BRINGING YOU TO THE EDGE: WHY AS MEN WE MUST CHECK OURSELVES

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“Don’t let her make you just as emotional.”


 When we get in arguments as men, we tend to get to the same level of anger as the woman in the argument and it boils over. You are being pulled into this person emotionally, and cannot let that get to you. And the reason is because as men once we get emotional, it becomes how can I hurt this person the most. What can I say to get this person to shut up. Why, well we’re in charge of physicality. And that is not to say that as a woman you are this lesser in society (we know that given you birth our children). But what I will say is that men tend to carry ourselves in a more physical way with our emotions, whereas women are more internal. And what do I mean by men not letting the woman’s anger get to you; this is what I mean.

In any argument, one person is always trying to gain the upper hand over the other person. And with that comes insults that are thrown for what appear to come from deep down inside. And with the person trying to gain the upper hand, you will always have someone say something that they regret. And usually, it is us as men. Why is it us as men? The reason why us as men get to that point because once we reach the boiling point we try to hit you with anything to tear you apart. It’s to crush anything and everything you thought you had inside to give. But it most often result in us stopping before hand. Because that realness in how we feel could cut you deep. Which might ultimately make you out to be worse than the woman you’re arguing with.

Now, men typically say things we feel out of rage when feeling rejected in some sort. So we stoop to a much lower level than the woman to try to make her feel less because we can’t have her. And it has to do with checking our egos. But the other reason is that we hate to lose arguments so we say the worse thing we feel to win. Because in life to men, this battle is a zero sum; there has to be a winner and there has to be a loser. And in the moment of fighting, I have to win and you have to lose. So we will try to bring you down emotionally, to bring ourselves up in the fight. So in the end, we try to win at all cost, or least end the conversation when we want to end it. And once we feel we have lost control, we go to extreme measures to end the conversation. But what we really end of doing is saying something that shows us in a much worse light than the woman.


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THE LOUD MINORITY: WHY SO FEW CARRY SO MUCH WEIGHT

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“They are the smallest, yet scream the loudest.”


They scream the loudest, get the most frustrated, and always willing to protest the quickest. They are the loud minority in America, and they are growing. They can get your job taken from you, and force you to apologize for statements you make that they don’t like. But is this reality a bit of a distraction because notice I said loud minority. Now don’t get me wrong, the majority does not always rule. There are plenty of instances in history where the majority got it wrong. But this is not like those time periods when people didn’t have any rights. We’re talking in today’s society where people are reaching for anything they can grab.

Whether it’s a comment that a politician has made, or even a celebrity. We have become a society where we love to see each other get into trouble. But like I said before, are we, or is the loud minority at it again. Because as I walk the streets of New York City, I don’t see it. I don’t see a lot of the anger that you see pushed on social media and television. People go about their daily lives, not paying much attention to what is being said out in the world. And that group is known as the silent majority. The group that does care about a lot of the agendas pushed in the world.

The silent majority just want to go to work and make it home to their families without problems. But should the silent always remain silent? Should the silent start to speak up against a lot of the stuff being pushed throughout our society. For example, every kid gets a trophy in sports is not something that the silent group started. It’s something that a chosen few started and it was so loud, the organizations that run these youth sports buckled. And now every kid gets a trophy, and on top of it all, no keeping score. Now, the majority of parents show up today asking why they don’t keep score. But all they get in response is, “That’s just the way it is now.”

But the loud group have also poked their heads into academics as well. Now in school, kids can’t be given failing grades in some schools. And there even cases where if the kid gets a bad grade, they can retake the test or homework assignment more than once. Then, they can take the higher of the three or four scores. Now how is that anything close to reality!!!! It only sets up young people for failure. Because you have to learn to take your lumps when you’re young so can walk through life. It creates this false sense of entitlement when you’re given everything for nothing. Because that’s not how the real world operates.

And, in the end, that is why the silent majority must speak out. Because that false sense of entitlement is making children believe that their 50% or 60%, is the next person’s 100%. We should stop allowing the language policing. We should fight against the snooping in everyone else’s business. If nothing is done, the loud group will take it to a point of no going back if something is not done now. Then, people as a whole will complain, but by then it will be far too late.


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