MAKING UP YOUR MIND: ARE YOU AN INDECISIVE PERSON

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“What to do, what to do.”


DECISIONS, DECISIONS, DECISIONS!

Trying to make your mind up when choosing one over the other can be very difficult. I have stood for up to 10 minutes in front of a vending machine once when trying to make a decision regarding what to eat. And sometimes I choose an item that is so mundane, that I wonder what took me so long to make the purchase. So, where does it come from in the mind? Is there a deeper reason why someone would be so indecisive, or is it just a thing we do? Well, you could look at this topic from multiple perspectives.

MAKING THE RIGHT DECISION

We often stand around, not able to make a decision because we want to make a decision that we are able to live with afterward. We don’t want to make a fast decision, then it comes back to haunt us later. Those are what we call impulse decisions; decisions that are made without much thought into the decision. And making an impulse choice is fine if you’re buying a bag of chips or cookies. But when you buy a house or car, this is most often the most indecisive decision because it is more long-term. But how come we are this way as humans? Is there a deeper implication into the lack of decision making.

EVOLUTION

Throughout history, humanity has found means of surviving on this planet. And one of the ways we have lived for so long is the idea that we make rationale decisions. And from these decisions over time, we can now understand what is good and bad for us. So the inability to make a decision is from a very long time ago. A time when we didn’t quite understand the world around us. A time when making the wrong move could render us extinct. And yes, believe it or not, there are families that died off for whatever reason because somewhere along the way the wrong decision was made that cost the family to stop. So, not only is the indecisiveness a short term and long term reaction, but it plays a vital role in our human evolution.


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PURE DESPERATION: HOW MAKING DECISIONS IN THE MOMENT CAN LAST FOREVER

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“Don’t do now, what you might regret later on.”


Ever get the feeling that you need help right now. No better yet, you need help today, yesterday. So you decide to make a decision that is out of desperation. But understand something about desperation, and that is what you might do now could effect you tomorrow. I heard Hip Hop artist Master P make a statement regarding being signed as an artist. He was offered $1 million for a rap career, yet he turned it down. And he needed the money at the time because he only had $500 to his name. Turning the money away was smart for him at the time because now he’s worth close to $400 million. This may have never happened had he had taken the deal from none other than Dr. Dre at the time. A move which would make Dre even bigger now.

Then again, not everyone make desperate decisions that align themselves on the law side. Some people make desperate decisions that land them in a world of trouble. Now you’ve just made an in the moment decision that hopefully you bounce back from, otherwise you could go to jail for a very long time. And that my friends is what is called a shortcut leading to a dead end. Now, is the law being broken the only desperate situation you might find yourself in, in life. No, there are people who make decisions that might leave their moral judgment in question. You might be asked to perform a certain act that you desperately need, but could cost you your job later. For example, working on Wall Street, being asked to destroy some documentation that could lead to lawful repercussions. You destroy it up to keep your job, but find out you may not go to prison, but can never work in finance ever again.

Now, are you ready to lose your entire career over this moment. This happens all the time with doctors and lawyers. And everyday, someone loses their practice or license for aiding and abetting for some type of financial windfall. You see, in the end, are you ready to deal with the drawbacks of making these desperate decisions. Everyone want something in the now, but are not ready to deal with what comes with it. From bad business decisions to breaking the law; are you prepared for the consequences. And hopefully, the drawback is not too serious so you can recover, otherwise you have to take an “L” in whatever form it may happen to occur.


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A LESSON BEFORE DYING POSTS: WHY THE COMPANY YOU KEEP MATTERS

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“The choices we tend to make in life.”


The above photo is of the historical fiction novel, A Lesson Before Dying. This book would later go on to be made into a motion picture played by Don Cheadle, Cicely Tyson, and Mekhi Phifer. A story about a young man sentenced to death for the killing of a store clerk and two of his associates. The film gave a really great depiction of the racial relationships of the South, as well as the harsh realities of growing up Black in the region. Now my topic today is how does ones’ choices influence their lives moving forward. Because in A Lesson Before Dying, all the main character had to do was pass on a ride with his friends.

We may all see it as nothing more than just a ride with some friends. Yet, in the film, there was something that made Mekhi Phifer, the young man sentenced to die, hesitate before getting in the car. Something in him knew he shouldn’t have been riding with those guys. It’s a feeling at times that we all have when being in the presence of someone we know we shouldn’t. It does not necessarily have to be a group of friends. You could be in the presence of family and a monogamous relationship. But the reasoning for Mekhi’s character getting into trouble is a story anyone can relate to; outside the racial premise of the film.

So many young men have been offered rides by their friends. Then get into the car and find out in the course of the ride, their friends have just committed a crime. How do you explain to the judge that you had no hand in the matter? The answer is, you don’t; and unless they state you had nothing to do with the matter, you’ll go to jail as well. Better yet, what happens when you ride somewhere and the people you are with commit the crime while you’re there with them? There is no way to plead your way out of that situation. In the case of A lesson Before Dying, the culprits died themselves, and Phifer was charged and executed for the crimes. In today’s society, you might be able to argue your way out, but not Jim Crow South.

Which brings me to my last reason point regarding the company you keep. You need to understand where you live and the laws as well. Southern laws are of the strictest laws in America. And what may be a slap on the wrist in one state is prison time in another. So in the end, you need to understand a few key words of advice. Watch the company you keep, be comfortable with decisions you make, and understand the place in which you reside.


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