VULNERABILITY: HOW IT’S HARD FOR US TO BE HONEST WITH US ABOUT OURSELVES

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“I can, can you you say the same?”


When I first started writing, it was back in 2011 at an attempt to write my first screenplay. But since then I have realized something with my writing. It has made me realize how transparent I have become because of what I write. In order to be good as a literary, you have to be as honest as possible, and why not start with yourself. I have come to terms with what is screwed-up about myself, and I am bent on changing that thing or things. Not only have I come to terms, but I am also in a mental space where I can talk about those issues and share them with the world. So my question to you all is, how come people have a hard time putting themselves out for others to see the real them. Where does that internal feeling come from that make us go into a shell when put in stressful situations.

One of the main reasons we hide is because of shame. We might have something in our personal lives that is far from the norm of society, but we can’t talk about it. So we hold it inside hoping that no one is able to see that internal thing that is us. And when put into positions where we are forced to explain ourselves, it becomes even more difficult to converse. These socially awkward moments are because man constructed society to give us even today a template for what’s socially acceptable. And anyone that deviants from that norm is seen as having a problem. I have things that I like that deviant from the norm, but unlike those who hide from it, I am able to converse about the things I like. But besides the shame, what are other reasons that people can’t be open with who they are in society.

Another reason is that we want to stand out front and be unique, but then when put in a real unique situation we run. It’s because what makes us unique that is hidden deep within us is not a unique quality that others can grasp and understand. Meaning, your unique quality might be mathematics, but how you become so good at it is because you see the numbers in front of you. Sometimes to the point that the numbers seem to float in the air. It sounds like you’re in serious need of a psychiatrist, but it’s real. Some people’s minds are made up a certain way that discerns information a hell of a lot different than the rest of us. They can understand and wrap their minds around problems in the strangest ways that the rest of us cannot. And ultimately, what will you learn by opening yourself up.

In the end, it’s like Marianne Williamson’s famous Our Deepest Fear passage from her best selling novel, A Return to Love. “When we let our own light shine, we subconsciously give others permission to do the same.” “When we are liberated from our fears, we automatically liberate others.” Don’t worry about the immediate nay sayers because it’s about the bigger picture. You’ll open yourself and masses who feel the same as you, or make people want to do what you do the more you open up. And that’s when you make the immediate connection of bringing people close who see you as a guide to a more prosperous life that they should be living.


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SELECTIVE ACCOUNTABILITY: HOW WE TRANSFER RESPONSIBILITY TO SOME AND NOT OTHERS

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“I did that and assume responsibility.”


Ever watch television and you hear newscasters saying how much people in the public eye need to be held accountable. And what’s funny about them is if you state that they are held to the same standard, they dismiss what you are saying to them. Like people on CNN and FOX News, they are public figures in a celebrity way, yet they try to dismiss their celebrity under the guides of members of the press. But they truly are public figures just as much as any athlete or entertainer. And that’s when you realize that we all try to hold someone accountable, but then shift the blame when it’s time for ourselves or someone close to us. Because if it’s us or someone close to us, or even people we support in society, there is always this spin to how we rationalize. We say things like, “Well, they’re different.” “Or, you make certain amount of money.”

So why do we have a spin to our personal agendas? One reason is because by definition, an agenda is an ideological plan implemented to come to an agreement of meeting an objective. Which is a broad and ambiguous meaning for a word. But the real hidden aspect of an agenda are the “held common beliefs.” And that is something in society which makes the agenda become a problem. Because the group of people pushing any agenda today does so that it supports its own interest and not necessarily the interest of everyone. And here lies the reason why it’s hard to hold someone or groups of people accountable for their actions. It’s because once you pick a side, you usually stand firm on that side. And refusing to bend or break is the way we go about handling the situation. But at times you become so convinced of your belief in your agenda, you lose rationale and easily become taken down a rabbit hole.

And the rabbit hole is what happens when you say things like, “Athletes are held to certain level of accountability.” “But then turn around and say my national newscaster is giving the news so it’s different when they speak.” When in reality, your newscaster may be held to an even higher level of accountability and should, than the entertainer. It’s an easy out, and the ability to not have to have a conversation about a topic, or even the fact that you are trying to keep people from reading into who are as a person. And we don’t like to say, well I do that as well, and I am going to make the leap to change because I expect that from other people. No, we say it’s different, but it’s really not different. We just don’t want to change and we hide behind what we expect from you to mask who we really are behind closed doors.

In the end, we all have these accountability issues as it pertains to ourselves or other people. And a lot of it has to do with our belief systems. We want so dearly to believe that what we believe matters. So if what I believe matter, then what am I left with. Inevitably we hold people to a task we don’t hold ourselves to, or those close to us.


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NEWBO: IS THERE TIME FOR A CULTURE SHIFT

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“We carved one out before, why not again?”


In the 1610’s, the African American population was forced to the United States as indentured servants. Later becoming slaves, losing names, religions, birth place of origin, and overall identification. Once freed in 1865, we went from slave labor to still no so full citizens. And with limited citizenship, and no real ethnic identity, we began to carve out a face for our community. And a lot of the culture that has made up the African American community is in the music and food. But what if we decided to take it a little further. Let’s say we made a full conversion from where we are now. I named the title NEWBO, which in today’s society stands for the New Black Overclass.

When you hear the words New Black Overclass, you think of wealth and abundant resources. And how did that manage to take hold? There are many different factors that have influenced that over the years. From young Black children growing up watching the Cosby Show to the electing of America’s first Black president. We have taken what was a bad situation in the past and made the most of it today. Yet there are still so many of us that are still below the poverty level. And not only the poverty level, we make up a disproportionately higher percentage of crime in our community relative to anyone else. So with that said, we are doing better than the past in the area of success, yet lagging behind in other major areas.

And as much as I love Black culture, there is an aspect of our culture that have taken hold in recent history that has cast a dark shadow over the community. And that has to do with the crime in the community. Because of the introduction of Heroine, Cocaine, and Crack Cocaine, from the 1970’s in the 1990’s, the face of the community has changed to much. And it has become so impactful, it is rapidly becoming our culture. Yet when you look at the overall history of Black people in America, this recent violent culture is new to us. So, how about we begin to design a cultural identifier that is us. And when I say identifier I mean clothes we wear, food we eat, music, and behavioral traits.

Having an identifier shows not only togetherness, but it creates a sense of identity outside another group. Our problem as Black people is that we are too concerned and defined by another group. And for the longest, it has been the predominantly White community. So our vision for what success looks like has always been someone in position who is White. Yet when met with resistance by anyone White it boils over quicker than anyone else. Which never happens to any other group because they create their own identity. So what another really has to say becomes irrelevant because they have defined themselves for so long feelings are trivial. But if you have no name, to language, no religion, and you adopt ones culture that’s not yours, yet someone else’s, it could become a problem if not accepted into the culture.

And in the end, that’s a real problem with why there need to be a cultural identifier. Number one, you eliminate the care for what any other group thinks about you; their views are not relevant to who you are in scoiety. Number two, you begin to take pride in something that not only you created, but you’re accepted within. Which brings me to number three, the need to fit into a group. And I think this is why we as Black people cling to Hip Hop music so much. When you create something versus forced to adopt something the sentiment is different. Christianity was never a choice, names given weren’t a choice, and language wasn’t a choice. But the music we create was a pure choice. Though not liked by many, it goes on deaf ears when pushed against because the one major thing we created that we are fully included within. And if we created something impactful and global as Hip Hop, we can create a new identity of acceptance and not tolerance.


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NO POINT TO PROVE: HOW HAVING SOMETHING TO LOSE IS BASED ON SOMETHING TO LOSE

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“Don’t feel you have to prove yourself to nobody’s.”


Having something to lose is really important in our society. Not just in our society today, in the past and in the future. So why do so many people operate with this mindset of I have noting to lose? They operate this way because they don’t see themselves going anywhere in life. And when they don’t see nothing for themselves, they could care less about you. I was just watching an interview that Jay Z conducted where he was talking about coming into the music industry for the first time. He thought then superstar Notorious B.I.G. was scared not to walk into a nightclub. But it wasn’t fear, Biggie had something to lose at that time.

And that is hard for people at the bottom or just getting into a position of power don’t realize. Having something to lose, meaning not just money, but a bigger picture. B.I.G. had a bigger vision than Jay Z was able to see at the time. Now that Jay is where he is now he understands the bigger picture. And income along with socioeconomic have a lot do with having something to lose. Like I recently said, not just money alone, but money is a motivator. Yes, there are things that are bigger than money, yet monetary decisions are closely related to having something to lose. But who with money is effected by this losing or winning in society. In my opinion, athletes and entertainers are two groups of people that largely fall into this category. And a lot of times it’s public figures from poor backgrounds.

For example, the NFL draft just took place this past weekend and there were a lot of athletes from underprivileged backgrounds. They don’t understand how their lives are about to change soon as they sign that contract. And I am not saying just going places without being noticed. I mean the people you associate with in life. Everything you do is under a microscope. So if people are around you, they have to shift how they behave to be in your environment now. And the question is are they willing to do so? Are they willing to change themselves to help you persevere? Because with them around, now you become a babysitter. Whatever they do, you take the punishment for. For instance, NFL player Adam “Pacman” Jones friend shoots someone at a nightclub. Adam is nowhere around, but the fact the guy is with you is enough for you to get punished.

If you told some of these guys that they now are responsible for whatever the people around them do, they would have second thoughts about being athletes. And the reason for this change is because you are not just some guy running a football. You’re not some musician making beats and singing, or acting in a movie. You become a brand, a figure for young people to look up to, and an investment for people who sign you to a contract. Some people say, I’m still me, but you’re not you anymore. You have this light on you, where you can’t be you. You are expected to be more than just you. Your morals and ethics go out the door, and it is more about the organization you represent; their morals.

In the end, your life will shift with every level of increase in life. You have no other choice, because with the good comes the downside. There is no all good in life. And change is can be hard, but not all change is bad. Sometimes growth is needed and must take place to make you a better you.


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