is just a jerk.