COMPETITIVE CAREER FRIENDSHIPS

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“Let’s be friends later.”


COMPADRE COMPETITION

Having friends in similar careers or different careers, but similar career drive, will create a pretty good competition. And to be perfectly honest, i think that it’s a good thing that you and your friends have this type of comradery. It will push you guys forward toward where you both need to be in life. And without that, or close circle of friends you tend to lose something that you’re fighting for. You compete against life, but you don’t have these people close by to chase to your dreams. Making this a life experience can be healthy, just as long as you have friends that all share that similar thought process. It can be hard to stomach when there are negative mind-frames in the mix.

YOU LAUNCH AND THEY DON’T

What happens when you start to take off and your friends do not? This can start to be a burden when you build more and more. They may turn their attention to you because they are not going in the direction where they see themselves in a place of success. You would think that your success would make them want to fight harder. And initially they do, but eventually they turn on you. So you have to pick your friends wisely because these are the people that will either make you better or bring you down.

THAT INNER FIGHT

Where does the fight come from when you have that competition? I don’t know, maybe nature gives us this type of comradery is what we need as a species. And even when you don’t have friends, watching people pushes you as well.


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THEY ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS: WATCH HOW YOU MAKE WORKPLACE BUDDIES

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“Don’t bring them too close.”


friendly workplace

At work, we all would like to think of ourselves as these very friendly people. But we must sit back and think to ourselves and realize we are all in competition as well. It’s good and all to be nice, but you have to understand that we may be going for the same position. That is tough because how can you be friendly with someone who is your nemesis at the same time. And I know I know, you probably saying, “Nemesis, that’s a bit harsh.” But you really are when you look at it. We all want to make a comfortable living, yet this friend of yours is standing in the way. So now you have to make a decision.

kept at arms length

I have been guilty of this type of behavior. I am known to be the guy who either don’t say much or the one who is the aloof good quiet guy. So people may look at this and take it a certain way. As for me, I don’t want to get to close to the people in competition. The reason being, you guys are friends up to a certain point in life. You are not besties that are going to raise your children together. And hell you might be, but it shouldn’t truly show itself. Keep yourselves at a certain arms length.

trouble comes and fingers point

when it’s all said and done, we all have bills to pay. No one wants to lose their job over workplace bullshit. So when drama starts, rest assured, the fingers will start to point. And no matter how good of friends you are with someone, they will rat you out. They are not losing their job when they have children, spouse, food, and a mortgage. They will dime you out, so make sure they are too close to know too much. This way anytime anything gets started around the office, you are never in the conversation. I have always been in conversation for work, never something that could get me fired. Be aware of those close to you.


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