What seems far-fetched is actually closer than you think.
Most of us spend our entire lives wondering what’s out there for us. We live our lives with the what ifs in life. What if I followed my passion? What if I asked that person out on a date? What if I would have applied to that school of my choice? We look from a far, not realizing how attainable the things we want most really are in life. The reason being that taking chances are scary because we fear failure. Failure makes us feel uncomfortable because no one wants to fall flat on their face. No one wants to look embarrassed in front of their family or peers. But like the best selling author Marianne Williamson once said, “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.” “It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.” This quote is quite interesting because we think that most people fear failure as I explained previously, but Marianne opened my mind to the idea of success being terrifying.
Success is something we never consider when not attempting to act on our wants in life. Success is scary because the more you achieve the more people want from you. If you fail, people tend to fall way down; which is why we purposely sabotage ourselves sometimes. We don’t want to set ourselves up to fall too hard, so we ignore and put aside our possible achievements so as to not look too bad in front of others. The other reason to fear success is because we don’t want others around us to feel less than because their talents may not be up to par with ours. This is what Marianne Williamson meant by, “There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so others won’t feel insecure around you.”
Great quote, have you ever felt uncomfortable in an environment where people stare at you while someone praises your work or success? It can make the person being praised feel awkward because the people in their presence might not be at the same level of the praised. This feeling couldn’t be anymore wrong, actually most people are inspired by the praise the praised are getting. The confidence of as well of a successful person will give others the feeling that they can go out and achieve the same things as their counterparts. I myself have dealt with the idea of not wanting to achieve out of fear; fear of not continuously living up to everyone’s expectations, fear of running out of steam, and fear of people wanting something from me I am unable to provide for them.
We all have reasons for why we don’t pursue dreams, and sit on a window seal and watch others pursue from afar. Looking from far away seems a lot easier; there isn’t as many let downs in life. That’s right, play things safe, go to work, get your check every two weeks, and let that be it. But in the back of our minds we think what if. What if I pursue my dreams? Well the choice is yours, to pursue or not to pursue. But remember, no one is stopping you from pursuing your dreams. The only one that’s stopping you from doing anything is you.