WHERE I’M WEAK YOU ARE STRONG: WHY DEVELOPING PARTNERSHIPS IN BUSINESS IS BETTER THAN BEING ALONE

 

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“You need me and I need you.”


building them

When you are trying to make it in business, building business partnerships can aid you in your long term growth. Me myself, I pride on being more of a creative than a business person (crazy considering I have my MBA). So this means either I will need to find a partner, or learn to be the person that is of sound business mind. Because being creative is fine and all, but when it comes to turning your creativity into a monetary gain, then eventually you are going to need to take off the creative hat and put on the business hat. And everything about business that is not creativity takes a lot out of you if you are a creative. Because creativity means creating, but business means listening to other people and foregoing some of those creative ideas. Well, how do you cope in such a space?

learn to let go

As an indie filmmaker, I have all these ideas that I would like to use to create. But at the end of the day, there is something called a budget. And you have to learn to operate within the budget that you are allotted. And that means taking some things out, making the art work in the budget, but not as to sacrifice the idea you had originally intended to promote. And that is tough in a business space, especially if art is the business that is being sold. I want to put it all in, meaning I write a script that is 200 pages, I want a 200 minute film. In reality, that script better get cut down to 105 to 110 pages. The artist that succeeds learns to give a little, the ones that starve never do. So what you should do is build relationships with people who can help you keep your vision, but grow it into a business.

two is just better than one

Yes, you want to do things alone so you can say you did it by yourself. But the work it takes to do it all alone, you really lose a lot of time that could be spent in other areas. So building with someone is very helpful. Like I said, sounds good, but in the end it’s not good. I would love to write, direct, produce, market, advertise, distribute, promote, and collect from my indie films I am looking to make. Reality is, that is just not feasible. You are going hurt more than you’re going to help. So use someone that knows what you don’t know, and they will learn a lot from you as well. And with that you can go on to have other partnerships that will generate revenues for you so you can continue to do what you do more seamlessly.


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SECRETS: How Much Do You Really Know About Your Spouse.

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“Are you hiding something?”

You meet someone, and you start dating. Before you know it, you’re moving in with this person. Eventually the topic of marriage comes up. But by this time, you should already know a lot about the person you’re planning on spending the rest of your life with; or not. My last post talked about people’s debt situation. But what about secrets someone is keeping. What about infidelity, hiding money, sicknesses, and/or internalized torment.

First let’s analyze infidelity in a relationship. Could your intimate relationship survive if you knew your significant other has cheated sometime during the relationship. Does it matter, even if the incident happened once? I think women are more apt to accept the cheating once than we are as men. You know what, on second thought, once, how about multiple times cheating. Yet there are still those women out there who say absolutely not. Not under any circumstance would she accept cheating.

Now, is that the worse secret one could keep from a marital partner. How about hiding money in a secret bank account or in the form of cash in a safe? How would you react to finding out this person had a secret stash? A rainy day stash just in case they needed to leave the relationship. This way they are financially set in the case you want to leave them hanging dry. It is kind of offsetting to find out someone has plan B.

You start to think in the back of your mind, “Am I not giving them enough?” “Maybe they’ve been planning on leaving me all along.” Dozens of questions go through your mind as to why someone would need an escape route out. But it’s not all about money or cheating. There have even been people that hide medical information from their spouse. This may be on par, if not worse than cheating. A sickness, especially something deadly could put the family in limbo.

You go to the doctor’s office and find out you’re having heart problems. Yet you never consult your spouse, but keep it to yourself. You die, and they never knew anything was wrong. Sounds quite selfish considering had that person have said something, preparations could have been made in the event of a tragedy. Then again, some things aren’t medical per say, but mental such as depression or stress.

The reason why I said medical per say is because depression and stress ( which can lead to depression) is not always a medical issue. Some people can work out their issues over time. But how comfortable are you to go to your spouse and say I’m depressed. It seems like a very uncomfortable experience. But shouldn’t you be able to go to your spouse and express yourself. Especially if you’re depressed. They should be the first person you talk to in these situations.

Yet on the other hand, personal torment can even be too great to tell a spouse. What if it’s not depression or stress, but gender identity. Imagine the upset if your spouse came to you opening up about their sexuality. Could you handle your husband or wife telling you they were gay or bisexual? I can see it now, “Hello dear, how has your day gone?” “Oh by they way I’m gay, can you pass the peas.” Or, “Sweetie, we need to talk.” “I think I’m bisexual.”

There is no real way to break the news to your spouse. Because any way you explain yourself is going to be the wrong way. So with all that has been said, can your relationship survive secrets. If so what secrets, and what is the severity of those secrets. In the end it all depends on the person and their threshold for what you are about to tell them.