YOU’RE NO GOOD: DEALING WITH PEOPLE WHO DON’T THINK YOU CAN SUCCEED

Close-Up Photography of a Man Holding PPen

“You need a new circle dude.”


they don’t believe in me

Whenever you pursue a career you really want to do, you will always have people who doubt you. You have those that think you are no good, or not good enough. And they feel this way because they have an idea of how they see you. They can’t see past what you are, that is ingrained in their heads. Whenever you exceed the expectations of others they start to get upset with you. Why, well you’re not supposed to be more than what I see. Because my belief system means something. And if you are more than my belief, then you are going to be perceived as someone I will clash with in life.

watch the company you keep

Who are these people in your inner circle that feel they need to be the ones telling you that you are no good. Now granted, sometimes people make some good points and assessments of who you are, but at times they are more envious than anything. That’s when it’s time to choose a new circle of people. Because being around people like this can stunt your career growth. If all you hear are people telling you what is or isn’t possible, you start to believe in the voices. And before you know it, you’re producing garbage or quitting just to satisfy others around you.

look into their lives

Before you take the advice of someone or people that say to you that you can’t succeed, take a look at their existence. I am willing to bet you that they are doing something that they truly love. Because anyone that loves what they do are not going to sway you away from what you’re good at or love to do. People like to project what they don’t like about themselves onto you. They can’t see themselves in that position and they feel they are more talented than you. So how is it that you’re gong to be in that specific place in life.


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DO AS I SAY: WHEN YOU ARE BEING FORCED INTO A CAREER BY PARENTS

Woman Holding Stethoscope

“You will be a doctor.”


parental oversight

As you are leaving high school and embark on the journey of finding your career path, you will find yourself feeling pressure. And that pressure will come from the people that are around you. Usually, it will be from your family. They may want you to study a profession that will satisfy them and much so for you to be happy. And a main reason is because they are the ones paying for your education. So this means choosing something you might not be that good in, but do it anyways so you get the help from them. Luckily for me, my mother wanted her children to pursue what we loved and were good at in life. This way we don’t have to worry about the regrets in life of what if.

be ready to turn away

You want to be in the career field of your choice, then be prepared to go at it alone. Because to think that your parents will just reach in their pockets and pay for you and not choose what they want, then you’re crazy. So be ready to look them in the face and leave everything they are willing to give you on the table. And here is the hard part because we want the treats that our parents are willing to give us. We also feel that we disappoint them when we make our own decisions. But it’s your life, so are in the business of satisfying them, or are you going to build your own life.

long road of despair

Taking on a career that you don’t like is a life long journey that will leave you unhappy. Sir the people around you are happy because they can brag and boast about what you do for a living. But the person who has to live the life that is you will be miserable. So choosing to appease others never pans out and all you do is pass it on to your children. And we will have nothing but multiple generations of broken people all trying to appease everyone around them.


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PRESSURE: WHEN YOU ARE FEELING THE HEAT IN A RELATIONSHIP TO MAKE MORE MONEY

Man and Woman in Brown Leather Coat Standing on Brown Soil

“Step your game up!”


dough is important

We all want to make a good income, or what we define as a good income. But what happens when you are in a relationship where you feel pressure to make a certain amount of money, or be at risk of losing that relationship? This tends to happen more with men than with women. And when you are approached with this ultimatum, then you are begin scrambling for ways to make more money. But a career is not you scrambling to make money in a quick way so you don’t lose the person you are dating. A career is something you have to be willing to put a lot of time and energy into which can take years. And it’s not something that you gain by saying, “Ok, now I’m in this relationship, I need to be better.” You have to put in time, and have someone these that understands what you do or seek to accomplish.

who makes the most

The following pie graph are of the top jobs that men have worked in the year 2018 that researched by CNBC. And this is why so many, especially young men seek these types of jobs. They are the gigs that pay the most money so they can be looked at as an attractive

https://www.cnbc.com/2018/11/29/the-15-best-paying-jobs-for-men-in-2018.html

candidate for a monogamous relationship. Now, just because these are the the highest paid jobs, don’t mean that every guy who is employed under this title earns this amount. Usually, these top incomes are reserved for those that have the most years of experience and/or the best in their fields. So if you want to earn the money they do at the top, develop a skill that allows you the ability to be in this select few group.

 

forgoing your life

If you are constantly working, you are going yo to be missing a lot of quality time with your significant other. So that will also start to be a problem as well. Because if money is a motivator to be with someone, then you can’t be around them the majority of the time. But then your relationship falls apart because you aren’t there most of the time. Here is where you actually lose productivity on the job that could help you earn more money. Mentally you are out of it, and now that wears on you in your career.

move on dude

Money does not work in the context of you make it because someone else want s you to make it. It happens when it happens. And rushing the process could actually prolong your journey through your career. So your best bet is to keep on going. Let that person be someone else’s problem. You don’t want to sacrifice your mental state in your career growth.


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GIVING IT ALL UP: KNOWING WHAT IT TAKES TO HAVE THE JOB YOU WANT

Woman In White Blazer Holding Tablet Computer

“You want it, now sacrifice for it.”


give a little

For me growing up, I never really knew what I wanted to do. I had an idea of what I wanted from life. But it wasn’t until I stepped into society and realized that I wanted to be what I am currently pursuing. But there is another side to having what you want out of life. And that is what you must give up to get to where you truly want to be in your career. Some people have this idea that they are just going to walk into the world and start making things happen. It won’t take much work, but they’ll just come into it. Truth be told, you will lose a lot of fun time to be at the place in life. If you’re not interested in giving up fun good luck with your success journey.

feeling the pain

When not much is moving in your life, you will start to get this feeling that you are not accomplishing anything. But the reality is that your mall successes over time will contribute to the outcome. We just live in a such a right now society, that everything you do that does not happen immediately, you feel a lack of success. This instageneration where we get likes now, friends now, comments now, and shares now. But the time it takes to build that instaplatform has been a process which has taken years. We are the users who see the finished product outside the work put into the platform. So the work in the paradigm is s boring, it hurts to put the time into the work. I know this firsthand with my writing and photography. I know it will take such a long time, sometimes I wonder why I am doing it.

moving in circles

Once you get good enough to actually go out and start making moves for yourself, then you might want to connect to people interested in the same things as you. Making sure you surround yourself with like people can actually help you go farther. Because now you have someone to piggy back off of for ideas. And this is hard, especially if you’re not the most sociable of people, but you have to do so. But how else do you expect to be great in your career?


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CAREER: INTO THE FUTURE

Close-up of Hand Holding Text over Black Background

“Where do you see yourself?”


times to come

Ever since we were young children, we all had these ideas of where we would see ourselves in the years to come. In elementary school we have one idea, then high school another. But as we enter life the views change into something else. And for me, I wanted to be an attorney in elementary, a business executive after that, and now that I am an adult I found my calling in the arts. We go through these different changes in life because you have no clue who you are or what you want as a child. You have these visions because you don’t have a firm grasp on the world. Your strengths and weaknesses have not been put to the test yet. So it’s easy to say what you want until you are challenged.

what’s your plan

How can you see yourself anywhere in life without a plan to go along with what it is you are hoping to accomplish? Just saying I want to do something is not good enough. You must have something laid out and follow the plan all the way through. Because even with just a plan, you have to execute. And these are the steps that make it hard for people to sit down and focus in life. So many people don’t have a plan and never fully execute. Now, for those that do, they are one step closer to being where they want to be.

nurture your talent

I know I want to be a writer, filmmaker, and photographer, so I am constantly working on my craft. If I am not writing my screenplays or book ideas, it’s my blog, or when I am not writing it’s me out into the city taking photos. But outside the two, it’s my filmmaking. And that is what you must do, it has to be a daily thing you do. Once you start to get into that routine feeling change something. I recently just cut down the number of topics for my blog and changed to website appearance. It gives it a new look to the consistent writing everyday. Otherwise you will start to get that mundane feeling an get sick of it.

perspective

What are you good at? What can you handle? Do you have the sticktoitiveness to keep going? The idea of being somewhere in life feels so much better than actually pushing to be there in life. Because the vision is exciting, but the climb is not fun at all. You might hear people say they are in love with the process, but truth be told, who truly loves the process. Wouldn’t we love to have the idea and there it is on paper. Doesn’t work like that, so you have to put in the time to get where you want to be. And also have the rational mindset to know what you can do and your willingness to get there, as well as being practical about the time-frame to get there.


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2019: NEW YEAR NEW APPROACH

“Topics of the year.”


narrowed down

The entire year of 2018 was about topics from a wide range of choices. This year 2019, I will be using my most popular topics and write about them over the year. They will be four topics that I will discuss once every three months. Meaning, finances was a big topics this past month. If chosen, I will write about finances for three months. Then I will move on to the next topics. My goal is to have one main focus, or three for my blog by 2020. So I want you all to continue to read, like, follow, share, and I will be keeping you posted.


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