LOVING WHAT YOU DO BUT NOT THE PEOPLE

Three Woman Sitting on White Chair in Front of Table

“We get along because we have to.”


THE WORKPLACE

Imagine working on a job that you love to come to everyday. But then you have to work around people that you don’t quit get along with. That means occupying a space with multiple people that you share space eight hours per day, five days a week. So even a job you love can be stressful when being around these types of people. And what do I mean by these types of people? I mean people who you cannot hold a conversation with without there being an issue. Someone that you are in close proximity with, but they are just not the least bit conversational. People who keep a conflict going in the space, and also people that try to sabotage everything you do at work. This usually comes a place of insecurity and threat of losing out to you.

MAKE THE BEST OF IT

Try to do the best thing possible which outreach at first. I myself am not a person who does not talk much on my jobs, but it is because it has something to do with me focusing on work being social. I just like to focus on work and then outside of work engage in a little more social. But the only problem is, people I work with don’t see that aspect of me. And getting to know me, you’ll see that. So you have to be patient with some people. But then there are others that you have to just act like they don’t exist. It’s hard, especially if you have to work on a team with them.

LAST DITCH EFFORT

I honestly think that even when you like your job, sometimes people can be so toxic that you have to jump ship. You have to look at your surroundings and realize that things are not getting better and it’s better to remove yourself fully. Now, most people figure things out, but the few that can’t stay around get the hell out of there. So realize where you stand on the spectrum make a decision according.


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GENDER IN THE WORKPLACE: HOW TO BEHAVE IN A COED ENVIRONMENT

Four People Touching Hands

“Mind your manners.”


manners people

When you are working in an office space or any other workplace, you should be cautious of how you communicate with your fellow employees. Especially if the employees are of the opposite gender. And if you are male, you should really watch yourself because it is so easy to find yourself in trouble when harmless fun goes too far. So be mindful of how you behave so you don’t find yourself in the middle of a human resource nightmare. So, what are some things you might want to watch out for as you move your way through the daily workplace?

touchy feely

I have come into the workplace and given people hugs. Then you think to yourself, could this be something that comes up later on, on the job. It’s sad to say this, but in our time period today, you have to be careful that you don’t lose your job or more, go to jail. But why, why should I risk going to jail? And the reason being is that you never know people’s threshold for comfort. Now, mot people get to know you, and then they are more comfortable to hug. But even people who know each other can sometimes make each other feel uncomfortable.

watch your words

When you are talking to someone in the workplace, make sure you know that you might get to know people quite intimately, but it’s still work. And the things you say, even to your coworkers off the clock is still part of the job. So you have a conversation about sex off the the job, but you’re in a sensitive space because you still see this person. And you might say something that could trigger them to not want to work with you anymore. Now you’re stuck because you need your job. So adhere to the things you say.

dating is a no no

These are the people you tend to be around a lot so it comes as no surprise relationships start. But if you want my advice, don’t do it. You should not be dating people who work alongside. It can cause problems if the date becomes something that shouldn’t have happened. Imagine dating someone you work with and have to see them everyday after a breakup. The professional environment can prove to be place of conflict.


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THEY ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS: WATCH HOW YOU MAKE WORKPLACE BUDDIES

Four Person's High-fiving Each Others

“Don’t bring them too close.”


friendly workplace

At work, we all would like to think of ourselves as these very friendly people. But we must sit back and think to ourselves and realize we are all in competition as well. It’s good and all to be nice, but you have to understand that we may be going for the same position. That is tough because how can you be friendly with someone who is your nemesis at the same time. And I know I know, you probably saying, “Nemesis, that’s a bit harsh.” But you really are when you look at it. We all want to make a comfortable living, yet this friend of yours is standing in the way. So now you have to make a decision.

kept at arms length

I have been guilty of this type of behavior. I am known to be the guy who either don’t say much or the one who is the aloof good quiet guy. So people may look at this and take it a certain way. As for me, I don’t want to get to close to the people in competition. The reason being, you guys are friends up to a certain point in life. You are not besties that are going to raise your children together. And hell you might be, but it shouldn’t truly show itself. Keep yourselves at a certain arms length.

trouble comes and fingers point

when it’s all said and done, we all have bills to pay. No one wants to lose their job over workplace bullshit. So when drama starts, rest assured, the fingers will start to point. And no matter how good of friends you are with someone, they will rat you out. They are not losing their job when they have children, spouse, food, and a mortgage. They will dime you out, so make sure they are too close to know too much. This way anytime anything gets started around the office, you are never in the conversation. I have always been in conversation for work, never something that could get me fired. Be aware of those close to you.


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KNOW WHO IS IN THE ROOM: HOW WORKPLACE ETIQUETTE AIDS IN YOUR SUCCESS

Two Persons Hand Shake

“Watch what you say or do.”


know the room

So many of us when we are working don’t understand the environment in which we work. We converse and interact without really knowing the people that are in our immediate surroundings. And this is becoming more and more evident the more time progress. In the years past, you knew who the boss was in the building. You knew the name of “Mr. Big,” sometimes they would call him. Now, Mr. Big could be in a sweater and jeans with sneakers and unshaven. You just have to be aware that this person could be in a bathroom stall next you, our at a vending machine. Places where so many improper conversations take place. You should and have to really mind your manners.

stop looking for the boss

Instead of trying to figure out who is the boss so you can learn to curb your persona, just be that person. Because of you are just putting on for the boss, then other people will see that and word will get around the office. People will talk and eventually the boss will see that you are not one of these genuine people you make yourself out to become. And that will hurt you more than if you were to just come outright and say what you’re about. Faking it will only make the boss like you less once they do meet you. And depending on the boss, they might actually approach you about your behavior.

learn from others mistakes

The people who used to be there and got the boot names will surface. And when they do, you will hear why they got fired. This should be enough to get you to change your ways if you are a similar person. The way these people are talked about, you would think they were individuals you knew personally. So be mindful of the people who used to be you and it didn’t work out for on the job.


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