SEXUALITY ORIENTATION: THE NEW BUZZ WORDS

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“My life, my choice.”


give me an L, give me a G, give me a B, give me a T

In the United States, there has always been some group of people who are marginalized. Whether it’s concerning race, gender, or religion. In today’s society you can add another to the list and that is ones’ sexual orientation. The government has made it a concerted effort to make it illegal for people in the LGBT community to live life as they wish. And this is how movements get started and slowly but surely turn into a full on fight for rights. Now one may ask, does it matter who you choose to date and marry? It does once there is a state and federal mandate against it. But the title of the topic today is buzzwords. Which leads me to believe one thing. Are we now still in the fight or weaponizing movements?

you don’t agree you must hate

Does disagreeing with someone automatically equate to hatred for that person? Well, let’s take a close look at what is meant by hate. Something is a strong and intense dislike for something, somewhere, or someone. But if wanted to look at it from a less broad perspective, then fine. Hate is a member of the dislike community, but they are not quit family. Because I don’t like plenty of things that I don’t necessarily hate. Because dislike means it’s not for you, and hate is on the verge of eradication. I don’t like grapefruit, but it should never be wiped off the planet as a fruit because someone likes eating it. Only reason why it’s hard to understand this is because Americans have become too reactive, and never look at the context of what’s being said. Simply put, we sometimes want to have our anger no matter how rational the statement.

a knee jerk society

We hear the statement, or better yet, hear about the statement and next thing you know, trouble for the person. We don’t want to hear what was really said. Because now we have to change out minds and admit we were wrong. So it’s better to be mad at someone, even when they have said nothing. And in America at the moment, you better say you agree in respect to the LGBT community. It better be positive and right down the middle. But is that what we really want? Do we want people to say they agree even when they don’t? Do we want fake supporters of the community, or a bunch of compliant people? Because the truth of how people feel always comes out. Then we are shocked to hear how people really feel.


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HETEROSEXUALITY AND HOMOSEXUALITY: BORN WITH OR EVOLUTION

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“Are we born to know?”


SEXUALITY

Over the recent years, especially since Gay  marriage has become legalized across the country, the topic of what is born with not born with have taken place. Are you born Gay? But what I would also ask in addition to that question is are you born heterosexual as well? Because from my understanding of what sexuality is, sexuality is defined as the person’s orientation or feelings. It is a person’s way of expressing themselves in society sexually, as well as their biological, belief systems, physical, and behavioral makeup. Yet, there is something that is odd about anyone saying how they were born, no matter their sexual orientation. And the reasons below are why.

HUMANITY DEVELOPMENT

The above video is of a TedTalk on the most influential aspects to a child’s development. And when you watch the video, you will hear how certain aspects of our upbringing contribute to the way we grow: our country, religious beliefs, how you are nurtured, your community, your education, and your advancement of your civilization. All are important to the development of a child. Because in this initial stage, you will start to maintain a lot of your ideologies you hold on to for the rest of your life. Now what does this have to do with sexuality, a lot. Because you develop aspects of who you are that makes you, you. Only reason why sexuality doesn’t show itself at certain points is because your external factors (religion, community, family, friends, societal constructs/norms) in addition to internal.

WHO DECIDES WHAT IS NATURAL

Now given we know a little bit about the development of humans, the controversy besides being born with a sexual preference that makes the conversation difficult, is what is natural. There actually can be a deference in what is natural and what is natural. I know the repetition sounds odd, but what is natural to us in nature and what is natural based on society constructs is different. So when looking at sexuality, having sex with any human is natural. But who you have sex with being deemed unnatural is the construct. It’s how we design societies to be.So heterosexuality is the considered by nature to be more pure in form because you need a male’s sperm in combination with the female egg to make a human. Two women and two men can’t procreate to make a human. So we use that to say what is natural. But natural is defined as existing without mankind intervention. So in regards to nature both heterosexuality and homosexuality can be seen as natural. Even though skeptics may say man through force influences one over the other creates certain outcomes, the majority of people who are either hetero- or homo- weren’t influenced by force to be.

SO WHAT IS IT REALLY

Overall, the human is an evolving, developing, adapting creature. Born to know your sexual orientation is a stretch, yet we all have the internal makeup for what love, emotions, and sexuality feels like. We all have attractions we develop, and no one knows for certain why we develop attractions as humans. Scientist will of course say evolving to have attractions keep us going as a species. But being born with a sexual preference would almost aim at stating that we are conscious at a time when we don’t even know we have a consciousness. In my opinion, we try to make sense of our emotions by saying born because we either want to make our case stronger, or you’re fighting against the social construct that places emphasis on how you live to be unnatural.


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TRANS IDENTITY: WHAT DOES IT MEAN?

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“How does one know they are in the wrong body?”

Growing up in my household, my sisters and I were in a privileged position. Why because our house was a lot more liberal than most. Whatever we felt we knew that our mother was willing to have the conversation. But I have been hearing throughout my life how so many are growing up in situations where they can’t talk to their parents. This was odd to me given my nurturing background. The topic today is how hard it is for members of the LGBT community to come out to family. But there is a more centralized focus and that is transgender men and women expressing how they feel.

Living in New York City, you’re exposed to a wide range of people. Whether it’s sexual orientation, ethnicity, religion, socioeconomic, etc. But especially when it comes to sexual preferences. When I first moved to NYC I was offset by the number of openly gay relationships there were. Don’t get me wrong it’s in the Midwest, but to the degree of openness like here, not so much so. But through working in theatre you come in contact with members of the gay community and realize it’s not a big of a deal as it might have been in your previous environment. Then you hear about transgender, and I draw a blank. What does it mean? How do you know you were born in the wrong body? It is a normal biological response or is it mental illness?

As an adult, I’ve heard people say things like, “My family refuse to speak to me.” “They have disowned me.” Me personally, I don’t understand why a man would want to become a woman or a woman would want to become a man, but let’s have the conversation. Let’s first look at my life. Like I said earlier, I grew up in a very progressive household. Had I have been one of these men who felt he was born in the wrong body of course there would be questions and a discussion. But disowning me, I think not. So I guess my upbringing would be the envy of most of these men and women. Then what is it?

I love waking up everyday being a man. Thinking like a man, talking the way I do, having the genitalia that I do. But what would make a man go I don’t want this and live a happier life after it’s removed. Knowing what we are as men, my first response is why. The next would be, how do you know? What is it internally that makes you feel you’re in the wrong body? Then here are the critics who say I am thinking into the matter too much. They have a mental illness Faheem, and that’s all there is to it. But do they really? Me, I can’t say for sure because I am not in that position.

I don’t know the feeling of being depressed because you look it the mirror and wish you were something else. I don’t know what it’s like to look at my new genitalia and feel accomplishment by the new me. But my reaction to the people who are the critics is have you wondered why. Or better yet, have you ever attempted to sit down and converse with a person before judging. It’s easy to attack, it’s a lot harder to put yourself in the know. Hard because we all like having our views and sticking to them.

So in the end, to me, I don’t get it. But what’s funny is that it’s not your place to get anything. It’s not our jobs to figure out why they want to do it. You actually are not entitled to embrace an individual’s lifestyle. But you should respect people with the respect you would want for yourself.  Are they a threat to society, no. And that’s all we really need to know.