“Why is it so invasive!” “I hate bad days!”
You wake up in the morning, but not like some of the usual days. The alarm clock sounds, and immediately you’re up and out of bed. Swinging your legs to the side of the bed, you think, “Man, I never swing out of bed this easily.” Getting up to go into the shower, you stop at the door and realize that you have no towel. But to your surprise, a clean towel is folded in the bathroom along with a full bottle of your favorite soap. Turning on the shower, the water on any other day takes a few minutes to warm up. So as usual, you stand in place waiting for the right time to stick your hand on the inside.
Only today, the water didn’t a take few minutes, but a matter of seconds. You think to yourself, “This never happens.” “I usually stand in place for a while before getting into the shower.” Getting inside the dials must be adjusted a few times to get the right blend of not too hot, not too cold. Yet today, the dials were right. Everything was right; the dials, the water temperature, the sweet smell of perfumed fragrance from the soap bottle, even the towel nestled against your skin once you finished showering. Still pondering over the fresh shower, you brush your teeth with a new tooth brush you never knew you had. In addition to the brush a full tube of toothpaste that was found in the cabinet.
Once in the bedroom, you’re dressing to the nines as you prepare for work. You finish dressing with a fresh look and now you make yourself ready for that day of work. Grabbing your keys, you head out to work. So far so good, your day is fine. A start of a day that we wish every morning would be just as gratifying. Leaving the house you get into your car and realize that you needed gas. But there was not only not enough time to get gas, you were close to empty, and forced to take the long route to work. Thinking to yourself, “Uh oh, here’s the mornings I’m used to,” you begin to feel jaded. Yet that feeling is replaced with content once the long way turns out to be the shortest route as you catch every green light on your way to work.
Driving your car, you usually have to maneuver a place in traffic, as you jockey for position in your lane. But not today, drivers were more cordial, allowing you to move in position each time you needed to get in a different lane. Your good morning continues when you drive into the only parking space available on the street. This convenience you easy access to your vehicle and to your job. Leaving your car, you prepare to feed the meter, but see that a few hours is still left from the last patron. Keeping your change, you stroll into your place of employment. Taking a deep breathe, you walk in, “Here’s to another day of bull.” Not quite on a good.
Entering that work space, your coworkers wave and smile. You feel like it’s your first day on the job given how friendly everyone is behaving. You walk to the vending machine before you start, but notice refreshments on a table. Someone had brought in croissants, bagels, coffee, and various flavors of juice. And just like that, free breakfast that would keep you full until lunch. Here you are, working and eating, eating and working. Everything seems fine so far until your boss comes around. You brace yourself for the criticism, but he decides to keep walking, giving you a slight wink and a grin. Your eyebrows raise and eyes widen at the occurrence. Still, you work nonetheless.
During this time period you ready yourself a hefty meal. Breakfast was refreshing, but lunch will keep you charged until dinner. So what do you do, you leave the building in hopes of finding something delicious. This time feeding the meter for the days end. Your favorite restaurant is nearby, but with this lunch crowd you pause momentarily, but proceed forward. Entering the diner, you notice something interesting. The diner is not packed as usual, with only a few. Even as you order your meal, the waitress is friendly and the meal is equally delightful. Sitting back you bask in the atmosphere of the eatery. Losing track of time, you check your watch. Wow, really, there is still 20 minutes left of lunch. Finishing your meal, you pay for your food and leave a nice tip on the table.
From the point you reenter work, you’re rocking and rolling. The time seems to fly by either because you’re so busy, or having such a good day. Doesn’t matter to you, as long as the day moves along. With every second, every minute, every hour. You think to yourself, “Hey, let the clock tick itself away.
As work ends, you leave the building with all smiles. Exiting with coworkers, which is something that you never do. Starting up your car, you can only think of two things: what to eat for dinner and what to watch on television. The drive home was as smooth as the way to work. Getting home and missing that rush hour traffic was a blessing. Yet you still get home in time for some relaxation. That is until your favorite television sitcom comes on and you get ready to eat. You time it perfectly; your food would be done the moment the show came on. But instead of cooking, you decide to order some food. The entire wait for your food, all you can think about is how delicious it’s going to be. The food comes, you pay, look inside and; everything is all wrong. SMH!!
How is possible that so much can go so wrong after an entire day going good. But what’s even worse is that we focus on these small moments. Just shy of going to sleep for the next day, how does this happen? How is possible when you’re that close to the day being over.” But why do we feel it’s all for nothing just because of this small time frame. We let the last few hours of the day effect the whole day. We harp on this occurrence because it’s a form of a traumatic event. On a low level it’s traumatic, so it is retained. In order to remain happy we have to not focus on these small moments, but work at retaining the moments that are great.